I need to vent a sec..... In the list of things to complain about, my current issues are pretty small, but my husband is driving me mad this week and unless I let out my frustration on here to you guys I will en up screaming at him. Every time I get mad at the moment he sulks and mutters 'pregnancy hormones' and it ends up being about me yelling and not about the thing I was frustrated with in the first place, so I don't feel he ever realises he's partly in the wrong.
My husband is a policeman and works shifts. I get that he's got a stressful job, but I work hard too, and I probably do as many hours as h does. He works 6 days and then has 4 days off. When he's on his 6 days of working, I do the shopping, walk the dog, make sure he's either got warm meals to take or work or that he's got a warm meal to come home to. Generally we have a fab relationship and I honestly love the bones of him...BUT
I'm tired a lot now, and this week I've had my morning sickness back again. He had his last shift on Tuesday and all I want is for him to sort meals and do the washing up while he's off and I'm in work. On Wednesday when I was in work I text him asking him to pick up a few bits from lidl which is 5mins away from our house. I text the exact list of bits, which included a whole chicken which I said in the text we could cook Thursday and have Thursday night and Friday night and then we'd be out over the weekend. I went to Asda after work on Wednesday to get a few other bits that wouldn't be stocked in lidl. Got home, unpacked the shopping while he sat in front of the tv and then found he'd not only half done he washing up and left what he had done on the draining board (which he does until something falls off and breaks, at which point I pack everything away) but he'd also not done the lidl shop. Was a bit annoyed as it meant I didn't have anything for lunch the next day, but asked him to go Thursday instead.
Thursday I get home and he's NOT BLOODY DONE THE SHOPPING AGAIN!!!!!!! Plus no washing up has been done and everything is still on the draining board from the day before. I'd also asked him to clear all his tools etc from under the stairs and take them to the garage and he hadn't done that either. I asked him to go to lidl while I hoovered the house (we have people coming over at the weekend) and washed and dried up. While he was out I walked into the kitchen to see he'd taken mince out of the freezer....but I'd specifically asked him to get chicken so we could have that over the next two nights. I tried to ring him 5 times wit no answer to find out a) if he was still getting chicken and b) how long the mince had been out so I knew whether it could be put back in the freezer as having takeaway sat and out sun. When he eventually picked up, I tried to ask him calmly but think I still came across pissed off, and he answered the first question and then hung up before I could ask the second!!!
So we had mince last night and now have a whole chicken for one meal and the use by date is tomorrow as he didn't even check that. He used the pepper etc that I was going to use for fajitas tonight so I am going to have to go shopping again.
AND just opened the fridge this morning and turns out he went to Asda last night not lidl, so I could have just got it all on Wednesday myself, and bang goes any saving we could have made.
How do you deal with feeling like this without completely losing your rag???? Simon is usually great and sweet.... I don't know whether something has gone on at work, but he hasn't said about anything when I've asked him. I don't know how much of this is me being hormonal, or whether I'm justified. Argh!! Xxx
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