Ladies doing IUI or IVF - 2016 (11 BFPs so far!)
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Thanks, I think I'm 13 dpo, at the very least 12. There's the slightest chance it could be ok but I've been googlng all afternoon and there's not a single positive story where numbers have been as low as mine, even when numbers are double or triple mine there are very few good outcomes.
I've learned through bitter experience that "could be ok" never is ok when it comes to me and fertility/pregnancy.
I've learned through bitter experience that "could be ok" never is ok when it comes to me and fertility/pregnancy.
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Nothing! The headache has finally passed. I'm still feeling out.. 
dinner tonight tasted different to what it usually does, I thought it had gone off, but putting it down to the progesterone.
So sorry Syd will you be testing anymore?
Good luck mrslaw x
dinner tonight tasted different to what it usually does, I thought it had gone off, but putting it down to the progesterone.
So sorry Syd
will you be testing anymore? Good luck mrslaw x
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Hi all, hope you're all well. Sorry I've not caught up as tapatalk has been a bit of a mare so I've missed all the previous posts.
I was on a new fresh cycle but found a hydrosalpinx on my baseline scan and after injections for the few days, my second scan by my consultant showed the fluid was significant and definitely in the tube so they abandoned my cycle. I've now got to wait to see a gynaecologist to remove my left tube before going to a new clinic (current one is closing) and starting all over again.
But I know that removing the tube will mean our chances are increased as the fluid is toxic to embryos and will kill any embryo and will leak into my womb and just flush everything out so any natural chance will be zilch as well at the moment which sucks majorly!! Feeling pretty low.
I was on a new fresh cycle but found a hydrosalpinx on my baseline scan and after injections for the few days, my second scan by my consultant showed the fluid was significant and definitely in the tube so they abandoned my cycle. I've now got to wait to see a gynaecologist to remove my left tube before going to a new clinic (current one is closing) and starting all over again.
But I know that removing the tube will mean our chances are increased as the fluid is toxic to embryos and will kill any embryo and will leak into my womb and just flush everything out so any natural chance will be zilch as well at the moment which sucks majorly!! Feeling pretty low.
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Bloody tapatalk posting half a reply!!
Also said hope you are all well. X
Also said hope you are all well. X
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Syd sorry to read your update, it seems strange that you got pregnant naturally but not via the ivf/iui did they check the sperm sample your OH had given in? It's all so bloody frustrating, since we stopped trying I have such a sense of grief/anger that I'm now thinking of donor eggs. Do you know if they use donor eggs in the UK that you can match to your ethnicity in Ireland it looks like the donor eggs are all from abroad. The sperm is sent abroad for fertilisation. I have pale skin and my husband is also pale with red hair so if we went down the donor root I would like the baby to look like us.
Hi Clementine, nice to hear from you. I also think it's strange. His general sperm analysis was all good but dna fragmentation hasn't been done, I just emailed the clinic on Friday to find out if they can do that as they have it there frozen.
I've been doing a lot of reading up on donor eggs, basically I think the more specific you are about matching characteristics the longer it takes to match but that for most clinics it's important to get colouring right - skin, hair, eyes. There is a clinic in Ireland that does donor eggs, I've seen it mentioned a bit on fertility friends, I'll go back and see if I can find the name. I don't know what the waiting lists will be like there but I know in the UK they are very long. Waiting at the Llister is about a year to 18 months. I just don't want to wait that long which is why I'm looking at Serum as there is no waiting there at all. I know travelling abroad isn't an option for you. I think specifically matching with an Irish donor will just be down to whether one comes up at the right time.
I'll look for the name of the clinic in Ireland.
I've been doing a lot of reading up on donor eggs, basically I think the more specific you are about matching characteristics the longer it takes to match but that for most clinics it's important to get colouring right - skin, hair, eyes. There is a clinic in Ireland that does donor eggs, I've seen it mentioned a bit on fertility friends, I'll go back and see if I can find the name. I don't know what the waiting lists will be like there but I know in the UK they are very long. Waiting at the Llister is about a year to 18 months. I just don't want to wait that long which is why I'm looking at Serum as there is no waiting there at all. I know travelling abroad isn't an option for you. I think specifically matching with an Irish donor will just be down to whether one comes up at the right time.
I'll look for the name of the clinic in Ireland.
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Hi Syd is the waiting list 18months even if going privately? As far as I can see there are no Irish egg donors, all IVF is private and paid for over here so there is no system whereby women having ivf in Ireland can donate eggs to reduce the cost. It's a real pity as I'm sure there are women who would like to donate to others. If we did do it we would be going for the most costly option in Ireland (it's about 11k) so the donor would be known so if the child wanted to look them up at 18 they could. We're all over the place at the moment as it's just so hard giving up on the dream of being parents. We were visiting two sets of friends recently one with a 9month old and the other with an 8week old, they were really cute, my hubby got quite emotional when he saw me holding the 8week old, he thinks I'd be a great mum & I know he would have been a great Dad as he's a big softy.
Yes, 18 months even if private. That's such a shame the option doesn't exist in Ireland.
I think my preference would also be for the child to be able to contact the egg donor mother but I honestly just can wait 12-18 months. That, of course, makes me feel guilty because I'm putting my needs before the (potential) child. It's just one of the things I'm struggling with along with "perhaps this is all happening for a reason and I'd be a crap mother", "perhaps I'll hate motherhood so shouldn't push it", "perhaps it's just not meant to be for me", "is it fair to use an egg donor egg, I'm just putting my own desire to be pregnant and give birth ahead of everything else" etc etc etc.
It's lovely that you and your husband are so completely on the same page, although so sad that it's come to this. I do struggle with the fact I want this far more than my OH, he's really just going through all this for me.
I think my preference would also be for the child to be able to contact the egg donor mother but I honestly just can wait 12-18 months. That, of course, makes me feel guilty because I'm putting my needs before the (potential) child. It's just one of the things I'm struggling with along with "perhaps this is all happening for a reason and I'd be a crap mother", "perhaps I'll hate motherhood so shouldn't push it", "perhaps it's just not meant to be for me", "is it fair to use an egg donor egg, I'm just putting my own desire to be pregnant and give birth ahead of everything else" etc etc etc.
It's lovely that you and your husband are so completely on the same page, although so sad that it's come to this. I do struggle with the fact I want this far more than my OH, he's really just going through all this for me.
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Hi ladies,
Syd I'm so sorry it was a negative for you. I had everything crossed for you! Where do you think you go from here?
Millie, how are you feeling?
Mrslaw, how did downreg go??
Missjuly, I read your other post also. I'm so sorry this happened to you! Have you made a decision on where to go from here? Is it possible to continue this cycle and freeze your eggs? I can't imagine how you're feeling at all. When I was about to start ivf I started following a few women on Instagram who shared their journey. A few of them have lost a tube either to the same condition or different. It's very inspiring to read their stories. If you're on Instagram at all, have a look to see others in the same situation (sorry if that's not your thing and sounds strange). I hope you're doing as okay as can be!
Clementine, would you consider a Scottish donor egg? We have similar backgrounds with the pale and red hair. There's about 4 donor egg clinics in Scotland! It must be such a big decision but if it's your option to have a baby, I'd be doing the same thing. Wishing you all the luck!
Hope everyone else is okay xx
Syd I'm so sorry it was a negative for you. I had everything crossed for you! Where do you think you go from here?
Millie, how are you feeling?
Mrslaw, how did downreg go??
Missjuly, I read your other post also. I'm so sorry this happened to you! Have you made a decision on where to go from here? Is it possible to continue this cycle and freeze your eggs? I can't imagine how you're feeling at all. When I was about to start ivf I started following a few women on Instagram who shared their journey. A few of them have lost a tube either to the same condition or different. It's very inspiring to read their stories. If you're on Instagram at all, have a look to see others in the same situation (sorry if that's not your thing and sounds strange). I hope you're doing as okay as can be!
Clementine, would you consider a Scottish donor egg? We have similar backgrounds with the pale and red hair. There's about 4 donor egg clinics in Scotland! It must be such a big decision but if it's your option to have a baby, I'd be doing the same thing. Wishing you all the luck!
Hope everyone else is okay xx
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I still feel out and and I don't even feel upset about it right now
It just feels expected
I tested today and got a negative
I'd probably die of shock if I got a positive on test day
I hope the clinic aren't pushy about me having our frozen emb straight away or anytime soon.. I really think I need a break from ttc
The pessaries and injections ughh I feel so drained and deflated
It just feels expected
I tested today and got a negative
I'd probably die of shock if I got a positive on test day
I hope the clinic aren't pushy about me having our frozen emb straight away or anytime soon.. I really think I need a break from ttc
The pessaries and injections ughh I feel so drained and deflated
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Hi all, been checking every day for your updates, just leaving a comment sending my love to you all 
xxx
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Sorry to hear the news Syd x
FX for test day Millie.
I'm only on day 3 of down reg. I'll continue taking the Norethisterone for just over a week, wait for AF and then start my stims. It all feels a bit slow paced, but I'll get there in the end
FX for test day Millie.
I'm only on day 3 of down reg. I'll continue taking the Norethisterone for just over a week, wait for AF and then start my stims. It all feels a bit slow paced, but I'll get there in the end
