*March 2019 Testing Thread*

[Roo87]

Hi,

I’m pretty new here, TTC #2. I don’t think I’ll be joining you this month, I’m currently waiting for more scans & appointments before I start on Clomid due to pcos & not ovulating on my own. I’ll keep an eye on things and fx for us for April! Good luck to all those march testers.

Rx

 

[Linnett3]

Hi Ladies. I’ve been following your threads and I’m sorry if it seems like I’m sticking my nose in & I’ve debated writing anything or not but thought why not?! And I know this might seem a bit “ironic” coming from an already pregnant lady & you might hate me for that so i apologise! But I just wanted to say as hard as it is I’m certain the best way to conceive is to let all planning & inabitions go out the window. Don’t put plans “on hold” just incase. Those cinema dates, nights out with a few glasses of wine or holidays might just be what you need to relax & conceive. I know your worries about it not happening & saving money if it doesn’t but you can’t put life on hold. You might actually be missing so many opportunities from putting things on hold. I’m a firm believer in everything happening for a reason & I’d hate to think of anyone regretting the things they didn’t do for something you can’t always guarantee anyway. And I know it’s easier said than done, again possibly even more so coming from someone who is pregnant but I truy believe the best & more sureproof way of conceiving is to just have fun with it. Don’t think about why your having sex & put timings on it. As the doctor said maybe throw the okps & temping out the window for a couple months & see what happens. Go right back to basics & just have fun sex like you use to. Remember those honeymoon/whatever goes days? Find those again & introduce more ways or making it fun rather than it being militant & planned. Myself & hubby DTD daily, sometimes twice a day, reaching huge orgasms (sorry if tmi but apparently the more you climax the more likely you fall) from the moment AF finished. I didnt know when I actually ovulated, I did buy OKPs but if I’m honest I didn’t really know how they worked so I used them a couple days but didn’t know what I was looking at so I was practically “pissing in the wind” lol. I just used the surge in hornyness to my advantage & 3 weeks later I was pregnant. Turns out I ovulated 3 days after AF finished so around CD7-8 which would appear too early but clearly not in my case & you may actually find some of you are the same.

Again I apologise if this post offends anyone as it’s not meant to at all & I know some long termers may read this & think “you don’t know anything” or think I’m just stating the obvious and I really don’t mean to cause offence I just wanted to say enjoy it & don’t put too much pressure on yourselves. Just have loads of naughty fun sex as often as possible & I’m sure it’ll happen

Fingers crossed for you all this month xx

 

[Apple2018]

Noticed i am spotting at 2 dpo. Any ideas what it could be?

 

[night owl]

Hi Ladies. I’ve been following your threads and I’m sorry if it seems like I’m sticking my nose in & I’ve debated writing anything or not but thought why not?! And I know this might seem a bit “ironic” coming from an already pregnant lady & you might hate me for that so i apologise! But I just wanted to say as hard as it is I’m certain the best way to conceive is to let all planning & inabitions go out the window. Don’t put plans “on hold” just incase. Those cinema dates, nights out with a few glasses of wine or holidays might just be what you need to relax & conceive. I know your worries about it not happening & saving money if it doesn’t but you can’t put life on hold. You might actually be missing so many opportunities from putting things on hold. I’m a firm believer in everything happening for a reason & I’d hate to think of anyone regretting the things they didn’t do for something you can’t always guarantee anyway. And I know it’s easier said than done, again possibly even more so coming from someone who is pregnant but I truy believe the best & more sureproof way of conceiving is to just have fun with it. Don’t think about why your having sex & put timings on it. As the doctor said maybe throw the okps & temping out the window for a couple months & see what happens. Go right back to basics & just have fun sex like you use to. Remember those honeymoon/whatever goes days? Find those again & introduce more ways or making it fun rather than it being militant & planned. Myself & hubby DTD daily, sometimes twice a day, reaching huge orgasms (sorry if tmi but apparently the more you climax the more likely you fall) from the moment AF finished. I didnt know when I actually ovulated, I did buy OKPs but if I’m honest I didn’t really know how they worked so I used them a couple days but didn’t know what I was looking at so I was practically “pissing in the wind” lol. I just used the surge in hornyness to my advantage & 3 weeks later I was pregnant. Turns out I ovulated 3 days after AF finished so around CD7-8 which would appear too early but clearly not in my case & you may actually find some of you are the same.

Again I apologise if this post offends anyone as it’s not meant to at all & I know some long termers may read this & think “you don’t know anything” or think I’m just stating the obvious and I really don’t mean to cause offence I just wanted to say enjoy it & don’t put too much pressure on yourselves. Just have loads of naughty fun sex as often as possible & I’m sure it’ll happen

Fingers crossed for you all this month xx

This is great advice but i think how spontaneous and less planned you can be all depends on where you are at in your relationship, your lifestyle and what other stuff you have going on in your life, for example me and my OH have been together over15 yrs so well past the sex twice a day stage lol, we are lucky to do it twice a week! we both work over 40 hours a week and often I am away for work for a week or so at a time so opks and planned sex was the only way forward for us, and I don’t think there’s anyway I would have got preggers so quickly without it, as soon as I got a positive opk we just got the deed done, we wouldn’t have actually got busy otherwise as we were both knackered and it did feel like a chore, but you are right, for people just having regular sex 3 times a week or so having a break from all the planning would probably do some good xx

 

[chattychar1990]

Hi Ladies. I’ve been following your threads and I’m sorry if it seems like I’m sticking my nose in & I’ve debated writing anything or not but thought why not?! And I know this might seem a bit “ironic” coming from an already pregnant lady & you might hate me for that so i apologise! But I just wanted to say as hard as it is I’m certain the best way to conceive is to let all planning & inabitions go out the window. Don’t put plans “on hold” just incase. Those cinema dates, nights out with a few glasses of wine or holidays might just be what you need to relax & conceive. I know your worries about it not happening & saving money if it doesn’t but you can’t put life on hold. You might actually be missing so many opportunities from putting things on hold. I’m a firm believer in everything happening for a reason & I’d hate to think of anyone regretting the things they didn’t do for something you can’t always guarantee anyway. And I know it’s easier said than done, again possibly even more so coming from someone who is pregnant but I truy believe the best & more sureproof way of conceiving is to just have fun with it. Don’t think about why your having sex & put timings on it. As the doctor said maybe throw the okps & temping out the window for a couple months & see what happens. Go right back to basics & just have fun sex like you use to. Remember those honeymoon/whatever goes days? Find those again & introduce more ways or making it fun rather than it being militant & planned. Myself & hubby DTD daily, sometimes twice a day, reaching huge orgasms (sorry if tmi but apparently the more you climax the more likely you fall) from the moment AF finished. I didnt know when I actually ovulated, I did buy OKPs but if I’m honest I didn’t really know how they worked so I used them a couple days but didn’t know what I was looking at so I was practically “pissing in the wind” lol. I just used the surge in hornyness to my advantage & 3 weeks later I was pregnant. Turns out I ovulated 3 days after AF finished so around CD7-8 which would appear too early but clearly not in my case & you may actually find some of you are the same.

Again I apologise if this post offends anyone as it’s not meant to at all & I know some long termers may read this & think “you don’t know anything” or think I’m just stating the obvious and I really don’t mean to cause offence I just wanted to say enjoy it & don’t put too much pressure on yourselves. Just have loads of naughty fun sex as often as possible & I’m sure it’ll happen

Fingers crossed for you all this month xx

Thanks for your comments @Linnett3, i totally agree with the whole putting plans on hold because you are TTC or want to save money incase you will have a baby in the next few months. I also agree that everything happens for a reason and what will be will be. You shouldnt stop your life just because you think you might be pregnant soon.
I think for people like me though that ovulates different times of the cycle using opk's really help me pinpoint my fertile window. I use to stress over these with the cheapies but now i use the clear blue ones its just one a day and a simple answer so i find this is very helpful for me. On the other hand i have dropped the the stressful things like temping etc and this cycle is the first cycle i haven't been spotting any symptoms and its been lovely. x

 

[chattychar1990]

Noticed i am spotting at 2 dpo. Any ideas what it could be?

@Apple2018 - i unfortunately have no idea i am afraid. I would say 2dpo is way to early for implantation but i suppose anything is possible. How long is your LP? x

 

[Apple2018]

My last lp was 10 days. Could it be ovulation blood? This just doesn't make sense!

 

[chattychar1990]

My last lp was 10 days. Could it be ovulation blood? This just doesn't make sense!

I could well be blood from ovulation if you are only 2dpo but i honestly don't know. x

 

[IVW]

This is great advice but i think how spontaneous and less planned you can be all depends on where you are at in your relationship, your lifestyle and what other stuff you have going on in your life, for example me and my OH have been together over15 yrs so well past the sex twice a day stage lol, we are lucky to do it twice a week! we both work over 40 hours a week and often I am away for work for a week or so at a time so opks and planned sex was the only way forward for us, and I don’t think there’s anyway I would have got preggers so quickly without it, as soon as I got a positive opk we just got the deed done, we wouldn’t have actually got busy otherwise as we were both knackered and it did feel like a chore, but you are right, for people just having regular sex 3 times a week or so having a break from all the planning would probably do some good xx

I couldnt agree more, my partner and i have been together 7 years and sex wasnt high on our list of things to be doing

Yes they do say dont stress about it, if you are relaxed it will happen, have more sex etc etc and yes i do agree with that, but also having some control over it can also help, like Char has said.

I agree with the whole not putting your life on hold though definitely, so book that holiday and have that extra cocktail, as you just never know when that bfp will come.

The month i got my bfp i tracked and sex was definitely planned and bam second cycle it happened - thank god x

 

[IVW]

My last lp was 10 days. Could it be ovulation blood? This just doesn't make sense!

Hmmmm hard to tell really, the month i got my bfp i had 3 days of what i can only assume was ovulation bleeding, which was before we dtd, so you saying you are 2dpo, i dont think it is that, but i could be wrong.x

 

[chattychar1990]

Hmmmm hard to tell really, the month i got my bfp i had 3 days of what i can only assume was ovulation bleeding, which was before we dtd, so you saying you are 2dpo, i dont think it is that, but i could be wrong.x

@Apple2018 - are you certain that you ovulated when you did? Maybe you ovulated earlier than you thought and your further along than 2dpo?

 

[Apple2018]

You don't think it is OV bleed?

Hmmmm hard to tell really, the month i got my bfp i had 3 days of what i can only assume was ovulation bleeding, which was before we dtd, so you saying you are 2dpo, i dont think it is that, but i could be wrong.x

 

[Apple2018]

Possibly Char. I just want it to go away!!!

@Apple2018 - are you certain that you ovulated when you did? Maybe you ovulated earlier than you thought and your further along than 2dpo?

 

[Sparky Mum]

Good luck ladies

 

[IVW]

You don't think it is OV bleed?

Well i thought, from my experience, was that ovulation bleeding happens before you picked up your day of ovulation, so the egg is getting ready to come round and grab so to speak, but whilst it is doing that its shredding your lining, hence the blood. I actually thought i was out that month due to the 3 day bleed, but as soon as i got my peak, we dtd and caught that month and i did read having ovulation bleeding can make you more fertile - turns out that was the case for me.

Were you testing around ovulation? are you certain on where you are in your cycle?x

 

[Apple2018]

I tested with an opk. We done the BD 4 days prior and twice on day of ovulation. Ovulation day was Saturday.

Well i thought, from my experience, was that ovulation bleeding happens before you picked up your day of ovulation, so the egg is getting ready to come round and grab so to speak, but whilst it is doing that its shredding your lining, hence the blood. I actually thought i was out that month due to the 3 day bleed, but as soon as i got my peak, we dtd and caught that month and i did read having ovulation bleeding can make you more fertile - turns out that was the case for me.

Were you testing around ovulation? are you certain on where you are in your cycle?x

 

[Apple2018]

Well just done another opk and was near enough positive. I think all this tracking is driving me crazy. I really need to take a relaxed approach for a while as i am driving myself insane!

 

[chattychar1990]

Well just done another opk and was near enough positive. I think all this tracking is driving me crazy. I really need to take a relaxed approach for a while as i am driving myself insane!

If you know you definitely ovulated stay away from the opk's because you will drive yourself crazy, and by the sounds of it you are stressing. I know its hard but its took me 8 cycles to finally realise when you relax the 2ww goes so much more quicker. The symptom spotting etc is no good for you because i actually feel most of the time i make the symptoms up in my head because i want it to be there. I know only record a symptom that is way to hard to ignore.

 

[Apple2018]

I'm obsessing and stressing! I just got to remember i only came off the pill in November! Got the doc about a med review in a week so will discuss it with him. I honestly want to forget about tracking for a couple of months and just take a relaxed approach. Was suppose to do that this cycle but tested with an opk as was feeling hormonal! Just need to put them away

 

[chattychar1990]

I'm obsessing and stressing! I just got to remember i only came off the pill in November! Got the doc about a med review in a week so will discuss it with him. I honestly want to forget about tracking for a couple of months and just take a relaxed approach. Was suppose to do that this cycle but tested with an opk as was feeling hormonal! Just need to put them away

Yes if you only came off the pill in November then it can take a while for your body to get back to 'normal'.
You also need to remember it can take an average of 12 months for 80% of ladies to fall pregnant. I know its hard and we have all been there but obsessing and stressing wont make this journey go any quicker. Just relax and make sure you DTD in your fertile window and you will get there in the end. x