Doctor said ive had a miscarriage - but im still hopeful?

[5Element]

I am so sorry you are still hanging around in limbo - if the pain is so bad I would just present yourself at A&E and INSIST on getting checked propely, after all you are pg! You have had pain now for so long and it really sounds like an infection. A new doc doesnt sound like a bad idea either. FX hun for you and keep us updated! Will be thinking of you! XX

 

[Mummy2toddler]

Thanks ladies, well just done a cb digital pregnant 1-2 still. I am 17dpo today and a week since i got my bfp. I am just gonna wait for my period to hurry up now xx

my mum went the doctors today (same one as me) for herself anyway she spoke to the doctor and she basically said wait until next week and go down if nothings different. May go down as im worried about ectopic xx

 

[leean10]

I would say hon that it still sounds positive. If it was chemical then you wouldn't still have so much hCG in your system. When those tests say 1-2 weeks then you are already 3-4 so you just got to give it chance.

If no bleeding etc happens over the weekend, try another test and see what that says but I would get yourself checked out as it sounds like you have an infection which is whats causing your pain.

Its not over until you get a BFN but personally I wouldn't torture myself everyday by testing, just see if your doctor is proven wrong.

Good luck hon x

 

[Mummy2toddler]

Thanks for your reply leean. Uh im crying now ..... i just wish i knew instead of giving myself false hope and not knowing its on my mind 24/7 my boyfriend says im obsessed ... not obsessed im a worrier. And after having a miscarriage & chemical its so hard not to think badly.

I worried a lot when i was pregnant with my son ... i did the complete same then, i didnt freak so much as id had no losses then.. but i tested everyday, ive spent loads on pregnancy tests alone. I've used 6 cb digital in past week , just brought 2 more. I had 2 boxes of 5 frer and a box of 2 . I've had internet cheapies too. Oooh i hate being in limbo so badly.

I opened a cb digital the other day .. i know youre not meant to, and a line was there faint but there, and ive done the same today too ... and its barely there argh i am just driving myself crazy im sick of comparing pregnancy tests too i am just going mad.

And ive got the pain in my back still its like a pounding pain at the moment ... cant get in the doctors today either as we have to ring up first thing at 8am to get a same day appointment and i cant ring up today and be in tomorrow as they changed the way they do there bookings now

I was wondering can i drop off a urine sample tomorrow .. without making an appointment? As it only takes them 2 minutes to do a dip test and it would save them an appointment too. I swear ive done it before, i cant remember :/ i might ring up and ask.

One funny thing is .. not pregnancy related but my mum went the doctors today as shes got an infection in her throat and ear, and its causing pains in her head. The doctor give her some antibiotics .. shes ended up with antibiotics for an STI lol!

Can i also rant please ..... families ... sorry not loss related .... just need to get it off my chest

I have a cousin who is 16 and she got pregnant 14 and half ... and her son is one in february, and shes due another boy in february too. And my grandad come up on xmas day to see my sons xmas presents and he was saying how shes been at his house (as they stayed for 3 nights with her mum, herself n her son) and she has hardly bothered with her son!! shes always on her phone. Yet shes always plastering on facebook i love my babies so much, plastering on facebook how much you love your child doesnt make you a good mum if you dont bother with them do they. And also her sons dad was meant to have him xmas day and text he couldnt have him .. so she went in a mood and stormed out with her little boy and her mum was ringing our grandad xmas day saying i dont know where shes gone etc. She was also threatening her brother & his girlfriend to knock them out while she is heavily pregnant. And it sooo annoys me , people out there like me and my boyfriend would love another child, or even there first child, and some people struggle to concieve or some people like me have a loss mc/chemical etc. And theres idiots like her.

And me my family always say (horrible to say) but she doesnt deserve her children her mum (my aunty) is a alcoholic. And she watcher her son a lot for her daughter. Sorry to rant, i just feel like commenting on her facebook sometimes and say grow up!!

 

[leean10]

I had a missed mc in March and then a chemical in June (they were mc's 3 & 4) so I do know a little about levels etc.

Seriously, I wouldn't keep testing all the time as the stress is not going to have a good effect on you or your bean. Until you start cramping or bleeding (or both) then treat yourself as pregnant and get a doctor to look at you before your infection gets too bad!!

Good luck xx

 

[knopk@]

I dont want to worry you, but if the pain is still there, i would go to EPU to exclude ectopic. There is clearly a line there and its best to monitor HCG levels, this way you will have an idea whats going on

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[Mummy2toddler]

Thanks my doctors are useless though .and i dont want go again tomorrow as i only last went monday and they told my mum wait until next week but its ok they arent driving themself crazy with worry, or getting the pain in there back n sides, grrrr.

Also sorry tmi but my urine earlier i have noticed sometimes theres like white bits in it, can this be a sign of any infection? and it looked like there was a white cloud in lol :S my wee wasnt cloudy .. but had like a cloudy patch if that makes sense?

I had the pains in my back since saturday .. and i went the doctors on monday

could it of been that if i do have an infection it could of been too early to pick up on the dip test? As it just tested for blood .. but by looking at my urine sample, there has been no physical blood. But i have read that you can have blood in your urine and not see it.

It doesnt hurt when i go toilet, and im not going more then usual so i dunno what to think about an infection but i just hope it is and nothing serious.xx

 

[Mummy2toddler]

I dont want to worry you, but if the pain is still there, i would go to EPU to exclude ectopic. There is clearly a line there and its best to monitor HCG levels, this way you will have an idea whats going on

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Thanks knopk, i also thought ectopic myself ... that was the worst of my worries tobe honest as i have read you can lose a tube over ectopic

Do i ring my doctors and say im crippled in pain see if i can get in? I arent .. but do i try exegerate (sp) to see if i can get in tonight? And get a referal to epu asap.

The pain is still there, and i can feel it pounding ... its so hard explain. I just want a blood test so bad

 

[knopk@]

If your EPU is by referral, i would call docs and say you are in pain but not bleeding. Or just to go A&E if its easier, they will have to run tests and refer you too.
Just to exclude ectopic as it can be dangerous

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[Mummy2toddler]

Thanks for your reply. I would feel daft going a&e to be honest, but i just need answers i dont know what do. Just text my boyfriend hes still at bloody work typical x

Would the A&E see me? x

Just forgot my doctors shuts early on a thursday, so its shut now. I can go A&E tonight or doctors tomorrow my mum keeps saying do i want a bath it will ease my back NO i want a blood test so i know whats going bloody on!!

 

[knopk@]

A&E will have to see you hun. I dont know how it works in your hospital but i went to A&E when i had a.bleed and they referred me to.the epu at the same hospital.
Dont feel silly,.either way you need answers.
If ita infection,.it needs treating.

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[Mummy2toddler]

thanks knopk youre right. My boyfriend is at work until late cause hes fell for someones bullshit story .. so not happy i just need a blood test so bad. Think we are gonna go a&e x

I remember when i was bleeding slightly with my son ... we went A&E god looking back i think what an idiot lol, but i got referred to epu for a scan. I'm too early for a scan but bloods is all i need anyway.

Sorry to sound stupid, but we concieved about 10th december, so i know its way too early .. but can they spot anything in my tubes at all? Like that something is growing? As i was just wondering if they could tell me if its an ectopic by a scan? I know they wont see a sac etc, but could they see that there is something growing there?

if that makes sense. x

 

[Mummy2toddler]

So now my mum is saying ohh youre doing so many tests .. the tests isnt the problem right now the pain is it could be bloody anything.

And shes saying wouldnt i be doubled over in pain if it was an ectopic. I think shes trying make out im some idiot .. grrrrrr x

at the moment the pains are getting worse in my back gona have 2 paracetemol now. my mum is really annoying me saying ohh they most probably didnt do a blood test because you arent far gone .. im asking for a blood test not a scan lol !!

I'm so worried about the tests, and the pains now

 

[Iwant3]

I would defo get yourself to A&E, the pain doesn't sound right and i think you probably are pregnant but also have a kidney infection! which you cannot leave untreated!

i hope you get some medical attention very soon. best wishes

 

[Mummy2toddler]

Thanks iwant3. Will update tonight what happens boyfriend still at work at moment and i dont drive so cant do nothing at moment! xx

 

[BunnyN]

I agree that having lines on the test can be seen as a positive, I think with a chemical you wouldn't be getting lines still. I wouldn't worry too much about what weeks the digi says, they are not magical for telling you exactly what day you are on, they just give a rough idea. Personally I would go to A&E, don't feel silly, it's their job. Anyway it's the kind of thing if you don't go and it doesn't go away the doc will end up telling you off for not coming in sooner :/. Even a urine infection needs treating, it's clearly not going away on its own. It sounds a bit like the pain my husband had when he had kidney stones. If nothing else it will put your mind at rest.

As for cloudy bits in urine, I get it from time to time. It can be caused by skin shed from the bladder lining. From what I understand it can indicate an infection or other problem if it is constant but if it is only once in a while it is nothing to worry about. It can also be from not getting a clean sample, ie CM mixed in the urine.

The dip test for a UTI tests for nitrates. Nitrates is a quick way to test for infection and is a good indicator but is not 100%, to test properly a culture has to be done in a lab which takes a few days. Blood in urine can be caused by an infection but I don't think they usually use it to diagnose an infection, you could easily have an infection and have no blood in your urine. I think you can buy the dip tests for UTI (nitrates) from a chemist.

 

[Mummy2toddler]

Thank you so much bunny for your reply! well i actually have gallstones i was diagnosed with them in 2010 i was gonna have them removed .. id just gone the hospital to see a surgeon i think it was, week later i found out i was pregnant with my son lol!

But thing is, my gallstones cause way more pain, to the point im crying my eyes out and its like a knife is in my back and they are twisting it .. and i have physically throwing up when they flare up. I've not had any problems since 2010 (touch wood). But the pain isnt as bad as they were, also, i used to get them at night and it would last for around 12-14 hours, where as this is like pretty much constant, i dont feel sick and ive not been sick.

And the pain is bad, but, its no where near as bad as it was with my gallstones. Definitely gonna go A&E as i have been the doctors monday, and they are useless. Plus hopefully ill get some answers, and antibiotics or something.

I've never wanted an infection so bad!! As it would explain the pain. Will update tonight

thanks for keeping me sane ladies I am driving my poor boyfriend crazy x

 

[cosmicgirl]

I agree with the others, you need to stop testing, it won't do any good.
I'd go back to the dr and ask to be referred for either bloods or scan at the epu.

 

[BunnyN]

Let us know what they say. Hugs, and try to stay sane ! When I had a chemical all the confusion and limbo was awful. When I thought I was pregnant again I waited until I was two days late to test. It wasn't that I didn't want to know even if it turned out not to stick it was just that I couldn't take the not being sure and scared my period would come part. It was so emotionally draining and I couldn't think about anything else. My OH was really supportive but it's still hard for anyone else to understand what your going through.

 

[Mummy2toddler]

It's easier said then done to stop testing . And my doctor is shit they won't do either they just fob me off constantly. It took me 3 years of being in pain to be sent for a scan to check if I had gallstones. My boyfriend won't take me A&E he's saying loads of people will be waiting because its Christmas I won't get seen until midnight tonight then they won't do nothing and its affecting our son and it will affect our son if we go A&E later while he stays with a relative. I'm absolutely fuming I just feel like he doesn't care and the fact I am worried and got pains in my back and it hurts. So my last chance is doctors tomorrow now I have no way of getting our local A&E . I'm so so annoyed with him. He's outside in his car I don't want him near me right now as I am so hurt and upset that he's not even acting bothered! And my doctor mum & boyfriend and I have been told on here stop testing but its not as easy as that with having 2 losses I am constantly worried.