Been TTC for over 5 months now ... :( How long is it gonna take

[Weli48]

Got engaged and decided to save money before getting married.
We'd been talking for a while about having a little one and decided 6 months ago that we're now ready.
Been trying since then but no luck yet

I'm now starting to worry there's something wrong with me.
Wonder how long I will have to wait for the good news

 

[Babybushie28]

Hey welli,

Honestly everyone is different and the best advice I can give you is to just relax and have patience, we're on cycle 9 and still no bfp, I started stressing from cycle 6 but that did nothing but delay my periods and make me feel worse!

It can take up to 2 years for a healthy couple, so it doesn't mean anything is wrong, it will happen for you.

Xxxx

 

[3Beloved]

Just as babybushie says. It can take a very long time even for a perfectly healthy couple. Just try and relax, that what i tell myself but easier said than done...you will just have to save for lots of nice things for your little one and spoil them rotten.

Good Luck!!

Just enjoy TTC and make a baby with Love!

xx

 

[Dawnt87]

Hi well, I'm onto cycle 6 now too, had a tough month last month and was really upset when af came, it's so frustrating watching friends and family announce their pregnancies or pop their lovely babies out. Feels like it'll never be my turn

 

[hayes]

As babybushie says it can take up too 2yrs hun so try to stay calm and relax as much as poss. Im on cycle 13 now and neva thought it would take this long but with every month i know im a step closer to becoming a mum someday.

Michelle. x

 

[KMG]

Hello and welcome!

I agree with the comments before - sometimes we have to wait!

I am on cycle 14 and some days it just kills me that it is taking this long, but this place is great to vent and someone is always on hand to help pick you up!

good luck for your next cycle and lots of baby dust

xx

 

[Clairabella]

Totally agree with the comments above. Good things are worth waiting for! Easier said than done sometimes.
X

 

[netty]

It takes time I've been trying for 3 years but nothing is wrong with me xx you have a 20% chance of getting the egg at most so don't be so hard on yourself ttc is bloody hard work!! Xxx your time will come

Fapatalking

 

[Katkin72]

Hi Weli, I am on my 5th cycle and each month gets harder and harder when AF arrives. I know its still very early days for me but I'm not very patient lol. I know there are many ladies on here who have been trying for much longer. This cycle I feel I am really in tune with my body and we DTD several times around the time I ovulated so I really hope I get my BFP this month. I am really trying not to get too excited as I know I will be gutted if I get another BFN.
FX you get your BFP soon and all the other lovely ladies here too xxxxx

 

[MummyE]

Hey ! I'm on the same boat .. We are just married and have a 2 yr old .. We have been trying for 14 cycles every month a tear comes to my eye when my period appears .. This month I got a very faint positive very early and hcg levels taken which came back level 17 (very low but would be right as I'd only be around 3 weeks) I've not actually missed a period yet and started bleeding today (fan bloody tastic) .. I now don't know where I stand .. I feel preg with my wee girl while I was on the pill and prior to her had a miscarriage and I had conceived while on the depo jag do thought it was easy .. I have been proved very wrong ! .. I used to try and take some comfort coming on this forum after typing symptoms into google but this time decided to join for myself everyone seems lovely !

I soo hope you get the answer your longing for soon ! Xxx

 

[MissJuly10]

Lynette said exactly what I would have - every month you only have a 20% chance of falling pregnant and of course the fertile window isn't open for very long. TTC is really difficult and emotional no matter how long you've been trying.

x

 

[mrs_c]

We are on cycle 11 and just waiting to see if AF arrives (should have arrived yesterday). Every couple is different, I have friends who catch very quick and also have friends thats its taken nearly 3 years to concieve naturally so I would just say stay calm and when its gonna happen it will. Hope you get your bfp soon x

 

[Becky1]

I'm on cycle 4 of ttc and pretty sure I'm out for this month judging by the usual pains showing af is on her away. So many people I know seem to catch so quickly without even trying. Having not been on the pill for years I always kinda thought it'd be easy! Silly me.

 

[Rednursie]

I hope you get your bfp soon Hun. It's so hard sometimes to stay positive but that's what we have to do I guess. We've been trying since February after a mmc and every month when af arrives it breaks my heart. Ive been holding back the tears all day today for some reason but it's so nice to come on here to such positivity and support. Good luck Hun xxx

 

[Blueflower]

Cycle 13 for us! Yes it’s so hard when other people announce their news; (I’ve had 3 friends announce their pregnancies in the last 2 months!) you are really happy for them but so envious as well! Especially if they are younger or not been trying for as long. I’ve started doing something which helps; every time I feel despondent I force myself to have a positive thought as well, about anything. Then at the end of the day I give myself a score on how well I’ve done, not being bitter etc! I know they say try not to think about it but its impossible!

 

[netty]

i know its hard sweety, nothing is 'wrong' with me and i am on year 3 so whats that about 30+ cycles! But i will get there in the end xx keep faith

 

[amye]

hey would just like to share and see what people have to say.. Was on the depo injection for about 8 months, came off that then went on to the pill for about 6 months, came of it in august last year, periods back to normal in december/january and now in june and still not pregnant, i know it can take time but i cant help but worry something maybe wrong?
xx

 

[ScotchEgg]

I think the time around 6-9 months were some of the hardest for us. The excitement had worn off, the fear that there could be something wrong was growing and we were still so far from the time when we could go to the doctor's and find out.

It's ok to feel like this - it's normal. But waiting this long doesn't necessarily mean something's wrong. Some people's chances are higher each month, some people's are lower. Chin up and keep going because as someone else said you're another month closer to being a mummy xxx

 

[Blueflower]

I know someone who took 8 years to conceive! Luckily she started trying when she was 25 so had time to have 2 children. If it takes me 8 years I will be too old! Its so hard to wait but I really think everything happens at the right time.

 

[wannabe.pg]

I sometimes wonder why we bother with the contraceptive pill as it is so bloody hard to get pregnant anyway! lol