*** November 2014 Mum's ***

[Applecrumble]

Hi Gemmalou congrats on Imogen Clare...lovely name combo...lovely to here about another Imogen xxx

Mellie...hope Asda come through for you and its just admin error and both tops are there tomorrow.

I had a good night last night so hoping for the same tonight...have up'd the feeds today and hoping that will pay off again tonight. Currently feeding now as scheduled so ...fingers crossed.

Njp my oh has a cough and its makes Imogen jump or do a star shape in her sleep everytime she coughs. Is Frankie able to sleep through the alarm or does it wKe her too?

 

[Applecrumble]

Kaa one of my fears about bf is having a clingy baby...

 

[mellie_88]

Will have to try and improvise if they appear just wanted something so I could feed nice and subtly as it'll be a load of family I've never met before so don't want the first impression to be my boob!

Apple I think clingy babies has a lot to do with the baby and sometimes the mother. My niece is terribly clingy but her mom doesn't realise she encourages it. My other niece isn't at all clingy and her moms a single parent so personally I'd expect her to be worse. Think some babies are just more inclined to be due to personality.

Did you know babies are born with only 2 fears. Loud noises and falling. That's why they tend to flail their arms about sometimes if you pick them up while sleeping they think for a second their falling.

 

[nicejuicypear]

The falling thing must be like when you are dropping off and you think you're falling for a second! I hate that!

Frankie does starfish too, but it doesn't wake her up. Apple, she sleeps through the coughing and the alarm, thank goodness, it's just me & the wife it wakes up.

I think clingy babies are about how you treat them too, but that's one of my worries about picking up when they cry. It's hard to know at the minute what cries mean, to differentiate.

 

[Kaa286]

When picking faith up I will just quietly reassure her and being her straight to my chest because I always think if someone just scooped me up randomly I'd shit myself haha

Another not great night. Up again after only getting her down at about 4:15. :-/ asleep again now for now but not put her down yet as need keep her upright for about half hr after feed coz of reflux. Also I'm at my mums and its bloody freezing! Probe another reason she woke up

I don't mind her wanting cuddles coz like I said she had her injections on Thursday so think she's a bit off colour and who wouldn't want mummy cuddles when they're poorly hehe.

Ah that's funny we all have that in us don't we with that stupid falling dream. So cute when they starfish jump though

 

[Kaa286]

Njp if faith whimpers in her sleep or something I leave her but when she cries I don't I never leave her crying unless I'm in the middle of something like a shower, going to the toilet, making tea etc. You can't spoil a baby they only want to survive and if they need a bit of security for a cuddle then albeit from me to deprive her. My opinion of course x

 

[mellie_88]

I generally always pick up Jake when he cries, although occasionally he screams in his sleep and he also somtimes half crise/screams when he poos.

I actually ended up having an ok ish sleep last night. He finally settled about 12 then he woke up every 2 hours wanting a feed. But 2 hour blocks of sleep is better than none!

 

[nicejuicypear]

Yeah, I tend to leave her if she just whimpering, though she's been doing a lot of grizzly whinges the past 2 days, which I think are due to feeling off colour. She's much more settled this morning.

I got two 4 hour blocks of sleep last night, it was great. I was up in between when my wife came in drunk from her Christmas night out so sat & listened to her drunken tales while I fed the baby! It didn't make me miss going out, it sounded cold and expensive and annoying. I think I had a much happier night on the couch with my baba & my cup of tea!

 

[Kaa286]

That certainly sounds more appealing to me I'm in no rush to go out anyway as I'm happy warm and snuggled with my baby girl. Plus I think I wouldn't enjoy myself as much coz wouldn't want to drink too much as would worry about bfing and my ability to look after her coz I get wicked hangovers would also spend the whole time worrying about what's she's doing and if she's ok.

Who would u all leave ur babies with? And how soon u plan to go out?

 

[nicejuicypear]

I can't imagine going out and leaving her to be honest. I didn't think I'd be like that but I just don't want her staying with other people. I suppose it will be one of my SILs when I eventually do. My niece is keen to babysit but she's 20 and doesn't have children. She's applying to a midwifery course and thinks she knows everything about babies and that actually makes me feel more uneasy - like she's overconfident. So I'd rather start off leaving the baby with my SILs who've had children and know what to do.

I did leave her with my stepkids last night for 15 mins while I popped to the shop. I came back and she was screaming but they were scared to pick her up so I don't think I'll be relying on them for babysitting just yet! I told them they could have picked her up, and could they stay another couple of mins because I was desperate for the toilet. When I came back down, my stepson had picked her up and she was cooing sweetly at him and the look on his face was a picture, he was so made up!

I know what you mean about hangovers, I never used to get bad ones but they started getting bad a couple of years ago. When I started drinking less, I think, and my tolerance went down. They'd be awful now!

Is anyone who is BFing planning to have a couple over Christmas? I read that you can have one or two units, so I might treat myself to a glass of weak bucks fizz but I think that'll be my limit. Never had a completely sober Christmas, how depressing!

Midwife has just been - Frankie has regained her weight and is one ounce over birth weight now. I thought I was feeling the extra chunk when I picked her up yesterday! I feel I can relax on how much she's feeding now, she's clearly getting enough.

 

[Goat]

Hi ladies! Good news on some of your nights last night. Mine wasnt great but that was due to a poorly toddler who can now escape from her cot - just to add to the fun!

I've found it really hard to leave my eldest tbh, I've been out on a grand total of 4 nights! then obviously I had to leave her when I went back to work. Each time she stayed with my mum. My mum is probably the only person I trust my babies with, at least until they're talking properly etc. I'm definitely a clingy mum but my eldest is certainly not clingy. I have to beg her for a cuddke sometimes. Oh well!! But I probably won't be leaving them until this one is in more of a routine. I do think hubby and I need a date night!

Have any of you got any holidays planned with your babies? Xx

 

[Goat]

And NJP awesome news on Frankie's weight gain!! And your stepkids sound so sweet!
As for a few drinks, I most definitely will be! If they tell me I can have liquid morphine after my csection and very little will go to the milk, I'll happily have a tipple or two! I do find it makes them quite sleepy though so I still limit myself a lot. Not that I'm a big drinker anyway but I love a bit of port and cheese!

 

[mellie_88]

Apparently alcohol doesn't actually get into your milk that much. Im sure a few glasses gets watered down to the equivalent of a shot of vodka in a swimming pool. I'm not much of a drinker though so I'm not planning on having anything.

My mom is having Jake tomorrow for the first time. She's the only person I think I 100% trust with him as I know she won't give him formula or a dummy (although yday she was trying to get him to suck his thumb! Grr)

Oh actually just remembered I'm going out on Sunday, leaving him with mom again but that's only for a curry with people I used to work with so only be a couple of hours.

Lovely that Frankies regained her weight, its always nice to hear means the boobs are working! Haha

 

[nicejuicypear]

So it's okay to have a few drinks at Christmas? Ooh. Of course, more than two will make me ridiculously tipsy after all this time so I'm best off limiting myself anyway! I was going to have a drop of cava the other night but I'm on antibiotics and couldn't be bothered reading the leaflet to see if I could, so I just didn't bother.

If you'd told me 5 years ago I'd forgo alcohol for the sake of reading a little leaflet, I would have died laughing.

I wish my mum lived closer to babysit. I've never really minded living so far away from them but I feel quite sad that she's missing out on her only grandchild, being so far away. I'd like to work out a way to go up to visit, but I'm unsure about having Frankie in her carseat for a 4 hour journey.

 

[Applecrumble]

I had a baby that ate nonstop ffrom 12:30-4:30 got her down and think she would of slept in all day had i not kept waking her for feeds. Really tired. The inlaws who were meant to arrive on monday morning, arrived on saturday night so ended up spending the day with them today cheeky.

I hope i have a good night tonight as oh is back at work tomorrow so will have no help in the small hours from him. Where at least last two nights he has kept me company.
I was minutes away from using formula last night.

 

[Applecrumble]

Sorry ignored everyones post..just tired so wanted to do a quick reply...

Defo will have a drink or two at xmas, i am planning to leave baby with inlaws on friday night, assuming can express...had a louzy attempt at it this morning...

 

[nicejuicypear]

What happened with the expressing apple? Can't believe they turned up a day and a half early when you've got a newborn!

 

[mellie_88]

As long as you're not planning on getting wasted 1 or 2 drinks should be fine from the things I've read/heard.

I am very fortunate that my mom lives really close and that she doesn't work so she's pretty much constantly available to babysit. She'll be my babysitter when I go back to work too

How did your in laws manage to get Saturday night and Monday morning confused?! Not surprised you nearly turned to formula, I've been so close myself so many times!

 

[Applecrumble]

Well apart from feeling and looking like a milking cow...found it quite fun and easy,...although i think i expressed a dissapointing amount, so need to try a litte harder...was planning to express allday but couldnt cause of inlaws...will post a pic of what i expressed

 

[Applecrumble]

Verdicts? 10mins 1 boob?