Ttc shit boat - long term ttcers

[hopefulBFP]

hi everyone, i am new to this forum and i have also been TTC for quite a while, i am 21 with a 26 month old son and me and my partner have been TTC for 23 months now, when i conceived my first it was only 3 weeks after coming off of the pill.
i have had blood test done to check my progesterone levels and everything seems fine, but my doctor will not do anything for me as i have already given birth in the past!
baby dust to all you TTCers out there xx

 

[Sugarpop]

Totally off topic but thought I would ask, I really need to sort out my wardrobe and am starting to get a pile of things to sell, where is the best place to get rid of them? Should I ebay it or car boot it?

I'd do eBay. I hate getting up early haha

 

[kittykitchn]

Soooooooooooo, nothing found during my lap + dye (tiny spots of endo apparently, but consultant didn't mention it so not sure if it's a big deal or not?), no reason why I shouldn't be getting pregnant.
Maybe it's just taking a while, for not reason... only one round of clomid to go now.

Does anyone know what our next steps may be? I assume keep trying for X amount of months, and then... I've no clue. Am I less open to options now I don't have anything other than PCOS?

 

[Blueflower]

After my lap and dye I was referred for Iui/ivf just to boost our chances as iui gets the best sperm and ivf also gives you more eggs to choose from and does a lot of the stages for you.

 

[Ragdoll]

Phonixgirl - yes I felt very let down by the NHS that such a simple mistake could have been made

Kitty- sorry to hear that you haven't got answers , I agree it's quite likely you will be referred for IVF/IUI, hope your next appointment is more helpful !

I had some uplifting news yesterday- my manager (who has had 2 ectopic pregnancies one of which ruptured her tube and caused scarring as well as also having cervical cancer) told me she is pregnant , she's past the 12 week window and the baby is in the right place and is looking healthy ! I actually cried with Joy when she told me because she has been through much worse than me but has still succeeded. It gives me hope that we can all get there !

 

[kittykitchn]

How long do you think I would be expected to wait until the next stage?
I assume as he's performed the ovarian drilling, he'll be wanting us to try naturally for a while still.
I have such a bad, low feeling today. I should be super positive now but just feeling even more unsure about everything.

 

[phonixgirl]

I am feeling like that today too. I have been wondering if we should stop trying. X

Have you not got a follow up appointment, Kitty? My fertility specialist pushed everything through straight away. If you have to have certain things at certain times then it may limit your appointments, but I can see no reason for them delaying it. I've had lots of investigations and IUIs and they have never told me to try naturally for a bit. I sooo hope it works. Xxx

 

[Ragdoll]

I need some guidance please ladies- very upset and worried today. Went for the swabs in preparation for HSG. The nurse said I have a polyp on my cervix which will most likely need removing . It was rather out of the blue and I've not had anything like this. Has anybody else had these? What is the removal process like/after effects? I was feeling quite positive but now I'm fretting and looking on the internet and making myself worse !

 

[FBTTN8079]

Phonixgirl - yes I felt very let down by the NHS that such a simple mistake could have been made

Kitty- sorry to hear that you haven't got answers , I agree it's quite likely you will be referred for IVF/IUI, hope your next appointment is more helpful !

I had some uplifting news yesterday- my manager (who has had 2 ectopic pregnancies one of which ruptured her tube and caused scarring as well as also having cervical cancer) told me she is pregnant , she's past the 12 week window and the baby is in the right place and is looking healthy ! I actually cried with Joy when she told me because she has been through much worse than me but has still succeeded. It gives me hope that we can all get there !

Isn't that lovely news x

 

[phonixgirl]

Ragdoll - I used to think I may have a polyp (I don't, lol) so have a read on it. But please don't worry - they are very common and most of the time very simple to remove (apparently your GP can do it but probably does depend on the circumstances). So, in the grand scheme of things it's just a crinkle that needs ironed out honey. Xxx

 

[Ragdoll]

Thanks Phonixgirl that helps , made me giggle with the ironing analogy ! Thank you for making me smile !

 

[Ragdoll]

FBTTN8079- I thought it goes to show that magic can happen ! Really pleased for her !

 

[Sugarpop]

I need some guidance please ladies- very upset and worried today. Went for the swabs in preparation for HSG. The nurse said I have a polyp on my cervix which will most likely need removing . It was rather out of the blue and I've not had anything like this. Has anybody else had these? What is the removal process like/after effects? I was feeling quite positive but now I'm fretting and looking on the internet and making myself worse !

I have one on my gallbladder. I was told if it didn't effect anything they would leave it alone so maybe it's the same? Depending where it is you may get away with leaving it. If not I'm sure the process is the same as when you have a skin tag. They freeze it and it falls off? Don't take my word for that though. Couldn't tell you where I've heard it!

 

[Ragdoll]

Thanks Sugarpop that helps , I am definitely having it removed , can't stand the thought of the darn thing getting any bigger !

 

[kittykitchn]

Just moved my husbands jacket which was on the floor of the bathroom and his e-vaping stick thingy fell out, that he "gave up" whilst TTC.

I'm shaking and have had to come downstairs for a bit to calm down. Okay it may not be major, or a big thing to other people (or him), but other than the daily vitamin that's all I've asked him to do.
I take medication, have monthly blood tests, have now had surgery, have the daily struggle and heartbreak to contend with. Why could he not just do that for us?

 

[Blueflower]

What a shit.

 

[Lavinator]

That sucks Kittykitchn! We have just over 2 months till our ivf/ICSI starts and I've asked my partner to give up alcohol, processed meat and caffeine to which he told me that he doesn't want to have to change his whole diet for the ivf. I reminded him that I'm already doing it (giving up coffee nearly killed me) and I'll be going through a hell of a lot more injecting drugs daily (nor have I once complained about) so it isn't much and only for 3 months

 

[phonixgirl]

I would be so angry but understand totally. My husband will not take any vitamin and hates me buying anything. It really is like it's just us girls sometimes. You would think they, too, would want to try anything and be willing to change their lifestyles but apparently not. But if we say anything, we are nagging...

I wish they understood and were more supportive. They just don't seem to want to try or believe it will happen naturally with their obviously super sperm!

Massive hugs xxx

 

[Blueflower]

They want to be able to carry on with their lives just the same and he probably says he needs to relax. My DH made a fuss if we had appointments on a day he wanted to go for a run but is much better now. After several failed treatment cycles they do buck up their ideas, but you are the one who has to go through it when their actions could have avoided it taking so long. But I think when couples get pregnant easily the bloke is often unwilling to change his lifestyle much, even though his partner's is turned upside down when the baby arrives.

 

[kittykitchn]

He said it was a one off and he bought it a couple of days ago, won't do it again yadda yadda... I'm too controlling, I'm too much of a nag, and I need to chill out. I'm too obsessed and if - wait for it - I relax, it will just happen!! GRRRRRRR. He's the last person I wanted to hear that little nugget from.
He still maintains his sperm is perfectly fine, so they don't need to be improved, and thus he doesn't need to do anything extra.

Oh oh oh, and... he pointed out that I had half a glass of cider last week (I don't drink normally), and that all the fruit I eat would ferment in my stomach and produce alcohol anyway!!