**** October Testing Thread****

[JemRose]

Good luck today ladies!!! Xx

 

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Good luck ladies. Fx and lots of baby dust for BFP's and rainbows xxx

 

[KHTW]

Very best of luck Ladies!!! xx

 

[MoominGirl]

AF started today. Guess I'm out again. Oh well, onto cycle no 23....

Sorry Sunflower. We seem to have very similar cycles as I was out again this morning. I don't really know how to feel anymore. Just don't really feel anything right now. Guess that's better than spending the day in tears.

I know how you feel. I had a brief cry and then worked out when my new fertile window is. My cycle was only 24 days, but at least that means more chances. I turn 42 in 3 weeks. Gone a bit numb...don't think this is gonna happen for us. My DH is remaining positive. At least he is seeing the GP about a sperm test on Tuesday.

Guess we just gotta keep going. Difficult to find the motivation sometimes.

Glad you're not in tears. Hugs xx

I keep trying to tell myself that more chances is a good thing but I'm not so sure. Glad your OH has got an appointment booked. My OH just phoned up and asked to do a sample. They just left the pot with instructions to pick up. It was really easy. My OH is also staying positive. He's usually the positive one anyway. I like to think I'm just being prepared haha!!

OMG that's so easy. Was that a GP surgery? I'm a bit nervous about the results. But really glad he's finally getting it done. Hoping to get his testosterone levels checked too. Hope your OH test is ok.

Yeah that was through the GP. They've been very good in fairness to them as a lot of GPs have such a bad rep. He just got a phone appointment so didn't even have to see the doctor. Once he picked up the stuff, he just did it when it suited my cycle. Hardest part was getting it to the lab within an hour but he managed it!! Glad your OH has finally agreed to do it. Hopefully it gives you some reassurance. The results for my OH were low motility on the first sample but his recent sample was well within normal range. Now I'm not sure whether we're still classed as having a male factor issue or not. Have left a message with GP to refer us back to fertility as I need some answers really.

 

[MoominGirl]

I am feeling old now! I am 34 ! Oofft happy birthday girls! Cherish your 20's! X

Turning 35 without a child yet, was really hard for me. Do you think sone of your current state of mind is due to that birthday getting ever closer to you? It's traditionally seen as a bit of a milestone for fertility, although my mw disagrees vehemently with that. Xx

Yeah my age is making it hard to have hope as if I was younger I would have loads of time. I met my DH when I was 20....there has been nonexcuse not to babe tried for a baby ages ago other than waiting on DH to feel ready. He went back to uni and that put things on hold for 5 years so he now feels bad for that. I was ready from age 25 for a baby but what can you do. I am in 2 minds right now ...1 is too keep trying keep positive and keep hope in my heart. The other one is to start accepting Its not happening so I can deal with it emotionally and move on !

We are similar in that we've been together for 10 years and technically could have started trying much sooner. I'm 31 so theoretically age isn't against us but I do think it's just a number really. OH definitely wasn't ready sooner and we moved around a bit before we finally bought our house 3 years ago. I know it wasn't right for us then but I'm ok with that despite the issues we're having now. I don't think it would have changed anything other than allowing us a longer time period in which to struggle!!

 

[MoominGirl]

I genuinely think I am heart broken. I basically feel like I have achieved something if I get through the day not shedding a tear. Today hasn't been one of those days. I am off this week and haven't got work to keep me distracted. I took the dog a walk and got some fresh air. I just keep asking why this is happening. No one in my family ever struggled to have children...then I come along.

I still have the odd tearful moment but I feel like I've moved past it in a weird way and sort of just feel empty. I'm also from a family of highly fertile people who openly admit this so it's not as if they've struggled and just kept it to themselves. It's nearly an hour's drive to work with traffic and I went through a phase where I used to cry on the way. Haven't done that in a while. Probably feel my most negative at the moment but also the most accepting. Hopefully it's
a feeling that will resolve for you over time.

 

[MoominGirl]

Just popping over. Sorry to hear youre feeling like this alexis. My sister fell pregnant 18 months after ttc. She is adamant it is because she took a more relaxed approach and that they had decided to not try anymore....easier said than done! Altho...i stopped ttc #3 early this year as im 42 and thought it wouldnt happen. Then I fell in july whilst on holiday....hadnt been ttc for several months and had been drinking wine and espressos! ....unfortunately i did mc at 10+3 so we are back to ttc again. I do wonder if i should stop actively trying and just enjoy it and go with the flow....its so damn hard! Feel very confused at the moment in terms of what to do for the best. Whatever you decide, stay positive if you can and keep talking to your DH as it helps being close and open with one another. Im sure youll get your little bean soon....he/she will be SO worth the wait x

Thanks Melly. I don't know how to be more relaxed as I stopped all charting for months and went on my own body signs and it didn't help so we did full circle with the charting. Now we are on the infertility tests road it's hard not to think aboit it every waking moment! I am sorry about your mc that must be so hard. I hope you get a sticky bean soon.

DH isn't the chatty type and he doesn't feel as low as me. He just says we got to keep on trying and just keep positive. He won't chat about the details and gets annoyed or I get upset. He says it's taking a while because we are older. I find that hard to believe when ppl older than me we know have fallen pregnant very easily.

We don't have any time off together other than wknds until we go to Thailand end of April so we can't exactly go away together.

Although I'm not stopping charting completely (mainly for my own OCD and knowing we've covered the right days!!), our new approach is OH will be fully informed of my cycle. Only things i want to know is how long my cycles are, how long i have my period for and when I get a positive OPK (mainly so I know when my period will come). Maybe that with be helpful for you if you find your mood is affected by your cycle like mine is?

Even if you only have weekends off, could you book a night away that is closer to home?

 

[millielaura]

I can't decide whether I see anything lol said I wouldn't test till missed AF but have no control lol! Had such a screwy cycle..pains cd14 but I never ovulate that early and then I never seemed to ovulate cd20 like usual ..the other day I had some red spotting and last night had one wipe of brown xx

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I can't decide whether I see anything lol said I wouldn't test till missed AF but have no control lol! Had such a screwy cycle..pains cd14 but I never ovulate that early and then I never seemed to ovulate cd20 like usual ..the other day I had some red spotting and last night had one wipe of brown xx

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I can't at the moment but do you still have the test? I never find them easy to read until all of the dye has finished passing over the test. Fx for you xxx

 

[millielaura]

I dont have it anymore lol was driving myself mad with it.Not sure why I am testing as OHs sperm sample wasn't good and my boobs don't hurt at all or anything lol xx

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I dont have it anymore lol was driving myself mad with it.Not sure why I am testing as OHs sperm sample wasn't good and my boobs don't hurt at all or anything lol xx

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Always worth holding on to hope xxx

 

[millielaura]

True! Been such a weird cycle xx

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[first_time_mum]

I’m out xx

 

[Nikkibiscuit]

Grrr this long cycles driving me mad. CD 32 today and still no AF. Tested twice since CD 28 so sure if BFN just wish AF would hurry up and get it over with. Just feels like torture when each cycle is so long and basically just waiting to get cracking again. Think gonna try and cover evenly across whole month next cycle....told hubby week to focus on last 2 cycles but think he's taken me too literally as we ve tried hard that week ten days and then all gone to pot after that x

 

[LuckyLaura]

I’m out xx

Sorry that you are out xx hugs

 

[hopeful1976]

My lovely ladies, so so sorry I have been off the radar an have not updated you LuckyLaura on the test results. My Mum has not been well, don't wanna get into it right now as feel really down. Hopefully all will be ok. But as for baby creating situation, its a negative this month. Witch got me as usual and I am out this month, which doesn't help keeping the spirit up. Oh well, here comes next month. Good luck everyone for next month and congratulations from the bottom of my heart to all the beautiful bfp's !!!!Happy and healthy 9 months girls!! For the rest of us, lets get down to business and make some babies !!!!!!!!!!! xxxxxx

 

[Ammonite]

Darn just worked out i'll run out of pills on the Monday, hmm what to do not sure i'll get a accurate result on Monday