May mummies and rainbows to be :)

[nikkix86]

I don't think they understand there's loads my oh wants to buy for himself and I've told him he's not getting anything till we've got everything ready for baby I have to be organised lol he's upset he can't go to festivals in may/June next year but I'm more excited about having the baby here. I don't get it lol I thought it was just him lol

 

[BettyHoop]

I wonder if it's just different for men. I had a go at my boyfriend yesterday for not showing as much interest as I'd like him to. I seem to be planning for the arrival of the baby now, and making it a priority, but he isn't. He just keeps talking about buying stuff that's unrelated - new car, a camper van, and seems to want the baby's room to be an office now. He even asked if I wanted to go to India in April!

Are they just so far removed from the situation because they're not experiencing pregnancy?

We're booked to go to Thailand for three weeks in Feb. As it stands right now I don't want to go, when we booked it months ago I just assumed we'd save money by then as oh has had lots of work but it hasn't turned out that way. He doesn't even want to book a hotel and just wants to sort it all out when we get there, but neither of us have been before. I keep reminding him that I'm pregnant and won't want to be traipsing all over the place just to find a bed for the night but I can't seem to get it through to him. So I've said can we get a refund (which we still can at this point) on the flights as I feel unhappy having no money in an emergency whilst being pregnant but he says we should still go and that's that now. I think I'm going to try and sell my ticket and one of my friends can go with him instead.

Can't believe your oh wants to turn the babys room into an office! I'm hoping he meant just til it arrives! I'll be having mine sleep in the same room for a while. I think it will make it easier to get up in the middle of the night to feed! Xx

 

[BettyHoop]

I don't think they understand there's loads my oh wants to buy for himself and I've told him he's not getting anything till we've got everything ready for baby I have to be organised lol he's upset he can't go to festivals in may/June next year but I'm more excited about having the baby here. I don't get it lol I thought it was just him lol

So get this. My oh has decided that because my due date falls on one of his favourite festivals that he'll call his midwife friend and I can give birth there! I told him the other day that isn't happening. There are some things I can at least definitely put my foot down with! Xx

 

[nikkix86]

oh my oh is proper sulking about this festival lol its on the 29th and my due date is the 15th but I could be overdue and if baby is here I'm going to need his help I don't want him out drinking all day especially if I end up with another c section but he is really sulking about it especially as our friends are going lol

 

[BettyHoop]

Aw betty I'm sorry you are feeling that way. If you think speaking to someone will help you definitely ask for some help! Pregnancy is bloody hard and you need some support from somewhere. I really hope your OH starts showing an interest. What is he buying all the time? Could you write him a list of things that you actually need and he can be in charge of buying the stuff and maybe he will spend lesson himself?

I was feeling some decent movement last night and DH felt it too this is the best bit of pregnancy! My PGP has been really bad the last day or two though so that's putting a dampener on things. I have so much to do for Christmas but I need to take it easy do I can still walk at the end if the day x

I don't know most of the time what he buys, but pretty much every day at least one or two parcels turn up for him. Clothes, tools, that kind of thing. On Sunday as there is no post he bought a leather man (like an awesome penknife) from someone and was going to pick it up after work until I made a bit of a fuss. I just said : so a leather man which you don't need is more important than your unborn child?

I also feel like I've no right to ask him for anything, and if he doesn't want to be involved or make sure this baby has what it needs then I don't want to force him. This is where I feel I would be better off on my own as if I wasn't spending every penny I earn to let him buy a house and doing literally everything then I'd have time and spare cash and I could provide a lot better for my child on my own than I am with him at the moment. If nothing changes over the next couple of months that's the way it's going to be as I'm not letting my child sit on the breadline whilst he has everything he needs and wants xx

 

[BettyHoop]

oh my oh is proper sulking about this festival lol its on the 29th and my due date is the 15th but I could be overdue and if baby is here I'm going to need his help I don't want him out drinking all day especially if I end up with another c section but he is really sulking about it especially as our friends are going lol

How is this even an issue for him?! He should be wholeheartedly supporting you especially during birth. I'm sorry for moaning so much about my position when you're having to deal with this, maybe we can send mine and your oh off to the bloody festival together and just support each other! Xx

 

[nikkix86]

I'm glad it's not just mine in a way lol he's being so selfish he's not attached to this baby at all yet lol he did ask if he could go to London to watch the boxing in April with his friends which I said yes to so at least he's got that lol. yeah that sounds like a plan lol

 

[nikkix86]

feeling baby loads today like popping candy lol can't remember when I started feeling stronger movements. maybe my placenta has moved I'm feeling them quite low down or baby has moved lol. when I had my private scan her head was down and legs up by my belly button lol

 

[lisey]

My goodness, these men!! I am lucky in that my OH is super supportive, will do anything for me, very attentive etc He was planning on a short trip to Spain in the new year but has said he doesn't think he will as it's extra expense. I wonder if it's an age thing, my OH might be a bit older than some of the other men. He is 37. When I was with my sons dad, he was early 20's at the time and it was all about him, he gave me £70 in total towards baby through whole pregnancy...that was to buy everything!! Xx

 

[snowbee]

I'm sorry to hear so many of you are struggling with your ohs. Like lisey I'm feeling really lucky, my oh is really excited (he is also older, he is 39, maybe it does make a difference). He is very cautious with money anyway so tends not to buy stuff he doesn't need, often he won't buy stuff he does need too. He isn't too fussed with baby shopping, he has pretty much said I'll be using it the most so I can choose what I want then show him how it works. I think he will have heart failure if he sees how expensive stuff is, I earn very little and he is self employed and didn't make much at all last year. I'm just keeping quiet so as not to stress him. I'll figure something out financially so we get what we need. I think if he was behaving as yours (haha India in April is brilliant btw!) I would write a huge list of everything that a baby needs and what needs to be done in the house before they arrive and then sit them down and discuss when to buy each item so it is spread out. Maybe that way they will start to see there is more to life than themselves?

I've been pram shopping today. In some respects it has not gone well! They didn't have the Oyster 2 as they had sold the only one they had in this morning, so I've still not seen that one. I did however look at pretty much everything else and annoyingly I now really like the quite pricey egg. It is really between that and the silver cross pioneer now. Being as I've just said we are low on money that probably isn't ideal! I'll have to see what I can earn before baby arrives and hope something I like comes up in the sales.

 

[lisey]

I love the egg too. I couldn't find a full travel system with it though. Is very nice all the same though xx

 

[nikkix86]

see my oh is 27 and I'm 31 in July. he's still very young at heart his friends all still live at home and don't have girlfriends or babies so maybe that's why lol

 

[Leighwiltshire]

my OH is 43 and im 25! its like roles reversed in our house im the saver and the head screwed on one!

 

[gesic]

I tried the pioneer yesterday as on paper liked it but found the wider wheel set at the front meant that it was harder to manoeuvre through corners and tighter spaces than the oyster and the surf.

 

[nikkix86]

anyone had a cosatto? I love the designs and mother care do a payment plan

 

[Eryinera]

My oh is 30 and super supportive so I agree may he an age thing. Mind you people have said from about 18 we were 18 going on 88 lol what have does that make me at nearly 31 lol 101? I certainly feel like it at times lol

 

[lisey]

Ery, I am with you. I feel like an old lady sometimes. I do feel incredibly lucky with my OH. He drives me mad sometimes because he bores me with useless facts lol but he really is amazing, I should tell him more often. Think he would faint and blame preg hormones
I didn't try the cosatto nikki, I prefer plain though because everything has to match and couldn't have a clashing blanket (I even drive myself mad with being so particular). Some of them are really nice though xx

 

[Eryinera]

I'm fussy too lol and my oh is the same lol with the facts. But I'm

Just looked at the front and seen it's pebbles scan today hope it went well. The start of the 20wk scabs argh so scary we are getting towards halfway!

 

[nikkix86]

it's exciting! doesn't seem that long ago we were all coming up to our 12 week scans! haven't bought anything yet lol waiting till after we move in Jan. once I get to 37 weeks baby can happily come out lol

 

[Leighwiltshire]

ive not bought anything either, think we are waiting to see if we are pink or blue first.

i dont even know where to start