can you actually afford to have a baby?

Discussion in 'Home Life & Finances' started by cocoflakes, Aug 6, 2012.

  1. babyem

    babyem Well-Known Member

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    Same here.

    Thats alot more than we get with OH working and me being a student nurse.
    People will never find a job if they get given more money than you can earn in a job x
     
  2. Froslass

    Froslass Well-Known Member

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    Plus baby stuff x
     
  3. Humesy

    Humesy Well-Known Member

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    Of course, that's not the point tho. The point is there are joint couples CHOOSING not to worrk to get handed money on a plate. No1 is referring to single mothers 'lifestyle' , it's abut the money people get for nothing when people are working 40+ hours a week for LESS and then have expenses out of their wage too to get to work (travel, food, clothes etc) x
     
  4. Jaxx01

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    I was simply saying I wasn't jumping up to anyone's comments sorry should have said that.
     
  5. Me, My Girls & I

    Me, My Girls & I Well-Known Member

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    Jaxx I so get you on that one! Although sometimes I do think life was so much simpler when it was just the 3 of us to think about! And my house was a lot tidier :lol:
     
  6. Humesy

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    LOL @ being single being tidier!! lol

    Ah no worries , i just thought you had got offended, but i actually think single mums are the one able -bodied person who shouldnt be forced back into the working world the first couple of years of their childs life. ESP as im sure most of them would change their situation.

    I do however think a single mother, on benefits shouldnt actively ttc while still on those benefits with no intention of earning their own crust. xxx
     
  7. Happyfeet

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    I actually have a question for everyone here, some of you seem a lot more clued up than I am about these things...

    I know a woman, she has a son and is with a new partner, he's a self employed manual worker of some sort. She's going to college, but also put up a status on FB a while ago about being stuck in the job centre and how much she hates it.

    They go abroad on holiday a fair bit, run a car and a work van for him.

    Does anyone know if this sounds right?? I can't personally see why she'd need to go to the job centre unless she was claiming? And if it is legitimate, does college cost her anything if her fiance is working? I'd love to go to college - Want to work in the catering industry but have been put off doing it now by the costs.
     
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  8. Humesy

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    If her partner is on a low income (which even if hes not he may be claiming to be) she can get grants for college and help with childcare and may need to go to the benefits office, yes.

    xxx
     
  9. netty

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    yes totally agree humesy

     
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    I actually do not know why I am bothering to work, I wish I didn't know how much people were getting :( x
     
  13. Humesy

    Humesy Well-Known Member

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    Because you are better than most?

    On a serious note - could you reduce your hours and get topped up with WTC? :whistle: - thats what theyre theyre for and what ur earning is going to childcare - didnt u say ur childcare was like £200 a WEEK?! xx
     
  14. cosmicgirl

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    £240 per week.
    I am a clinician in the NHS and my workload wouldn't really work if I reduced my hours.
    I am quite specialised and to get the job I have on my area is one of only 6 posts so I have been really fortunate to get to where I am now.
    If I dropped hours I would never get them back x
     
  15. LikeJohnnYoko

    LikeJohnnYoko Well-Known Member

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    I wish my benefits added up to the amounts I've seen on this thread. I have to pay for all of my medication/travel to hospital appointments etc out of them also, I don't get free prescriptions, eyecare or dentistry.

    We're not entitled to WTC or anything, either.
     
  16. Princess81

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    Same :( we waited 8 years before ttc and strive and do our best. We built our own house, I waited an extra 2 years to make sure my job was secure and that we knew o/h's promotion was secure in the pipeline. We are lucky that we are both in good secure jobs but things like this make my blood boil (link to mail I mean). It's very demoralising.
     
  17. EssJayPea

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    I just don't get how there's no apparent consistency. Honest, hard working people who, for whatever reason, fall on hard times are really put through their paces and made to feel like an inconvenience to get some help back from the very system they've actively contributed to. On the other side of the spectrum, people with no interest to seek work, know every trick in the book to get more money and seem to be able to brazenly continue claiming for years with no challenge whatsoever.
     
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  18. misscrazycooki

    misscrazycooki Well-Known Member

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    Wish i never said anything now and i wish my partner was working at least then we could at least have a little more money and respect. At the moment he is in agencies signing up

    20/06/2012 - Elliott born at 12:09 x

    11/02/2011 - Leo born at 11:37 x
     
  19. misscrazycooki

    misscrazycooki Well-Known Member

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    I hope this wasn't aimed at me

    20/06/2012 - Elliott born at 12:09 x

    11/02/2011 - Leo born at 11:37 x
     
  20. Princess81

    Princess81 Well-Known Member

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    Exactly hun, he's making an effort and everyone sees that as a good thing. He is striving to work. It's not your situation that makes people mad, it's the ones who seem to have been born with the attitude that the world owes them something for nothing x
     

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