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[Simoneh00]

I totally agree I couldn't just abstain for months. Oh and I'm also in the same boat where I can't use hormonal contraception and the coil doesn't work for me so I'll keep an eye on this thread x

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[evie_smith]

I would rather have a litter too! Lol!!!!

I didn't mean cause a chemical btw it was just the easiest way to describe that I knew what she meant as in it thins out the lining so it would have stopped the egg implanting (if she was at that stage) I didn't word it very well but it got the point across that I knew what she meant and was feeling.

They might want more kids in the future and her other half might not want any more now but getting the snip in my view is a bit drastic and no so easily reversed. It isn't something I would personally look into. You never know how you will feel in the future - specially being so young what's saying when they kids are a bit older they might not want another.

 

[charlene09]

I do want more children in the future where as OH says he doesn't, but when we come across the snip conversation he says no because what's to say I won't change my mind in the future, so if anything I'm just getting constant mixed messages.



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[Simoneh00]

The snip is far too permenant when you're so young. God my OH is 25 and his doctor advised him to wait a few years x

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[Olive]

Kind of agree with leesey.

How about even not dtd when you're due to ovulate as you know your cycles


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[cosmicgirl]

Kind of agree with leesey.

How about even not dtd when you're due to ovulate as you know your cycles


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I agree too sorry.

 

[Me, My Girls & I]

Honestly, I'd be abstaining! Not getting any for a wee while is heaps better IMO than risking pregnancy in your current situation! And there are other ways of getting stimulation! You both need to be really mature and make the best division for you all as a family

 

[redbear]

I think using condoms and map if accidents happen should be enough really x

 

[knopk@]

Tbh abstinence isnt a solution really but you need to sort contraception. What arey doing to track your cycles?
I have had whacky cyclea but all they could suggest is either Clomid (to get pg) or the pill to regulate.
Or do they suspect endo? Doesnt sound right that they just said - no.hormonal cotraception and coil.
Whats their action plan?

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[cosmicgirl]

Surely they can just not have sex the week of ovulation?
I'd much rather do that than risk another pregnancy!

 

[Froslass]

I find it odd you'd be given the MAP if you're not allowed the pill, or hormonal contraception.

Have you always had problems with your periods?

You're only 11 weeks post birth so very possible things haven't settled down yet x

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[LYLLJellyTots]

TBH I was told to have a break from hormonal contraception for about 6 months by my doctor after having bad side affects from the implanon and not much else being suitable for me, to give my body a rest if that makes sense? I guess if you need the MAP though there's not much choice? xx Hope you manage to find something x

 

[Me, My Girls & I]

I think using condoms and map if accidents happen should be enough really x

Condoms aren't really working tho are they? The MAP is designed to be emergency contraception, not "shit the condom broke *again*" contraception! You guys need to sort something proper, if hormonal contraception and the coil isn't an option and condoms keep breaking there's only one option IMO! Especially as the map delivers such a high dose of hormones!

 

[leesey]

I think using condoms and map if accidents happen should be enough really x

Condoms aren't really working tho are they? The MAP is designed to be emergency contraception, not "shit the condom broke *again*" contraception! You guys need to sort something proper, if hormonal contraception and the coil isn't an option and condoms keep breaking there's only one option IMO! Especially as the map delivers such a high dose of hormones!

Yup, nice and concise way of what I was trying to say.

I know we're on a pregnancy forum but if you were talking to say a random teenager on the street about avoiding pregnancy (I don't know why you would be, but just say so for hypotheticals!!) and she said that she couldn't take hormonal contraception, couldn't take the coil, and condoms weren't working out - what would you advise? Just keep going at it and hope you don't get pregnant? I doubt it. You'd say hold out on full blown sex until you've got it covered. It's the sensible and mature thing to do I'm afraid, no matter how horny you are! And trust me, I know how it feels to be abstaining against your will!!!

 

[LikeJohnnYoko]

Whilst I acknowledge that accidents do happen, and that's okay, you already have 2 children and should, frankly know this stuff. You should educate yourself as to the risks and options etc (eg the fact that the condoms advertised efficacy is if you use them strictly in a certain way, every single time you use them, otherwise the efficacy drastically drops.) Should know about correctly using a barrier option and the MAP etc. Taking the MAP is nothing other than taking the MAP. It's a form of contraception, hence it being called "emergency contraception". I have taken it in the past.

If it was a choice between getting pregnant when my partner wanted no more children or abstaining from sex, I would abstain because these are lives we're talking about here. It's not fate, or a bit of a game.

To look after yourself best you need to be informed about all contraceptives, your options and choices and where to get them. There are new contraceptives coming onto the market lately, and it's about working out what's right for you, after you have sorted out your issue with your bleeding.

 

[charlene09]

There action plan for me is

1)send me for a scan
2) blood tests
3) I have been put on menefamic acid and tranexamic acid tablets, along with pregaday iron tablets, as GP seems to think the irregular bleeding is caused by anaemia.

but tbh nothing seems to be going right for me, I havent heard anything back from the hospital about my scan, I called them yesterday and they said they have had nothing faxed through from my GP stating that I needed a scan, So I called my GP and the receptionist said basically there is nothing they can do.
Just feel as though I am being fobbed off, obviously I know I need contraception.. I did start taking it off my own back 12 days after having cabhan which caused all these problems in the first place because I was prescribed a wrong hormone which does not agree with me because of family history, I was admitted to hospital with suspected blood clot.

Progesterone gives me massive headaches and also gave me PND after having AJ because of the sudden hormones again, which is why I specifically want the coil but I cant have that done until I have had all the tests done that need doing.

Obviously, when you go to get contraception, what do they also give you? Condoms, which is why I thought maybe they were a good form of contraception and should work, but it seems they are pointless IMO.

I know this sounds a bit naive but is the change of pregnancy the same if a condom splits as it would be wearing nothing?

 

[charlene09]

If it was a choice between getting pregnant when my partner wanted no more children or abstaining from sex, I would abstain because these are lives we're talking about here. It's not fate, or a bit of a game.

Could I just highlight that OH is happily willing to have sex, even though accidents may happen, so it's all not on my back, I kinda don't understand him myself.

Also the 2nd time it happened and I didn't take MAP was due to him saying "you'll be fine don't worry about it, you won't be pregnant and when I have a gut feeling it's MOSTLY right" well it's no good mostly, you cant predict your fertility, just because it took 6 months to conceive AJ and 1 and half months to conceive cabhan doesnt mean it will always be the same amount of time, obviously the more children you have the quicker it should be IMO

 

[LikeJohnnYoko]

There action plan for me is

1)send me for a scan
2) blood tests
3) I have been put on menefamic acid and tranexamic acid tablets, along with pregaday iron tablets, as GP seems to think the irregular bleeding is caused by anaemia.

but tbh nothing seems to be going right for me, I havent heard anything back from the hospital about my scan, I called them yesterday and they said they have had nothing faxed through from my GP stating that I needed a scan, So I called my GP and the receptionist said basically there is nothing they can do.
Just feel as though I am being fobbed off, obviously I know I need contraception.. I did start taking it off my own back 12 days after having cabhan which caused all these problems in the first place because I was prescribed a wrong hormone which does not agree with me because of family history, I was admitted to hospital with suspected blood clot.

Progesterone gives me massive headaches and also gave me PND after having AJ because of the sudden hormones again, which is why I specifically want the coil but I cant have that done until I have had all the tests done that need doing.

Obviously, when you go to get contraception, what do they also give you? Condoms, which is why I thought maybe they were a good form of contraception and should work, but it seems they are pointless IMO.

I know this sounds a bit naive but is the change of pregnancy the same if a condom splits as it would be wearing nothing?

Not pointless, are you using them with the correct lubricant? Also, you bought them from eBay, when you can get them for free from your local sexual health clinic, which is a far more reliable source.

Yes, if it splits its the same as wearing nothing. Not using the condom correctly (am unsure about non-latex ones as we don't have that need, but its easy to find info online, especially about whether you need lubricant with them or which kind.) also reduces them to very low protection rates.

There are other types of contraceptive like the Nuvaring, patches etc, which whilst hormonal are different kinds and have different effects. You also need to consider that your body needs to adjust to these hormonal changes too.

 

[knopk@]

There action plan for me is

1)send me for a scan
2) blood tests
3) I have been put on menefamic acid and tranexamic acid tablets, along with pregaday iron tablets, as GP seems to think the irregular bleeding is caused by anaemia.

but tbh nothing seems to be going right for me, I havent heard anything back from the hospital about my scan, I called them yesterday and they said they have had nothing faxed through from my GP stating that I needed a scan, So I called my GP and the receptionist said basically there is nothing they can do.
Just feel as though I am being fobbed off, obviously I know I need contraception.. I did start taking it off my own back 12 days after having cabhan which caused all these problems in the first place because I was prescribed a wrong hormone which does not agree with me because of family history, I was admitted to hospital with suspected blood clot.

Progesterone gives me massive headaches and also gave me PND after having AJ because of the sudden hormones again, which is why I specifically want the coil but I cant have that done until I have had all the tests done that need doing.

Obviously, when you go to get contraception, what do they also give you? Condoms, which is why I thought maybe they were a good form of contraception and should work, but it seems they are pointless IMO.

I know this sounds a bit naive but is the change of pregnancy the same if a condom splits as it would be wearing nothing?

Hun you need to go to your GP and make them do a referral, it can go on for ages otherwise. My referral was relatively quick (1 month from referral to the scan), they cant leave you like this. And invest in good brand condoms, Durex never failed me. Of course you need to use them correctly as weird as it sounds. You can also buy condoms with spermicide lube for extra protection.

You need to take charge otherwise things wont happen.
Condoms have quite a high pearl index rating(but only if used correctly)

 

[LikeJohnnYoko]

If it was a choice between getting pregnant when my partner wanted no more children or abstaining from sex, I would abstain because these are lives we're talking about here. It's not fate, or a bit of a game.

Could I just highlight that OH is happily willing to have sex, even though accidents may happen, so it's all not on my back, I kinda don't understand him myself.

Also the 2nd time it happened and I didn't take MAP was due to him saying "you'll be fine don't worry about it, you won't be pregnant and when I have a gut feeling it's MOSTLY right" well it's no good mostly, you cant predict your fertility, just because it took 6 months to conceive AJ and 1 and half months to conceive cabhan doesnt mean it will always be the same amount of time, obviously the more children you have the quicker it should be IMO

With all due respect, I wouldn't be listening to anyone telling you you'll be fine and not get pregnant. Not how the world works and if he's convinced himself it'll be okay, he could be in for a bloody huge shock if it wasn't. One you would likely get given the responsibility for.