Can you actually afford to have a baby? Obviously in this country people cope and get by because everyone gets some kind of help but can u really afford it? & did you get pregnant on purpose? I know one girl who has one child already, is unemployed and no intentions of looking for work and wants another baby, her child now does not go without and she never palms him off on anyone and is always with him but shes planning on IVF for another baby and i asked if shed feel shes being judged trying for a baby when shes not working nd her fella isnt either. (hes doing like an apprenticeship) she doesnt seem to care because she wants a baby so much.