Oh Nat, it's so horrible when they do that isn't it. I had anterior placenta with J and he used to have days where he barely moved (or if he did I just wasn't feeling it) and he always made up for it in the early hours. I spent hours agonising over it and trying all the eat something with the sugar, lying on left tricks that I could. No advice other than keep an eye on it and keep ringing midwives if you're worried, but you have my sympathies.
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It's just completely set me on edge, now I am timing how long I don't feel her for and basically being a worry pants.
Doesn't help that I have been completely shafted at work.
Manager is now off until 12th Jan and I have been left to close year end on my own. Which is a big thing.
We have about 800k due to come in by 31st Dec that I am basically responsible for [which is way above my level of responsibility to be honest]
I've sent an email complaining, I am not happy at all and have had no handover - my manager didn't even say goodbye???
I've worked here 13 years and am so angry about how they have treated me these past few weeks.
My replacement has been here a month and is not trained up on half the stuff I do???
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Doesn't help that I have been completely shafted at work.
Manager is now off until 12th Jan and I have been left to close year end on my own. Which is a big thing.
We have about 800k due to come in by 31st Dec that I am basically responsible for [which is way above my level of responsibility to be honest]
I've sent an email complaining, I am not happy at all and have had no handover - my manager didn't even say goodbye???
I've worked here 13 years and am so angry about how they have treated me these past few weeks.
My replacement has been here a month and is not trained up on half the stuff I do???
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Nat that's terrible- at the end of the day people only care about themselves- I noticed that last time and this time before may leave. People can really show their selfish sides. I hope your management come back with a decent response/resolution!
I'm currently sat in mat ward waiting to be put on a trace- the pains last night weren't fun and today it's a constant dull ache. I'm sure it's all fine, but I've learnt it's best to be checked- will update later (it's prob a wee infection!) x
I'm currently sat in mat ward waiting to be put on a trace- the pains last night weren't fun and today it's a constant dull ache. I'm sure it's all fine, but I've learnt it's best to be checked- will update later (it's prob a wee infection!) x
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ceecee - I was lucky my parents stepped into the breach to pay for all sorts of items my OH would never otherwise contemplate! I even found a bouncer on sale at £6 on kiddicare and he still wasn't sure about it at that price (he didn't see the point of bouncers)... anyway, now we have a plush one that's going to be comfy for baby and I am so much happier.
Nat - that's totally unfair on you and completely sucks. Everyone in my team refused to do a handover so I was working hard to the end (good luck to them now!!), but to lump you with stuff beyond your paygrade without so much as a goodbye is horrible. Does this count as potential constructive dismissal (if you were to leave)?
I guess you need to decide whether you're prepared to do the work they've left (e.g. if you can & it would look good on the CV) or if it's all too much. I seem to recall that in the last month, if you leave due to a pregnancy-related illness then your maternity leave automatically kicks in, so it might be worth considering that if the workload is more than you can handle?
Jolly - hope you're alright hun, let us know how you get on xx
Nat - that's totally unfair on you and completely sucks. Everyone in my team refused to do a handover so I was working hard to the end (good luck to them now!!), but to lump you with stuff beyond your paygrade without so much as a goodbye is horrible. Does this count as potential constructive dismissal (if you were to leave)?
I guess you need to decide whether you're prepared to do the work they've left (e.g. if you can & it would look good on the CV) or if it's all too much. I seem to recall that in the last month, if you leave due to a pregnancy-related illness then your maternity leave automatically kicks in, so it might be worth considering that if the workload is more than you can handle?
Jolly - hope you're alright hun, let us know how you get on xx
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Let us know how you get on Jolly! Best to be safe than sorry.
If you go on sick leave from 36w onwards then legally your employer can start your maternity leave, and I don't want that.
I have struggled and pushed myself so I can legitimately have next Christmas off - my current dates mean I am due back 11th January 2016.
If I go off early I could be due back next December and my company are behaving so unreasonably I am pretty sure they'd make me come back on the exact date I was due (they wouldn't let me take holidays). For example If I went off from 23rd Dec ML would commence on that date and I'd be due back 23rd Dec 2015.
I will do what I can but I am certainly not going to overdo it.
Have already mentioned to HR that my BP is up and I have been having worrying quiet periods with baby, so have made it clear if I medically need to take time off I will.
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If you go on sick leave from 36w onwards then legally your employer can start your maternity leave, and I don't want that.
I have struggled and pushed myself so I can legitimately have next Christmas off - my current dates mean I am due back 11th January 2016.
If I go off early I could be due back next December and my company are behaving so unreasonably I am pretty sure they'd make me come back on the exact date I was due (they wouldn't let me take holidays). For example If I went off from 23rd Dec ML would commence on that date and I'd be due back 23rd Dec 2015.
I will do what I can but I am certainly not going to overdo it.
Have already mentioned to HR that my BP is up and I have been having worrying quiet periods with baby, so have made it clear if I medically need to take time off I will.
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Silly thing - was just looking to find soothing MP3 tracks for baby (e.g. white noise, heartbeat etc) as I've heard it helps after they're born.
Started listening to them on my computer and was quickly rewarded with some kicks to the tummy - first movement from baby all day. Guess these are not the tracks I am looking for
Started listening to them on my computer and was quickly rewarded with some kicks to the tummy - first movement from baby all day. Guess these are not the tracks I am looking for
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tinselcat - just catching up on the thread and saw you've bought a snuzpod. Just a word of warning we have got one as well and found it quite tough to put together - it's quite thick material for the actual pod so really difficult to stretch to fit the poles in etc. MIght jsut be we were being stupid / had a particularly tough one but thought I'd mention! Looks fab now it's all put together though lol!
Jolly - hope everything's okay let us know how you get on.
Nat - sorry things aren't getting any easier for you at work andyour little lady is misbehaving. On the bright side today is hump day so it's almost the weekend!
Jolly - hope everything's okay let us know how you get on.
Nat - sorry things aren't getting any easier for you at work andyour little lady is misbehaving. On the bright side today is hump day so it's almost the weekend!
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Thanks ladies, all was fine. She thinks the pains are either wee infection or te fact that Babba is back to back (most likely reason). I ended up being in the room on my own on the trace for almost an hour, and it was absolute heaven- I alternated closing my eyes and listening, and watching her heart rate on the trace.
It might sound silly but it was an hour alone with my baby and her heartbeat was "speaking" to me - I felt so peaceful during that time and wish I could hear her again- it's always so rushed when the mw listens in and this was just lovely.
I've been told to rest (not really likely though given it's Xmas with a toddler!) and not to hesitate about going back if I feel worried, especially given my experience wth Freddie.
I did find it slightly emotional as last time I was on a trace like that I was rushed into theatre and didn't end up going home for a week!!
Sorry for the waffle- after all my worrying it was an incredible hour!
Still don't feel physically better- every step I take feels like I'm having a smear test done!!!! X
It might sound silly but it was an hour alone with my baby and her heartbeat was "speaking" to me - I felt so peaceful during that time and wish I could hear her again- it's always so rushed when the mw listens in and this was just lovely.
I've been told to rest (not really likely though given it's Xmas with a toddler!) and not to hesitate about going back if I feel worried, especially given my experience wth Freddie.
I did find it slightly emotional as last time I was on a trace like that I was rushed into theatre and didn't end up going home for a week!!
Sorry for the waffle- after all my worrying it was an incredible hour!
Still don't feel physically better- every step I take feels like I'm having a smear test done!!!! X
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Glad all was ok hun.
I was sent off for a trace / to be monitored when I was 38w with James and spent my whole time whilst waiting to go in crying. .. the MW had sent me round due to high BP so nowt to do with baby but I was terrified. Thought I was going to end up rushed off somewhere to deliver baby? ?
Like you I had a room all to myself and had an hour to listen to baby. They came in every 15 mins to do my BP but other than that it was just the two of us. Bliss.
That experience has made me completely at ease with the idea of going in if I had any worries. I know all they do is non intrusive. . Of course Jolly you experienced my worst nightmare as you were rushed off to theatre so I'm glad you had a better experience this time round.
Thankfully my little bub seems back to normal movement wise today
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I was sent off for a trace / to be monitored when I was 38w with James and spent my whole time whilst waiting to go in crying. .. the MW had sent me round due to high BP so nowt to do with baby but I was terrified. Thought I was going to end up rushed off somewhere to deliver baby? ?
Like you I had a room all to myself and had an hour to listen to baby. They came in every 15 mins to do my BP but other than that it was just the two of us. Bliss.
That experience has made me completely at ease with the idea of going in if I had any worries. I know all they do is non intrusive. . Of course Jolly you experienced my worst nightmare as you were rushed off to theatre so I'm glad you had a better experience this time round.
Thankfully my little bub seems back to normal movement wise today
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Ah that's great she's back to normal 
it's such a worry, we're so close to the end and our babies are seriously precious cargo that any niggles should definitely not be ignored.
My little Tinkerbell has been going nuts this evening and me and hubby spent a good 20mins oohing and ahhing at my wriggling belly x
it's such a worry, we're so close to the end and our babies are seriously precious cargo that any niggles should definitely not be ignored. My little Tinkerbell has been going nuts this evening and me and hubby spent a good 20mins oohing and ahhing at my wriggling belly
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Gorgeous bump!
I've been asked several times if it's twins
Having serious uncomfortable (not painful though) BH today!
I am finally down to single figures with work - 9 days [only today left this week] and then I am out of here.
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I've been asked several times if it's twins
Having serious uncomfortable (not painful though) BH today!
I am finally down to single figures with work - 9 days [only today left this week] and then I am out of here.
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I bet they drag to be honest as I am so desperate to finish
Oh well.
Ended up having almost 4 weeks off before James arrived, thought I'd get bored but I had a lovely time actually... got into a wonderful routine of doing naff all. Like yourself it was the only time I have ever not worked (I'd never had more than a week off work and not been away before so having a month of doing nothing was wonderful!)
This time it's not going to be quite as relaxing for me? I am probably better off at work
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Oh well.
Ended up having almost 4 weeks off before James arrived, thought I'd get bored but I had a lovely time actually... got into a wonderful routine of doing naff all. Like yourself it was the only time I have ever not worked (I'd never had more than a week off work and not been away before so having a month of doing nothing was wonderful!)
This time it's not going to be quite as relaxing for me? I am probably better off at work
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Eek, I've just seen the midwife and baby is 2/5ths engaged!! I know this doesn't mean much but it's just starting to dawn on me that we're having another baby!!
Nat, sorry your work seem to be being a bunch of arseh*les. That's terrible especially as you have been there for so long.
Glad things are all ok Jolly. Always worth getting it checked out. Your peaceful hour sounds bliss too!
Mrs _W and Nat, what a lovely bump. I love bump photos so much. Might try and get one up later if I can.
Tinsel, that sucks about work ringing. Nothing worse when you have finished and are on leave.
Ronnie, phone the midwife if you are worried...always better to be safe.
As for me...I feel like I am sat on a bowling ball and my legs are going to snap or split in two. So uncomfortable at the mo and BH are almost constant. Currently baking a chocolate cake to take into work tomorrow for my last day. It smells so good. Will be such a relief to finish as I have totally overdone it with work trying to squeeze everything in and I'm done in now.
Any more news on Jayceesmumma about her induction?
Glad things are all ok Jolly. Always worth getting it checked out. Your peaceful hour sounds bliss too!
Mrs _W and Nat, what a lovely bump. I love bump photos so much. Might try and get one up later if I can.
Tinsel, that sucks about work ringing. Nothing worse when you have finished and are on leave.
Ronnie, phone the midwife if you are worried...always better to be safe.
As for me...I feel like I am sat on a bowling ball and my legs are going to snap or split in two. So uncomfortable at the mo and BH are almost constant. Currently baking a chocolate cake to take into work tomorrow for my last day. It smells so good. Will be such a relief to finish as I have totally overdone it with work trying to squeeze everything in and I'm done in now.
Any more news on Jayceesmumma about her induction?
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This is my buuuuump!!!!
Last day at work tomorrow and it can't come quickly enough- good news is I've done enough for my promotion, it's just being signed off!!! Bad news is I've moved about ten feet in 40mins as traffic is sooooo bad!!!!!
Ronnie I would personally just give someone a ring- don't sit an worry on your own xxx
Last day at work tomorrow and it can't come quickly enough- good news is I've done enough for my promotion, it's just being signed off!!! Bad news is I've moved about ten feet in 40mins as traffic is sooooo bad!!!!!
Ronnie I would personally just give someone a ring- don't sit an worry on your own xxx
