And I spoke to OH via text and I think he thinks I should go now too and thanks I'm being a bit silly. So the I sat and cried for a bit because I feel like I haven't got much choice and everyone will be annoyed if I don't go x
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August 2017 babies! The final thread!
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that's not good Rose, but do what you think is right. Only you know how you feel atm! x
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Lmao Charli, I wasn't ranting about my sister, I was just saying the people who told me not to have her on a certain day, plus she's told me I have to come to her birthday party which is also the 26th lol. Knowing our family baby will come then, everyone seems to be born around the same time. My mom and aunt both has the same due date for me and my cousin valentines day '93 aha.
You had to put the stand together? Mine came together it's a fold one tho. That's awesome can put baby in there without taking him out the pram heh.
Rose, it's up to you. Don't let people decide for you, if you feel like you can and want to go then go, but don't force yourself! Your supposed to be resting as much as possible not putting yourself through unnecessary stress.
Yeah my mil is getting to me now. I've told hubby if she tries to tell me how to do something with baby I'm gonna tell her and I don't give a sit how much she gets upset. Because hubby wouldn't stand up for me. Mil has already told me that if she sees me doing something wrong she's gonna tell me how to do it... I was like yeah and I'll tell you to go fk yourself. X
You had to put the stand together? Mine came together it's a fold one tho. That's awesome can put baby in there without taking him out the pram heh.
Rose, it's up to you. Don't let people decide for you, if you feel like you can and want to go then go, but don't force yourself! Your supposed to be resting as much as possible not putting yourself through unnecessary stress.
Yeah my mil is getting to me now. I've told hubby if she tries to tell me how to do something with baby I'm gonna tell her and I don't give a sit how much she gets upset. Because hubby wouldn't stand up for me. Mil has already told me that if she sees me doing something wrong she's gonna tell me how to do it... I was like yeah and I'll tell you to go fk yourself. X
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Haha I know, I just thought it was kinda cute and funny 
But you better make her party!! I reckon mine will come on the 11th, cos that was OHs grandads birthday and the date my parents got married (though they've been divorced for ages). Just seems like it would be that date
Yeah I bought it off amazon, and it came flat packed basically. I thought it might come made but ah well!
But you better make her party!! I reckon mine will come on the 11th, cos that was OHs grandads birthday and the date my parents got married (though they've been divorced for ages). Just seems like it would be that date Yeah I bought it off amazon, and it came flat packed basically. I thought it might come made but ah well!
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Still here and waiting!
Was third in line but after the second girl (who came back from recovery after 3 hours), there's been delay (both theatres occupied with emergencies at the moment)
I can smell food from the canteen but I am starting to desperately need some liquid!!! My mouth!!!
Baba has gone for a loooooooong nap now I think as haven't felt him for quite a while - whereas he was extremely active for the first part of the day! Not surprised, we're running out of energy!!! xx
Was third in line but after the second girl (who came back from recovery after 3 hours), there's been delay (both theatres occupied with emergencies at the moment)
I can smell food from the canteen but I am starting to desperately need some liquid!!! My mouth!!!
Baba has gone for a loooooooong nap now I think as haven't felt him for quite a while - whereas he was extremely active for the first part of the day! Not surprised, we're running out of energy!!! xx
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Omg that's ages H4R! Surely they will have to give you fluids soon at least, it's not safe otherwise? I hope it's not too much longer now x
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Wow these Mother in laws sound mental! No way should have anyone telling you want to do or how to dress your babies. They've had there children and if they want to dress something up like a dolly then they should get a doll! I don't know how you manage to hold it together and stay calm.
Rose don't be pressured into doing if if you don't want to. The last thing you need is doing some damage to you just before labour and not being able to move properly when the time comes. If you feel like you want to go and then when your there struggling can you come home early?
Kiwi - exciting for your induction date, lots of rest between now and then and looking forward too your updates x
Hoping4rainbow- thinking of you x hope you've got your baby in arms and have had a lovely drink and something to eat x
Rose don't be pressured into doing if if you don't want to. The last thing you need is doing some damage to you just before labour and not being able to move properly when the time comes. If you feel like you want to go and then when your there struggling can you come home early?
Kiwi - exciting for your induction date, lots of rest between now and then and looking forward too your updates x
Hoping4rainbow- thinking of you x hope you've got your baby in arms and have had a lovely drink and something to eat x
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That's an awful long time to go without a drink h4r! Did anyone say how long it'll be now? You'll be exhausted by the time baby is here. Hope they've got you on a drip for fluids tho? Don't wanna be dehydrated! X
Tashap I just need to put up with it for now. Still nothing brothers me as much as when she said the baby was hers and not mine :/ that made me cry. Next time I'll tell her to have another child if she wants to have a baby. It's like after everything we went through 6 mcs and she still says shit like that. When I become a grandmother (ha!) I'll leave them be... never wanting someone to feel like this. Ikno it's exciting and stuff becoming a granny but she needs to realise it's my first baby and I don't want stuff being taken away from my experience. She went all weird with me when I said I'm not having her ears pierced until she knows what she wants... me and my mom both suffered horribly with our ears getting infected and it was agony why would I risk a baby going through that? Her response - she might take after me not you. Lmao grin and bare it!! X
Tashap I just need to put up with it for now. Still nothing brothers me as much as when she said the baby was hers and not mine :/ that made me cry. Next time I'll tell her to have another child if she wants to have a baby. It's like after everything we went through 6 mcs and she still says shit like that. When I become a grandmother (ha!) I'll leave them be... never wanting someone to feel like this. Ikno it's exciting and stuff becoming a granny but she needs to realise it's my first baby and I don't want stuff being taken away from my experience. She went all weird with me when I said I'm not having her ears pierced until she knows what she wants... me and my mom both suffered horribly with our ears getting infected and it was agony why would I risk a baby going through that? Her response - she might take after me not you. Lmao grin and bare it!! X
PB I literally hate your MIL lol. How dare she suggest you should have her ears pierced?! I know lots of people do but my personal opinion is it looks horrible and it's an awful thing to do to a tiny baby. That baby relies on you for everything and trusts you unconditionally. One of the things that I found hardest about having children was the realisation that when you tel them off or take them for injections etc they look at you in this way that says 'why would mummy do this to me?' But then still only want you - it makes you realise how devastating life must be for abused children, they must feel like that's what is supposed to happen because why would their mummy do anything wrong. And her comments about the baby being hers are just totally out of line.
H4R it must be so frustrating have they not let you have ice chips? I was in labour for 18 hours with my first but because she was distressed wasn't able to eat or drink in case they needed to section me but I was on a drip and was allowed ice chips. Once I had her I drank 4 jugs of water!
Hopefully you'll be seen by early evening xx
H4R it must be so frustrating
have they not let you have ice chips? I was in labour for 18 hours with my first but because she was distressed wasn't able to eat or drink in case they needed to section me but I was on a drip and was allowed ice chips. Once I had her I drank 4 jugs of water! Hopefully you'll be seen by early evening xx
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Lmao, i do only say the things that upset me though. She does nice things to. She bought us her cot and pram. She just acts like a child alot. And most of these things she's said/done while having more than one glass of wine. (I kinda like her having a drink, to see what she really thinks of me, and i will not be keeping my mouth shut forever, I only do it now to keep the peace for hubby's sake, but i won't be able to let her slate me trying to parent).
On another note...If your breastfeeding do you need you use contraception? Haha. X
On another note...If your breastfeeding do you need you use contraception? Haha. X
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Lots going on here.
H4R, so sorry to hear about your long wait.
I hope you are feeling ok. Must be horrible to be left waiting and being intensely thirsty is the worst.
Kiwi, good to hear from you. Glad to hear you're still cooking your baby. That's great you have an induction date set.
These MILs are crazy!
Mine knows I have far more control over her son than she does so she knows she has to be nice to me. To be fair she is a nice person and we share similar views. She's very pro natural birth and breastfeeding which I find supportive.
PB, yes you need contraception.
If you exclusively bf then it's a pretty good form of contraception. But if you start topping up with formula then your period can come back.
We felt that getting pregnant again so soon would have been very unwelcome for us. We just used condoms when we occasionally had sex!
Small babies are pretty good forms of contraception in themselves!!
Your gp in your 6week check will basically throw the mini pill at you anyway.
H4R, so sorry to hear about your long wait.
I hope you are feeling ok. Must be horrible to be left waiting and being intensely thirsty is the worst.
Kiwi, good to hear from you. Glad to hear you're still cooking your baby. That's great you have an induction date set.
These MILs are crazy!
Mine knows I have far more control over her son than she does so she knows she has to be nice to me. To be fair she is a nice person and we share similar views. She's very pro natural birth and breastfeeding which I find supportive.
PB, yes you need contraception.
If you exclusively bf then it's a pretty good form of contraception. But if you start topping up with formula then your period can come back.
We felt that getting pregnant again so soon would have been very unwelcome for us. We just used condoms when we occasionally had sex!
Small babies are pretty good forms of contraception in themselves!!
Your gp in your 6week check will basically throw the mini pill at you anyway.
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Rose, how terrible you are I'm so much pain.
I just can't imagine how you are coping with your two little ones. ☹ ☹
It sounds seriously shit.
Feel for you. Did you have this last time?
My pain is weird, it comes and goes and seems to be related to babies head going low as I even get it when I'm not moving but baby is. Think it must be some sort of nerve compression.
Prrfect, I am also loving my bump. I will miss it when it's gone for sure. It's just such a special time being at one with baby. Maybe in a couple of weeks I'll be ready but not yet.
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I just can't imagine how you are coping with your two little ones. ☹ ☹
It sounds seriously shit.
Feel for you. Did you have this last time?
My pain is weird, it comes and goes and seems to be related to babies head going low as I even get it when I'm not moving but baby is. Think it must be some sort of nerve compression.
Prrfect, I am also loving my bump. I will miss it when it's gone for sure. It's just such a special time being at one with baby. Maybe in a couple of weeks I'll be ready but not yet.
Xx
Nope didn't have it the last time elspeth just the pelvis pain but not the sciatica etc.
PB unless you want to end up like me then use contraception lol. So I had my daughter in December 2014 and express breastfed exclusively but as I didn't express at night that was long enough to trigger my periods so at 5 months I was pregnant again but that one was planned as we wanted another quickly. We didn't plan a third so quickly. I was exclusively breast feeding every hour and a half, all through the night but even so I had a period at the end of October 2016. I started using ovulation sticks then so that we could avoid another pregnancy as we thought the natural method was the one we were most comfortable with. So I was CD 40 of negative OPKs and no signs that ovulation was imminent so I thought I'd be safe and that breastfeeding had thrown my hormones off a bit more. Two days later I got a positive OPK and just knew I was going to get pregnant from lingering spermies even though that never happened any time I was actually trying! And here we are 36 weeks later lol! X
just the pelvis pain but not the sciatica etc. PB unless you want to end up like me then use contraception lol. So I had my daughter in December 2014 and express breastfed exclusively but as I didn't express at night that was long enough to trigger my periods so at 5 months I was pregnant again but that one was planned as we wanted another quickly. We didn't plan a third so quickly. I was exclusively breast feeding every hour and a half, all through the night but even so I had a period at the end of October 2016. I started using ovulation sticks then so that we could avoid another pregnancy as we thought the natural method was the one we were most comfortable with. So I was CD 40 of negative OPKs and no signs that ovulation was imminent so I thought I'd be safe and that breastfeeding had thrown my hormones off a bit more. Two days later I got a positive OPK and just knew I was going to get pregnant from lingering spermies even though that never happened any time I was actually trying! And here we are 36 weeks later lol! X
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I'm never using contraception again- it took us 7 years and two round of ivf for this miracle and I've heard that your super fertile after pregnancy. We've agreed that if something happens naturally then amazing if not then that's fine too. (Even if we end up with 6 babies lol) . Mind you I can't imagine wanting sex ever again right now.
Hoping4rainbow- I hope they have got you something to drink or fluids via drip!
PB - you have the patience of a saint xx
Hoping4rainbow- I hope they have got you something to drink or fluids via drip!
PB - you have the patience of a saint xx
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Question for you all, what is everyone's views on smacking?
I've just witnessed my dad (lightly) smacking my brothers 4 yr old step daughter as she was running near the fire (after being told before about not going near it). It made me realise that I'm anti smacking no matter how light or hard and I wouldn't tolerate him doing it to mine, am I'm wrong on thinking I should be able to deal with issues by talking and not smacking or is it first time mum innocence. it's not something that my husband and I have discussed before. X
I've just witnessed my dad (lightly) smacking my brothers 4 yr old step daughter as she was running near the fire (after being told before about not going near it). It made me realise that I'm anti smacking no matter how light or hard and I wouldn't tolerate him doing it to mine, am I'm wrong on thinking I should be able to deal with issues by talking and not smacking or is it first time mum innocence. it's not something that my husband and I have discussed before. X
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We're just gonna use condoms! I was on the implant when I was 16 and it literally made me crazy .. they wouldn't remove it for 6 months so I 3 months I told them to get it out or if cut it only myself. And they did. Bleed for 3 months straight and sent me into depression. I'm never taking anything.
I don't want a baby straight after, and I'm happy with 1 child. Hubby wants another and I said I want a 3 year gap. Plus I don't wanna go through numerous mcs again either.
I honestly don't know how you ladies cope being pregnant so shortly after. And looking after a lo at the same time.
Smaking I think is ok as long as it's the parents, anyone else hell no. Like if my siblings or parents were to smack I'd be liek wtf, no. Smacking hands maybe but no one else can smack on the bum/legs.
I wonder if she's had her baby yet? Eekk x
I don't want a baby straight after, and I'm happy with 1 child. Hubby wants another and I said I want a 3 year gap. Plus I don't wanna go through numerous mcs again either.
I honestly don't know how you ladies cope being pregnant so shortly after. And looking after a lo at the same time.
Smaking I think is ok as long as it's the parents, anyone else hell no. Like if my siblings or parents were to smack I'd be liek wtf, no. Smacking hands maybe but no one else can smack on the bum/legs.
I wonder if she's had her baby yet? Eekk x
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Haha yep this is why I am gonna get the coil asap. I don't wanna be worrying about getting knocked up again so soon. I don't even know if I want another baby yet, and if I do definitely not now!
My OH is very close to his Mum, but he's already said that if she was anything like yours then he wouldn't stand for that shit. She's a bit mental (personality wise, so totally different to me) but otherwise very nice and respectful! But It's nice to know he has my back haha. he's very protective of me and takes a dim view even of my family sometimes. Like yesterday when my dad pissed me off OH just called him a child etc! Which is fair cos he was being childish. It's nice having someone that protective tbh.
I'm with you on the pierced ears thing, I would no way do it to a baby. I was like 8 when I had mine done, and that was cos I begged for it. I couldn't hurt my baby just for vanity, but that's just my opinion I guess. It is totally none of her business, and if she mentioned it after I said no I'd be fuming! Just stick to your guns, like you said this is your baby! X
My OH is very close to his Mum, but he's already said that if she was anything like yours then he wouldn't stand for that shit. She's a bit mental (personality wise, so totally different to me) but otherwise very nice and respectful! But It's nice to know he has my back haha. he's very protective of me and takes a dim view even of my family sometimes. Like yesterday when my dad pissed me off OH just called him a child etc! Which is fair cos he was being childish. It's nice having someone that protective tbh.
I'm with you on the pierced ears thing, I would no way do it to a baby. I was like 8 when I had mine done, and that was cos I begged for it. I couldn't hurt my baby just for vanity, but that's just my opinion I guess. It is totally none of her business, and if she mentioned it after I said no I'd be fuming! Just stick to your guns, like you said this is your baby! X
Contraception: I went on the pill at 14, I had an older boyfriend but was put on it to help with my skin problems. It never helped my skin (Dianette and another one which I forget). I also put on tons of weight that I couldn't shift. I read about what was then a new one called Yasmin and begged the doctors to put me on that as it was supposed to not give you weight issues. Sure enough it was only on that that I started to lose the weight I had put on. But then when I was age 20 my mum got breast cancer and I said there was no way I wanted to ever put synthetic hormones in my body again just in case it ever proved to be a cause. So I had the copper coil put in and had it for 6 years before taking it out when me and my OH decided to try for children. I then had two early miscarriages back to back immediately after I had it taken out and I have since read some research that suggests the m/c could have been linked to my uterus not being ready for carrying a baby so soon after having the coil removed so now we don't really feel like having it back in is a good idea. The other thing about the pill is I can 100% say it changed my personality, once I was off it I didn't have such severe mood swings but the biggest thing was it completely changed the sort of man I was attracted to and I didn't know it at the time but once I stopped taking it I realised it had been affecting my libido and the partner I had at the time couldn't cope with the difference - I was interested all the time after I stopped taking it and he wasnt! A very good friend had the implant in after she had her first child and it triggered symptoms of PND, she had it removed immediately and went back to normal and the doctor said she was obviously very easily affected by hormones.
Smacking: no you aren't being naive! We don't smack our children, with our first we would give her arm a little smack if she did something like hit or bite but then we realised we really didn't like it and she was just as responsive to being shouted at or put on the naughty step (once she understood what that was). So mine get my angry teacher voice when they are supposed to stop doing something and if they carry on they get the naughty step until they say sorry. It works and I would hate to hit them.
But as someone else said I would never allow someone else to hit them even if we did occasionally smack. If I ever saw a family member do it then I would be horrified. X
But as someone else said I would never allow someone else to hit them even if we did occasionally smack. If I ever saw a family member do it then I would be horrified. X
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I don't really agree with smacking either, I don't remember my Mum ever doing it but I think my dad did very rarely. I just don't think it's necessary tbf. I'm not sure what OH thinks, never really talked about it!
I was on the pill from 14 (to try and make them less painful, which did work mostly until just after I finished uni (21). After that nothing, but my periods were really messed up for ages and I didn't catch until I was 23! I think that's why I don't wanna go back on it, I don't like the idea of having to remember it every day again and it totally affected my libido too. It's just so inconvenient as well getting it from a gp every few months.
My mum got the coil (Mirena I think) after they wouldn't give her the pill anymore and she loved it! She's always said I should get it asap as it meant her cycles were pretty much non existent.
Just out of curiosity, how old are you all? Idk if that's been asked before haha x
I was on the pill from 14 (to try and make them less painful, which did work mostly until just after I finished uni (21). After that nothing, but my periods were really messed up for ages and I didn't catch until I was 23! I think that's why I don't wanna go back on it, I don't like the idea of having to remember it every day again and it totally affected my libido too. It's just so inconvenient as well getting it from a gp every few months.
My mum got the coil (Mirena I think) after they wouldn't give her the pill anymore and she loved it! She's always said I should get it asap as it meant her cycles were pretty much non existent.
Just out of curiosity, how old are you all? Idk if that's been asked before haha x
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