Guess I belong here for now

[tootie]

Oh clover I am so sorry. How truly awful for you, sending you lots of hugs xxxx

 

[Clover]

I've had a phone call from the nurse at EPU and the Dr has said it's ok for me to have Surgical management, so I'm booked in for Thursday afternoon, going for preoperative assessment tomorrow
So by Thursday evening this will all be over with and hopefully back to work on Monday

I've looked at necklaces and the one I like is quite expensive but Ive looked at cheaper ones and haven't found one similar so I'm going to get it when i get paid

xxxxxxx



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[J9nine]

Big hugs love, thinking of you xxx

 

[Clover]

I'm thinking of getting November birthstone on the necklace too but wanted to keep It simple

xxxxxx

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[J9nine]

Oh that's so pretty xx

 

[Emily0505]

That's beautiful hun!

A very fitting tribute to your chocolate chip.

XX

 

[Clover]

It looks big on the picture but it's actually quite small, it's called baby bean necklace, and even though they wouldn't give me a picture I saw my little chip today and she/he looked like that, a little blob in a bean

xxxxx

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[Charlotte9]

Gail, its so beautiful!!!

You will wake up on Friday morning and its a new start sweetie! Remember you bought a wish journal a couple months ago? Its the time to start using it now

xxxxx

 

[Slb24]

Aaww Hun. That necklace is lovely I'm sorry your going through this Hun. I hope every thing goes okay on Thursday and you get your rainbow soon xx

 

[Jacko]

Clover that's beautiful. Such a lovely idea. I had a cry when I saw it because that's the shape I saw at the early scan. Where did you get it from? X

 

[Clover]

Thanks girls
I'm trying to hold it together, sometimes I wake up and ive forgotton for a second then I remember, my baby is still inside me so I'm finding it hard to let go just yet,

hey Jacko, Aww hunny, I can totally understand how you feel I cried when I saw it too and I had the same reason for chosing the necklace charm as it is very similar to what I saw on my scans, I fell in love with the design and simplicity as soon as i saw it, there are loads of other necklaces, rings bracelets online if you go on ebay or Google
This is the website fot the baby bean necklace http://alexandrasangelgifts.co.uk/baby-memorial-gifts-3/pastelprint/baby-bean-jewellery/



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[Demerera]

Aw Gail, sorry it's taken me ages to catch up, been in a bit of a crappy place myself, though nothing compared to how you're feeling. You know my view on it. I've had the op twice and both times it worked with no problems and I was right as rain in a day or so, physically at least! I'm glad you're doing it that way, as I believe it's the least traumatic x x I LOVE the necklace, it's gorgeous and will be very special!! Can you book a holiday or something as a family to help you heal emotionally too? That's what I've just done! You honestly will feel much more able to get to grips with this after Thursday. It will never leave you but you'll start to live a more normal life again. I really am thinking of you lots and here to talk any time x x x x

 

[J9nine]

there is some gorgeous jewellery there, so beautiful and fitting. Etsy also have some lovely things for miscarriage and loss.

https://www.etsy.com/uk/listing/818...69b32f494794f7928caade59ec8d8ec1dd38:81867542

etc..

 

[Clover]

Spoke to my mum yesterday
She really upset me, I was discussing the baby with her and I was saying that it had stopped growing and never developed into a fetus, so she said Oh well that's ok then it wasn't really a baby then it was just a bunch of cells
Wtf?? It is a baby to me and im so angry and upset

xxxxxx

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[SoObsessed]

Clover I'm so sorry.
I'm also sorry your mum upset you. Could that be her way of dealing with it? I'm sure that doesn't make it any easier but people deal with things in different ways.
I'm sure she's finding it tough seeing her daughter going through this.
Huge hugs clover xx

 

[J9nine]

Many people don't fully understand miscarriage and loss and how it affects people. Try not to let it upset you, your Mum is probably just trying to help in her own way and not realising that what she said would upset you. xx

 

[Clementine]

Hi Clover I've had surgical management twice with a single baby & twins at 11.5 weeks and 10weeks, both times I had no problems, very light spotting afterwards, physically it was fine & for me it was the recommended option but I also thought it was less traumatic, the emotional side sorta stays with you, it isn't as overwhelming now after 2 years but it is in my heart and I remember my little angels all the time. I found most people don't know what to say about MC it's such a personal thing. I'm self employed so I just threw myself into work. Sending you a big hug xxxx

 

[Demerera]

My mum said exactly that phrase to me on more than one occasion. I think she was trying to help, but people don't really get it... It wasn't just the physical embryo, it's the love you already have for her, hope, dreams, you become a mum the moment you get that bfp and nothing will take that away.

Hope you're doing as well as can be expected today Hun x X X x

 

[Eryinera]

Oh hun I've just decides to come back here and cough this msg I'm so sorry big hugs x

 

[sarl1967]

Don't come on to post much trying not to ttc obsess , Ive never had surgical management (or medical) I was lucky in that way (if u can b ) I miscarried all my 3 losses naturally just wanted to say hope it goes ok for u - Some people are a bit tactless when it comes to miscarriages and what they think is a baby and what they think u should do and think my brother in law told me after my third (second whilst ttc number 2) that we owt to stop ttc as id loose them well by 2nd princess proved him wrong - I admire your strength threw this process and wish you every luck getting your take home rainbow baby in the future xx