****** April Mummies!!!! ******

[MrsPod]

Hiya Kedi, goodness knows what they've found in your blood, but fingers crossed it's all ok!

Oh no Naomi, that just puts my eczema flare up into perspective

 

[MrsPod]

Oh, and hooray for 3lm's little fighter

 

[naomi88]

Thanks ladies. Can't quite getting my head around it. Sat trying to work out how the hell we're going to cope... So frustrated as feel I've worked my butt off for nothing.
So tempted to call in sick tomorrow but will be a bit obvious.
Xxx

 

[Blanco]

Thanks ladies. Can't quite getting my head around it. Sat trying to work out how the hell we're going to cope... So frustrated as feel I've worked my butt off for nothing.
So tempted to call in sick tomorrow but will be a bit obvious.
Xxx

Obvious that you are STRESSED and who can blame you. That's awful news especially as you miss out on the package can they actually do that ??

 

[naomi88]

I don't know... I've been looking online and it says pregnant women should be discriminated against positively I.e. be less likely to lose their job, but it also says that there are ways around it if its 'out of employers hands' e.g. Business going under or loss of income etc. Think they could argue that it's purely to do with loss of funding and general cut backs, although I seem to be the only one going from my team!!

 

[Nicky78]

I don't know... I've been looking online and it says pregnant women should be discriminated against positively I.e. be less likely to lose their job, but it also says that there are ways around it if its 'out of employers hands' e.g. Business going under or loss of income etc. Think they could argue that it's purely to do with loss of funding and general cut backs, although I seem to be the only one going from my team!!

I don't think they can do that? Surely discrimination? Can you appeal?

XX

 

[naomi88]

Think I'm going to contact ACAS for some advice and see what they say...
Really don't want to go in today. Still tearful but also incredibly pissed off! Xxx

 

[3lilmonsters]

You stay at home hun. You and baby are more important sod what they think. With my last pregnancy my department had cut backs and there were 2 of us pregnant and we both kept pur jobs with help of the fact we were pregnant and the company didnt want any claims of discrimination so I would definitely get some advice hun and maybe dig further into stats etc (or what targets you need to hit compared to others) as that maybe an indication of pregnancy related dismissal xx

 

[Gillyboos]

Think I'm going to contact ACAS for some advice and see what they say...
Really don't want to go in today. Still tearful but also incredibly pissed off! Xxx

Definitely do this. I'd be surprised if they could do this, especially if you're the ONLY one. Certainly if it means you miss out on SMP. Surely they can't put that financial stress on you as you will have done the appropriate amount of time to qualify? Xx

 

[Karen0209]

Naomi - best of luck with looking into it - I agree with what 3Lm has said regarding looking into performance related issues and seeing why it can be justified that it is you not anyone else that loses their job?! Really terrible this is happening now to you.

Kedi - my fingers are corssed for you too! WEird that they could have found something in your blood to flag this?! I wonder what.

K xx

 

[naomi88]

I've gone into work but regretting it as still tearful, plus everyone knows now which makes it worse. Also feel like i am coming down with a cold.

My organisation receives funding from different local authorities to provide a development officer in each LA. Its my LA that have taken away funding, so think they will be able to prove that that is the reason i am being let go. I will still be eligible for SMP as i will be working right up to the week before i am due, but my employers offer an enhanced scheme- full pay for 10 weeks, half pay for 16weeks then SMP for the remainder. So i will be a lot worse off now and had been basing all my calculations on getting the higher amount.

Im pissed off as well at one of my colleagues who's been recently promoted to one of the team leaders. She's basically going on about how when she got pregnant she didn't even get SMP as she hadn't been working for long enough and so Im lucky plus she had other kids to look after... Im sorry but i don't feel bloody lucky!!!! Yes i will get SMP, but my take home wage was higher than simons and we are going to struggle on his alone. Plus I've worked here for 2.5 years and purposefully didn't take another job a while ago as we were trying and i wanted to make sure we were eligible for mat pay. Plus i am going to have to go back to work at 6months instead of 9, if i can even have that long off, plus i will have to find a new job whereas hers was still waiting for her. She is a friend and i know she's probably just trying to make me feel better, but at the moment i just need her to say 'gosh, that's really shitty that this is happening' not tell me Im lucky, especially when she must have known about this for at least a month.

Sorry, Im ranting and probably coming across as a bitch but i need to vent!! Xxx

 

[Karen0209]

Rant away Naomi...you deserve to! Ranting is always theraputic It is so unfortunate and your friend should realise that you need sympathy just now - not her moans!

K xx

 

[naomi88]

Thanks Karen. Being angry is a bit of a break from crying anyway!!

Also frustrated because we moved house at the end of may and specifically looked at houses close to where i work so we live 5mins away but hubby has more of a trek. Don't regret moving as i love our house and we needed to move anyway, but a bit of sods law isn't it!! Xxx

 

[dizzybaby]

Oh Naomi thats awful and id be the same as you! im a bit worried bout my job as theres redundancies flyinf around here but as you say its taken away all yout security and changed all your longer term plans. Id definitely get advice on it!

Off to the midwife in a bit so hopefully we'll hear our girls hb again as im getting anxious again lol. Only 2 weeks til the scan at least

 

[Gillyboos]

Rant away Naomi, you need to get it off your chest. Are you with a union?
Even if the funding has been taken away, I find it hard to believe that as you have notified them of your pregnancy that they can just turn around at this stage and deny maternity pay.
Worse case I would've thought even if you didn't have a job to go back to that you would be entitled to some further mat pay.

 

[naomi88]

Thanks Gilly. Going to try and get a meeting with the director on Monday and discuss things.
Going to try and forget about it now and enjoy the weekend. Plus scan is next Tuesday so got that to look forward to xxx

 

[mrs nel]

Hiya ladies
Naomi Im sorry you're in this position hun. I don't know who to say to you that the other ladies haven't. I hope you can have a chilled weekend as much as possible. Are you going to the winter wonderland, , something to look forward to?

I dunno if my little one is moving around today, im certainly not feeling much and at 19 weeks I thought id be feeling much more but im getting stretching and pulling feelings.

Is anyone else as far as me and not feeling a great deal! ?

Leanne how are you feeling today?
X X

 

[Natalilly1288]

I no how your feeling Hun I've been told today I may be being made redundant I'm trying to stay positive and I will get a payout but am still gutted as 12 weeks ago I moved to a new role in my company I've been travelling for 3 hours + per day to get there n back whilst feeling awful and my mum having chemo too so felt like I've put my career before myself and family and now this just hope we can manage financially xxx

 

[Nicky78]

Hiya ladies
Naomi Im sorry you're in this position hun. I don't know who to say to you that the other ladies haven't. I hope you can have a chilled weekend as much as possible. Are you going to the winter wonderland, , something to look forward to?

I dunno if my little one is moving around today, im certainly not feeling much and at 19 weeks I thought id be feeling much more but im getting stretching and pulling feelings.

Is anyone else as far as me and not feeling a great deal! ?

Leanne how are you feeling today?
X X

I'm not feeling much, same as you stretching & pulling but no definite baby movements, I wish they would hurry up! Lol

 

[mrs nel]

Thanks nicki im just desperate to feel some sign of life. I think I felt the baby 2 weeks ago but nothing since.

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