*March 2019 Testing Thread*

[Kitana]

So sorry to hear about your chemical Babylove... Hope you and the oh can find support with each other...

 

[Lollypop79]

Hi ladies,

Well I think I’m back in the TTC game. I’m bleeding and passing clots. FRER was lighter yesterday morning than a week ago so pretty sure I’m miscarrying.

So sorry to those of you that have had AF arrive and fingers crossed for those yet to get to testing.

Xx

Aw I am so so sorry. Sending lots of love xx

 

[SugaryIris]

Hi ladies,

Well I think I’m back in the TTC game. I’m bleeding and passing clots. FRER was lighter yesterday morning than a week ago so pretty sure I’m miscarrying.

So sorry to those of you that have had AF arrive and fingers crossed for those yet to get to testing.

Xx

I’m so sorry Hun, be kind to yourself xx

 

[Aprilxxx]

Hi ladies,

Well I think I’m back in the TTC game. I’m bleeding and passing clots. FRER was lighter yesterday morning than a week ago so pretty sure I’m miscarrying.

So sorry to those of you that have had AF arrive and fingers crossed for those yet to get to testing.

Xx

So sorry to hear this xxx

 

[Maximus17]

So sorry to hear this babylove. Take time and look after yourself x

 

[Aprilxxx]

Those of you who are finding ttc emotionally tough or have experienced a mc do you let your partners know when you feel low?
My bf has seen me cry countless times (as recent as this week) and it’s becoming frustrating to him. He understands but he can’t make it better.

I’m trying to keep it to myself from now on but I’m feeling low tonight.

 

[Kickingk]

Those of you who are finding ttc emotionally tough or have experienced a mc do you let your partners know when you feel low?
My bf has seen me cry countless times (as recent as this week) and it’s becoming frustrating to him. He understands but he can’t make it better.

I’m trying to keep it to myself from now on but I’m feeling low tonight.

My OH told me when he sees me upset each month it puts pressure on him and he worries that he is the failure. I don’t want to put pressure on him I generally just need a hug. He just hates seeing me sad so this month is the first month I have actively hidden how upset I am. (OH doesn’t know AF is here yet)

They just don’t understand, if they got AF they would- it is like a slap in the face to us but to them nothing really marks the fact that it ‘didn’t work’ that month.

I thing guys can dis-engage from the idea of concieving better than us.

 

[Rainbow1234]

Those of you who are finding ttc emotionally tough or have experienced a mc do you let your partners know when you feel low?
My bf has seen me cry countless times (as recent as this week) and it’s becoming frustrating to him. He understands but he can’t make it better.

I’m trying to keep it to myself from now on but I’m feeling low tonight.

I’ve been there and he has gotten frustrated with me before. Its different for a man, obviously they get upset but we’re the ones who are pregnant and going through the miscarriage etc. The best thing I did was actually look up a few links and showed him that how I feel is normal and I need support. He never treated me that way again. Somehow he could understand it more when he could read it from an external source.
Keeping it to yourself is the absolute worst thing you can do for yourself mentally. How you feel isn’t wrong or bad x

 

[SockVortex]

D and I share everything, especially with TTC. He's had a bad time today himself after I started spotting last night. He had a bad dream in which our prospective daughter was very small and we kept losing her and couldn't find her. Then he got upset at work when his colleague was asking how it was going. I felt awful

 

[SugaryIris]

Dh and I share a lot, one of my losses was especially hard on him as I started bleeding after sex so he physically saw it and also felt a bit guilty, that’s when it became more real for him and he said ‘ok let’s get help’

Every relationship has a different mechanic, it’s hard navigating what works for you without creating more stress on either of you xx

 

[Aprilxxx]

I’m not sure if I should use the word “glad”..but having you girls relate is helpful.

I definitely agree with the pressure part. I think my bf is the same. He’s very much a “fixer” also and because he can’t “fix” this it gets to him. He wants to give me what I(we) want and make it all better I suppose.

And I’m also agreeing with them having no “marker” to say it didn’t work.

I talk to my mum about my emotions but she doesn’t understand herself ...and she had to MCs.

 

[Aprilxxx]

Wow that must of been really scary for the both of you. I think the men do need to see something be able to understand though.

With my first mc my bf didn’t think anything bad was happening he thought everything would work out. So I brought him to the bathroom and shown him what was happening. He is really good with dealing with things but he’s a solution man...he’s not very emotional. He thinks I’m overly emotional.

 

[JaccsX]

Awww no im so sorry your go through this babylove big hugsxx

 

[Kitana]

I do tend to keep things from the oh just because he thinks I obsess too much.
But not the AF obviously, but like the opks, the cheapies, he knows I buy them but I never tell him if I got a low opk, only when I get a peak and we have to BD, I think it puts too much pressure on him if he knows too much.

As for AF arriving, yes it's not a fun thing to share but there is nothing you can do about it. I come on this forum and moan about it! Sorry ladies!

 

[Helen88uk]

Babylove I'm so sorry

 

[Niknaknoo]

Hi everyone,
I think I’m back in a place where I can join in again. I had a miscarriage in September and am finally feeling like getting back on the ttc wagon.
Can you put me down for testing on the 23rd March please? I’m not expecting much this month as my cycle is only just getting back on track, but a bfp would so help me with what would have been my due date in early April.

 

[SugaryIris]

Hi everyone,
I think I’m back in a place where I can join in again. I had a miscarriage in September and am finally feeling like getting back on the ttc wagon.
Can you put me down for testing on the 23rd March please? I’m not expecting much this month as my cycle is only just getting back on track, but a bfp would so help me with what would have been my due date in early April.

I’m glad you’re feeling better xx

 

[chattychar1990]

@babylove2016 - I am so sorry darling. Sending you massive hugs
We are all here for you m

Welcome @Niknaknoo, I will add you to the front page. Sending you lots of baby dust xx

 

[Hendy1]

I'm so sorry Babylove

 

[Helen88uk]

I'm out ladies