Violet Crossley 11/11/2013 - Last member of our brood

[Dotty_woman]

So glad it's nearly half term. It's getting more and more difficult to wake my older kids up this week. Got my meeting with work a week on Friday to discuss my flexible working application. I'm due back after the late May bank holiday so it's key than 2 months now. God only knows how I'm going to get up and out of the house in time. Feeling a bit stressed about that. House is a tip and it's getting me a bit down at the moment. Feel like I'm not doing enough with Vi. Loads of other mums at the few groups I've been to seem to do loads of stuff. I've all on to go to one group a week.

Took Vi to get weighed yesterday and she's only 13lb 8oz. She's dropped another centile. The health visitor isn't worried but I'm feeling like I'm not doing my job properly. Have decided to up my formula feeds per day to two seeing as I'm going to have to start weaning her off the boob. Might consider still bf morning and night but the jury's out on that at the moment.

It was our wedding anniversary on Sunday and my mum has offered to have Vi so we can go out on our own together. Going to take her up on that I think. Feel emotionally all over the place at the moment.

 

[Dotty_woman]

Had a lovely meal out on Tuesday night. Went to a seafood restaurant in Harrogate. Vi was really good for my mum, bless her. Went to local baby group on Wednesday too. Getting a bit more comfortable with other mums. Not done enough exercise this week and wine on Wednesday and fish and chips yesterday won't have done much to help. However I did take Vi and my mum to Tropical world, which is a small animal experience near where I live. Vi was loving the fish, butterflies, birds and meerkats. She's going to have such fun when she's older.

 

[Sophie_P]

How are you feeling now hun xx

 

[Dotty_woman]

Not too bad hun, thanks. Trying to not worry to much. We're now doing 2 formula feeds a day combined with bf and seems to be going ok at the moment. Big brother even had a go at feeding her yesterday. I'm trying to keep busy at the moment and looking forward to our bathroom being finished so I can have my bedroom back. It's like a building site at the moment. .

Bought some fabric earlier in the week with a view to having a go at making a dress for Vi. It's not amazing but for my first attempt I'm reasonably happy. Something smiley for my little girl to wear. xxx

 

[Sophie_P]

Aw,, how cute
Xx

 

[Dotty_woman]

Got to take my eldest to have braces fitted today. Poor lad. Two massive teeth out over the last couple of weeks and now this. Hope he'll thank me when he's older although being 16, it was actually his choice.

Dreading tomorrow and my meeting at work to discuss my flexible working application. Just over six weeks until I'm due back at work and really couldn't be further from my thoughts at the moment. Really hoping they agree to my request to work 4 days rather than 5. They did agree in principle beforehand but HR are also going to be at the meeting ao hope they aren't going to drop a bombshell which knacks up my childcare plans :s xxx

 

[Sophie_P]

Dotty, are you dreading going back to work? I'm back in July and I am feeling quite anxious xx

 

[Dotty_woman]

Not looking forward to going back to work apart from the money. I don't really enjoy my job. I work in I.T. with a load of blokes and lack confidence. I'm really going to miss Vi but hoping if I get my 1 day a week off we'll spend some quality time together. What are you planning to do? xxx

 

[Sophie_P]

I work in an office as Customer Service, Mondays 830-5, Tuesday's 8-5 Wednesdays 2-7, Thursday off & Fridays 8-12. Really not happy about it but I have no choice, my oh has a lung condition which means she is unable to work and is signed off permanently. Xx

 

[Dotty_woman]

At least you'll have Thursdays and the weekends together. Unfortunately we do what we have to don't we? Sorry to hear about your OH's situation. I guess that means it's all the more important that you are working so that will unfortunately make things more difficult for you to work fewer hours.

After my meeting today it's been confirmed that I will be able to have Wednesdays off. just need to finalise details of my working hours. Looks like I'm going to be able to do between 28 & 32 hours a week with the ability to set my contracted hours longer if I decide. I'll get paid the extra hours if I work them but will get fewer holidays with working fewer days. Pretty happy with how it went. I'll be starting work after the late May bank holiday. xxx

 

[Sophie_P]

Yay xx

 

[Rednursie]

That's fab news Dotty xxx

 

[Dotty_woman]

Thanks both. Just sent an email off to my boss last night to confirm the acceptance of the discussed change to my contract so all set now! :s That's a load off! For the third morning in a row I am awake at silly o'clock, presumably for a loo stop. I did have 1 cider on last two nights after Vi had gone to bed so hoping it's just a booze thing. Waking up at silly o'clock needing the loo was one of first signs of pregnancy for me so hoping there's nothing unexpected going on in my belly. Probably not especially seeing as I'm back on the Mirena and have been for a few months. Probably wishful thinking but seriously don't know if I could cope with another baby after the stress of worrying about all the whys and wherefores with Vi last time. OH would definitely not be happy. Let's just hope it's booze related seeing as I'm due back to work next month. I gave away all my cheapies a few months ago or I'd have tested just to be on the safe side. I don't even know what the procedure is if you find out you're pregnant whilst on the IUD. Sounds dangerous. I'll chalk it down to being very unlikely!!! xxx

 

[Sophie_P]

Bloody hell, I didn't expect to read this this morning! Lol.

I'd do a test dotty, put you're mind at ease. I'm sure its the cider.

Xx

 

[Dotty_woman]

I found 1 cheapy in my bedside drawer I must have missed. It's a bfn. Phew! xxx

 

[Sophie_P]

Blimey! Phew xx

 

[becky194]

HI

 

[becky194]

jo

 

[Dotty_woman]

?? Guess that was an accident.

It has pretty much taken me the whole day to clean most of the windows except the kitchen & conservatory (so actually still loads to do come to think of it). Feel like I've not been giving Vi enough attention this week but my house is a quite a mess and I'm trying to get on top of it as it's getting me down. Vi is so happy but I don't think this is any thanks to me as I struggle some days to think of things to do with her. We did manage to go for a walk yesterday to feed the ducks at the park. Unfortunately when I got home my eldest son came in shortly after having been mugged on his way home from Leeds and having had his phone stolen by two masked lads. Last night was spent waiting for the police to arrive so he could give his statement. Luckily he wasn't hurt. xxx

 

[Sophie_P]

Oh my God dotty, I'm really sorry to hear about your son. Some people make me sick, I don't know what the world has come to sometimes x