**** October Testing Thread****

[Sunflower1]

AF started today. Guess I'm out again. Oh well, onto cycle no 23....

Sorry Sunflower. We seem to have very similar cycles as I was out again this morning. I don't really know how to feel anymore. Just don't really feel anything right now. Guess that's better than spending the day in tears.

Sorry sunflower and moomin ...I guess your joining me in November girls. Really is so crap. I am tryibg the castor oil thing this cycle

I just assume I'm joining the next month's thread. We've agreed to continue OPKs. I was considering stopping. I didn't do them last month as we were on holiday but I actually find it more stressful not being able to prepare myself for af. When I looked back, we actually timed dtd perfectly Also going to try Preseed as been failing miserably with Conceive Plus for a while. What's the castor oil thing?

You soak a cloth in castor oil and place it on your abdomen then put put a water bottle on top and its support to help circulation to that area. You do it every 2nd day. Google it! I am trying it as tried everything else !

I used to do that over my liver area. It's messy but supposed to be good. Don't know if it works. There must also be yoga poses to help circulation.

 

[MoominGirl]

AF started today. Guess I'm out again. Oh well, onto cycle no 23....

Sorry Sunflower. We seem to have very similar cycles as I was out again this morning. I don't really know how to feel anymore. Just don't really feel anything right now. Guess that's better than spending the day in tears.

I know how you feel. I had a brief cry and then worked out when my new fertile window is. My cycle was only 24 days, but at least that means more chances. I turn 42 in 3 weeks. Gone a bit numb...don't think this is gonna happen for us. My DH is remaining positive. At least he is seeing the GP about a sperm test on Tuesday.

Guess we just gotta keep going. Difficult to find the motivation sometimes.

Glad you're not in tears. Hugs xx

I keep trying to tell myself that more chances is a good thing but I'm not so sure. Glad your OH has got an appointment booked. My OH just phoned up and asked to do a sample. They just left the pot with instructions to pick up. It was really easy. My OH is also staying positive. He's usually the positive one anyway. I like to think I'm just being prepared haha!!

 

[LuckyLaura]

I've not stopped crying!! I thought this would never happen. No need to wait for semen analysis results now!

How long have you been trying? I feel like it won't ever happen for us...on to month 11. It must feel amazing ! So happy for you xx

I just don't get what we are doing wrong. Dreading this hsg test. It's just not looking good for us. I am constantly seeing ppl join in the ttc chat and get their bfp but I am always out.


Happy and healthy 9 months to you JemRose ! Xx

we WILL both get there Alexis! Each fertility test brings you a step closer to getting your BFP! I can't wait for my first appointment letter to arrive I'm feeling much more relaxed now! We were going to do SMEP and start our new vitamins together this month but I have decided to just see how things roll! We are going to start our vitamins once they arrive and continue to dtd but just when the mood takes us and no more opks! I don't see us getting a natural BFP anymore so why should I stress myself out so much every month! I have a strong positive feeling that our assisted coception journey will end in our BFP! Anyway who knows we may get a miracle BFP before that lol

I have the worst af symptoms this cycle. The boob pain woke me up this morning and hasn't stopped. I feel so queasy I can't eat. I am just 100% fed up. I am awaiting the hsg scan next. You sound so positive. I was feeling so positive until af showed up with avengence. Not had af this heavy for months. How long have you been trying now pidge? I feel like I want to agree and say I doubt we will get a natural bfp now but I don't want to give in just yet when we have had great test results...nothing makes sence to me anymore

We've been trying since the day we got married basically, so it's been two years and three months now I do think you've been having chemicals like the other girls have been saying Alexis! Do you ever poas early and see if you get faint positives? I've ever had a whiff of a BFP unfortunately so I really don't hold much hope anymore for a natural positive! I do have great faith in our assisted conception journey though and I have a very strong feeling that I will have a baby in my arms in the next couple of years!

I have only did 1 preggo test and was neg then I havent bothered since tbh. My problem is 2 years seems like so long away...I really want a BFP before I turn 35 in August as I feel our chances will be slim from then on in.

I can't really believe it's been two years myself, I never imagined it would be this long! We were NTNP for the majority of that time though! I think we have only been actively ttc since May this year! I know it always feels like time is running short but two women I work with had their babies in their early forties I'm twenty seven now and I get people telling me to hurry up and not to wait much longer and that I should have a baby before I'm thirty, which is such a harsh statement to make in my opinion!

Oooh my northern Irish buddy is the same age toooo

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No way! How funny! lol twenty eight is getting scarily close though lol

I know!!! It's my birthday in November and I'm only letting it happen because my husband has gotten me a good birthday present and i waaant it haha otherwise it would have been cancelled so I could stay 27 and 12 months old heeehee xx

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[Sunflower1]

AF started today. Guess I'm out again. Oh well, onto cycle no 23....

Sorry Sunflower. We seem to have very similar cycles as I was out again this morning. I don't really know how to feel anymore. Just don't really feel anything right now. Guess that's better than spending the day in tears.

I know how you feel. I had a brief cry and then worked out when my new fertile window is. My cycle was only 24 days, but at least that means more chances. I turn 42 in 3 weeks. Gone a bit numb...don't think this is gonna happen for us. My DH is remaining positive. At least he is seeing the GP about a sperm test on Tuesday.

Guess we just gotta keep going. Difficult to find the motivation sometimes.

Glad you're not in tears. Hugs xx

I keep trying to tell myself that more chances is a good thing but I'm not so sure. Glad your OH has got an appointment booked. My OH just phoned up and asked to do a sample. They just left the pot with instructions to pick up. It was really easy. My OH is also staying positive. He's usually the positive one anyway. I like to think I'm just being prepared haha!!

OMG that's so easy. Was that a GP surgery? I'm a bit nervous about the results. But really glad he's finally getting it done. Hoping to get his testosterone levels checked too. Hope your OH test is ok.

 

[Alexis2017]

I am feeling old now! I am 34 ! Oofft happy birthday girls! Cherish your 20's! X

 

[xMillie]

Congrats on all the October bfps xx

 

[_GG_]

I am feeling old now! I am 34 ! Oofft happy birthday girls! Cherish your 20's! X

Turning 35 without a child yet, was really hard for me. Do you think sone of your current state of mind is due to that birthday getting ever closer to you? It's traditionally seen as a bit of a milestone for fertility, although my mw disagrees vehemently with that. Xx

 

[Alexis2017]

I am feeling old now! I am 34 ! Oofft happy birthday girls! Cherish your 20's! X

Turning 35 without a child yet, was really hard for me. Do you think sone of your current state of mind is due to that birthday getting ever closer to you? It's traditionally seen as a bit of a milestone for fertility, although my mw disagrees vehemently with that. Xx

Yeah my age is making it hard to have hope as if I was younger I would have loads of time. I met my DH when I was 20....there has been nonexcuse not to babe tried for a baby ages ago other than waiting on DH to feel ready. He went back to uni and that put things on hold for 5 years so he now feels bad for that. I was ready from age 25 for a baby but what can you do. I am in 2 minds right now ...1 is too keep trying keep positive and keep hope in my heart. The other one is to start accepting Its not happening so I can deal with it emotionally and move on !

 

[JemRose]

Oh Alexis, every post on this you break my heart I wish I could do something!! There's no amount of advice or anything that anyone could give you - you're already doing everything you can. Just keep the faith, hold on to your dream and one day you'll get there.

Sending you so much love and baby dust xxx

 

[Cherrygirl]

Congratulations to all those who had BFP this month xx

 

[LuckyLaura]

I am feeling old now! I am 34 ! Oofft happy birthday girls! Cherish your 20's! X

Turning 35 without a child yet, was really hard for me. Do you think sone of your current state of mind is due to that birthday getting ever closer to you? It's traditionally seen as a bit of a milestone for fertility, although my mw disagrees vehemently with that. Xx

Yeah my age is making it hard to have hope as if I was younger I would have loads of time. I met my DH when I was 20....there has been nonexcuse not to babe tried for a baby ages ago other than waiting on DH to feel ready. He went back to uni and that put things on hold for 5 years so he now feels bad for that. I was ready from age 25 for a baby but what can you do. I am in 2 minds right now ...1 is too keep trying keep positive and keep hope in my heart. The other one is to start accepting Its not happening so I can deal with it emotionally and move on !

Huge hugs I'm sorry you're feeling this way alexis. Wish there was something we could do to help xx

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[Alexis2017]

I genuinely think I am heart broken. I basically feel like I have achieved something if I get through the day not shedding a tear. Today hasn't been one of those days. I am off this week and haven't got work to keep me distracted. I took the dog a walk and got some fresh air. I just keep asking why this is happening. No one in my family ever struggled to have children...then I come along.

 

[Melly41]

Just popping over. Sorry to hear youre feeling like this alexis. My sister fell pregnant 18 months after ttc. She is adamant it is because she took a more relaxed approach and that they had decided to not try anymore....easier said than done! Altho...i stopped ttc #3 early this year as im 42 and thought it wouldnt happen. Then I fell in july whilst on holiday....hadnt been ttc for several months and had been drinking wine and espressos! ....unfortunately i did mc at 10+3 so we are back to ttc again. I do wonder if i should stop actively trying and just enjoy it and go with the flow....its so damn hard! Feel very confused at the moment in terms of what to do for the best. Whatever you decide, stay positive if you can and keep talking to your DH as it helps being close and open with one another. Im sure youll get your little bean soon....he/she will be SO worth the wait x

 

[Alexis2017]

Just popping over. Sorry to hear youre feeling like this alexis. My sister fell pregnant 18 months after ttc. She is adamant it is because she took a more relaxed approach and that they had decided to not try anymore....easier said than done! Altho...i stopped ttc #3 early this year as im 42 and thought it wouldnt happen. Then I fell in july whilst on holiday....hadnt been ttc for several months and had been drinking wine and espressos! ....unfortunately i did mc at 10+3 so we are back to ttc again. I do wonder if i should stop actively trying and just enjoy it and go with the flow....its so damn hard! Feel very confused at the moment in terms of what to do for the best. Whatever you decide, stay positive if you can and keep talking to your DH as it helps being close and open with one another. Im sure youll get your little bean soon....he/she will be SO worth the wait x

Thanks Melly. I don't know how to be more relaxed as I stopped all charting for months and went on my own body signs and it didn't help so we did full circle with the charting. Now we are on the infertility tests road it's hard not to think aboit it every waking moment! I am sorry about your mc that must be so hard. I hope you get a sticky bean soon.

DH isn't the chatty type and he doesn't feel as low as me. He just says we got to keep on trying and just keep positive. He won't chat about the details and gets annoyed or I get upset. He says it's taking a while because we are older. I find that hard to believe when ppl older than me we know have fallen pregnant very easily.

We don't have any time off together other than wknds until we go to Thailand end of April so we can't exactly go away together.

 

[xMillie]

My hubby doesn't really ever get down or upset about us still not having a baby after 4 and half years.
Men handle things so much differently. I wanna know how he does it!!

 

[millielaura]

I don't think it's the same for the men no matter how much they want a baby, they could never understand fully xxx

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[Melly41]

Being 35 is still classed as young according to my recent midwife as id said i was worried about ttc again after mc being 42! I hope you fall before thailand but i fell on holiday and my GP was convinced it was because i was so relaxed! It will happen, not sure when, but it will happen....most likely when you least expect it x

 

[Pidgeridoo]

I've not stopped crying!! I thought this would never happen. No need to wait for semen analysis results now!

How long have you been trying? I feel like it won't ever happen for us...on to month 11. It must feel amazing ! So happy for you xx

I just don't get what we are doing wrong. Dreading this hsg test. It's just not looking good for us. I am constantly seeing ppl join in the ttc chat and get their bfp but I am always out.


Happy and healthy 9 months to you JemRose ! Xx

we WILL both get there Alexis! Each fertility test brings you a step closer to getting your BFP! I can't wait for my first appointment letter to arrive I'm feeling much more relaxed now! We were going to do SMEP and start our new vitamins together this month but I have decided to just see how things roll! We are going to start our vitamins once they arrive and continue to dtd but just when the mood takes us and no more opks! I don't see us getting a natural BFP anymore so why should I stress myself out so much every month! I have a strong positive feeling that our assisted coception journey will end in our BFP! Anyway who knows we may get a miracle BFP before that lol

I have the worst af symptoms this cycle. The boob pain woke me up this morning and hasn't stopped. I feel so queasy I can't eat. I am just 100% fed up. I am awaiting the hsg scan next. You sound so positive. I was feeling so positive until af showed up with avengence. Not had af this heavy for months. How long have you been trying now pidge? I feel like I want to agree and say I doubt we will get a natural bfp now but I don't want to give in just yet when we have had great test results...nothing makes sence to me anymore

We've been trying since the day we got married basically, so it's been two years and three months now I do think you've been having chemicals like the other girls have been saying Alexis! Do you ever poas early and see if you get faint positives? I've ever had a whiff of a BFP unfortunately so I really don't hold much hope anymore for a natural positive! I do have great faith in our assisted conception journey though and I have a very strong feeling that I will have a baby in my arms in the next couple of years!

I have only did 1 preggo test and was neg then I havent bothered since tbh. My problem is 2 years seems like so long away...I really want a BFP before I turn 35 in August as I feel our chances will be slim from then on in.

I can't really believe it's been two years myself, I never imagined it would be this long! We were NTNP for the majority of that time though! I think we have only been actively ttc since May this year! I know it always feels like time is running short but two women I work with had their babies in their early forties I'm twenty seven now and I get people telling me to hurry up and not to wait much longer and that I should have a baby before I'm thirty, which is such a harsh statement to make in my opinion!

Oooh my northern Irish buddy is the same age toooo

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No way! How funny! lol twenty eight is getting scarily close though lol

I know!!! It's my birthday in November and I'm only letting it happen because my husband has gotten me a good birthday present and i waaant it haha otherwise it would have been cancelled so I could stay 27 and 12 months old heeehee xx

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It's my birthday in Feb so I can stay 27 for a little while longer lol I was asked for ID the other day buying a west coast cooler and a loaf of bread as my mum stood next to me so I'm feeling good about it at the minute lol

 

[LuckyLaura]

I've not stopped crying!! I thought this would never happen. No need to wait for semen analysis results now!

How long have you been trying? I feel like it won't ever happen for us...on to month 11. It must feel amazing ! So happy for you xx

I just don't get what we are doing wrong. Dreading this hsg test. It's just not looking good for us. I am constantly seeing ppl join in the ttc chat and get their bfp but I am always out.


Happy and healthy 9 months to you JemRose ! Xx

we WILL both get there Alexis! Each fertility test brings you a step closer to getting your BFP! I can't wait for my first appointment letter to arrive I'm feeling much more relaxed now! We were going to do SMEP and start our new vitamins together this month but I have decided to just see how things roll! We are going to start our vitamins once they arrive and continue to dtd but just when the mood takes us and no more opks! I don't see us getting a natural BFP anymore so why should I stress myself out so much every month! I have a strong positive feeling that our assisted coception journey will end in our BFP! Anyway who knows we may get a miracle BFP before that lol

I have the worst af symptoms this cycle. The boob pain woke me up this morning and hasn't stopped. I feel so queasy I can't eat. I am just 100% fed up. I am awaiting the hsg scan next. You sound so positive. I was feeling so positive until af showed up with avengence. Not had af this heavy for months. How long have you been trying now pidge? I feel like I want to agree and say I doubt we will get a natural bfp now but I don't want to give in just yet when we have had great test results...nothing makes sence to me anymore

We've been trying since the day we got married basically, so it's been two years and three months now I do think you've been having chemicals like the other girls have been saying Alexis! Do you ever poas early and see if you get faint positives? I've ever had a whiff of a BFP unfortunately so I really don't hold much hope anymore for a natural positive! I do have great faith in our assisted conception journey though and I have a very strong feeling that I will have a baby in my arms in the next couple of years!

I have only did 1 preggo test and was neg then I havent bothered since tbh. My problem is 2 years seems like so long away...I really want a BFP before I turn 35 in August as I feel our chances will be slim from then on in.

I can't really believe it's been two years myself, I never imagined it would be this long! We were NTNP for the majority of that time though! I think we have only been actively ttc since May this year! I know it always feels like time is running short but two women I work with had their babies in their early forties I'm twenty seven now and I get people telling me to hurry up and not to wait much longer and that I should have a baby before I'm thirty, which is such a harsh statement to make in my opinion!

Oooh my northern Irish buddy is the same age toooo

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No way! How funny! lol twenty eight is getting scarily close though lol

I know!!! It's my birthday in November and I'm only letting it happen because my husband has gotten me a good birthday present and i waaant it haha otherwise it would have been cancelled so I could stay 27 and 12 months old heeehee xx

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It's my birthday in Feb so I can stay 27 for a little while longer lol I was asked for ID the other day buying a west coast cooler and a loaf of bread as my mum stood next to me so I'm feeling good about it at the minute lol

Hahaha brilliant. I love being IDed. When I started my job a few months ago we'd been through training and everything then my friends afmitted they actually though it was 22-23 so I was like yep I'll take that hahaha xx

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[LuckyLaura]

Just want to say a massive good luck to the ladies testing today xxx

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