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Discussion in 'Coping with Miscarriage & Loss' started by Clover, Apr 6, 2016.

  1. Clover

    Clover Well-Known Member

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    Hi Girls
    I've had a scan today and my baby was dated at 5 weeks instead of 7/8 weeks that it should have been and I'm now bleeding heavily
    I have a blood test tomorrow to check my hcg levels but I know I've lost my baby
    I was TTC for 2 years and these past few weeks of being pregnant have been so amazing I have been so happy and will never forget my baby

    xxxxxx
     
  2. russellmuscle

    russellmuscle Well-Known Member

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    Sorry that your here hun, but as with the rest of the sections on this forum the loss section is extremely supportive whatever the circumstances.

    I hope in time you'll feel much better.

    Look after yourself.

    xxxx
     
  3. Emily0505

    Emily0505 Well-Known Member

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    I'm so sorry that you are here hun.

    It's so very unfair.

    Big hugs sweetheart.

    XX
     
  4. PeanutButter

    PeanutButter Well-Known Member

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    I'm so sorry :( life gets so shit sometimes. Sending you hugs :hugs:
    Take care, and rest up xx
     
  5. Tonks82

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    Hi Clover, I soooooooooo don't want to see you here life is so fucking cruel.

    Your an amazing lady, stay strong.

    We will all get a rainbow babies that I know for sure!

    Lots of love

    Xxx
     
  6. fairyprincess

    fairyprincess Well-Known Member

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    I'm so sorry to hear this Clover, take care of yourself x
     
  7. Clover

    Clover Well-Known Member

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    Thanks girls
    I'm still in shock but it's slowly sinking in
    I just want to know what happens now, I know I have to have another blood test tomorrow and it will show my hcg has dropped, I will tell them the findings of my private scan , but what happens after that? Do I just let things progress naturally or do I have to get addmited? I really don't want to go into hospital as I'm on holiday and miles away from home
    I'm bleeding with small clots but it's no heavier than a full flow AF I expect it to get worse but when ?

    Sorry for all the questions

    xxxxxx
     
  8. Tonks82

    Tonks82 Well-Known Member

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    Hun you may pass it naturally.

    Not sure what will happen at the hospital I guess they will re scan you though won't they?
    If they scan I think it's standard procedure if it measures under 20mm then they have to rescan you with me it was 1 week later. I miscarried naturally.

    I hope this info on my miss carriage helps;
    I spotted on the Wednesday was bleeding by the Thursday and the cramps progressively increased and I passed it on the Saturday. It was 4 days but I know they are all different. It wasn't too painful nothing painkillers couldn't really sort out.

    Big hugs honey xxxx
     
  9. schell

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    Clover hun I'm so sorry for your loss. I understand what you're going through and I'm here if you need me. Personally for me it was only ever like a very heavy AF. I know you are a few weeks ahead of me so not sure what the difference is. I did a negative preg test and had been bleeding heavily with cramps so the doc said he was confident it was a complete miscarriage and nothing further was needed. Your body should deal with it I guess but you might need to go back later to check all ok. Thinking of you xxx
     
  10. Clover

    Clover Well-Known Member

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    Thanks for the information Tonks sweetie :)
    I had spotting yesterday and this morning but only very light brown cm but this afternoon it's like a heavy AF, I will have to see what the bloods reveal tomorrow I guess and get the advice from the gyne Dr I saw yesterday
    They may scan but they didn't have any appointments so I doubt it

    Schell thanks so much hun, I can't believe we're both here going through the same thing :(
    My pregnancy only measured 5 weeks today at my scan instead of 8 weeks that it should of done so I may pass it easier than I would if it was a 8 week pregnancy, that's the only blessing I suppose
    Really hope your ok too, how are you feeling? hope we both get our little Rainbow babies soon

    xxxxxxx
     
  11. Emily0505

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    From what I've read on here, different hospitals do things slightly differently.

    My first loss is incredibly similar to yours. I had brown cm which went red. Had a scan at epu which showed me as 5-6 weeks when I should have been 8+4. I started bleeding enough to need a pantyliner a couple of days later and passed baby 11 days after my scan.

    My hospital would not take any action at my first scan as it is their policy to rescan after 14 days to ensure they are certain that the pregnancy is not progressing. I didn't have any bloods taken though, so potentially that may make a difference.

    I'm sure you'll get more answers tomorrow when you go for your bloods. Maybe write them down as you think of them so you don't forget.

    If you are already bleeding then your body may already be starting to deal with things naturally, but you'll know more tomorrow I'm sure.

    Be kind to yourself sweetheart and take comfort in your family. Miscarriage is a frightening, distressing and awful experience and I'm so sorry that you are going through this.

    Sleep tight Chocolate Chip

    XX
     
  12. schell

    schell Well-Known Member

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    I can't believe it either. Seems like maybe it happened for us both at the same time too :( I'm doing ok hun, I'm sad but trying not to think about it to be honest. I'm glad if it was going to happen it was early on. I'm gutted for you after TTC for so long. You'll get there though, we both will. Just put yourself first for now and take it easy xxx
     
  13. Tonks82

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    Clover I was 8 wks to the day I passed it so it all started at 7+4 for me similar to yourself. Mine was empty so not sure if it makes a difference.

    I would just ask them for some good painkillers at the hospital I was very very anxious regarding the pain but it wasn't as bad as expected.

    Before they would consider medical management I'm sure they would rescan.

    I'm so fucking angry that it comes to this. My heart bleeds for you and all the other lovely ladies that have gone through this.

    Xxx
     
  14. russellmuscle

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    Mine happened natrually. I had a big bleed and passed a big clot/or baby. But then blood was heavy then it went thin for a couple weeks. I got a scan a day after the passing and it was empty. So the clots and heavy flow will cler everything but if your repeat bloods show hcg not fully dropping then that may indicate residual but it sounds as though its happening natrually for you.

    Not sure on your hospital procedures. GP may just do the repeat bloods, my epu offered to have me back but I just got them did at the nurse a couple week after and theyd dropped to 0.

    Its a horrible process. Youll get through it your a wee toughy.

    xxxx
     
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    Shit, I've just seen this! I'm so sorry Clover xx
     
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    Hello hun, I am so sorry you are going through this :(
    In September I had a loss and the baby was dated 5 weeks. I passed it all naturally and it was no worse than a heavy period....they told me that would be the case as I was so early and baby so small. I had one clot that was about the size of my baby finger, the rest was just flow.
    As you are bleeding I would imagine they will tell you to just go home and rest and let nature take its course but that if you develop any bad pain or it goes on for too long then to head back to EPU/A&E

    Thinking of you x
     
  17. Clover

    Clover Well-Known Member

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    Hi Girls thanks for all the messages I can't express how much everyone's support and kindness has helped me these past few days

    I have stopped bleeding now but I bled heavily yesterday afternoon and evening
    Nothing overnight or this morning

    Going for repeat bloods at 11.30 and I will tell them about the private scan I had

    My 13 year old daughter is helping me through this, she has been such a strong support and I feel closer to her than I did, we argue a lot at home but this week she has been amazing

    I don't think they will do a repeat scan as I had one yesterday, I will let you all know what they say

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  18. PeanutButter

    PeanutButter Well-Known Member

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    They should do a scan shouldn't they? To make sure everythings came out xx Good luck today hun x
     
  19. MrsS15

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    I'm so sorry again Gail, so gutted to see you in here.

    I passed some large clots and bled heavily for a few days. The bleeding slowed and continued for around a week. It sounds like you are passing everything naturally!

    Let us know how you got on at the hospital. Been thinking of you loads xxx
     
  20. Momoftheboo

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    I'm so sad and sorry to see you (and anyone really) in here Clover. I'm sorry for your loss and your grief and your pain. No one deserves to have this happen to them and I really hate that it does! You're just so brave, you really are! :hug: xx
     

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