Ttc shit boat - long term ttcers

[Blueflower]

Haha cute! I felt like stealing my sister's baby too!

 

[snowbee]

Aw sweet! I'm ok with other babies, I don't really like them when they are tiny but I'm hoping having our own changes my mind! I wish we had one but don't want someone elses, which has made us realise that adoption isn't for us.

 

[Blueflower]

I am adopted so don't know what its like to have a blood tie, but also because of being adopted I'd like to have my own child to be related to somebody.

 

[millielaura]

Aw I get what you mean Blueflower, I would be the same.
I would adopt but I also really really want my own baby to give birth to / look like me etc.
Adoption is amazing though. I watched a video on an adoption first meeting and found it even more emotional than watching births because you just know how much they must of gone through and how much heartache they must of had to get to the point of adopting and it was just so emotional to see them so happy.
My mums opinion is that if it was her she wouldn't put herself through treatment, not even Clomid :O , she'd just adopt. Of course she's never been in the situation so she doesn't understand. That phone call was the first time I sort of felt more emotionally mature and knowledgeable than my own mum haha!! I was like 1. you don't understand the meaning of your own child after struggling and 2. Adopting isn't easy either.

I would do it but never just like that. I would try literally everything for our own child beforehand. It is a beautiful thing and I would love it like my own but being pregnant and giving birth is also a big part of it for women which a lot of people don't seem to understand lol.

Xxx

 

[Blueflower]

I think before IVF adoption was the only option. I don't know how old your mum is but even if she's only in her 40's, IVF would have still been quite new when you were born.

My parents were lucky to get babies but these days there are hardly any children under 3 available for adoption. I want an actual baby after everything we've been through and don't want to miss out on pregnancy etc.

 

[millielaura]

She's nearly 46 , yes that is true, it would of been quite a new thing when she was having us and she hasn't been through needing treatment so wouldn't of really had to think about it all.

Totally understandable wanting a baby rather than a child. It'd be nice to have your own baby to teach and see grow up etc. You totally deserve your own baby and pregnancy after everything you've been through xxx

 

[snowbee]

Those are my thoughts too, I really want to be pregnant and grow our own baby and have them from the start. I really admire those who adopt, I know a couple of people who are adopted (and are very like their adoptive parents) and a couple who have adopted two children (they also have two birth children) but I just don't think I could do it.

 

[Blueflower]

I think we would be good at it especially after my experience so maybe we could do both?

 

[Sugarpop]

After being diagnosed years ago (before oh) I think I always considered adoption as an option. My hubby doesn't feel the same way. It's not really an option for him to the point where I actually think he would consider surrogacy instead. I think he believes he wouldn't love the child like his own. I understand that it's not for everyone though and have a huge amount of respect for those that do choose adoption. Just like having a baby isn't for everyone, neither is adoption.

 

[Blueflower]

That's fair enough, my friend's husband won't consider it due to his culture so as a result they have just one child through ivf and weren't able to have any more. If you don't have experience of adoption you don't see how it can work. Although I've never got on with my adoptive mum, but luckily I get on with my dad and sister! It did worry me a bit that I wouldn't be a good parent but mum has issues with most people due to her own problems and I am fine with the children of friends and relatives luckily!

 

[millielaura]

You will be an amazing mother Blueflower
You have waited so long and gone through so much heartbreak and when you finally get your precious baby you will be an even better mother for all you've had to go through to get your baby here! xxxxxx

 

[snowbee]

Ohhh interesting, a just about pos opk today on CD13. I may have a 'normal' cycle length woo! This is cycle 3 of agnus castus. Please work body!

 

[millielaura]

Ahhh yayyy thats great! think it takes about 3 months to really kick in so seems the AC is working for you! .xxx

 

[snowbee]

Hoping for a good strong egg now, will make sure there is plenty of sperm waiting ha. Anyone got any tips on building up a juicy lining for it to implant into? I'm a bit concerned I don't really build up much lining ever as I often have very light AF and brown rather than red blood.

 

[millielaura]

Ooh thats my prob too, my lining was way too thin at my scan!
All I've really managed to find out is the pineapple core 1-3 dpo helping.
Although lots of movement and fertility yoga is meant to get blood flowing to the uterus and thickening your lining
I'l be doing yoga for fertility this month and whilst on Clomid xxx

 

[lisey]

I am not sure but I think progesterone helps, agnus castus can help with progesterone levels I think and pregnenelone (not sure on spelling). I am not sure how good progesterone cream would be. I am not even sure if that's whats needed for lining but I am assuming it does something like that as its vital in the luteal phase xx

 

[Blueflower]

I was given oestrogen to thicken my lining on my first ivf.

 

[Bridger]

Evening All. How's everyone's weekends been? Mine has been spent cuddling newborn babies...3 born in the last 3 weeks! And another pregnancy announcement today...so not fair ....although the cuddles were lush, just a share some of their magic can't rub off!

 

[millielaura]

Oh big hugs Bridger really hope you get your bfp soon!

I'm feeling really positive atm! Giving it my all this cycle with supplements etc lol. Xx

 

[Bridger]

Thank you Millie

I really hope you get your BFP soon too...I do really think positivity helps, having a calm and healthy mind and all that...but it's just so hard! Lol! x