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louise2610
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Hope to see your BFP very soon Gail. Thinking of you & wishing you all the very best. Xxx
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My thoughts are with you Clover. Im so sorry your going through this I have been following your posts for weeks. Xx
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So sorry, Clover 
Thinking of you.
Struggling to understand why they still cannot give you a bit more information, but at least you have a little more information now.
��Someone else above said your baby is never really gone.
It was there and it was part of you. That doesn't ever go away or doesn't mean it wasn't real or didn't happen.
So sorry again. Xxxxxxx
Thinking of you. Struggling to understand why they still cannot give you a bit more information, but at least you have a little more information now.
��Someone else above said your baby is never really gone.
It was there and it was part of you. That doesn't ever go away or doesn't mean it wasn't real or didn't happen.
So sorry again. Xxxxxxx
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So sorry Clover. Huge hugs xx
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Gutted to read this gail. Was so confident that you were going to get good news.
Thoughts with you and ur family xxx
Thoughts with you and ur family xxx
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So so sorry to see this post hun 
sending you lots of love and hugs xxx
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Thanks for all your kind messages
I've spent the afternoon crying , my husband is worried about me, ive told him its just my way of grieving, he doesn't cry he just looks sad,
I'm also very scared of what's going to happen, he doesn't want to talk about it
I haven't miscarried yet and I'm just waiting for it to happen, I don't want it to happen but I know I can't move on till it does
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I've spent the afternoon crying , my husband is worried about me, ive told him its just my way of grieving, he doesn't cry he just looks sad,
I'm also very scared of what's going to happen, he doesn't want to talk about it
I haven't miscarried yet and I'm just waiting for it to happen, I don't want it to happen but I know I can't move on till it does
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Don't post much but wanted to add extra reassurance ive had three miscarriages and although none were pleasant when they were happening my body felt like it knew how to deal with them and get me threw it . I went on to have my littlest princess after the third and we are TTC now . It will make u more wary when TTC but it also will give u a strength that only people who have lost will understand and if ur like me it will make u more determined.
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Gail I am so sorry, I honestly thought it would be good news today, I am so upset for you. My thoughts are with you and your family xxx
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You are within your rights to asks about your options and discuss d&c if you want to go down that route. It really isn't that bad, and you might want to try to understand if they'll consider it next week if there's no growth. It's your choice and everyone feels differently about what they want, but I would opt for that every time.
Thinking of you so so much... Huge hugs X X X X
Thinking of you so so much... Huge hugs X X X X
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Gail, hope this is soon in the past whichever way it goes and you can move on and enjoy your life again. Defo have a glass of wine to relax for a moment xxx
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I've had both a natural mc and an erpc.
If, god forbid, I should suffer another loss, then I would opt for the erpc again without hesitation. It was quick, relatively painless and my body got back to normal really quickly.
Don't be frightened hun. You will be ok I promise.
Make sure you've got plenty of pads and painkillers so you're prepared if things do happen. I used the always night time pads and found they were fine.
I think the emotional side of a mc is worse than the physical, or at least it was for me anyway.
There is the Miscarriage Association that you and hubby could call for support if you need it.
Thinking of you sweetheart. I know exactly what you are going through, just walking around waiting to miscarry. It's a lonely and frightening experience and can all be so overwhelming. Look after yourself and do what you need to, to get yourself through this.
XX
If, god forbid, I should suffer another loss, then I would opt for the erpc again without hesitation. It was quick, relatively painless and my body got back to normal really quickly.
Don't be frightened hun. You will be ok I promise.
Make sure you've got plenty of pads and painkillers so you're prepared if things do happen. I used the always night time pads and found they were fine.
I think the emotional side of a mc is worse than the physical, or at least it was for me anyway.
There is the Miscarriage Association that you and hubby could call for support if you need it.
Thinking of you sweetheart. I know exactly what you are going through, just walking around waiting to miscarry. It's a lonely and frightening experience and can all be so overwhelming. Look after yourself and do what you need to, to get yourself through this.
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You will get through it.
I am not saying it's going to be something you'll not be traumatised by, but you will be ok. You have three beautiful other children as well as this one and they will help you through it.
My cats helped me with mine - sounds silly but it's true. It feels like you'll never cope but you are obviously such a strong person, you'll come through the other side.
My mc changed me as a person. I didn't want it to happen and would never obviously want it to happen again, but I think I learnt a lot about myself on reflection. Not the way I wanted to learn new things about myself, but I will never ever forget my first baby. Whatever anyone says, it was a baby and it was ours.
Again, on reflection, I am so glad that I took the time off work that I needed. It helped me to grieve and the MA volunteers were just superb. I had so many questions.
Take the time to grieve and have time out from the outside world if you need to do so.
Other than that, yes, make sure you have pads, even when you think you don't need them anymore.
Try to get some sleep tonight.
Still thinking of you. Xxxx
I am not saying it's going to be something you'll not be traumatised by, but you will be ok. You have three beautiful other children as well as this one and they will help you through it.
My cats helped me with mine - sounds silly but it's true. It feels like you'll never cope but you are obviously such a strong person, you'll come through the other side.
My mc changed me as a person. I didn't want it to happen and would never obviously want it to happen again, but I think I learnt a lot about myself on reflection. Not the way I wanted to learn new things about myself, but I will never ever forget my first baby. Whatever anyone says, it was a baby and it was ours.
Again, on reflection, I am so glad that I took the time off work that I needed. It helped me to grieve and the MA volunteers were just superb. I had so many questions.
Take the time to grieve and have time out from the outside world if you need to do so.
Other than that, yes, make sure you have pads, even when you think you don't need them anymore.
Try to get some sleep tonight.
Still thinking of you. Xxxx
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Thanks Emily
I really needed that message thanks hun, I'm scared but have a feeling I will be ok
We are going away on Thursday till Sunday, we will be near a hospital if we need it
Just want to get away, hubby agreed, my girls are staying with their Grandma we are taking my little boy with us as he's only 4
My daughters birthday is Wed so thats why we can't go till Thursday
Thankyou to everyone, sending you all big hugs my lovely friends
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I really needed that message thanks hun, I'm scared but have a feeling I will be ok
We are going away on Thursday till Sunday, we will be near a hospital if we need it
Just want to get away, hubby agreed, my girls are staying with their Grandma we are taking my little boy with us as he's only 4
My daughters birthday is Wed so thats why we can't go till Thursday
Thankyou to everyone, sending you all big hugs my lovely friends
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Siamesecatlady I really appreciate your message hun,
I will get through this and I am so grateful for my 3 amazing children and realise how lucky I am
I think this will change me as a person, I have had problems in the past with deppression and anxiety and feel it creeping back but hope I will come our of this stronger and more understanding of others going through similar, I would never ever wish this pain on anyone and I really wish it had never happened, but it has and I need to come to terms with it
I will ring the Miscarriage association if I need to, I think it would probably help speaking to someone other than Doctors and nurses
Thankyou for your kindness I will never forget it hun
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I will get through this and I am so grateful for my 3 amazing children and realise how lucky I am
I think this will change me as a person, I have had problems in the past with deppression and anxiety and feel it creeping back but hope I will come our of this stronger and more understanding of others going through similar, I would never ever wish this pain on anyone and I really wish it had never happened, but it has and I need to come to terms with it
I will ring the Miscarriage association if I need to, I think it would probably help speaking to someone other than Doctors and nurses
Thankyou for your kindness I will never forget it hun
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