A midwife sat with me while I was in the EPU coming to terms with my ectopic pregnancy and said that because they do the job day in, day out and see these things so often, they forget that it is an emotional thing for us and pregnancies become less of a big deal to most of them, and they have to detach themselves from the job or they would be wrecks, which I can understand but some get so used to it all that they lose the emotive connection to their job all together. They forget how a negative experience can have such a lasting and damaging effect on us and that our scans and treatment is what helps us bond with our babies. Especially the daddies, they can't feel every kick, wriggle, stretch like we can and babies don't perform on cue and kick just because their dad wants to feel them! Xx