how selfish is this man. He's chosen to put himself first to the detriment to his kids. He doesn't deserve you or them. I'd say after taking less time then cancelling, he's made his bed now he can lie in it. You don't need that shit, your kids don't need it. I am all for kids seeing their dads but not when it's clear they'll be constantly let down. When they're older and he's bored of his relationship and decides to put his kids first again, if he ever tells them you kept him away you can show them the messages too. make sure you keep that email, keep all correspondence through text/email. If he tries to call hang up and tell him to text as baby sleeping or something for the courts. I'd honestly say if he wants access now he can go through legal routes to get it, at his cost. I'm so sorry you're going through this, I really am. You need to move forward and look after you now. He's just putting himself and that dirty witch first. Karma will bite him hard on the arse very soon, I think that starts when you take away anything he has over you and make it very clear any further conversation now needs to be made via a solicitor, When he sees that through, it may just mean he's serious about seeing his kids and not disappointing them xx