Doctor said ive had a miscarriage - but im still hopeful?

[Mummy2toddler]

Thanks bunny I'm so angry with my boyfriend soon to be ex going the hospital with affect my son oh for god sake he wants get a grip of himself! My son is on his way home now from his granddadS typical when I'm a bit upset and annoyed and he's sitting in his car outside. I hate my doctors & as soon as I get answers I am swapping doctors

 

[cosmicgirl]

Maybe get a taxi to the hospital if your oh wont take you?
I do think you should stop testing though because it won't tell you anything and will just add to the stress.

 

[Mummy2toddler]

My boyfriend took me in the end. And taxi would of cost me £15 pound which right now is for my bills. I have been the walk in no urine infection no blood in my urine & negative test. So most probably a chemical or something :-/

 

[BunnyN]

Sorry to hear that, did they say what the pain is from?

 

[Mummy2toddler]

They said it could be muscle pain from carrying heavy things but I haven't carried anything heavy and the pain is awful and is pounding in my back ive just woke up and it's started already. Or they said it could be my period arriving. My boyfriend isn't hopeful now at all to be honest .. Still stuck in limo. Signs don't look good but they said if it was an ectopic I would be in agony & when they felt my stomach it would of hurt. Just strange how I'm definitely getting positives at home they aren't dark but you can see them very clearly. I felt like an idiot when it comeback negative in case they thought I was lying lol x

 

[Mummy2toddler]

So my iC line was slightly darker last night I tested when I got home. I've got 2 frer 1 cb digital cant afford any more as I've spent a fortune so gonna use frer tomorrow cb digital Sunday if my period doesn't arrive by then. Not sure if its a good or bad sign I've had no period? Cause if I'm not pregnant I want it hurry up ASAP

just wanted edit my post.

Pains in my back is much worse today to the point where ive had to ask my parents if they can have my son for a few hours cause its killing. My mum said it could be a cold in my back? I just dont know.

Just had 2 paracetemol so hope it touches the pain. I did another IC this morning second fmu and it looks darker. Will post pictures when i get chance.

 

[Iwant3]

this is crazy - what sensitivity are the tests you are using at home - how can you get good lines on an ic at home and neg on a hospital test?

and pain in your back from AF doesn't usually get to the point of agony!

I really hope you find out what's going on soon as you must be going out of your mind with worry, confusion and frustration as well as the pain!

bug hugsx

 

[cosmicgirl]

Stop testing!
Go to A&E, walk in centres can only do limited testing and give limited care.

 

[Mummy2toddler]

Thank you iwant3. I am confused i am getting negative too because its not like i am getting a very faint bfp where i have to tilt it in the light etc :-/ i just dont know. They told me yesterday to wait 2 weeks .. but 2 weeks is a long time, and its ok for them to say wait 2 weeks im sure they'd think differently if they were in my position.

Pain has eased a little now but i dont want to keep taking tablets if i am stilll pregnant because its not good is it really :-/ plus while i was in my tww i had tablets because i had awful toothache, i had a tooth out just before i was due to ovulate, then another tooth started.

I got my bfp last thursday and it got to the point where i had to go the dentist last friday because i was up all night, crying, taking tablets, then getting up with my 2 year old son and i was so drained i just wanted sleep, and its not fair on him.

I just hope this hasnt causeed the problem as i told them i was pregnant and she said they say its safe to have anesthetic and i basically had a temp filling because tablets werent touching the pain at all.

oh i feel horrible now. I really hope to god me going the dentist hasnt caused all this problem and possibly problems with my pregnancy if i am still pregnant :l

i dont think im having a chemical now .. im soo confused its unreal. My boyfriend thinks im not pregnant now and i dunno what to think. I only have one cb digital & 2 frer and i want to wait because i cant keep affording tests ive already used 3 boxes of 3 cb digital and 2 boxes of 5 frer and i one box of 2 frer left.

Arghh i dont know what to thinkk or say now im just confused, maybe i am still pregnant, but its gonna lead to a mc? I dont know.

I actually remember when i had my mc my lines went fainter, and i thought it was a chemical then too. I think my pregnancy went to 7-8 weeks .. and i bled. But with that pregnancy my cb digitals went up fine as i remember.

I havent done frer today i will do that tomorrow, and i have done ic as they are cheap, but i think its got darker. But after reading some stories online it doesnt mean anything. I just wish i knew .. of course ill be gutted if it is a chemical or miscarriage or im not pregnant but we can go forward, and ill be upset, but at least ill know. Sometimes its the not knowing plus its so frustrating because the only way i can get answers is a blood test ... but they wont do me one.

 

[Mummy2toddler]

Cosmic ill keep testing though .. cause its hard not too its temptation. And i didnt go A&E because i was looking for my local A&E post code for our sat nav .. and it said that only go unless its emergency, and i dont think they will call this an emergency. Argh

I was gonna phone my doctors today ask see if i can see a nurse but then i dont know if they will do hcg blood test and if i go and they wont do one they may say ive wasted there time. I felt bad enough going the walk in last night its a walk in hospital and i saw a nurse and student nurse.

 

[Mummy2toddler]

Here are my tests from last night.

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so its not ded dark, but its not faint even where i have to squint etc .. so im not sure why doctors/hospital i got bfn?

that was 17dpo

 

[Mummy2toddler]

this mornings test to compare 18dpo second fmu of today

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So i think my test looks darket today and its the darkest bfp ive had on this test so far?

Not had any bleeding or spotting or brown or anything. AF 5 days late now


this is yesterday frer 17dpo after 10 minutes ..



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also i took apart from my cb digital yesterday you can barely see the line for 1-2, and where as the other day it was very clear when i took the test apart?

So im so confused.

 

[knopk@]

I would go to a&e hun and demand they run tests/refer you to the EPU

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[Mummy2toddler]

Thanks knopk, i feel stupid for going though to be honest. I felt stupid for going last night and i feel like im wasting there time because alls i get is a negative test .. but im getting positive at home which is what i dont understand

can it be too early at 18dpo to diagnose a ectopic pregnancy? she said yesterday it wont be because when she felt my stomach it didnt hurt. And i would be in absolute agony, but im still wondering if i am having one ... just because ive read hcg does rise but not as much as a normal pregnancy. I am wondering if my hcg is rising like an ectopic but not enough for a healthy pregnancy?

 

[LYLLJellyTots]

Them test are deffo positive hun, you need some answers, if needs be show them the pics of your tests on your phone and demand blood tests and tell them about the pain xxxx big hugs xxxx

 

[knopk@]

Your hcg seems to be rising slowly. You need blood tests. I would insist they did a blood test. Their dip sticks arent as sensitive so it might not show up. You might not be as far along to be in massive pain but i would think it needs monitoring. Only blood test will.show a true picture.

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[MrsRoberts]

Hun, something isn't right here.
If I were you I would got to A&E or the EPU. Take with you some of your positives and also take with you some unused ones and see if you can do a sample and show them the dip from you.

They need to start taking you seriously. And at least it will free you from Limbo. As the worst thing is just waiting around.

x

 

[Mummy2toddler]

Thanks for your replies I don't want go the A&E and be told I'm wasting there time I can't be seen at epu without a referral either. I did another test today my frer I caved in :/ and its the darkest I've had this cycle so far .. And I did my cb digital :/ and got 1-2 still. I've read ectopic hcg can go up and down? My tests went dark light the same then dark today? X

 

[cosmicgirl]

A and E will never tell anyone who has concerns that they are wasting their time. These pains may not even be pregnancy related, there may be something else wrong so testing over and over is not going to tell you anything you don't already know.
Lines are always variable anyway. Different times of day, different brands, different dilution of pee, even looking at them in different light. So it's not telling you anything other than if you're pregnant or not, and you know that already.
If you are worried about these pains, go to A and E. If not, well you could try to ignore them and hope they pass. I wouldn't recommend that but as all the others have said numerous times, you need to be seen and sitting at home testing is not getting to the bottom of it is it.
Sorry to be blunt but that's the advice I'd give to anyone.

 

[Ammdaz]

Hi Hun, I've been following your story and I typed a long reply the other night then my ipad went flat before I got chance to post it.

It must be horrible to be stuck in limbo, I can understand totally why you are so worried and confused. Unfortunately none of us on here can tell you what's going on, we can only give you advice on how to try and sort things out. The other ladies have already given you some good advice which I think it would be wise for you to follow. Of course we are all here for support but we can't do much more than that, you're going to have to stand your ground with the doctors and do the hard part in getting answers yourself.

I know you've said you don't want to stop testing but honestly Hun, it's not doing you any favours. Yes technically the lines should be getting darker but its not an exact science, you're testing at different times of the day with different tests so you're bound to get differing lines, you can't read too much into it and you're going to drive yourself crazy trying to analyse all the lines. If I'm honest, and I'm not trying to upset you just trying to give you some answers, I would have thought by now the lines should be a bit stronger but you never know, it's still early days and all could be fine.

I strongly strongly suggest you do what the other girls have said and either go back to the docs and demand some better help or take yourself to A&E. You're in pain that's causing you distress and not improving. There's a possibility you have a pregnancy that is not progressing normally and this needs monitoring. And you're also understandably very upset and distressed which is not healthy mentally. All of these things need sorting out so do not think that you're going to be wasting anyone's time by seeking answers. You know yourself that the only way you're going to feel better/get some closure is by getting some bloods done so don't torture yourself any longer, take the steps to get this done.

Wishing you all the best and I hope this post hasn't come across harshly, I just want to help xxx