Blake Daniel Ray - 21/11/10 Hypnobirthing

[vixxie77]

Congratulations hun! x x

 

[NatEvz]

Fantastic birth story hun!Your little man is adorable xxx

 

[mablestarr]

Just catching up with all the birth announcements over the past couple of months - what an amazing birth story, sounds like you coped really well with such a long labour. Massive congrats Blake is adorable. xxx

 

[Rayoflight]

Thanks very much hun! I'd do it all again tomorrow. Hypnobirthing rocked! Xxx

 

[cosmicgirl]

What a gorgeous story, do you have the web address for your lovely lady? xxxx

 

[Rayoflight]

Her name is Maureen Collins -she is an amazing woman. If you contact her tell her Gemma Ray (me!) recommended her. She really is fab.

Web address is http://www.hypnobirthingmerseyside.co.UK

 

[PinkPunch]

He is so cute and you did so well!

I had a natural birth with my first with just gas & air and hoping to do the same this time. But what sort of things did you tell yourself to keep calm? Any tips? I managed to keep breathing calmly and thought over and over "I can do this".

 

[rbryan0205]

my advice for keeping calm would be take deep breaths and just zone out i sang a nursery rhyme over and over in my head until contraction went it worked that was my mums advice but it worked kept u focuse on something else x

 

[PinkPunch]

Good idea!! Thanks. Your experience has inspired me.

 

[Rayoflight]

Hypnobirthing concentrates on visualising. You're given a picture of the 'optimal birthing position' and from about 36 weeks I printed it out and put it up everywhere along with affirmations like "i trust my body to know what to do...i see my baby coming smoothly from my womb...etc" Up until in labour I did breathing exercises and visualised my uterus as a big orange balloon as I breathed in. When I breathed out I imagined the balloon just deflating and coming out my side. When I was in labour, this visualisation became the baby and I imagined my uterus rising then bearing down and easing out the baby. As I breathed out, I imagined my breath in a 'j' shape coming from the top of my uterus and down an out through the 'j' curve of the birth canal.
I also had a drawing of an opening Rose which symbolised crowning and I did visualisations of blue ribbons pulling up the cervix from 37 weeks to encourage it to thin and open.

I highly recommend Marie mongan's hypnobirthing book as all of these techniques are mentioned and they help so much.

 

[Rayoflight]

This was my dining room/birthing room. I bounced on my ball from 38 weeks when I was bored and repeated all the affirmations whilst using the images to trigger the visualisations

More than anything I felt hypnobirthing educated me and my husband in all things childbirth so I knew what to expect. I wasn't scared and having no fear means you're relaxed and you birth easier (that's the theory!). We also found that the midwives were nicer to us because we understood what they were going on about.

 

[cosmicgirl]

Thanks hunni, I will xxx

 

[Rayoflight]

First of all I'd like to say a huge thank you to all the wonderful ladies (and a couple of gents!) on pregnancy forum who have been a constant source of support throughout my pregnancy.

As many of you know, I did a hypnobirthing course with my husband and I will shout it from the rooftops forever about how wonderful it was. The single best, most rewarding and valuable thing I've ever done and the best £250 we have ever ever spent.

Maureen my hypnobirthing practitioner asked me to write up a testimonial for her website seeing as I had special circumstances and was officially her longest labour! It's weird saying that because I was that calm and in control that it doesn't feel like we had special circumstances at all - just a very enjoyable and wonderful birth. In tota I was in labour for just over 54 hours. It seemed to fly by though and in a very strange and weird way I enjoyed every single minute. Blake was back to back (posterior) so the contractions were very strong. However, thanks to the absolutely amazing techniques we learnt through Maureen and the hypnobirthing course I coped absolutely fine. I was, and still am absolutely amazed at the difference the breathing and relaxation techniques made. There were a few times when through sheer exhaustion and pain that I just held my breath and went out of my birthing body temporarily. With the help of my husband Shaun, as soon as he brought me back and got me relaxed, doing the hypnobirthing surge breaths again the pain literally went away! The midwives had never been present at a hypnobirth before so they were all in awe of Shaun and I working together through our breathing techniques and the painful contractions. One of the midwives actually got quite emotional and tearful watching us and said she'd never seen two people who looked more in love and happy through a contraction! ha ha.

We'd planned a home waterbirth and on the first day of labour I spent a good 8 hours in the pool in the dining room. We had candles everywhere, Maureen's voice on the stereo in the background taking us through the Glove technique and Birth Imagery tracks. No disrespect to the great hypnobirthing founder Marie Mongan but I couldn't listen to her American 'Golden Girls' voice at all during the labour so I was so so grateful that Maureen had recorded some tracks for us as it felt like she was there in the room with us, a friendly voice reassuring us through each contraction.

To cut a (very very!) long story short, my labour had come on so strong that my cervix actually swelled rather than dilated and I never progressed further than 3cm. After 50 hours of labour I was taken by ambulance to the Liverpool Women's hospital where they broke my waters and I was given an epidural as they were worried I'd been in labour so long without sleep and was exhausted (I felt OK though!). They offered me diamorphine or pethadine first but Shaun recalled Maureen saying that an epidural was a much better choice than opiates so we went with an epidural which allowed me some respite for the first time in two days. The staff were fantastic. They took the time to read through our birth plan and follow our wishes to the letter. The room was kept dark, midwives and doctors addressed us both and left us to discuss all options with each other and they treated us with the utmost care and respect. Very shortly after having my waters broken, we noticed the baby's heart rate dropped dramatically with every contraction. Unbeknown to us at the time, the cord was wrapped round his neck and with each contraction was tightening and causing his heart rate to drop. The medical staff guessed this and became concerned so it was quickly suggested that we needed intervention to deliver the baby safely. All options were discussed, my wishes taken into account and I was able with the help of Shaun feel for the contractions and push our baby into the world. The doctor had advised that forceps and an episiotomy may have to be performed but I was determined this wouldn't happen and with the help of Shaun we felt for the contractions and I birth breathed like mad to get my baby out! A ventouse was needed to aid him out but I was so pleased to avoid the episiotomy and forceps. I had a slight tear and needed just one stitch.

Blake Daniel Ray entered the world at 24am on Sun 21st November weighing 7lb 4oz. Even though we didn't get the home birth we'd originally wanted, the hospital experience was honestly wonderful and at no point did we feel stressed, upset or out of control. I have been shouting it out from the rooftops about Hypnobirthing to anyone who will listen since the birth. It is honestly the most wonderful technique that I have ever learnt and I think EVERY pregnant woman should do this. Shaun and I feel that not only did we learn valuable relaxation techniques that could help us in various other situations in the future but most importantly it educated us so we knew exactly what to expect and what was happening within my body. It was a wonderful valuable lesson that I am eternally grateful for. Yes, it was a long time in labour but there's no horror stories to tell here - just a fabulous, beautiful birth. And yes, I'd do it all again tomorrow!

Ladies reading this who are pregnant I hope I'm proof that a long labour doesn't have to turn out bad.

I still can't believe he's here, he's ours and I still get teary and fill up when he looks at me with his big blue eyes. The overwhelming feelings of love and pride are the strongest emotions I've ever felt. Also I never ever thought it was possible to love Shaun more but this experience has brought us so close together. It's a wonderful feeling, our lives feel complete!

Gemma & Blake
Xxx

Awww... This time last year! How quick it has gone.

 

[Sarah13]

Aww happy birthday Blake! Bet it's flown by x

 

[FebMum2Be]

Ahhhh what a fab story, happy birthday Blake xxxx

 

[Pudds86]

Happy birthday Blake!!!! xxxxx

 

[taperjeangirl]

Fab story! I am aiming for hypnobirthing so its always good to read positive stories!

Congrats, he is gorgeous!! x