Ladies doing IUI or IVF - 2016 (11 BFPs so far!)

[may_lin_tewin]

Millie

Not sure doc said if I still having pain on Monday then I maybe can't do the transfer!!! At this meantime I having menses pain and I still have slight bleeding.... I began to freak out I don't know if this normal???

 

[MrsLaw]

Oh no 1sttimer, I'm so sorry for your loss! That's a big hurdle to pass, I'm glad you're able to look forward to future options. You shouldn't feel guilty at all. When you and you're body, and OH are ready then ease yourself back in x

 

[xMillie]

Hope you are doing better today May x


I'm feeling fed up!! I'm CD30 (or CD31 if you count day 1 as the evening I started bleeding last time) can't start anything until period shows up
I used to be quite regular with 27/28 day cycles but ever since my 1st ivf they've been a little messed up and slightly longer, usually 30 days or longer. So annoying!

 

[may_lin_tewin]

Hi Millie

Thanks feeling better... Delaying my IVF to Sep instead... 26Collected 11fertilised
Skip my fresh cycle as doc said would be painful and dangerous for me to do it this month... I may need to hospitalised if things gets worse.... So all eggs will be reserved for FET instead....
Now waiting for two period cycle before we can FET... OMG Long wait!!! Praying for your success this july... Finger crossed for you....

 

[xMillie]

do they think you developed ohss (ovarian hyperstimulation syndrome)?
11 fertilised is a great outcome!
hope the next 2 months are quick for you and you are feeling better soon x


I'm still waiting for af.. maybe she will show today as I feel a little crampy.
Miss the days when my cycles were pretty much bang on. cd 31/32 feeling fed up!!

 

[tinselcat]

Hi ladies, I hope you're all doing well. I've lost touch with this feed a little but hope the treatments are going well for you all. I was hoping for some advice? Some of you may remember that I fell pregnant in March just before my IVF was due to start - unfortunately we lost our baby at almost 16 weeks just 2 weeks ago. My waters broke unexpectedly and so I had to go through a managed miscarriage, which includes labour to deliver the baby. I've had a couple of weeks to get my head back together and try and start the healing process but I'm thinking now about what we will do when we ever become ready to start again. Basically, I'm wondering when we do get there, whether to go straight into having IVF or whether to try again naturally for a few months before I put myself through it? As many of you may remember it took us a long time to get this far, it's now 3 years, 1 early miscarriage and one heartbreaking late one. I am waiting for autopsy results on the baby and placenta to know if there were any problems but based on you all having been through the IVF process I'd be really interested to know your thoughts. Knowing the emotional and physical stress of it, would you do it straight away and bypass the trying naturally in order to bypass more wasted time, or would you give it time before putting your mind and body through it?

Apologies for commandeering your feed, if this isn't appropriate on here I will post elsewhere, I really hope you don't mind it was just because I'd got to know a few of you previously when I was about to start the IVF before and now I'm back at square one but feeling totally empty, heartbroken and exasperated by the whole thing, I don't really know what to do for the best. I almost feel guilty talking about starting again but at the same time, I have to. I hope you understand.

Hi 1sttimer - really really sorry to hear about your loss

It's not quite the same as 16 weeks, but I had a MMC at 12.5 weeks and that was very tough to deal with. It was then another 2 years and 3 rounds of IVF before we got the BFP that lasted.

I've heard that the first 3 months after you MC that you are more fertile. I don't know if that's true, but it may be worth trying naturally for that amount of time just to see.

I guess the only reason to do a massive long wait before IVF is to try & get it free on NHS (assuming eligibility here). May be worth giving yourself a short while in terms of applying for medical treatment, in order for your body to heal and get back to normal (e.g. pregnancy does weird things to you like anaemia). I think it depends also on your age, and any infertility factors (if you are aware) as to whether you jump straight to IVF.

My thoughts are with you xx

 

[1sttimer]

Hi Tinselcat thanks for your thoughts. Do you mind me asking if there was any reasoning that they gave for your MC at 12.5 and was it your first pregnancy? Or any issues related to the 2 year wait and IVF? We were considered unexplained and so the natural BFP was unexpected. I suppose I just don't want to wait another year and a half to see if we can do it again and I wonder if we might be monitored more closely if we had IVF. We don't qualify for IVF on the NHS unfortunately as our CCG covers no funding in this area (which we only found out after waiting a year for the referral!) so it's quite a big decision when in my head I keep thinking 'but it did happen'. I don't know...it's a tough one. I think you're right about letting my body get back to normal - such a lot to think about really and consider when what happened 2 weeks ago just plays over in my head all the time. It's the idea that I've actually given birth and experienced labour and have nothing to show for it. Feels rubbish but also coupled with so desperately wanting to try again. All this TTC malarkey is tough!

 

[tinselcat]

Hi Tinselcat thanks for your thoughts. Do you mind me asking if there was any reasoning that they gave for your MC at 12.5 and was it your first pregnancy? Or any issues related to the 2 year wait and IVF? We were considered unexplained and so the natural BFP was unexpected. I suppose I just don't want to wait another year and a half to see if we can do it again and I wonder if we might be monitored more closely if we had IVF. We don't qualify for IVF on the NHS unfortunately as our CCG covers no funding in this area (which we only found out after waiting a year for the referral!) so it's quite a big decision when in my head I keep thinking 'but it did happen'. I don't know...it's a tough one. I think you're right about letting my body get back to normal - such a lot to think about really and consider when what happened 2 weeks ago just plays over in my head all the time. It's the idea that I've actually given birth and experienced labour and have nothing to show for it. Feels rubbish but also coupled with so desperately wanting to try again. All this TTC malarkey is tough!

Hi 1sttimer, I got pregnant after over 1 year TTC and we were just going through all the blood/sperm tests. I got the BFP just before we found out my OH had exceptionally low morphology scores, so I then (after the 12.5 week MMC) had to deal with a bunch of people telling me that "lots of people have miscarriages and then get pregnant, don't worry it'll happen for you" etc, while not being able to reply "actually, there's a problem". Also someone even said "at least you know you can get pregnant" which wasn't particularly sympathetic or nice.

My OH (now ex) kept insisting that everything could happen naturally but I knew it would never (he had other issues too) and it was 3 rounds of IVF before we got it to work. The stats coming back from that process where fertilisation was concerned demonstrated to me that, statistically, it would have been very unlikely to work naturally.

In a way, if your area doesn't offer free treatment on the NHS (which is sad) then you know there is no point in waiting another year to go back to that. I guess it depends also on the waiting list in your area for IVF - if it's a long one, it may be worth getting back on it sooner rather than later. xx

 

[may_lin_tewin]

Hi Millie

I Didn't ask my doctor but i suspected i am OHSS... but anyway hoping for the best in Sep.... Millie when is your transfer??? in July???

 

[xMillie]

Aw bless you are you feeling any better now?
I think sometimes people have more luck with frozen as it gives their bodies a chance to rest

I'm not sure
I MIGHT have just got a natural bfp... I'm really not sure as it's a blue dye test. But the line was instant so eeep I don't know!

 

[may_lin_tewin]

Millie

Thks i am feeling better now... Hopefully i will get preg by then...

OMG OMG finger crossed for you... Test again tomorrow or maybe go to the clinic to get a more firm answer.... update your status yeah.... fairy dust!!!!

 

[xMillie]

Glad to hear you're feeling better
Do you know how embryos have been frozen for you?


My test is on the am I pregnant section
I might do a digi this afternoon

 

[may_lin_tewin]

Millie

I have 11 frozen now...

Oh its so exciting i saw your update BFP.... So happy for you girl!!!! Whoooooo congrats!!!

 

[xMillie]

11 frozen is amazing! I only had the 1 frozen the rest didn't make it
Are you allowed 2 put back? Or only 1?


Thank you!
I'm so excited!! But so scared to be excited!
I guess I'll need to let my clinic know!

 

[may_lin_tewin]

basically is 2 at one go when doing the transfer.... so i hope my pretty angel will come to meet me in september....

I will private message you on something... Pls read and take note about it...

 

[xMillie]

Thank you May x

 

[1sttimer]

Millie! That is actually amazing!! Have you done a digi to confirm - congrats! x

 

[xMillie]

Yes!!
8 positive tests in total - 4 different brands - over 3 days.
2 were digis with weeks and both came up with 1-2.
Not testing today, I don't think 8 tests can be wrong?

Scared to get excited, going to pay for an early scan at some point, maybe in a couple of weeks?
Was going to do it for hubbys birthday but I don't think I can wait that long I want to see if this is real!

 

[phonixgirl]

Oh wow Millie, that's AMAZING and gives us all hope!!! Were you taking any supplements? Wow wow wow!!! Xxx

 

[xMillie]

Thanks Phonix! It feels like a miracle
at the time of conception/implantion I really dont think I was taking anything other than just folic acid
I'd given up!