August 2017 babies! The final thread!

[PeanutButter]

Had a pretty easy labour... went in with reduced movement and because I had GD by then they were like yup were inducing yoi tonight... anyways they examined me to find it was in labour by myself and was 4cm dialated already (they didn't think it was labor when I said about the horrendous back pain but it was!) Anyways when she put her fingers in my waters just popped and omg the pain painnnnn I was screaming ahaha so they got me an epidural at 7 am and what a most magical thing it is. 9am I was 6 cm and by 1pm I was fully dialated! They made me wait a bit before pushing she said it was going to take up to 2 hours to push her out ... within 10 mins she was here!
Then the blood loss happened and I passed out and basically nearly died.... woke up to hubby and mom crying and a million Drs shouting my name and sticking me with needles etc.
Still in hosp gotta have a blood transfusion cos I can't even get out of bed atm.
Trying to breastfeed my god my nipples are so sore!
Scarlett.. weighing 8lbs 7ozs!
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[Rose83]

Oh my god PB, what a traumatic thing to have happened! Hope you are feeling ok. I thought your back pain sounded like labour! Thank goodness they didn't leave you and say you were fine. Sounds like the reduced movement could have been due to what ever caused your massive blood loss. You might want to consider requesting your whole treatment is looked at. A friend of mine had a similar traumatic incident at birth and found it difficult to accept until a consultant sat down with her and explained why certain things had happened and why she wasn't taken seriously at certain points. I don't feel like you've had the best care from what you've told us.
Just so glad you and baby are safe xx

 

[MissCharli]

That does sound pretty quick and 'easy' up until the blood loss bit! That must have been scary but glad you're okay now.

That's a decent weight, I bet you're glad you've got her out now! Massive congrats she's beautiful

 

[tashap]

Rose I had no idea it could effect like that , just sending you hugs and suggesting cake and chocolate instead then x

PB- wow! What a time you've had of it. She is beautiful, I'm so pleased your okay now , what a scary experience for you x xx

 

[Elspeth]

Huge congratulations PB.
Delighted to hear she is safely here.
Well done you, sounds like you did brilliantly.

Maybe they can give you more of an idea why you had a post partum haemorrhage but I thought it was just one of those things?
Hopefully you feel much better after the transfusion.
Enjoy those wonderful newborn cuddles.

Xx

 

[Elspeth]

I'm feeling really dejected.
Why won't my baby come out????

I had my first sweep today.
Despite being my second baby and pushing a week overdue the cervix was more posterior and thick than she had expected. Which isn't great.
She managed to do the sweep though and set to have another on Friday.
I just don't know what to do with myself.

Feel like I should resign myself to another induction in a weeks time.
Although I would consider declining this and waiting longer with monitoring.
Really really don't want to be induced again.

 

[Rose83]

Elspeth what happened with previous induction for you? I was induced with my second and will literally be begging them to induce me next Thursday when I see them. I am so fed up with being pregnant still. Today I'm in a lot of pain in my bump too and was starting to wonder if I was getting labour pains but now I'm wondering if it's just wind lol x

 

[Elspeth]

Elspeth what happened with previous induction for you? I was induced with my second and will literally be begging them to induce me next Thursday when I see them. I am so fed up with being pregnant still. Today I'm in a lot of pain in my bump too and was starting to wonder if I was getting labour pains but now I'm wondering if it's just wind lol x

Fingers crossed its the start of something Rose.

I'm really fed up mentally now of the waiting now but physically I'm doing OK.
My induction last time went reasonably well. But I've always had issues about it. The episiotomy was horrible when it was healing and my daughter was cranky, crying for hours and hours after birth. I felt this might be because of the speedy way she was extracted. The risks of having interventions are so much higher and I just don't want that again. I don't want to be hooked up to a machine with constant monitoring with midwives forcing interventions on me because I have to progress at a certain rate.

I'm really invested in having a 'natural' birth. I know I've set myself up for a fall but I thought my chances second time round were pretty good.

My mental state isn't particularly good right now. I realise I need to get some perspective and think about the baby and step away from my fixation in the birth.

But I am really really angry, I feel like my body is failing me. After a completely uncomplicated, low risk pregnancy where nothing of concern has happened I can't believe I'm in this situation again. I have this weird feeling that I wast to give up and walk away from the whole thing which is just sooo ridiculous considering the circumstances.

Rant over.
I might hit the wine!!!!

 

[Rose83]

Aww Elspeth that is a horrible feeling but I know exactly what you mean and I've had that feeling too and I'm not even overdue. I'm angry at my body for doing such a good job of carrying giant babies to term!

It sounds like you had a rough time with the induction and I certainly know many people who have said they wouldn't want to be induced again so you are not in the minority - I guess I must have been lucky. With my 1st baby I was given the sintocin drip after my waters broke naturally the morning after my due date but as I had the highest grade meconium in my waters and I wasn't progressing quick enough to stop the distress she was in they gave me the drip to speed things up. She was back to back and then because of that and distress they had to keep poking around up my lady area to take blood samples from her head to test for the level of distress. Eventually after 18 hours she had turned and although I tried to get her out I ended up in theatre with an episiotomy and forceps delivery but I was ok with that as the drugs did such a good job I never felt anything. I'll agree recovery was fairly tough but looking back I just thought it was normal as it was my first.

With my second I had pessary induction as nothing was happening at all. So it took two pessaries and when they worked I went from feeling nothing to 45 second contractions every 2 minutes and was 5cm before they even noticed but then it was 4 hours later that I gave birth with no assistance and just a grade 2 tear. So I suppose what I'm saying is, maybe don't be quite so worried about a second induction because I really wasn't monitored very much in the second induction, was just sitting around waiting for it to work and then I was only monitored when it did work because I was having an epidural and baby was showing some slight distress signs (turns out he pooped inside too). So although the induction made things fast in the final stages there were no massive interventions or invasive things like I had with my daughter so you might find the same as a second labour should really prove a bit easier as something has already come out of there!

However I know what it's like to mentally prepare for one thing and be faced with having something else. If they hadn't managed to turn this baby from breech and I'd had no choice but a section I would have been devastated and no one would have been able to convince me otherwise. Hang in there, baby can't stay in forever even though I know it feels like that! X

 

[Elspeth]

Thank you Rose.
Your reassurance really means a lot and has helped me feel better.
I know lots of ladies on here have had really positive inductions.

I think I'm just scared about having to have a section if it goes wrong.
I'm jumping ahead of myself but that is sadly how my brain works.

I hope you follow the August trend and go in to labour well before your due date. Just hang on in there.

Xxxx

 

[PeanutButter]

Sorry I'm not keeping up with everyone I've had 2 hours sleep since she was born. They keeping me drugged up well though heh.
Anyways I can't breastfeed anymore it's way to painful even though there saying in doing it right... does pumping hurt? Was gonna give it a go can you literally just pump and give it her. I have no idea what I'm doing. I feel insane. I've only just became mobile! My vagina swelled so much I couldn't close my legs even the midwives were like omgggg.. they been giving mefrozen pads, they're amazing ahahaha.

 

[Rose83]

Hey PB, firstly if it's so painful you need to stop then they are probably wrong and the latch isn't quite right - I had that with my daughter, in the hospital they all said it was fine and then when I saw a breast feeding support person they said it wasn't fine at all so see if you can see someone like that. Get Lansinoh nipple cream if you can and out on every time you feed to soothe them. If they are that sore then pumping will probably hurt too and it's probably a bit early for your milk to have come in so you won't get very much out but if you are still in hospital they can loan you the high grade pumps that get the most out. Once your nipples are damaged its hard to get them to heal whilst continuing to pump or feed but I had some amazing stuff recommended to me after my first which you have to ask a GP to prescribe. It's actually a wound dressing that is like a jelly pad and it soothes the nipples and helps it heal, it's called ActiForm Cool dressing and it saved my nipples!

When you express by pump you can literally just give it to baby immediately - you don't need to do anything to it. At this stage so little will come out they'll probably give you a syringe to feed it to her. Any other questions ask away! X

 

[Rose83]

Still nothing happening here. Have been a bit crampy today and thought i might have been having very minor contractions earlier but decided that was just wishful thinking. I think half the problem is that I'm so sore and achey all the time it's difficult to distinguish whether any aches or cramps are my normal pains or the start of anything more exciting! Had a nap earlier and dreamt my waters broke - was so disapppointed when I woke up! X

 

[MissCharli]

You sound like you're on good meds there PB But hope you're doing okay x

Ah Rose that must have been annoying waking up! But really not long now I'm sure x

 

[Elspeth]

I can completely relate to picking up on every cramp and tightening and twinge Rose.
It's sooooo hard.
It really feels like mental torture. The last week has been the worst of the pregnancy by far for me.

 

[Elspeth]

PB, you poor sweetheart.
It is such a crazy time.
The sleep deprivation is brutal
Keep those pesky relatives away and concentrate on getting some rest.
You could definitely try pumping and hand expressing to get at the colostrum.
In my experience bf fucking hurt. I was crying in pain at the start of each feed. So don't necessarily think you are doing it wrong. It can just hurt a lot while your nipple toughen up

 

[Elspeth]

Having an early morning typing session as things are happening here.
I've been awake since 3.30ish with contractions that are now painful and about 15 mins apart.

Seems like the sweep, walking 16000 steps yesterday and having a reflexology session have finally done the trick.


Oh is still fast asleep beside me.

I really hope this is it.
Xxxx

 

[Rose83]

Fingers crossed elspeth! Sounds like it should be, can't believe you would have contractions like that and it not be! Me and my OH have been up half the night with our two children who have decided to make our life hell this week and just wake up constantly. I ended up having to lay in bed with my daughter for 3 hours last night and only doze while she refused to sleep from 3 til 6am. I'm starting to worry that it's going to get to labour time and I'm to exhausted to get the baby out from lack of sleep! Hope everything happens today for you and look forward to updates! X

 

[Rachlaidler94]

Congrats PB it sounds like it was pretty traumatic but pleased everything is alright and you's are being looked after.

Fingers crossed it's your turn now Elspeth!

Hopefully your 2 little ones settle down Rose to allow you to get some sleep before baby arrives.

Tashap how are you getting on?

Well I am now 2 days overdue he was due on Wednesday and still no sign. I've had a 3rd sweep and still nothing other than more plug coming away. I did manage to get a Tens machine from the hospital so that's a plus but now really not impressed. I have to wait until Monday to find out when they are going to induce me. The midwife said if they do it should only be a matter of breaking my waters as I was 2cm and my cervix is 1.5cm whatever that means but still not good enough as he's still in there! Lol

 

[Elspeth]

So whatever was happening last night has not come to anything.


Boohoo.

Still feeling encouraged though that things were happening.

I'm feeling extremely crampy with quite frequent and uncomfortable braxton hicks now but it's different to the regular and painful contractions I was getting.

Rachel so sorry you are overdue now too but selfishly I'm pleased to have some company in this sorry state.
Did they give you early sweeps because of reduced movements??
How did you find them.
Mine really wasn't too bad.

Let's hope we both labour over the weekend.
Come on babies!!

Xx