January 2019 testing

[GeekMaker]

BD's twice this weekend. No idea of where I am at in my cycle but hopefully between the blood work (should have results today or tomorrow) and the transvaginal u/s next week I should have some kind of idea.

 

[zeni89]

@chattychar1990 I heard of acupuncture but not reflexology for fertility... but as you see it's worth a try, you have references in your own family good luck hun xxx

 

[zeni89]

I have heard AM has higher sperm count and do find if we bd am instead of pm seems to be more there but thats not always the case...
In this cycle i personally wanted to see new years in trying.. so sad right! haha so it was a midnight ish try! and tmi he produced a lot but was 2-3 day abstitance. i think it depends on your OH i roughly know now that 2 days in a row is about max my hubby can do, this month i found -1 was a lot 0 was medium +1 which was a injected try was 1mm so basically nothing and the random one at +2 was probably nothing as well as didnt notice anything there..

i think eventually you will learn roughly when you ovulate, i went from Ovulating cd:19/20 to now 16/17 but thats i think with weightloss and the supplement myo-iniositol i have taken now for 3 months

Oh I so hope so! I didn't know its actually better to bd in the morning! I prefer dtd in the evening but with oh's crazy schedule he is mostly too exhausted at night!
We bd every 2 days mostly, or if its everyday then it's am and next day pm... so i think enough time for spermies to get stronger again in between
It's hard for me to estimate ovulation, thats why i decided to temp this month.. I usually have ovulation pains twice in a cycle, around cd10 and around cd18, positive opk around cd11, 14 or 17.. so I am very very confused!

 

[chattychar1990]

@chattychar1990 I heard of acupuncture but not reflexology for fertility... but as you see it's worth a try, you have references in your own family good luck hun xxx

Thanks hun, i had never heard of it either before i had a chat with my SIL yesterday. I am actually super excited to get a session booked in now!
Looked it up on google and there are plenty of success stories so it gives me hope.

 

[chattychar1990]

Oh I so hope so! I didn't know its actually better to bd in the morning! I prefer dtd in the evening but with oh's crazy schedule he is mostly too exhausted at night!
We bd every 2 days mostly, or if its everyday then it's am and next day pm... so i think enough time for spermies to get stronger again in between
It's hard for me to estimate ovulation, thats why i decided to temp this month.. I usually have ovulation pains twice in a cycle, around cd10 and around cd18, positive opk around cd11, 14 or 17.. so I am very very confused!

Just keep up with the temping, the bding and the opks hun until you are confident that you did ov. Hoping you can work it out very quickly, its so stressful xx

 

[zeni89]

Just keep up with the temping, the bding and the opks hun until you are confident that you did ov. Hoping you can work it out very quickly, its so stressful xx

I know!! I swear if I knew how hard it will be to get preggo I would have never used protection before, just go by calculations of fertile days

 

[kristenann]

Oh I so hope so! I didn't know its actually better to bd in the morning! I prefer dtd in the evening but with oh's crazy schedule he is mostly too exhausted at night!
We bd every 2 days mostly, or if its everyday then it's am and next day pm... so i think enough time for spermies to get stronger again in between
It's hard for me to estimate ovulation, thats why i decided to temp this month.. I usually have ovulation pains twice in a cycle, around cd10 and around cd18, positive opk around cd11, 14 or 17.. so I am very very confused!

re: sperm etc my understanding is generally thru out cycle it needs to be kept fresh,so every 2-3 days BD.
However i spoke to a ivf clinic who told me when they do ivf on their patients they do it with a 2-3 day abstitance batch of sperm, which i found interesting and spoke volumes to me anyway. they also told me to try every day in fertile window.

 

[kristenann]

I know!! I swear if I knew how hard it will be to get preggo I would have never used protection before, just go by calculations of fertile days

and so true...! like all this time i thought the second i try for a baby, and the second i know when im ovulating theres no doubt or question i will get pregnant straight away, needless to say after cycle 1 i balled eyes out.. pathetic scheme of things!

 

[chattychar1990]

re: sperm etc my understanding is generally thru out cycle it needs to be kept fresh,so every 2-3 days BD.
However i spoke to a ivf clinic who told me when they do ivf on their patients they do it with a 2-3 day abstitance batch of sperm, which i found interesting and spoke volumes to me anyway. they also told me to try every day in fertile window.

Its strange because you get told different things. My friend had an ectopic pregnancy a couple of cycles ago and her consultant told her you should BD every other day from CD10-CD22.
But then the SMEP tells you to DTD every other day until OV and then every day for the next 3 days miss a day and then again!

 

[Lollypop79]

Oh Lolly, I’m sorry you’re feeling so down.

TTC is emotionally draining and I know sometimes I have to take a step back, we have a break every December so that we can just enjoy each other.

Take as much time as you two need. I’m here if you need to chat x

Thankyou so much. It’s so emotional. I thought I was doing alright but it’s just hit me this month.a few of our friends have just announced pregnancies and won’t shut up about it and i’m happy for them but i’m just so upset.
I’m going to follow you ladies on this testing thread though and hopefully be fresh for February xx

 

[Lollypop79]

Lolly it is so draining isn't it, and it's totally ok for you to be struggling. Sometimes it's the times that you aren't trying and so much more relaxed that it actually happens.
Here for you always x

Thank you so much. I’m sorry your having a tough AF, it is so draining. I thought was doing ok but not this month. I’m going to follow the ladies profess on this thread and will be back feeling better in February. It’s so lovely to have you girls to talk to xx

 

[xoxo]

It's interesting to hear from everyone about what they tell OH in regards to testing! I told my OH about my CP, as the positive on the IC was quite strong, so he went out and bought a frer and that was a strong positive too so there was no way i could have kept that from him.

But last cycle, i did a test and it was negative and i didn't bother telling him because like others have said, i didn't want him to be down either. And then when he was up for BDing, i told him i was on my period. But he never really asks if i came on my period or not, or if we should test. I just don't think it crosses his mind nearly as much as mine! lol

It seems like january has been a tough month for alot of us on here. I find the TWW the hardest, you try to be positive but then those niggling negative thoughts come creeping back in.

Keep us up to date with the reflexology, Char! I heard that acupuncture works well too. I started googling fertility crystals last night....! But it sounds like it has more of a placebo effect and the cynic in me wasn't too surprised.

 

[xoxo]

Thank you so much. I’m sorry your having a tough AF, it is so draining. I thought was doing ok but not this month. I’m going to follow the ladies profess on this thread and will be back feeling better in February. It’s so lovely to have you girls to talk to xx

I agree, i'm so glad i have this forum! Hope february is a better month for you, Lolly.

 

[chattychar1990]

Keep us up to date with the reflexology, Char! I heard that acupuncture works well too. I started googling fertility crystals last night....! But it sounds like it has more of a placebo effect and the cynic in me wasn't too surprised.

I will for sure keep you all updated. I have started a new thread and will update that once i have been too and also you lovely ladies
I haven't heard of fertility crystals but will look in to this now. Anything is worth a go surely? I am at the point where i will try anything xx

 

[kristenann]

Its strange because you get told different things. My friend had an ectopic pregnancy a couple of cycles ago and her consultant told her you should BD every other day from CD10-CD22.
But then the SMEP tells you to DTD every other day until OV and then every day for the next 3 days miss a day and then again!

Yeh i think general consensus is bd every 2 days, i just asked the ivf clinic we would need to use, how many days abstitance they use for the sperm used in ivf and she told me 2-3 days, also warned me against saving sperm however lol (i think she thought that was what i was getting at) and said they do recommend a try every day at positive opk basically. But she also didnt comment on the use of fertility lubricants.

 

[Sjf0709]

Aunt Flo is a bloody sneaky sod isn’t she??

Cycle Day 1 for me which came out of no were!!

 

[SugaryIris]

I will for sure keep you all updated. I have started a new thread and will update that once i have been too and also you lovely ladies
I haven't heard of fertility crystals but will look in to this now. Anything is worth a go surely? I am at the point where i will try anything xx

I know that feeling! I literally asked DH if he knows anyone who does voodoo (joking) because I’d give that a go!

 

[SugaryIris]

Aunt Flo is a bloody sneaky sod isn’t she??

Cycle Day 1 for me which came out of no were!!

Oh I’m sorry! Xx

 

[bonjourkatie]

Aunt Flo is a bloody sneaky sod isn’t she??

Cycle Day 1 for me which came out of no were!!

Ohhhh I’m sorry SJF
Fresh start now x

 

[chattychar1990]

I am so sorry Sjf xx