Ladies doing IVF or IUI - 2015 (9 BFPs!)

[MariaIsabella]

Good luck on the scan!

 

[Blueflower]

No dominant follicles yet so I have to go back on Friday! Never realized there were so many scans for a frozen cycle! If I am ready Friday, trigger Friday night embryo testing probably next Tuesday and possible transfer next Thursday! Or another scan Monday and go from there!

Bit upset about my manager. Last times I had 2 weeks planned sick leave for Ivf, one to recover after egg collection then one to avoid stress after transfer. When I checked about the 2nd week today she said it would be annual leave!! A colleague was off for ages because she was exhausted after doing too many exercise classes so I am entitled to sick leave again! I think if she mentions it again I'll say I'll get a doctors note or say its for stress. What an arse.

 

[MariaIsabella]

That's bad! I did not take that long time off, only 2 days sick leave but I would have hoped if I asked he would understand. I would try to get a doctors note, surely she cant refuse that? Why cant people understand how stressful this is and the importance of relaxing. I worked from home after EC which worked out fine for me and now back in the office ( I am suppose to work now actually ) but its good for me to leave the house I think.

I would talk to your boss again!

 

[RAFMrs]

Blue flower, I'm not sure how true it is but def worth looking into further, but I heard that sick leave after transfer is classed as pregnancy leave and therefore is treated very differently them normal sick leave. Of course, your sick note should annotate this as well. Therefore saying stress etc wouldn't help xxxx

 

[Blueflower]

That's true! Last time my manager put it down as pregnancy leave and it was really upsetting seeing it when I wasn't actually pregnant.
Good thing is that she changes her mind a lot and forgets what she's said. I will ask her if it can just be sick leave for IVF like before.
If there are no embryos to transfer I won't be able to concentrate at work, it would be terrible, as if a door has closed. I would sign myself off.
My job is really stressful, last week I had 2 headaches and a tight feeling in my chest last week and this week with all the pressure. I will tell her that I have been told to avoid stress after transfer.

 

[Laura07]

Where I work there is a policy about leave for special circumstances and I get 5 days fertility leave a year I would check out the company policy,

I finely had positive ovulation today so have booked in my nkc test for 13th and then they called me about embryoscope monitoring info session so that's booked for 19th I know it's sad to wish the time away but as soon as this years done we will be doing IVF and it can't come quick enough now after two years of treatment xx

 

[MelC2011]

Morning ladies .. final scan today before trigger tonight and egg collection Fri.

I'm feeling really nervous about what actually happens with egg collection.
Am I allowed to shower in the morning beforehand? (I read no perfume but shower gels are perfumed)

What did anyone take in with you to the clinic? xx

 

[Browneyed Girl]

I think I had a shower that morning, I was already using a scent free shower gel (Simple) so used that but maybe just wash with plain water if you haven't got it. I would advise you buy some as you can't use anything scented on day of transfer and neither can your oh, also it helps keep your body in calm accepting mode if you don't use any perfumes (I took it to the extreme and didn't wear perfume or use anything scented on my skin from start of ivf to birth!). I took in pyjamas, dressing gown, slippers and pads - I bled quite a bit afterwards. Also take something comfy for the journey home. Remember no contact lenses, jewellery, nail varnish etc. Good luck xx

 

[CDAbaby]

Blueflower your frozen cycle sounds a lot different to mine. I have to take hrt for 10 days then start progesterone for 5 days then transfer. If i ovulate they will cancel the cycle.
What's your protocol like?

Mel c egg collection is okay. The sedatives are really strong, I just washed with water I think, didn't wear deodorant either just took
Some with me for afterwards. So exciting!! Hopefully you get a fresh transfer. Waiting for my frozen feels like forever!

Sat in the clinic waiting to be seen xx

 

[MariaIsabella]

Good luck on Friday Mel! Nobody told me about soaps or perfume so I know I used both on ET day.. Hope it will be fine

I am 4dp5dt and feel absolutely nothing, should I not be feeling something?

x

 

[kkheartsbaby]

Maria... I had no obvious pregnancy symptoms which led me to test on 8dp5dt as couldn't take it anymore! Not long to go now xx

 

[MariaIsabella]

Thanks, have just hit a low today and feel negative.. I know its normal and I know its better to feel positive but cant help it. Have slight stomach cramps as well which makes me think AF is coming ( have short LP ). Last time I was pregnant I got sore boobs about this time.

Sorry for the negativity!!

 

[tinselcat]

Good luck Mel xx

 

[MelC2011]

Thanks ladies.

Oh Maria, I'm keeping everything crossed for you. When are you testing again?
How long is your LP? I also have a short LP, sometimes just 10 days and this worries me too.

I've been so emotional today. Had a really bad eve last night and couldn't stop crying. I don't know what's wrong with me, maybe it's all the drugs and the thought of nearing the end. After nearly 4 years I'm just desperate to get that bfp.

I have such a tender tummy too. My largest follicle is now at 21mm so not surprising I'm feeling so rubbish xx

 

[MariaIsabella]

Thanks Mel! I was also really sore and emotional ( still am! ) so its absolutely normal. Very close for you now!

Blood test Monday and feeling sick even thinking about it!! My LP is anything between 11-12 days normally. My private doc does not think its an issue when it comes to conceiving but not convinced. Might try some cyclogest in my natural cycle if this ivf doesnt work.

Xx

 

[MariaIsabella]

Just got invited to a Baby Shower on Sunday.. Its a friend of my DH. I don't want to go and feel terrible about it. Can I not go? I know I would find it so hard everyone talking about babies etc. and she is one of the lucky ones getting pregnant immediately after getting married. They don't know of our issues I think

 

[Blueflower]

I was told not to wear perfume or nail polish on my fingers, make up, contact lenses or earrings for Egg collection. Nail polish on my toes was fine, don't know why! Also heard not to wear perfumed deodorant for Embryo transfer as they don't like it! Think I heard that on here rather than from the nurses! You will want a shower before the procedure but I agree, get some unperfumed shower gel or soap. Its not surprising you feel rubbish today, I was in tears with worry before my first egg collection as I didn't know what to expect. I have got tearful just before going into theatre each time since as well as it is scary!

Lots of ladies who get BFPs don't have any symtoms Maria, I really hope you are one of those. Don't go to the baby shower if you don't feel like it, just say that you don't feel well, its not a lie! I have never been to one and don't intend to even have my own!

I spoke to my manager about the leave and she said she was just trying to protect me as I'd hit the trigger and will speak to her manager, she understood about the time off and said it might be ok if I get a doctors note.

My protocol for this (hopeful) frozen transfer seems to be 3 scans to see if one egg is dominant so they know roughly when I will ovulate. (The nurse said they aren't interested in that egg!) Wonder if we should avoid BDing in case we get 2 babies & they don't know know which is the one they tested, ha ha! I won't ask in case she says no! Started the steroids yesterday, then I take trigger shot when egg is nearly ready, then they defrost the embryos, test them on day 3 then we prepare for a transfer on day 5. I'm not looking forward to the call on day 5, it will either be "we have an embryo for you, come up now!" or " sorry none of the embryos were normal so we can't do a transfer." Trying not to think about it! Maybe we'll get the result on day 4 instead, that would be better. If its bad I'm going home from work, if its good I'll be jumping around the room because then we will have an 80% chance of a BFP! DH isn't very positive but I have to be!

 

[MariaIsabella]

Thanks! Great you spoke to your manager and you feel a bit better about this now. Very important not to stress about that as well!

Wow, 80%!! That would be so amazing, I really hope you get the good news! Have they given you a realistic survival rate for the embryos?

 

[Blueflower]

We usually have most still by day 3 but it could be less as they were frozen. If we have 10 and they test all of them they say that one out of 10 is usually chromosomally normal at my age. So hoping for one! DH is concerned though as last time one of them might have been normal but it still didn't implant. Or maybe none were normal and that's why they didn't implant. He doesn't see how testing them makes any difference. For me its just to get some answers.

 

[phonixgirl]

Oh ladies, I know it's hard but please try to think positively. The other ladies are right about lots of people having no symptoms - I have read it sooo many times. Even if it doesn't work this cycle, you could just get a magic natural BFP - who knows?

I have a short LP because of my spotting. I would definitely recommend Cyclogest. I took it when I had IUI and it seemed to help. Wish I could take it every month...

Blueflower - 80%?! That's amazing! I want what you're having. Wow, wow, wow.

AF started today. It has been light so far and not at all painful like it is usually but I guess that's the metformin doing its job. I booked my scan for tomorrow anyway (better be too early than too late) and hope they will just tell me to go away if it is too early lol. Xxx