So much for my baby shower today, so upset :(

[Vicxzy]

Another 3 people have cancelled 3 hours before it starts including my SIL whos still being a bitch over the fact I didnt text her to congratulate her personally on her pregnancy (even though my phone is broken so I cant & she knows this!!!)
Really upset obviously nobody gives a toss about me or the baby.
some people havent even bothered RSVPing! & those who did havent been in touch & I cant ring them to double check as no phone!
I've had to cancel it now just msged ppl on fb x

 

[catty1]

Oh no Vicxzy, that's so rude. People can be so funny over baby stuff. Just chalk it up to jealously, at the end of the day you will have a beautiful bubba in a few weeks and they wont.

x

 

[confuzed 88]

oh dont get upset, people these days are very odd...i was going to have a baby shower then decided not to, people say they'll come then flop last minute, just save myself the disappointment...
dont let it get to you xxxx

 

[heidi-hi]

Oh no that's terrible, I'd be really upset too. Cancelling on u is not on especially the day it is organised for... That really annoys me. As for your SIL she seems to be acting really immature over the whole congratulating her thing. U can do without her being around until she sees sense by the sounds of it. Xxx

 

[Vicxzy]

Make that 2 more cancelled!x

 

[spice]

awwww hun some people just aren't worth the tears! do something else today, something that will cheer you up at bit! xxx

 

[BabysMomma]

Awk that's awful chick. I'm sorry to hear this. I think that people forget how exciting being pregnant can be and don't realise that cancelling for a baby shower is hurtful and upsetting. I'm really sorry, I don't know what else to say, other than (((huggles))) x

 

[Vicxzy]

Thanks Spice but I cant, no money (had spent it all on food for the ungrateful *******s!) No fuel in car & OH isnt even here to cheer me up just have to sit in the house & eat all the food!x

 

[xshauna_bazx]

That is shit! Could you not of still had a few people over and made the most of it? as for you SIL let her sulk...chin up hun. xxx

 

[Vicxzy]

That is shit! Could you not of still had a few people over and made the most of it? as for you SIL let her sulk...chin up hun. xxx

The problem is I havent heard from anyone hun, well 1 person! easier just to cancel rather than me & her being sat there on our own x

 

[amandapanda]

Awww, that sucks!! I think at the end of the day people can be basically very selfish and they don't realise how much their actions hurt another. I had similar when I was in hospital and very few people visited me...you really find out who your true friends are, and now I treasure them. So sorry for you hun, you must feel so upset - but focus on the good things to come for you and your OH xxx

 

[purplehippy]

I get this with birthdays.

My OH sniffed at my asking for a babyshower, didn't think it was worth having a baby party til baby is here etc. Well I've said I want a bbq to celebrate and he doesn't like bbq's.

People don't seem to realise that presents aside (I don't expect anything and have everything I need) that it's a party for the expectant mum, who often feels like a nobody or just a vessel/pod while she's pregnant, being unable to drink or go out for usual things.

I think it's sad that all those people cancelled on you - specially last minute. Wimps. Perhaps they'd forgotten to buy presents so ducked out. I don't know. Whatever the reason, you could casually mention round people how awful it was that everyone but one of the *insert how many people HAD been coming* texted you on the day and said such-and-such excuse - oh dear for them, etc. They'll soon feel embarassed I'd think!

 

[Vicxzy]

Thanks hun! Hope u get to do something?
Maybe they didnt get me a pressie but I messaged everyone last week on facebook & said I didnt expect one so maybe they are just all a bunch of cows!x

 

[Sunnyb]

This happened with my first baby shower & TBH can't be arsed spending money on people that pretend they're your friends & then can't be decent enough to turn up or reply. I did a major friend overhaul & thought to myself - what does this person bring to my life? If the answer was sod all, I ditched them! Simple! I'd rather have a few genuine reliable friends & in that I mean 2 or 3, rather than loads who can only be bothered when it suits them. I had one friend who would only turn up as a shoulder to cry on cos she was a nosey bitch & not cos she cared. Binned her ages ago. You get a DVD on, chill out & enjoy your food. If people turn up, look on it as a good thing. If not think about who you really feel are your true friends. Keep them close & the others? Not worth getting upset over - sod em!!!

Sunnyb xxx

 

[HannahsBaby]

This is so sad

I wish all of us lot could of come to see you, it would be ace. I just don't understand people sometimes.


Some days I feel so grateful for this forum, as it can feel like no one really cares or gets excited about my little baby xxx

 

[teampc]

That's horrible Hun, but bugger em all, stuff your face with the food and pop a good movie on

We had a similar thing a few years ago for Halloween, everyone said it would be cool to have a big party, so as we had the best house for it we said we would do it, I love to organise things and got stuck in, the whole place was completely decorated, we had food and drink coming out of our ears.......and no one turned up....and I mean no one, it took me a serious amount of time to get over that one


I'm a bit upset at the mo to, my friends said about throwing me a baby shower when I first got pregnant, but now there is no mention of it, I'd love to plan it for myself cus I'm into all the little details but don't fel like I can, or that there's any point if they aren't interested anyway lol

Why can we all live near each other and have a mass baby shower for all of us together

 

[katiejane]

I'm really sorry they let you down chick, it's not fair, but sod them! Hope your day turned out ok despite all of this upset.

I love the idea of a mass party, shame we can't do that. I'm thankful for this forum too, i'll be honest in this pregnancy so far i've not made any close friends on here because i don't seem to get chance to come on as much as i'd like, although i'm trying to now and join in more. Last time though I was on all the time and made some great friends who have been a massive comfort to me and really helped me get through the pregnancy and my first year (almost) of motherhood! xx

 

[teampc]

I just told hubby about this, to find out he has been trying to get my best friend to do a baby shower for me(with him helping with cost etc) and shes decided shes not interested ( this is despite the fact she is always obsessed with going to baby showers even for people we hardly know) so now I feel more than a bit poo lol

 

[Vicxzy]

OMG girls arent some people arseholes? Wait til its their turn!

WELL!!! I did have a baby shower in the end!
I was lying on the sofa bawling my eyes out not even dressed by lunchtime the house was still a total tip as just thought wtf is the point in hoovering etc?!
Then 4 of my friends turned up, armed with masses of food & decs!
They made me get off my ass & helped me clean the whole house then decorated & sorted the food & then a few more turned up later on was so made up I really thought nobody was coming just me & 1 friend!
I managed to get dressed with minutes to spare b4 the rest got there.
Still upset that 8 people who previously said they were coming cancelled on me today but we had a lovely time anyway so feck em!
We shud def have a mass party!x

 

[teampc]

Aww thats great Hun, see now you know who your real friends are glad you had a good time in the end