January 2019 testing

[chattychar1990]

Just so everyone knows the egg only lives 24 hrs after ovulation and it takes sperm 12 hrs to get to the Fallopian tube, so if you’re waiting till you ovulate to bd it’s already too late, you need to be doing it for the 5 days before you actually ovulate so that you get as many sperm up into the Fallopian tubes waiting on the egg as you can get.

Yes agree with this Mystery! I also read that its better for the sperm to be up there before ovulation rather than after. x

 

[Mystery26]

As for an earlier topic female sperm live longer than males and swim slower, males swim fast and die sooner so technically if you only have sex once in the month on a specific date you can try to pick the sex lol

 

[Mystery26]

Yes agree with this Mystery! I also read that its better for the sperm to be up there before ovulation rather than after. x

Yes the tubes nurture and feed the sperm so they are ready for the last rush to the egg

 

[SockVortex]

Everyone on the train this morning seemed to be wearing a baby on board badge *sigh*. Can’t wait to have a guaranteed seat haha.

 

[chattychar1990]

Everyone on the train this morning seemed to be wearing a baby on board badge *sigh*. Can’t wait to have a guaranteed seat haha.

Oh Sock isn't horrible seeing that badge, jealous reasons only though. There is a young girl that use to get the same train as me every day and i stopped seeing her then she popped up again with a badge on. I almost cried haha! I thought why her and not me LOL x

 

[kristenann]

Yes the tubes nurture and feed the sperm so they are ready for the last rush to the egg

Yeh agree day of O is miles to late. As this documentary i saw said to early and sperm can die off waiting too late and not ganna get there etc.. having said that there are people who claim they only bd day O and got pg so think it really just does depend!

 

[SockVortex]

Oh Sock isn't horrible seeing that badge, jealous reasons only though. There is a young girl that use to get the same train as me every day and i stopped seeing her then she popped up again with a badge on. I almost cried haha! I thought why her and not me LOL x

Yup, I know I’ve only been trying for a month but I already think the same thing

 

[chattychar1990]

Yup, I know I’ve only been trying for a month but I already think the same thing

Arrr Sock
I honestly think the 1st and 2nd cycles are the worse!
I started my journal when i was at my lowest, it really was terrible! I remember getting my AF and i just cried and cried for hours. I didn't leave my bed for the whole day and i was so vile to my OH and nothing he said or did made me feel better i just had to be on my own and cry it out. I promise you it will get easier to deal with but at the same time it still does hurt with AF arrives but you deal with it much better. x

 

[IVW]

What do we think ladies? It looks more pink in person. Be honest, I can take it haha! X

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I see it congrats

 

[GeekMaker]

I should find out my labs today which is good because part of me still wonders about PCOS or something. I have the faintest of spotting today but we bd's twice in not even 24 hours so this sometimes happens for me after that. I can't wait til that ultrasound for my cyst next week and am hoping to get more answers. I would love to have normal cycles again. Just venting! lol

 

[chattychar1990]

I should find out my labs today which is good because part of me still wonders about PCOS or something. I have the faintest of spotting today but we bd's twice in not even 24 hours so this sometimes happens for me after that. I can't wait til that ultrasound for my cyst next week and am hoping to get more answers. I would love to have normal cycles again. Just venting! lol

Be sure to keep us updated with your lab results GeekMaker x

 

[night owl]

Yes agree with this Mystery! I also read that its better for the sperm to be up there before ovulation rather than after. x

It’s also said to potentially be a factor in miscarriage aswell - the egg needs to be caught as soon as possible after it’s released, the later it is caught it’s not as ‘fresh’ anymore and less likely to be successful, some experts are now saying it only realistically lasts for 12 hours especially as we get older, so defo better to dtd before ovulation then after!

 

[chattychar1990]

It’s also said to potentially be a factor in miscarriage aswell - the egg needs to be caught as soon as possible after it’s released, the later it is caught it’s not as ‘fresh’ anymore and less likely to be successful, some experts are now saying it only realistically lasts for 12 hours especially as we get older, so defo better to dtd before ovulation then after!

Thank you for this nightowl.
Forever learning new stuff from you ladies x

 

[Sjf0709]

So to conclude... DTD more leading up to ovulation if possible and don’t stress if you’ve ‘done enough’ if you’ve DTD once a few days before ovulation then you could be in luck... obviously DTD as much as you want to but don’t feel too pressured haha.

Love how we all have so much wisdom to share like you said @chattychar1990 we are always learning!

 

[chattychar1990]

So to conclude... DTD more leading up to ovulation if possible and don’t stress if you’ve ‘done enough’ if you’ve DTD once a few days before ovulation then you could be in luck... obviously DTD as much as you want to but don’t feel too pressured haha.

Love how we all have so much wisdom to share like you said @chattychar1990 we are always learning!

I think my new plan is going to be as follows. DTD every other day. Then when i get my flashing smiley i will try and do it as much as i can, then solid smiley every day for next 3 days?! xx

 

[SugaryIris]

I think my new plan is going to be as follows. DTD every other day. Then when i get my flashing smiley i will try and do it as much as i can, then solid smiley every day for next 3 days?! xx

Sounds like a plan!

I’ve just about given up trying to track ovulation, is that bad? I used the cheapies and I had a line every day of my cycle (due to pcos) and it was infuriating trying to decipher the better lines! Then i used the clear blue advanced opks, but because I don’t ovulate every month it seemed like it was an endless cycle of flashing faces! I only ever got one positive and although we did conceive that month, I now just try to dtd every other day or a minimum of 2-3 times a week and we got pregnant that way too.

Is there anyone else who doesn’t track ovulation? I find it so depressing to know I’m not going to ovulate!

 

[chattychar1990]

Sounds like a plan!

I’ve just about given up trying to track ovulation, is that bad? I used the cheapies and I had a line every day of my cycle (due to pcos) and it was infuriating trying to decipher the better lines! Then i used the clear blue advanced opks, but because I don’t ovulate every month it seemed like it was an endless cycle of flashing faces! I only ever got one positive and although we did conceive that month, I now just try to dtd every other day or a minimum of 2-3 times a week and we got pregnant that way too.

Is there anyone else who doesn’t track ovulation? I find it so depressing to know I’m not going to ovulate!

I would be at my wits end too if i was you Sugary!
Would you consider temping to track ovulation instead of opk's? I am wondering if it would be less stressful for you?
DTD every other day clearly does work though which is a good thing xx

 

[SugaryIris]

I would be at my wits end too if i was you Sugary!
Would you consider temping to track ovulation instead of opk's? I am wondering if it would be less stressful for you?
DTD every other day clearly does work though which is a good thing xx

I tried temping but because dh gets up at about 4am, I think it disturbs me and wakes me sometimes and although I don’t realise, my temps were all over the place! They made no sense even my app couldn’t decipher!

 

[chattychar1990]

I tried temping but because dh gets up at about 4am, I think it disturbs me and wakes me sometimes and although I don’t realise, my temps were all over the place! They made no sense even my app couldn’t decipher!

What about taking your temp at 4am when your husband gets up. My OH gets up at 5am and i always took my temp at that time. After taking temp i use to get for a wee and go back to sleep until 7am x

 

[kristenann]

I think my new plan is going to be as follows. DTD every other day. Then when i get my flashing smiley i will try and do it as much as i can, then solid smiley every day for next 3 days?! xx

I dont think flashing smiley means much.. first month i ttc a year ago december cycle 2017 .I used clearblue and it did flashing smileys 22nd? I think Dec and didnt get solid smiley till 28th and even then i couldnt tell u when i had O as back then i didnt temp and didnt check fluids! And also back then wen i started using cheapies i got 5 solid positives in a row -_- luckily now i just get 3 which is more normal