Ladies doing IVF or IUI - 2015 (9 BFPs!)

[Blueflower]

No, my DH never has trouble producing a sample, he's a youngster, haha! He does get embarrassed though when people in the waiting room guess where he's going or where he's been!! If you expect a difficulty you can arrange sperm in advance. They get plenty of time and aren't rushed, although DH said the nearby voices put him off!

Yes I did quite fancy my Dr until he sent that mean email about me not questioning the plan. I was a bit taken aback when I realised it was him doing my EC! Especially as I'd had a dream about him! (It wasn't a rude dream though, haha!) He is only about 5 years older than me. Could be awkward if he does the scratch. It was odd when our previous consultant did our ET as we'd only seen him on a formal basis before in a suit but he was very kind and reassuring. They look so much more human in scrubs I think. Must be weird to be a male gynaecologist and see women's bits all day. I still find it weird when they talk about periods and stuff!!

 

[MariaIsabella]

Mine is always fine doing it as well and he is also a youngster but just thinking in case. Guess we have ourselves a couple of toy boys!

He finds that less of a pressure than when we were trying normally and I was ovulating and he had to deliver! Should be no issues I hope . Must be very awkward for them though going into that room..

I take that back, not jealous! I would hate having a gorgeous Dr poking around down there! . I hope mine will be very unattractive, haha

 

[Blueflower]

That made me laugh for ages!!

I see your DH is 4 years younger than you, mine is 5 1/2 but he is quite mature and I am quite immature. The only problem is that when we met I was ready for kids whereas he'd never had a serious relationship.

He took a photo of the sperm sample room at our last clinic to show me!! I don't know what its actually called, I just thought of a rude name for it! It looked quite weird with a sink, tv, magazines, dvds, a hatch for the sample and a chair that the nurse wiped down before he'd even left!!

 

[MariaIsabella]

My DH explained the room to me as quite nice with sofa, TV etc.. I am happy I don't have to do that! Embarrassing when you come out of the room and everyone outside know exactly what has been going on in there

DH is almost 4,5 years younger and had never been in a serious relationship either! He was never ready for a relationship before we met but the children thing was not so much of an issue except I can't get pregnant!!

 

[Blueflower]

Mine was slightly flushed and embarrassed when he came back to the room!
When I first mentioned kids to him I was 36 & he was shocked and said he wasn't ready, it was quite worrying for me. I had been in a relationship a few years before but had to leave him as he was very controlling so glad we didn't bring kids into it. DH assumed that as soon as he was ready, I would stop the pill and we'd have a baby 9 months later! I was nearly 39 by the time he was ready so knew it wouldn't be that easy.

 

[MariaIsabella]

How old were you when you met? I think you did the right thing waiting though since never good to have kids if one doesn't want to. Does your DH feel bad/guilty about waiting now?

 

[Blueflower]

I was 34 when we met. He once asked if he'd let me down by not being ready. I said no it wouldn't have been right if it was only me that wanted it. I do often feel resentful but never tell him that & wouldn't want to have been one of my friends who got pregnant 'by accident' and their relationship suffered or even ended. Seems as if all I've been doing is waiting though! I do have lots of distractions and don't let it take over but sometimes worry its too late.

 

[MariaIsabella]

I understand. It has been discussed on this forum so many times but it is very hard when you start feeling sorry for yourself and especially when everyone else fall pregnant so fast. A work a couple just got married and everyone jokes about how quickly the woman will be pregnant after the wedding, and she probably will be.. If they only know how hard it can be.

I don't think its too late for you. Have so many people around me ranging from 42-48 who got pregnant recently. For some it took a very long time and for others quicker but they got there. Have a really good friend who is 44 that got pregnant last year who was told she had hardly no eggs left and 3-4 IVFs got cancelled because of no eggs but she recently had a son. You still have lots of eggs, I know the quality might not be the same but surely with that amount there will be a good one.

 

[Hayleymorbey]

Hi guys.... Just joined to see what people saying about IVF
I'm on my 1st journey on IVF and on day 3 off buserelin got 1st scan trial embro one so hoping that the injection is doing what it's meant to..... Any one got any advice on do's or don't's while having IVF....
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[phonixgirl]

Oh girlies, I loved reading your convo about DHs and their 'task'! My DH seems to get on fine with it (a bit too fine, actually). I've actually been in the little room with the hatch as he needed to go and check his swimmers were good to go for the IUI - there were all kinds of magazines and the sign said you can bring your own if none are to your taste! There was a door so I assume they went through there to do the job...

Blueflower, please try not to worry too much about your age my lovely as you don't know that has anything to do with it anyway (you do get lots of eggs!). I have been trying since I was 24 and zilch.

Work changed their sickness policy and we were made to read through. I have already been off due to PCOS twice (depression and bad period pain that caused vomiting) and obviously I will have to be off at some point during IVF. I broke down and blurted everything out to a female manager who was very understanding.

Hi Hayley. I'm due to start my first (and only one on the NHS!) at the start of November. I don't really have any advice, other than to try and stay positive, and my doctor did recommend acupuncture. Xxx

 

[Hayleymorbey]

Thank u phonixgirl... Well positive I'm trying to be but mines private as can't get it on NHS due to my husband having child from previous so I have everything crossed...
Wish u all the best x

 

[MelC2011]

Hi Hayley ... welcome to the madness

I'm on my first IVF and on day 5 of Buserelin.
I've not been feeling too good these past few days with really bad headaches and now af has showed I've got that to contend with.

Good luck lovely xx

 

[Blueflower]

'Bit too fine' haha Phoenixgirl! Well I suppose they have been doing that long before having sex and much longer than trying for a baby! The mind boggles about what sort of porn some partners might need!!
Thanks I shouldn't take any notice of the age stuff, there must be one or 2 good eggs left, hopefully they are in the freezer right now! That's awful about your work. They probably have to lay down the law because of slackers but could be more accommodating for people with a genuine need that is beyond your control.

Hi Hayley! My top tips are: Remember you and your partner are a team and whatever happens, your relationship is the reason you are doing this, have a couple of chocolates each after injections to make them more bearable, plan fun/relaxing things to do during the treatment cycle to look forward to, even if you can't stay out late, have a couple of friends you can talk to about it so they can support you, make a list of things to ask the nurses when you go for scans to keep informed, try not to look at statistics! I will let you know if I think of any more!

 

[phonixgirl]

Yeah, I guess they have been doing that for much longer than sex so they should be experts at it by now!

They said the policy was revised for piss-takers, not people who are genuinely ill, and they understand some illnesses will mean a higher level of absence than others. Hopefully this includes PCOS (although I also hope metformin makes all those problems much better and even gets me pregnant, haaa). At least they know now!

I have some cinema tickets I bought through an offer at work so I think I might use them in the cycle. I also am seeing three comedians in November which will be right through my cycle (one the night before) and take my mind off things. I will be in hospital every other day so I will need some things to take my mind off it all.

I am feeling really excited now. Xxx

 

[Blueflower]

Where I work, part of the policy is to try to help you take less time off! My manager told me about it and said it didn't apply to me! As if! How can they help me to have less time off for fertility issues? Give me a baby?!

Did some of my Zita West relaxation download this afternoon, it was strange but quite good. Felt quite emotional when she said that my perfect embryos were waiting for me and at the end that I was feeling more confident!

Those activities sound fun!

 

[phonixgirl]

I really need to get my arse into gear and do the Zita West thing.

I think that is their aim with this policy too... and I have finally got my diagnosis (which should help with PCOS absences), am finally on medication and I have had counselling.

But now there is the issue of fertility - and, as you say, how can they help with that unless they give me a baby, pay for IVF (yeah right) or give me donor eggs? Pfffttt. I get free counselling at my clinic too if I want so that should help things if I feel a bit down or whatever.

We have a team meeting today so I might find out a bit more then. X

 

[MariaIsabella]

scan again today ( 11 days stim ) and improvement! Think about 22 above 10 mm and another 10-13 or so under so the amount is no issue, problem is only 3 are correct size so borderline if i am ready. Have had a blood test now and doctor will let me know shortly if EC friday or monday.. I cant stand to wait until monday, so painful now!!

 

[Blueflower]

When mine were that size they made me wait a bit longer, they reduced the stims though so it didn't get any more uncomfortable. That's a lot of follicles! Are you off work now?

 

[MariaIsabella]

i want to have the best possible outcome but Monday seems far away now! Lets see what they say.

Not off work, will work today and perhaps tomorrow depending how i feel, after EC i will take a couple of days and then work from home intil ET.

 

[Blueflower]

Its hard going to work when you feel like a lumbering elephant. I struggled to eat all of my lunch in the last week and it hurt to bend over! Practice for pregnancy though!