Controlled crying help

[Karenb]

Sorry if you've already spoken about this but is she weaned? If she isn't on 3 solid meals a day you may find it a little tricky to make this work at this stage. Does she fall asleep on you whilst feeding? If so, does she stay asleep when you put her in the cot?x

She is on three meals yes. She used to always fall asleep on me when feeding but has stopped now! The only time she naps is in the car or pushchair now. When we were co sleeping she sucked herself to sleep then... And most of the night. There's just no comforting her now, she won't feed, she won't calm when cuddled - tried dummy, nope!

 

[Goat]

I feel your pain hun. That's just like my little girl, no dummy or anything and cuddles made it worse. I hope she falls into the routine more bexuase this stage is hard. Again sorry if you've already said this but what sort of checks are you doing with he cc? I can pm you a link to a method I found really effective with my 2?x

 

[Karenb]

Yes please, any help would be great. Been doing 5 min then 10 mins but checking on her makes her so much worse so if it was quite a calm cry, I just checked on her from afar... But the last two nights her cry has been worse!

 

[T84]

What about trying to get her to nap in her cot in the day? Maybe crack this first when everyone's not so tired and fraught and you might find that night time follows?

 

[baby3sky]

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[Karenb]

I got her to do this a couple of times before trying night, she did it a couple of times, but she kind of gets wise to it then refuses... Similar to what she's done now at night!

 

[T84]

Are you still on here?! Zzzzz

You are allowed to be feisty and confident ladies but only if you agree with her views - and then she might let you be her pal! Last time I give you the time of day by commenting. Have a lovely weekend and hopefully now we can get back round to helping Karen out

 

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[iWitch]

Don't worry Karen, you'll get there in end. It's just a learning curve for her. And then once she's learned, she'll sleep well, she'll fall poorly, you'll give her the comfort she needs and then you'll be back to square one and have to do it all over again.

I created bad habits with my lo when he was ill & I was desperate to sleep due to work the next day. It's proving difficult to get things back to normal but it's something I will focus on during my Christmas break

 

[Coletteypie]

Has she settled yet Karen? X

 

[Karenb]

She had... But has started crying again not as loud though, she must be exhausted

 

[iWitch]

Probably over tired is she full on crying or is she breaking off?

 

[Pumpkin9]

Hi Karen, sorry I haven't back read so you'll have to excuse if this has already been suggested all you've tried it but have you tried laying down with her till she falls asleep and then transferring her into her cot?

We did this with my little boy when he went through a stage of not self settling in his cot, and although not a long term solution it did solve the problem for awhile as it meant he went to sleep a lot quicker. We have a single bed in his room so I used to lay on that with him and sing to him. Might be worth a go.

Longer term we did let him cry for abit but that was 5 minutes of him being upset and then he would go to sleep and now he self settles in his own bed fine.

 

[Karenb]

Probably over tired is she full on crying or is she breaking off?

Breaking off now, she's gone quiet again but has done this three times now. She sure is stubborn!!

 

[Karenb]

Hi Karen, sorry I haven't back read so you'll have to excuse if this has already been suggested all you've tried it but have you tried laying down with her till she falls asleep and then transferring her into her cot?

We did this with my little boy when he went through a stage of not self settling in his cot, and although not a long term solution it did solve the problem for awhile as it meant he went to sleep a lot quicker. We have a single bed in his room so I used to lay on that with him and sing to him. Might be worth a go.

Longer term we did let him cry for abit but that was 5 minutes of him being upset and then he would go to sleep and now he self settles in his own bed fine.

Hi, yes I've tried staying with her, but it makes her worse as she just wants to be on boob the whole time then! And I've never been able to move her when asleep as her eyes pop open and she's fully awake!!! My family find her fascinating how she has never slept much in the day and can wake up so suddenly as if she'd never been asleep!

 

[iWitch]

Probably over tired is she full on crying or is she breaking off?

Breaking off now, she's gone quiet again but has done this three times now. She sure is stubborn!!

I bet it is overtiredness then. If she's breaking off try hold off on going in?

 

[babyscotcher]

I would recommend the slumber buddy. Got our from amazon for 12.99.

My lo settles well though is not good with napping in the day. Our bedtime routine is quiet time downstairs in his sleeping bag with a bottle, upstairs for story, the rest of his bottle of he didn't finish it and the a 2 minute cuddle. He moans a little bit some evenings but doesn't cry.

Good Luck with the CC and hope she gets used to the situation soon. X

 

[Karenb]

Thanks,'I'll have a look!! X

 

[Karenb]

Probably over tired is she full on crying or is she breaking off?

Breaking off now, she's gone quiet again but has done this three times now. She sure is stubborn!!

I bet it is overtiredness then. If she's breaking off try hold off on going in?

Yeah I've done that all week, if her crying is slow and on and off, I haven't gone in, only when more intense crying x