Ladies doing IVF or IUI - 2015 (9 BFPs!)

[MelC2011]

No work is s bloody nightmare. It's going so slow.
I'm feeling so sick and am running to the toilet every 5 mins, but I wouldn't change a thing.

I really wanna take you all with me xx

 

[phonixgirl]

Oh you lovely lady. I am sooo happy for you.

My transfer is at 9:30 on Monday, not long to wait now. I'd love to join you. X

 

[Blueflower]

Being sick already! Does anyone know?! Your nursery thoughts can now become a reality!

 

[Blueflower]

I am on the wine now. Might as well, got nothing to lose.

 

[MariaIsabella]

Oh, would love a glas of wine!! Enjoy your wine and have not one but many!

 

[Blueflower]

I would rather be pregnant!

 

[snowbee]

Congratulations Mel!

I'm with you Blueflower, I would far rather be pregnant than have the wine!

 

[phonixgirl]

I would rather be pregnant than be able to drink but as you're not, you might as well have a couple of glasses xx

 

[tinselcat]

Thanks Tinselcat, I still feel numb and when I see babies or pregnant women on the tv a voice says "that's not for you." So sorry to hear about the DV, that's terrible, are you ok? Have you got your own place now and nice people around you?

I couldn't bear seeing pregnant women for years, it's so hard I wish I could offer you more than just sympathy, I'm so gutted to hear of the latest results you had.

I am ok - currently living with parents and planning to move into my own flat soon, but in an area where I don't know anyone so quite daunted. Ex-OH has just applied for an access order to baby which is going to be horrible to deal with (worse than the divorce part). He assaulted me while I was holding our 10 day old baby, I still find it hard to believe everything that happened.

Also, it's good to hear stories from other women who have had eggs collected in single numbers. On the Internet, people were saying they had 30 odd! But it's quality, not quantity xxx

Yeah, I had I think 7, 6 & 5 from my 3 collections and was so gutted the first time as I thought it was normal to get 15 or something. The quality was very poor in almost every embryo except one. But that was the one

So, for those who haven't seen my journal .... I got my bfp today on the eve of OTD

Can't quite believe it xx

So pleased to read this! Congratulations xxxx

 

[tinselcat]

Oh you lovely lady. I am sooo happy for you.

My transfer is at 9:30 on Monday, not long to wait now. I'd love to join you. X

Gooooood luck!!!! xxxxx

 

[phonixgirl]

Thank you lovely

I can't believe he assaulted you whilst holding your baby! How traumatic. You are definitely well rid of him. Xxx

 

[Blueflower]

I forgot you already had a child Tinselcat, how old is he/her now. I've heard from working in Children's Services that its not unusual for a violent partner to assault the woman whilst she is holding the child, its incredible and terrible but to do with jealousy. Must have been horrendous. He shouldn't be allowed to see his child unsupervised because of it.

Good luck for tomorrow Phoenixgirl!

Not seen Niknak on here for obvious reasons, hope you are ok? x

I am going to retire from hosting this thread at the end of this year. We've had 8 BFPs so far, hopefully it will be a round 10 by the end of the year! Room for a planned one and maybe a surprise one! So maybe someone having IUI or IVF in 2016 would like to start a new thread for a new year?

 

[phonixgirl]

Thank you xx

Hubby went out and got drunk last night... He was saying some strange things - like his best friend (who is married to his cousin who I get on really well with) told him to get a divorce so he could be happy. Later he told me he never said it so I'm not sure what to believe or maybe that's what he wants? He also made comments regarding my weight... He said he was joking but I told him every woman has insecurities so he shouldn't say things like that. They say the truth comes out when you're drunk too...

He has not been apologetic this morning at all but just snapped at me for asking him to repeat what is happening with him tomorrow. I just needed to clarify the arrangements, that was all. He said I can't possibly get stresses out by three things happening in one day.

I'm too upset to see him at the moment. I'm nervous about tomorrow and he clearly has no idea how I'm feeling or even how I have felt the past few days. I just want to cry. I need someone supportive at times like these, not someone who prioritises drinking over me. X

 

[Blueflower]

It sounds as if he is anxious about tomorrow as well but dealing with it really badly. He probably told his friend he can't deal with it or something and his friend got the wrong end of the stick. Sounds very immature but the men can be, we have to be strong and keep going and don't allow ourselves to indulge in stupid behaviour.

Are things any better this afternoon?

 

[phonixgirl]

Yes, I think you are probably right.

Thing are better thank you. He hugged me and told me I shouldn't worry about tomorrow. He is right: I can't change anything.

I know I'm supposed to be eating healthily blah blah blah but I took a leaf out of your book today and treated both of us. I cooked a lovely Sunday lunch with lots of roasts and we had pudding too (please work, metformin!).

My kitty cat has been asleep all day - she must be feeling the cold. She usually wanders around and asks to go out.

Not long to go now, eeekkk. Hope my little embies are still doing well. X

 

[Blueflower]

There's nothing wrong with a roast and pudding! Yum! Glad he is behaving better now!
I am sure you will have some good embryos left as you are only 31. xx

 

[MelC2011]

Good luck tomorrow Phonixgirl.
Sounds like you've enjoyed a yummy dinner, and why not.

Rooting for you xx

 

[LittleDalla]

Good luck for tomorrow Phonix!!!

 

[tinselcat]

I forgot you already had a child Tinselcat, how old is he/her now. I've heard from working in Children's Services that its not unusual for a violent partner to assault the woman whilst she is holding the child, its incredible and terrible but to do with jealousy. Must have been horrendous. He shouldn't be allowed to see his child unsupervised because of it.

Baby boy is now 10 months old.

Am hoping that the court will agree with you on that. Part of me wonders if he ever even wanted a baby in the first place (you'd think on round 3 of IVF he would)

 

[Blueflower]

That's what usually happens Tinselcat so I am confident that will be the case.

Mel, meant to ask, what was it like phoning the Agora nurses and telling them your test was positive?!!

Good luck today Phoenixgirl, transfer is really quick and exciting if you have good embryos. xx

DH was saying that he wished our consultant at the Agora had actually referred us to a consultant at the Lister who agreed with CGH instead of leaving us to do it all ourselves. It might have avoided all the problems with where we were actually a patient and having to literally beg our new consultant for the CGH! It has been so difficult. At least we have had the CGH now and we know the problem is with the chromosomes.