Bad news ladies :(

[LouiseB]

My hubby got his results and it's bad news unfortnuately and i'm trying my best not to burst into tears because my husband seems completely oblivious to the implications.

He has been given the whole spin about it "only taking one" sperm cell and then saying that he isn't technically infertile and it's all just bs.

It all just translates as "we are not quite ready to cough up the money to send you for IVF and therefore we're going to prescribe you some rose tinted glasses so you can continue on, without it costing us a penny" Assholes!

They even gave him advice on when to bd etc as if THAT is where it's going wrong!

BTW - they told him he has low concentration and a very low motility.

How DARE they assume we are so frickin stupid that we are going to believe their "we know people with worse who got pregnant" BULLCRAP!!

His sperm is only half the story, they have to get past my vagina, cervix and immune system.

I feel like i just got my next years worth of BFNs all at once before they will start us on IVF - totally and completely crushed.

I feel like i'm physically going to be sick.

 

[Naomi D]

Oh Louise, I'm so sorry honey. You must be feeling devastated, and you're right - it is bullshit that they wont send you for treatment! Did they talk about artificial insemination at all? that might be an option if they wont think about IVF yet.
hope you manage to get something out of them babe - may be worth seeing a different doctor if possible?

 

[kizzibea]

So sorry to hear that.

 

[Chazabell]

Oh Louise, I'm gutted for you, I want to give you a big hug! We're all here for you xxxxxxx

 

[Tracey M]

Aw Louise I'm so sorry honey.... Did you go with him? Perhaps he never explained all that you have been going through and that enough is enough. makes me so angry when you know that there are options out there and they are not offering to you - who do they think they are messing with your life due to budgets??. 2nd Opinion?? Just want to reach down the computer and give you a *big hug*

 

[Kay1987]

So sorry about your news, hope they pull their finger out soon. x

 

[rachaellouise]

So sorry to hear the news Louise

 

[MissJuly10]

I'm so sorry Louise. x

 

[maybe baby]

Oh god Louise,

So sorry to hear that, I really don't know what to advise, maybe your doctor can refer you to a different fertility specialist at a different hospital??

Don't give up hope, it can happen for you, just won't be quite as easy.

I really think out of anyone here you will find a solution to all this and be strong and be able to get through it.

I really hope you feel better soon!

Take care xxx

 

[Piglet's Mama]

So sorry Louise, God that sucks.
Wouldn't even know what to suggest - thinking of you x

 

[xshauna_bazx]

Sorry hun! Chin up xxx

 

[LouiseB]

Thanks ladies

I know there is nothing anyone can say, it's nice to have lots of hugs though

I've been going over the results and they are so bad...

He produced the minimum 2ml semen sample.
His semen is too viscous.
He had a 5mil/ml concentration instead of the 20mil/ml normal minimum.
Only 4% of his sperm cells are moving normally.
A massive 82% of his sperm cells are totally useless.

He has to go for a second test in a few weeks incase they make a miraculous recovery and the doctor said IVF would be the best option but they probably won't be in a rush to give it us because he isn't technically infertile.

I'm going to be going for tests next cycle, half hoping i'm not working as intended too so that it gives us an angle for IVF.

Everything upto this point feels like such a bloody waste and i'm clearly not going to be getting pregnant anytime soon, and i'll miss the local baby boom too.

 

[lea554]

Oh, sorry to hear this hun xxx

 

[Buzby]

Sorry to hear your news. xxx

 

[Sam's Mum]

 

[Rósa]

So sorry hun

 

[star fish]

Your poor husband, i bet he's in total denial, I know mine would be if they told him he wasnt all man, which is how they take it. There are a lot of things you can do diet wise to improve the count, though I know you already know all that. All i can say is big hugs and maybe go kick some butt to move things forwards to try other options? IVF would seem the obvious one, they get a good one and fertilise and it just has to stick, please try not to give him grief, I bet he is hurt underneath badly...... xxxxx

 

[toni64539]

I'm so so sorry Louise, there's nothing I can say that will put accross any comfort for you I'm sure. But just keep going, one day, you'll look back, with your baby in your arms and see all this as a blip. Thinking of you

 

[clairebear22]

Really sorry hun!

xxx

 

[LouiseB]

please try not to give him grief

Oh no, i'm not giving him grief - i was trying to comfort him and he was just "umm, what's wrong? I'm alright" and i was left thinking, well i need comforting!

Last night i confronted him about it and just told him that he has to realise that it's really bad news and then we can be strong together but i can't be strong on my own when i feel like the only one who is accepting the situation.

It turns out he was just putting on a front about the whole thing (phew) so at least we're on the same page.

At first he wasn't going to mention it to family, which i totally understood, but he decided to tell his dad just for another man to talk to about it and his dad turned around and said not to wait around getting stressed, just go private for IVF if the Nhs start messing around and he'll foot the bill

At least that is a weight off, so i guess it's just a matter of time.

I'm a bit sad now that i'm not really a ttc'er anymore - i'm a waiting for IVF'er