Ttc shit boat - long term ttcers

[snowbee]

CD41 here and day 5 of dark brown spotting. I had a nearly positive opk today which is odd as usually around af there is barely a second line there. IB surely can't go on for 5 days?

 

[kittykitchn]

CD41 here and day 5 of dark brown spotting. I had a nearly positive opk today which is odd as usually around af there is barely a second line there. IB surely can't go on for 5 days?

It can go on for well over a a week apparently.... :-D

 

[snowbee]

Really hum, well obviously I would very much like it to be IB. I had some IB with our first bfp, but it was totally different, just one day and night of very light coloured brown spotting then had a pos pregnancy test 3 days later. BFN for me today, did try one after the strong ov test result.

This is my first cycle on agnus castus, can this cause spotting?

 

[millielaura]

I so hope its IB xxx

 

[mylullaby]

I guess if it is ib you will get bfn for a while yet. Fingers crossed!! xx

 

[snowbee]

Still bfn here. Thinking it was an early and light AF. Not all bad news if it was though as it would give me a 36 day cycle, a huge improvement on the last stupidly long one.

 

[mylullaby]

Well you know your body better than we do hun. Hopefully you can take something away from it even if it isn't quite what you were hoping for. What would you be if it wasn't af? About 17/18dpo? Could it still be a matter of waiting a few more days and testing again? Don't want to get your hopes up or anything but it would still be quite soon after ib to be showing a bfp...?! xx

 

[snowbee]

About 16 dpo, the bleeding started nearly a week ago I would have thought if it was IB it would be showing as positive by now. I think I'm going to count it as a new cycle and hope to be surprised that it was IB haha. Have you decided when you are testing? Yours sounds more hopeful then mine as I have zero symptoms apart from I've come out in spots today, more AF evidence!

 

[snowbee]

So still bfn here, assuming it was a light AF so in that case I'm now on CD8.

I can't believe another year has gone past and still nothing. I really thought that after our mc my body would figure out what to do but now nearly a year on it doesn't look like it has. I know we waited a long long time to get that bfp I just thought this time it might be quicker. Don't know why I get my hopes up. My husband is miserable it is really getting him down, especially this month when we both saw a faint second line last week but nothing has come of it. Sorry for the moan just fed up now.

 

[millielaura]

Oh massive hugs snowbee xxxxxx
Its horrid getting a light bleed and thinking is it af/isnt it etc and even worse when you think you see a line and nothing comes of it. I always feel so anxious in my cycles where I get the light bleeding. So sorry it turned out to be a light AF . Xxxx
I do think in some ways being preg before is worse as you crave that feeling again and every month AF comes you feel upset about the m/c again. I know I do anyway

I know you said you were considering going private, maybe you could book a consultation just to get the treatment you need whilst waiting for your nhs appt maybe?
I know i've only been ttc 16 months so not as long as some but I feel so so so much better now we are arranging a private consultation. I just want our sticky bean nowwww lol. Like you said in the thread I posted we are worried if it doesnt result in a sticky bean and we run out of money for it but I'm just going to go in thinking positively and take each step at a time.
So maybe you could look into that? Sometimes its just a step forward and a little bit more hope we need to feel just that bit better
How long is your nhs appt likely.to be? Xxx

 

[snowbee]

Once we have paid for private treatment we won't be eligible for NHS treatment anymore, hence why we are waiting to get our 3-6 cycles of NHS clomid first.

Our next appointment is in July, but to get the clomid I need to have lost some weight first which is easier said than done. I'm not particularly porky I'm just quite short with broad shoulders and huge breasts. I also do a physical job so quite strong and muscle weighs more than fat. Yey.

 

[millielaura]

Oh really I didn't know that. I've defo read of some people paying for Clomid privately then being put back on the nhs list. But yes that makes total sense to try the nhs cycles first
Oh I have the same problem it does my head in that bmi. I was just under the upper limit of 28. I used to be underweight then when I hit 20 gained weight. I've been eating so well and doing more excersize and some yoga and I've gained weight since January in muscle. I'm also short, I'm 5 foot1 and honestly most 14 year olds are taller than me. I just think how do I have any sort of figure and be in the right bmi haha. Xx

 

[Bridger]

Massive congratulations my lullaby! Fx this turns out to be a bumper BFP month

 

[Sugarpop]

Once we have paid for private treatment we won't be eligible for NHS treatment anymore, hence why we are waiting to get our 3-6 cycles of NHS clomid first.

Our next appointment is in July, but to get the clomid I need to have lost some weight first which is easier said than done. I'm not particularly porky I'm just quite short with broad shoulders and huge breasts. I also do a physical job so quite strong and muscle weighs more than fat. Yey.

I am in the same boat. I am 4ft11 and a few dots! How am I ever going to be a skinny mini?! They annoy the hell out of me! My 'normal' weight range surely must be the same as a 7yr old???

 

[millielaura]

Bmi is stupid I think haha us short people can never be the right bmi lol. When I was the right bmi for my height I had no figure at all! Xx

 

[Sugarpop]

Bmi is stupid I think haha us short people can never be the right bmi lol. When I was the right bmi for my height I had no figure at all! Xx

I've never grown from being 13 I don't think so there was never a chance for me in the big wide world! haha

 

[kittykitchn]

Once we have paid for private treatment we won't be eligible for NHS treatment anymore, hence why we are waiting to get our 3-6 cycles of NHS clomid first.

Our next appointment is in July, but to get the clomid I need to have lost some weight first which is easier said than done. I'm not particularly porky I'm just quite short with broad shoulders and huge breasts. I also do a physical job so quite strong and muscle weighs more than fat. Yey.

I am in the same boat. I am 4ft11 and a few dots! How am I ever going to be a skinny mini?! They annoy the hell out of me! My 'normal' weight range surely must be the same as a 7yr old???

This makes me laugh! Even after losing weight, I'm still classed as overweight at 9.5stone. But 7.4stone is a "healthy" weight apparently!! I'd be the size of a 10 year old

 

[millielaura]

I'm 10 stone and my bmi is overweight and my ideal weight is something under 8 stone or around 8 stone. Its crazy haha. I do want to lose a stone or so because I'm used to being smaller but when I was 8 stone I was like a small size 6 and literally looked like a boy haha so flat chested etc. Seems hard to have any figure and be the right bmi
Damn being short haha. I went to the theatre last year and got caught up in the middle of a school trip and I was shorter than all of them haha so awkward
Thats craaazy youre still classed as overweight kittykitchn ive seen your weight loss pics and you look far far from it. They really need to make a better indicator than bmi! xxx

 

[millielaura]

Even before you lost weight you werent overweight haha bmi sucks xxx

 

[snowbee]

kitty I can't believe that using BMI classes you as overweight after seeing your photos! That just shows so clearly how ridiculous it is. I've got to lose 7-8 kg, so not a massive amount thankfully and I hope it is doable by July otherwise it will have to be straight to private treatment as we can't afford time wise to wait any longer.

When I was younger (about 7) I didn't really like food that much and would only eat very little, I was very very thin, all my bones were showing, and my mum took me to the doctor as she thought I was going to die, doctor said I was overweight! I've got no chance of ever being their target I can't understand how it is so out for some people.