July 2017 mummies to be.

[SalisburyMum]

My 20 week is on Tuesday!

 

[Aurora_J]

I have a scan at 28 weeks then every 4 weeks after that because of the group b strep.

I realised that most of my post are just me moaning so im going to try to be more positive. So fed up of hearing myself moan.

 

[CoolNoMore]

I realised that most of my post are just me moaning so im going to try to be more positive. So fed up of hearing myself moan.

No, moan away! It'll make me feel better about the massive rant I'm about to have...

I work from home, finishing my phd. This means full-time hours (in theory) but from the comfort of my pyjamas, supported financially by my husband, now that I'm near the end and have run out of money.

Pretty sweet deal.

This means that I have (happily) taken on the bulk of the household stuff, including all the logistics of selling our flat and buying a new one in preparation for the new arrival. I don't commute and I have flexible hours, so it makes sense. It's a lot to fit in, but like I say, it just makes sense.

The one thing that I have asked my husband to do, is empty the cat litter. Partly because of the risk of disease, and partly because my back was very bad about a month ago, and lifting that thing is potentially catastrophic. Seems fair, right?

So WHY THEN did he decide that he didn't have time to spend 20 seconds finishing off the job this morning? Why did he decide to leave it half done, for me to 'just finish off' after he managed to spend half an hour lazing in bed, eating the breakfast I had made and brought him, playing on his phone? Suddenly he needed to get to work and didn't have 20 seconds to finish the one job I had asked him to do (uh, last night).

I think I'd be less pissed off if he hadn't then argued about it for five minutes, producing the spectacular defence of 'yeah, I know you're pregnant, but I don't think you get how difficult work is at the minute'.

It must be really, really tough if 20 seconds is going to make all the difference.

Sorry for the epic moan. My back hurts.

 

[violet13]

I have a scan at 28 weeks then every 4 weeks after that because of the group b strep.

I realised that most of my post are just me moaning so im going to try to be more positive. So fed up of hearing myself moan.

Oh Hun big hugs and if you need to moan you moan Hun that's what we are all here for
To talk to each other about how things are going. Xxx

 

[violet13]

I realised that most of my post are just me moaning so im going to try to be more positive. So fed up of hearing myself moan.

No, moan away! It'll make me feel better about the massive rant I'm about to have...

I work from home, finishing my phd. This means full-time hours (in theory) but from the comfort of my pyjamas, supported financially by my husband, now that I'm near the end and have run out of money.

Pretty sweet deal.

This means that I have (happily) taken on the bulk of the household stuff, including all the logistics of selling our flat and buying a new one in preparation for the new arrival. I don't commute and I have flexible hours, so it makes sense. It's a lot to fit in, but like I say, it just makes sense.

The one thing that I have asked my husband to do, is empty the cat litter. Partly because of the risk of disease, and partly because my back was very bad about a month ago, and lifting that thing is potentially catastrophic. Seems fair, right?

So WHY THEN did he decide that he didn't have time to spend 20 seconds finishing off the job this morning? Why did he decide to leave it half done, for me to 'just finish off' after he managed to spend half an hour lazing in bed, eating the breakfast I had made and brought him, playing on his phone? Suddenly he needed to get to work and didn't have 20 seconds to finish the one job I had asked him to do (uh, last night).

I think I'd be less pissed off if he hadn't then argued about it for five minutes, producing the spectacular defence of 'yeah, I know you're pregnant, but I don't think you get how difficult work is at the minute'.

It must be really, really tough if 20 seconds is going to make all the difference.

Sorry for the epic moan. My back hurts.

That's it fair at all! You may be pregnant but doing a cat tray is not safe really in pregnancy so why couldn't he just do it last night? Urghhh it's okay Hun my hubby thinks I'm still fine
To try and lift he y things while suffering with SPD! I told him last night fuck all is getting done until he helps me xxx

 

[CoolNoMore]

Thank you! I just needed to know that I'm not insane...

On a different, slightly less grumpy note, I'm supposed to be going on a hen party when I'll be 32 weeks, and they want to do a treasure hunt across the city. Any ideas how mobile I'll be likely to be then? I'm generally fit and healthy. Would you guys sign up to something like that?!

 

[violet13]

Thank you! I just needed to know that I'm not insane...

On a different, slightly less grumpy note, I'm supposed to be going on a hen party when I'll be 32 weeks, and they want to do a treasure hunt across the city. Any ideas how mobile I'll be likely to be then? I'm generally fit and healthy. Would you guys sign up to something like that?!

Depends on how you feel Hun, you may be pretty active still by then and the grumpy stage is so normal I was horrible during my first like uber bitch mode haha personally I wouldn't go because I have spd now and I do carry big babies I have a low bump because of how he's sitting so it does just depend how you feel Hun make sure you wear comfy shoes cxx

 

[JulyBug]

Oh I'm glad everyones having a moan.. I'm feeling rather fed up today too!

I ordered a couple of books a few days ago which arrived today they are called 'First time parent' and 'first time parents survival guide' or something a long those lines.. I love reading up on anything I don't know much about - babies being one of them! Which isn't ideal considering I have one on the way.. So anyway, they are full of honest & funny info and even after a couple of pages I feel more informed so I'm definitely glad I bought them!

However then came the start of the 'What happens during and after labour' section.... *GULP*.. Lets just say I'm a little overwhelmed.. there are so many things I had no idea about and I couldn't help but start to panic.. Can I really do this?.. How am I going to cope?.. Then I realised I HAVE TO DO THIS! This baby is coming one way or another.. should I have stayed naively un-informed or do I prepare myself for what will and what could happen?

Sorry for the long post, I needed somewhere to freak out!

x

 

[Onedaysoon25]

Sorry everyone is having such a crappy time but I will join in on the moaning! I have been crampy all day long and my back hurts and just feel awful 😒

Ah CNM men really don't get it do they. Maybe have a calm discussion tonight about the cat litter tray and even cry if you have to lol.

Julybug, this won't be my first birth and I feel exactly the same as you. WHAT HAVE I DONE? THIS BABY HAS TO COME OUT SOMEHOW!!
I am really dreading doing it again but I know it's such a short time and the end result is so amazing and you feel so proud of yourself afterwards, like you're on a high.
You did the right thing, it's def best read up on it all x

 

[violet13]

Oh I'm glad everyones having a moan.. I'm feeling rather fed up today too!

I ordered a couple of books a few days ago which arrived today they are called 'First time parent' and 'first time parents survival guide' or something a long those lines.. I love reading up on anything I don't know much about - babies being one of them! Which isn't ideal considering I have one on the way.. So anyway, they are full of honest & funny info and even after a couple of pages I feel more informed so I'm definitely glad I bought them!

However then came the start of the 'What happens during and after labour' section.... *GULP*.. Lets just say I'm a little overwhelmed.. there are so many things I had no idea about and I couldn't help but start to panic.. Can I really do this?.. How am I going to cope?.. Then I realised I HAVE TO DO THIS! This baby is coming one way or another.. should I have stayed naively un-informed or do I prepare myself for what will and what could happen?

Sorry for the long post, I needed somewhere to freak out!

x

You know Hun I'm in the same boat over having this baby!! I don't know how to prepare for a natural birth but c section wise just don't do a lot and try and stay calm not
To panic and just let your body tell you I think I knew first time I wouldn't dialate and my body wouldn't do what it was supposed to this time I feel much more confident if it a bit anxious xxx

 

[Aurora_J]

None of us really know what we are doing in labour even if we have done it before. Your body wil know what to do and there is midwifes on hand to tell you what. Its what may happen afterwards that scares me as i had a very bad experiance with Riley we both got really sick and i didnt think i would make it at one point.

3am and i'm wide awake. Think i'm too excited because we leave for Disneyland tomorrow (sunday) and i keep thinking of all the things we need to do before we leave.

 

[CoolNoMore]

Oh I'm glad everyones having a moan.. I'm feeling rather fed up today too!

I ordered a couple of books a few days ago which arrived today they are called 'First time parent' and 'first time parents survival guide' or something a long those lines.. I love reading up on anything I don't know much about - babies being one of them! Which isn't ideal considering I have one on the way.. So anyway, they are full of honest & funny info and even after a couple of pages I feel more informed so I'm definitely glad I bought them!

However then came the start of the 'What happens during and after labour' section.... *GULP*.. Lets just say I'm a little overwhelmed..

x

I've read this! I did the exact same thing. I was most freaked out about the first few weeks though, seems like a lot of bleeding, and I can't say I relish the idea of being in nappies. Welp, it's too late now!

I'm getting a little weirded out that I know a child who was born at 24 weeks and that we're fast approaching that stage. In about a month my child will (in theory) be able to survive outside of me. Bizarre.

 

[cassi]

My turn to moan! All I wanted that was particularly nice was a decent and nice looking pushchair. Davids brother has given us a bugaboo 2, great. Except....it's been stored in a damp shed so covers mouldy, frame scratched badly, frame BENT, broken brake lever, part from carry cot missing needs replacing, 8 years old now. He said "we can wash covers, and it still works" making me sound unreasonable for not wanting it! Am I being ungrateful/unreasonable? I've agreed to go 2nd hand as I agree spending £850 on a pushchair is ridiculous (to me, no judgement passed!) but wanted a decent one that looks nice too. Be honest!

 

[SalisburyMum]

My turn to moan! All I wanted that was particularly nice was a decent and nice looking pushchair. Davids brother has given us a bugaboo 2, great. Except....it's been stored in a damp shed so covers mouldy, frame scratched badly, frame BENT, broken brake lever, part from carry cot missing needs replacing, 8 years old now. He said "we can wash covers, and it still works" making me sound unreasonable for not wanting it! Am I being ungrateful/unreasonable? I've agreed to go 2nd hand as I agree spending £850 on a pushchair is ridiculous (to me, no judgement passed!) but wanted a decent one that looks nice too. Be honest!

Tell him to sod off.

Mould doesn't wash out and is very dangerous for baby lungs

Bent frame? How is that safe or reasonable??

Tell him you're buying a decent buggy and you don't want to discuss it.

 

[CoolNoMore]

Mould?! Baby! NO!

Unable to write anything more coherent. No no no no.

Hauck seems to get good reviews and a whole travel system can he less than £300, so I'm going to have a look at one next week.

 

[M1chelle]

Hi ladies, hope you've all cheered up a bit now! I've been feeling pretty good for the last few days. I had my scan on Friday and all was good but it took ages as my little one never stays still! And then the head was too low in my pelvis so they made me bounce up and down, doing pelvic thrusts and all sorts of crazy moves to get them to shift up enough to do the necessary measurements! Not quite how it happens in the movies eh? I feel a little bit sad that I've not got any big milestones to look forward to in the near future. I'm trying to make some plans to spend time with friends and hubby before July so hopefully they'll give me some nice things to think about.

I've had a really busy weekend, putting up the cot and assembling the various pram bits as they're all second hand. We've had to have a massive clean out just to make room which is a good thing but bloody knackering! It felt like a good productive weekend though. Not looking forward to work tomorrow but at the same time is nice to get back to a good healthy routine.

 

[JulyBug]

My turn to moan! All I wanted that was particularly nice was a decent and nice looking pushchair. Davids brother has given us a bugaboo 2, great. Except....it's been stored in a damp shed so covers mouldy, frame scratched badly, frame BENT, broken brake lever, part from carry cot missing needs replacing, 8 years old now. He said "we can wash covers, and it still works" making me sound unreasonable for not wanting it! Am I being ungrateful/unreasonable? I've agreed to go 2nd hand as I agree spending £850 on a pushchair is ridiculous (to me, no judgement passed!) but wanted a decent one that looks nice too. Be honest!

Not unreasonable at all!.. I was also offered a second-hand pram which I was all for but I did want it to at least be clean and in good if not very good condition! I felt a bit pressured into as it was a family friends so I agreed.. turns out it was filthy and the breaks didn't work!! Needless to say we had to kindly say thank you but no thank you!.. my OH's mum has now kindly offered to buy ours and I think we're going for the Silver Cross Pioneer.

I have bought a couple of almost new second-hand items though, my chicco next2me was second-hand and in perfect condition and I just recently bought a babybjorn carrier second-hand usually £70 and I paid £15!

Think I have all my larger items now.

I've been looking at thermometers this morning because I don't have one, not even a cheap one! - any recommendations? I was looking at the Braun in-ear one but its £35!!

xx

 

[CoolNoMore]

I'm having a boy! Mind=blown. Anybody know how boys work?!

 

[violet13]

I'm having a boy! Mind=blown. Anybody know how boys work?!

Haha congratulations Hun what do you mean how boys work? Haha when changing a nappy tuck his winky down before fastening the nappy cause he'll then pee upwards.
Xxx

 

[violet13]

My turn to moan! All I wanted that was particularly nice was a decent and nice looking pushchair. Davids brother has given us a bugaboo 2, great. Except....it's been stored in a damp shed so covers mouldy, frame scratched badly, frame BENT, broken brake lever, part from carry cot missing needs replacing, 8 years old now. He said "we can wash covers, and it still works" making me sound unreasonable for not wanting it! Am I being ungrateful/unreasonable? I've agreed to go 2nd hand as I agree spending £850 on a pushchair is ridiculous (to me, no judgement passed!) but wanted a decent one that looks nice too. Be honest!

No I don't think you're being unreasonable at all! That's appalling condition for second hand! I wouldn't even give that away it's go in the bin, look at mothercare orb prams Hun their fab my friend had one and I've got a icandy double now but honestly to be in a just working order isn't good even if it can be washed you aren't being ungrateful xxx