August 2017 babies!

[Leighwiltshire]

when i had my private scan they told me not to mention it at my hospital scan as they can be funny and wont confirm the sex to you again.

so i never mentioned it again x

 

[PeanutButter]

Why though, it's nothing to do with them! Oh I apologise I'm excited to find out what I'm having :/ ffs. I won't say anything when I go for my scan then. X

 

[Rose83]

PB I think you should find out who you can write a letter of complaint to. Not necessarily to make a huge complaint but more to point out how unfair it is to treat women like they should know what they have to do when the majority of people won't have been there before. I've been pregnant three times in three years but I still forget bits!

My pregnancy massage this afternoon was amazing - it was on a hot water bed lying on your back so I was sceptical about whether they'd get enough pressure but it was so good! 20 weeks scan tomorrow morning! X

 

[JulyBug]

The guy who did my first hospital scan was very funny about the fact I'd had a private scan at 11 weeks.. I didn't understand why either! It was the first thing he asked me and he was actually quite rude about it and felt he then treated me differently because of it.. I never had a private gender scan but at my 20 week scan the women never even asked if I'd had one, she was much nicer! xx

 

[Hoping4Rainbow]

PeanutButter, it's unacceptable of them - again! And I couldn't agree more with Rose.

At my hospital, you have to wait after the scan for your notes to be updated and handed back to Reception, where you have to get them back from. So a midwife at Reception returns your notes to you and books your next scan/appointment for you before you go. If it wasn't done this way I wouldn't have a clue, I would just leave the scan room and the hospital like you did and think I'd have to wait for a letter with my next scan/app'nt date!

This is ridiculous that they get annoyed if you go for a private scan. A private scan saved my baby's life in my last pregnancy as I had a placental inefficiency which can even lead to stillbirth, which hadn't been detected during the normal NHS scans. As we only get ONE scan 'til 20/21 weeks! As I've mentioned before, NHS were indeed amazing afterwards monitoring the baby and operating on him after his birth - but I had to show them my results from that godsent private scan that revealed the problem! I am so sorry and furious that they are being rude to you ladies for having gone for private scans. These are OUR babies, OUR pregnancies, OUR lives, this is OUR RIGHT. Yes, to find out the gender if we like, check all is well with baby mainly, feel safe and happy and looked after xx

 

[JillMcCoy]

I agree. I find it insane that if you have a "normal" pregnancy, you get 2 scans and that is it! As much I don't like that I am high risk again, I do like the reassurance they will scan me again in 5 weeks x

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[MissCharli]

Ah what a pain in the arse PB. Here they told me to wait at the end of the 12 week scan while they sorted my notes and booked the scan for me. But if they didn't tell me how on earth else would I have known? How stupid.

I mentioned my private scan at my 16wk appointment, and she was really lovely about it! I have heard they can be weird, but honestly I don't understand why. It's not like US are dangerous! I mentioned it again at my anomaly scan and she didn't really say anything (she was quiet all the way through tbf, though lovely about getting us a decent photo and freebies).

Like Jill I think it's weird that there are no scans after 20 weeks normally. I'm glad I'm getting another one at 34wks, even if it's only cos I'm high BMI (and I think unnecessary).

 

[xAngelx]

Wow this thread moves fast. Thanks everyone. Excited for team blue again. I find everything easier with boys lol and my daughter gets to stay the only princess. Although she's rapidly turning into the wicked queen haha. I tried a water birth with my son and he ended up to relaxed and my labour slowed. Not sure I will be able to have one this time as I have the dreaded GD which sucks.

I hope your dads ok rach sending you hugs.

I know what you ladies mean about the kicks down towards the cervix ah how I look forward to lightening crotch again but hey it's all worth it in the end. Now I just have to fight with my hubby for the next 19 weeks about names haha. Have you all picked names yet?x

 

[PeanutButter]

Ooo I hate when they're scanning and stay really quite, I know they're concentrating but I just want them to say anything ahaha.
The only nice person I've ever had doing my scans was my consultant for my miscarriages, I was going weekly at the start up until 11 weeks and I think he was as nervous as we were to see a HB aha. I feel like most of them don't give a shit and it's just there job but you have to have at least some empathy and compassion to be doing a job like that. I personally couldn't do it because if I had to give bad news I'd be sat there sobbing. Xx

 

[MissCharli]

Ah it was like that at my anomaly scan PB. She breezed all through all the checks and measurements but spent ages on his heart. She was really quiet and me and the OH we're both like oh shit what's wrong. But it was okay in the end haha.

 

[Rose83]

Back from my scan and everything was perfect. Really nice lady doing the scan (same one that did 12 week scan) and she talked in loads of detail throughout about what she was looking at. She sort of tentatively agreed that it looked like a boy but I think they must be trained not to sound too confident in case they are wrong or something and I had to ask her to actually have a look, she wasn't going to otherwise I don't think. Further good news is that he is measuring exactly right for my dates and doesn't have a massive head. Both my other babies were measuring a week ahead on everything by this point and my little boy was measuring 3 weeks ahead on his tummy! So maybe there is hope I'm not going to produce another huge one! X

 

[MissCharli]

Glad to hear it was all good rose

 

[tashap]

Hey everyone, sorry to hear so many of you have had bad experiences with your scans and midwife's etc. It's such a important time I can't believe these people don't get that and help make it more magical. Glad all is good from the scans though xx

I am 20 weeks tomorrow - I can't believe it's half way! When does tri 3 start? I'm rubbish with the dates? Scan isn't till Thursday, I start getting nervous on the run up to them.

Has anyone else still not felt movements? I "think" I may have felt something but not really sure.

Sending big hugs to all x

 

[PeanutButter]

Tashap I'm feeling them daily now. Some days they don't stop others I feel 1 or 2.
TrI 3 starts at 26/27 weeks, so we're nearly halfway through tri 2 yay!!!

Just ordered my pram (in laws are buying it but there was a one mix up with stock so I just got it online) was supposed to be 400 but on sale in babies r us for 169. I'm happy with that, it's a travel system with a car seat so ain't gotta buy one of those aswell. It's nothing fancy but I love it aha! X

 

[Hoping4Rainbow]

~ Tasha,
Hi lovely, I am sure you will start feeling the baby soon, if not already (it's most probably the baby you've felt, that is how it started with me, and then the kicks very very gradually became a bit stronger and then I just knew it was the baby rather than just a flutter). This is very normal for first pregnancy xx

~ Rose,
so pleased all went well at your scan xx
How big were your big babies in the end? I am worried as I am certain this baby is 1 week ahead size wise (judging from the EDD they've given me)

~ PeanutButter,
wow that was a bargain, well done! xx

~ Sending love to all of you xx

 

[PeanutButter]

Any ftm going to the parenting classes? Plus has anyone been, what happens? X

 

[MissCharli]

Tashap I think I've only recently started feeling him in the past 10 days or so, and even then it's nothing really obvious! I have an anterior placenta though so that doesn't help. But I'm pretty sure it is baby now and not just my tummy rumbling haha. It's not very frequent atm, just a couple of times in the evening really.

I'm not doing parenting classes I don't think PB, but I am doing the antenatal ones offered at the children's centre at the beginning of June. I don't know if there are any parenting ones here but I reckon they would be pretty useful.

Feeling good today, the sun is out and I've just finished work for 10 days woohoo. I'm off to Spain with my mum on Monday

 

[Rose83]

H4R my little girl was 8lbs 8oz (forceps delivery) and my little boy was 10lb 1oz (natural delivery - ouch!) but do you have the little red book where you are with the graphs that plot the percentile lines for height/weight/head circumference? Because both mine ended up being born with heads on the 98th percentile line I.e top of the chart. It's just a family trait from my OH!

PB great deal on the travel system! I went to the antenatal classes the hospital put on with my first baby because they made you feel like you had to. For me they were a total waste of time but I can see how they would be useful for some people. The first one I went to was at something like 28 weeks and I couldn't believe the content of the class was basically 'the things you shouldn't do in pregnancy' I.e drink alcohol, what not to eat, don't do drugs. I mean a) it's all totally obvious and b) at 28 weeks it was really a bit late to be teaching you that if you really are stupid enough to need to be told not to so drugs! Class two was all about delivery and explaining things like what forceps look like, how a little heart rate monitor could be attached to baby's head in labour if there were complications (two things I ended up with) also explained things like episiotomy (I also had), ventouse, when a c section might be done. All sorts of things like that so that's a valuable class if you don't already know that stuff. Then third one was painful. Basically the woman had playing card type things with random words/phrases relating to pregnancy and labour and she handed them out to everyone and then went round the room and asked what your card said then discussed what was on the card/asked you what you thought it meant - as a teacher I can see what they were trying to do but it was badly executed. So my partner gets the card with the word diarrhoea on it and keep quiet the whole class then at the end she asks if anyone hasn't said their card yet. Him and one other guy put their hands up and she gestures to my OH and says 'yes' and he loudly says 'I've got diarrhoea' at which point we both fall about laughing and so do a few other couples but she doesn't seem to see the funny side lol. Think th fourth class was a tour of the hospital which I skipped as I was going to a different hospital by then x

 

[MissCharli]

Ha Rose that's really funny, at least the OH and I thought so Silly woman, what did she expect with diarrhea on a card! He can't have been the first person to say that and laugh

 

[BexTez]

Hi team august, sorry I've not posted for ages but I do come on for a read occasionally 😊

We had our 20 week scan on Thursday and found out we're having a girl! We're thinking Judith for her name, or Stella
Everything seems to be going so well and we're so happy, it sounds ridiculous but I feel like I'm waiting for something to go wrong, not nesesarilg with the baby just in general! This is the most content I've ever felt and I'm not used to it! We have money problems and I'm sure most pregnant couples worry about money but I have faith we will make it work, so right now I'm not stressed by it. Having said that, any money saving ideas are much welcomed!!

And here she is