*** November 2014 Mummies! ***

[babyphoenix]

After putting it off since MAY 31ST (shameful!) we finally had the conversation with OH's parents that we've decided not to allow his brother and brother's fiancée access to our unborn baby once she's here. (Me staying away from weekly family visits if they're going to be there etc). They don't like it but we don't want our daughter to experience the same crap we've had from them...

The fiancée with her subtle put downs in front of people and blatant put downs out of ear shot... The brother who doesn't seem capable of having a serious conversation with my OH without shouting at him (OH has been his scapegoat his entire life...) and who even once violently attacked OH and their father while drunk... Police had to be called out.

It all seems so reasonable written down but since they "don't think" that he would act that way in front of our daughter, we should let him see her at these weekly visits because he's "good with kids" and because a couple of hours a week "isn't long enough for him to have any real negative impact on her".

No thanks >.<

 

[Kaa286]

Thats what happened to me had some tea and felt a few movements but nothing now!!

Im overweight too so blame my extra fat too :-/ funny to think ur babys that long hehe xx

 

[Kaa286]

At the end of the day its ur decision and u just do whats best for u and ur baby huni. I think ur both very brave for making that decision. Its a lot easier to sit bk and just allow things to happen xx

 

[babyphoenix]

It would be a lot easier considering we now have the entire family's questions to deal with and them insisting we need to "put it in the past" (it's not in the past at all because they haven't changed). It's going to be a lot of awkward situations if we're ever at big family gatherings like boxing day (everyone visits their nana every sunday and boxing day, I can stay away sundays but boxing day I wouldn't) and weddings etc. But at the end of the day, we've never caused trouble so it's up to them whether they want to civilly get on with it, or cause a kick off and us end up leaving.

Since the incident that required the police last April we haven't had a relationship so to speak anyway so it's not like there's much of a difference. Just saying it obviously took us a month and a half to build up the guts :S

 

[mellie_88]

By 22 weeks, baby is 27cm long, which is pretty long really. I read that in my baby book today

Fair play to you for telling them, and not just sitting back and gritting your teeth. They should respect your decision.
If your OHs brother is that upset about it, then the sensible thing for him to do would be to calmly discuss it with you and show that he is indeed a changed man. Everyone can say they've changed, but actions speak much louder than words.

If you do end up having to see him at big occasions like boxing day, weddings etc then it'll be so infrequent I doubt your daughter will really notice him. She'll be too busy with the people in the family that she does know and sees regularly. So hopefully he won't be able to influence her negatively, as I imagine it'll only be once or twice a year.

 

[mellie_88]

Just been highlighting things on my baby list depending on if I have them or not.
Yellow for have some, need more and green for got.

There's very little green on there, thought I had much more stuff :/

On the bright side, I have only 12 weeks until I go on maternity leave, and only 10 of those are working weeks. So it's only 40 more shifts, which makes it sound really soon!!!

 

[JoLouiseSummer]

Hi, Ladies !

Currently new to this site and I'm just wondering around like a little lost puppy. Figured that because I'm due in November maybe this is where I should be as I don't have any mayor questions. I just wanted to give my friends and family a break and talk about baby related things with people who are... well, Baby related at the minute

 

[babyphoenix]

Hi, Ladies !

Currently new to this site and I'm just wondering around like a little lost puppy. Figured that because I'm due in November maybe this is where I should be as I don't have any mayor questions. I just wanted to give my friends and family a break and talk about baby related things with people who are... well, Baby related at the minute

Welcome! What's your due date I will add you to the thread?

 

[JoLouiseSummer]

I'm Due the 25th, my 21st birthday! what a surprise that was haha.
Excuse how inexperienced I am with Forums, Or anything to do with technology for that matter but im unsure what "add you to the thread" means hahah.

 

[babyphoenix]

Haha if you go to page 1, I have a list of all the names and due dates

 

[JoLouiseSummer]

Oh Right, Haha yeah! Now I'm here I don't even have anything to talk about! I thought wow I have so much to discuss. I do however Have my Gender Scan tomorrow, After being very reluctant to find out the sex I've caved! D:

 

[Applecrumble]

Oh Jolouise...im due 25th November too! Happy 21 weeks today! sadly i am no where near 21 but what the hell!

Do you know what your having gender wise?

Chickadoo glad your well and all ok! Yay for a sneak peak at Pippa!
Pheonixbaby sounds like you and OH dealing with situation well...do you think OH mum and dad will tell The brother what happened or will they play dumb, to avoid further conflict...there is a danager that they may resent you two for making them the go between. But your right if you havent had a relationship with them since April it may be mutual and everything will be ok.

 

[Applecrumble]

Oh wow gender scan tomorrow...is that your 20 week scan or have you had that?

 

[JoLouiseSummer]

Applecrumble yeah it was supposed to be my 20 week scan! I was actually supposed to be there on the 14th and some reason I had it drummed into my head it was the 17th! I received a first class letter today saying they had made me another appointment for me tomorrow, I was so confused and when I checked It turned out I had missed it!

Haha, Yeah being 21 finding out this news was a little bit of a shock.

 

[Applecrumble]

Well good luck tomorrow...hope it goes well...

 

[JoLouiseSummer]

I feel like its been a life time since my 12 week scan! and thank you

 

[nicejuicypear]

JoLouise, welcome! My original due date was my birthday too, but it's moved now. Would prefer not to share my birthday to be honest, otherwise the next 15 years will just be the child's birthday and not mine!

Chick, glad that all is well, I only saw your thread this evening but good to see you got checked out.

 

[JoLouiseSummer]

nicejuicy, I know that I probably wont have my baby on my birthday! Although the 25th November Is always a very spooky day for me and my family! So I wouldn't be surprised If I was too!

 

[katiee24]

Congrats JoLouiseSummer! Always nice to see some new ladies to share their pregnancy with us

My little girl turns 3 on the 25th & Will be 5 years since losing my angel baby! Always find it strange that my daughter was born on that day but i suppose everything happens for a reason!

Im also still 20 myself

 

[Kaa286]

Welcome and congrats jolouise.

Well today is my penultimate day at work, only 1 more work get up then im done til next september. Excited and scared at the same time haha. Bit gutted to know i wont be going back to the same job and the same ppl but lets hope its fate and we shall see what next year has in store for me

Hope ur all feeling ok today im full of a cold which has moved onto my chest too and its causing me to feel incredibly nauseous :-/ fancy having a cold in summer!! Pffttt!!! Xxx