I just can't cope

[Kaylee2802]

Hi I found out I was pregnant on Monday, I just can't cope. I feel like eveuthing I am doing is wrong. I can't be exited I can't be happy. I just keep thinking what if I loose this one, what of it stops growing and I don't find out, what if something is wrong.. It's not just a little feeling, it's taking over me, I can't sleep I just want to cry.. What do I do?!

 

[lizsamuel80]

Hmmmm! I find myself begging when I'm in the shower, I've never felt so helpless. I know I'm doing everything on my end to prevent another MC so the only reason I would MC this time is something that has nothing to do with me. It's a very hard situation to be in but you need to take one day at a time. If you feel like something is up go speak to your doc.

 

[Kaylee2802]

I don't know why I feel it, I've got a few symptoms and nothing as a bad sign but just can't shift it. I found out at 4 weeks pregnant with my first but enjoyed every minute, I've read so many horror stories since I just can't settle about it. Atleast the oh is home tommorow , fingers crossed he can knock some sense into me x

 

[jojo3972]

bless ya have u had a previous loss? i know for one it does not help coming on these sorts of sites where u see pregnancies ending so early and late specialy wen ur anxious anyways,i have had 2 losses this past yr but previuosly had 6 healthy children no problem so losing 2 like that has devastated me and i am trying again but i have told myself when/if i get pregnant again i will try my best not to worry about what is out of my control and thats what it is u cannot control what goes on inside all we can do is do what we can from the outside,i have come to the conclusion that babies are lost for a reason and no matter what we do its not going to stop the decision what has probvably already been made when the egg and the spermy got together and that something was not right from that day well this is how i am going to get through another 1st trimester if i get the chance cos stress and worry is not gd for pregnancy, try to think happy possitive thought and get urself a early scan booked pay privately it will ease ur mind loads and best of luck xxx

 

[Kaylee2802]

I've had 2 mc, they were next to eacother as in the pregnancies but there was a gap between them as I was on contraception on the middle. .. I am really sorry for your losses. I don't think we could afford a private scan but I think I will probably be able to get one with the epu as my previos misscarage wasn't that long ago and still haven't been discharged. I hope so anyway, I go back the end of July when I am 8 weeks so fingers crossed they'll be kind x

 

[jojo3972]

oh u will defo get one with epu just ring them up and ask for one best a luck xx

 

[Kaylee2802]

Thankyou , I'm sure I dont need it.. Just feel like I do. Every little symptom is a panic x

 

[MrsDavenport]

Hi ladies,

This is my first time on here, and on a forum in general, so please forgive me if I ramble on....

My husband and I found out I am pregnant 5 days ago, I am currently 4 weeks + 5 days (going on LMC), and since then I have been all over the place

I am worrying over every little thing, we have been trying for almost 2 years so I was as much shocked as I was happy when we found out, now I am just plagued by fear, I have had some stretching, pulling (odd feelings) going on 'down there', and to be honest with you it's been years since I had my son, I just don't know if it is normal! I didn't find out I was pregnant with my son until I was gone 10 weeks so missed it all!

I really need to calm down, but I just can't seem to. I/we want this baby so much and would be heart broken if anything did happen.

So firstly can anyone tell me if the pulling/tight/bubble popping and general odd feelings are in fact normal at almost 5 weeks gone? I am not in pain, it is just a little uncomfortable, I have taken pregnancy tests every day since finding out and they have all remained positive (the last few being a little darker than before), my husband is a little concerned with my compulsive testing!

Secondly is there anyone else who is just as bliddy worried and anxious as me, if so how do I try and ease my nerves, I want to remain relaxed so I am not stressed, the last thing I want to do is stress myself out so much I MC.

Last little thing, I have had a few MC in the past, so I would imagine this has not helped!

Thank you for listening to me go on, I hope to hear from someone soon

 

[jojo3972]

Hiya yes the stretching pulling weired goings on down there are quite normal so don't worry,u just have to go with the flow if u can and take each day as it comes and possibly get an early scan if u have had previous mcs if not get a private one booked for around 7 weeks and gd luck xx

 

[lizsamuel80]

The pulling and stretching feeling is normal. I like you didn't find out about my first until almost 10weeks so when all that started with my second I freaked out. I didn't have it with my last pregnancy and thougt that was good thing but no it wasn't in the end as Ihad a mc. I had a lot of it last week and savoured it. Just try and take one day at a time a focus on other things like 3days until the next episode of true blood well that's what i'm trying to do.

 

[jojo3972]

lmao ohhh ur a true blood fan are ya do ya like twilight ?? i do im a proper twihard fan hehe im just trying to stay possitive liz and hope n prey i got lucky n cought my egg first go after mc : we shall see what dpo did u test ?

 

[lizsamuel80]

Hell yeah I'm not a true Twihard like some other people I wouldn't wait in line to see Rob and kristen because seriously they are not what I imagined and I think they are wrong for the part. I'm actually Team Jasper a guy who can get me in the mood every time especially while TTC then make me relax during the first 12 weeks would be wonderful right now. But the books OMG I got them on a friday night and finished all 4 by Monday @10am my poor kids ate frozen pizza and ham and cheese toasties for the whole week end.

 

[Happyfeet]

Just wanted to say that we're all in the same boat with the worry (I've had 4 m/c - 5 if I count my very first pregnancy, before my daughters - and a blighted ovum), I'm currently in my 9th pregnancy, 6+5 and I'm spotting browny crud. I am freaking out with every twinge, pull, 'wet' feeling, everyday I think that it's 'that day'.

I've got a scan booked for Monday morning to see what's going on, just call the EPU if you're worried, they'll see you to try and put your mind at ease.

I'm team Jasper too, what a guy! And the slightly southern american accent, bliss lol.

Good luck to us all!!

 

[Kaylee2802]

U can't self refer to my epu u have to be referred by your gp, my panic is getting worse with everything I do today.. Im having what I think could be cramps but as I've always suffered with extreme pain due to endo I don't know if it's meant to feel Like this or not.. Now it just feels really
Tender .. It's Guna be a long wait x

 

[Happyfeet]

My stomach feels tender too. Has done for a while now, but I'm still here, hanging on.

How annoying that you can't self refer, is your GP sympathetic? Just pop along and explain that you've been having some cramping and I can't see why they wouldn't refer you. I know it's not easy, but please try to relax, you'll drive yourself crazy otherwise. I've started taking my pregnancy on a day to day basis - "I am pregnant today, I can't do any more than that". The days are soon passing and before we know it, we'll be at this milestone, that milestone etc. Really hope this is a sticky baby for you!

 

[Sue Clare]

I am 4 weeks pregnant and found out last Weds. It's our 3rd child, I have 2 perfectly healthy girls aged 10 and 8, I had 2 miscarriages over the past 2 years and I'm stressing it's gonna happen again, I'm not having any nausea or any symptoms apart some horrendous fatigue and quite a bit of normal discharge. Is it normal to not have many symptoms at this stage? It was such a long time ago that I had my youngest and I really can't remember. Xx

 

[Happyfeet]

Oh yeah it's totally normal. A lot of women don't start getting much in the way of symptoms until 6 weeks or so, some get them early, some get none at all or just one or two. With my first Daughter I had achey breasts from just over 3 weeks pregnant, then the nausea, tiredness etc followed. With my second Daughter I had virtually nothing apart from constipation.

There are no hard fast rules I'm afraid

 

[Kaylee2802]

My doctors are useless its a 3 weeks wait for an
Appointment unless its an emergency and pregnancy is not an emergency lol so i made an appointment when i foud out 2 weeks ago and still have a week and 2 days til my appointment so pretty stuck unless i go to a and e x

 

[Merfairy]

Hi I can relate to what your saying I am recently pregnant and had two MC so I am dreading losing this one to. I cannot seem to turn my thinking of I just want to know whether its okay or not (as the case may be). I really hope that it all turns out good chick and stressing doesn't actually change anything is what I have learned, so I am trying hard not to, but it is easier said then done I know.

Hugs; my thoughts are with you x