Ttc shit boat - long term ttcers

[lisey]

Lisey I'm just gunna turn up at doc on thurs and show her ur post and just tell her " yeah what she says " lol xx
I'm write all this down and go in prepared ! I didn't know u could still b referred 2 fertility if u had kids already ! So this is good news !
Last Qs of 2day ! What is AFC ? It sounds like a football club !

Lol, can you tell I am a control freak
Definitely go prepared and you can absolutely still be referred, they just won't fund the treatment.
AFC is antral follicle count, sorry, was being lazy xx

Been ttc 2years 7 months.
Early miscarriage after 19 months.
Day 21 blood tests - all normal and ovulating.
Day 3 blood tests - all normal
Scan - detected fibroid but told shouldn't effect chances
Lap and dye - adhesions removed and my stomach and womb were stuck together. Surgery to pull apart and told will not affect chances
Hubby's sa - all good (fab actually)

SO WHY THE FCUK CAN'T I GET PREGNANT!!!

Docs won't refer me to a fertility specialist until December due to my local PCT guidelines so I'm having to wait it out.

Wow, you have been through it. Did they say what caused your adhesions? Also, I would question them about the fibroid. It can affect implantation from what I have read so might be worth looking in to. If it was the GP who said it, I would most definitely not listen to them, they don't know much about fertility. They have got a few things wrong with me so far, I have had to diagnose myself and push for referrals. Have they sent you to a gynae about the fibroid? xx

Dont leave shore without me!!! I'm coming on board.....

I dont know if i count as a long term ttc? started trying properly in March last year but was ntnp beforehand. I went to my Doc's in June last year (month before i got pregnant) and she sent me for blood test...Results came back good and she told me to carry on doing whatever i was doing?!? i got pregnant the next month.....although that resulted in mmc.

Not a whiff of a bfp since, I have been thinking of going back to my gp and seeing if they will send me for another blood test, i dont know if its worth it? I dont really have much faith in my doctors anymore. I do worry my time is running out, I know i have age against me which sucks, I hate getting older

Welcome aboard Don't get too comfy though, we all have a baby train to catch I hate getting older too If you want another blood test then definitely ask, no harm in getting a little update in what's going on xx

 

[Hopeful75]

Me too! Can I hop on board? Started trying May 2012 and got pregnant first month. Unfortunately mmc, followed by another three. All tests clear so I'm now on high dose folic acid and lots of prayers! It's getting harder to hide the upset whenever 'ooh it was unplanned' announcements are made.
Fingers crossed this thread brings some lucky times!

 

[Imber]

I really hope everybody is out this boat soon! We can all row together and help some buckets of tears overboard sometimes. :/

Thank you for your support ladies. Indeed it´s weird they repeated the SA the following day. I guess they will do it again in some months.

Andreax2, we get 3 tries for free here in Sweden. Only for the first child... and they only implant one at a time, so very small chance of multiples (only identicals, then).

I just got AF today so I will refrain from just going mental... clomid cycle #1 did not work.

 

[Clementine]

I may as well add my voice to the ranting, I didn't meet the right man until I was coming 39 (which was and is still brilliant), starting TTC in July 2012 got pregnant in the September which was great but had a MMC at 11 weeks, got pregnant again June 2013, expecting twins saw heartbeats at 8 weeks but at 10 weeks lost both of them to another MMC!! Had all the regular blood tests done all came back clear plus my hubbies sperm were great. The consultant said it's just bad luck! (I wanted to scream "but I'm a lucky person")
I'm now 42 and will be 43 in December, it's the first time in my life I feel like there's a Giant Clock sitting over my head! I just feel like as each month is passing I'm quickly running out of time to become a Mum. I'm also worried that at this stage my eggs are just too old to make a healthy baby bean. I'm a positive person but I find it so hard to have no control over the outcome of something. We had decided when we met not to do IVF, I honestly thought I'd be lucky enough to be able to have a healthy baby..... Little did I know, two years later and two D&C's I'm now realizing that maybe it's just not going to be.
Moan over
Gotta dust myself off and put my happy face back on
Lots of to everyone xx

 

[Andreax2]

Sending every 1 hugs this morning jeez we r a right bunch !
Welcome aboard hopeful and clementine !
Clementine have the docs looked at ur egg quality ? Bcus ur eggs r prob fine and if u had a scan a least it would reassure u X that's what I'm asking 4 2 sick if feeling like iv got scrambled eggs !
Imber sorry the witch got u hun , I did read the 40-45 % of women get pregnant on clomid,hope that will b u ! X

 

[Clementine]

Sending every 1 hugs this morning jeez we r a right bunch !
Welcome aboard hopeful and clementine !
Clementine have the docs looked at ur egg quality ? Bcus ur eggs r prob fine and if u had a scan a least it would reassure u X that's what I'm asking 4 2 sick if feeling like iv got scrambled eggs !
Imber sorry the witch got u hun , I did read the 40-45 % of women get pregnant on clomid,hope that will b u ! X

Hi Andreax they want me to have an internal scan on Day3 of my cycle to count follicles and also to do AMH for egg quality but I'm too scared to go. If they tell me my eggs are knackered or that there is only a few left I think I would be totally devastated the consultant said I was being an ostrich (burying my head in the sand) but it's a self preservation thing I think it would be very hard to hear that I definitely wouldn't be getting pregnant naturally. My Day 3 bloods were very good so they said I showed no signs of pre-menopause they similar to a girl in her early 30's. I'm sorta trusting Mother Nature to look after things, I'm hoping that I might have one healthy egg left inside me and that it will hopefully create a healthy strong baby bean

 

[Selina13]

Just stepping aboard the shit boat to send hugs
And to say don't give up hope!!!
I was losing my strength a few weeks ago and I got my BFP this month.
I have no diagnosed problems, hubs sperm all fine but lots of queries for me (PCOS, high male hormones, not ovulating regularly).
We were trying for 3 years for 1st pregnancy which I lost and got pregnant again same year and lost again.
I'm pregnant now and keeping everything crossed that all is ok.
Stay strong and rant at will. Love to all the long term ttc ladies. Xxxxxxx

 

[Andreax2]

Thanks selina , it's really good 2 hear positve stories , hope all is well with u and have a happy & healthy 9 months !
CLEMENTINE ! I don't now what 2 do with u ! Give u a slap and a bear hug at the same time !! I totally understand how u feel , I feel the same about having hsg and the scan done but I HAVE 2 know- what does hubby think about this ?

 

[Belfa]

ooo I like this thread! I never venture into this part of the forum so only recognise a couple of names - where have you guys been hiding ! Or maybe its me that's been hiding...!

Anyway, TTC for just over a year, diagnosed with PCOS when I was 18 so that gave me a "fast pass" to fertility treatment as, when I came off the pill my periods didn't come back.

Started clomid November 2013 and after months of increasing doseage and starting metformin it didn't work. At the end of my second cycle of letrozole which is working but (!) AF is a week late and I'm getting BFN's!

So, not only can I not get pregnant, I can't get a blinking period either!!!

 

[Clementine]

Thanks selina , it's really good 2 hear positve stories , hope all is well with u and have a happy & healthy 9 months !
CLEMENTINE ! I don't now what 2 do with u ! Give u a slap and a bear hug at the same time !! I totally understand how u feel , I feel the same about having hsg and the scan done but I HAVE 2 know- what does hubby think about this ?

Thanks for the slap and the hug I know I should get it checked out but if the results are crap it's not like I can fix it, my hubby is a total optimist he believes it will just happen and that we should have no tests at all. Just have lots of sex and hope for the best His Mum met his Dad when she was older they had him when she was 43 and his sister at 45, so the only thing he doesn't like to hear is that I might want to stop TTC when I reach 43 in 6months time as I'm worried that we'd have a very high risk of having a baby with disabilities. Though after the last D&C when we lost the twins he wanted to stop then as he just didn't want us to have to go through the trauma of having an other MMC, but I said I was happy to try again. All this TTC is bloody stressful at times!! but fingers crossed it will be worth it in the end.

 

[stacesl3]

Sending every 1 hugs this morning jeez we r a right bunch !
Welcome aboard hopeful and clementine !
Clementine have the docs looked at ur egg quality ? Bcus ur eggs r prob fine and if u had a scan a least it would reassure u X that's what I'm asking 4 2 sick if feeling like iv got scrambled eggs !
Imber sorry the witch got u hun , I did read the 40-45 % of women get pregnant on clomid,hope that will b u ! X

Hi Andreax they want me to have an internal scan on Day3 of my cycle to count follicles and also to do AMH for egg quality but I'm too scared to go. If they tell me my eggs are knackered or that there is only a few left I think I would be totally devastated the consultant said I was being an ostrich (burying my head in the sand) but it's a self preservation thing I think it would be very hard to hear that I definitely wouldn't be getting pregnant naturally. My Day 3 bloods were very good so they said I showed no signs of pre-menopause they similar to a girl in her early 30's. I'm sorta trusting Mother Nature to look after things, I'm hoping that I might have one healthy egg left inside me and that it will hopefully create a healthy strong baby bean

Clementine - Everything you write I could have wrote myself lol!!! Took me ages to pluck up courage to go to my doctors. I am exactly the same as you, I just put things off as I am scared of the result. If you dont mind me asking, were you referred privately or is this on the nhs?

That sounds great what they said about your day 3 day bloods, I worry if i am in peri/pre menopause already as my periods are a lighter than they used to be (although i have never had heavy periods) I only have one day of red bleeding then a couple of days of light red/brown blood, it worries me. I 'try' not to stress though....haha yeah right.

Who knew this ttc malarky was such hard work, these babies better go on to rule the world the amount of work we are putting in to ttc them!

 

[honeybear]

im jumping in here great thread andrea,

our story TTC for 20 months or so and never thought it would take us this long in a million years as we both more or not healthy. We where meant to start tests with clinic but we moved before our appointment so have to do it all over again ( we have had rubbish moving luck since we moved in together).

Haven't had my 21 day bloods done yet but partners sperm sample is to be handed in on the 24th june! so not far away.
At the point of ringing to arrange my bloods to be done now

my gut is telling me its all very much to do with the depo povera injection i was on for so long when i was in my teens!
no kids so this will be our first xx

 

[lisey]

Hello to everyone who has hopped aboard. I can relate so much to all the emotions everyone feels. Just so you ladies know, there is no test that can test egg quality. AMH looks at quantity. My fertility specialist said there isn't a test for egg quality as that's what I thought AMH was for aswell xx

 

[lisey]

I am in a poo poo mood today, the bleeding has started, the earliest ever. The thing is, I am wondering if it is something totally different to low progesterone. The bleeding started after a bowel movement (TMI sorry) and this has happened on other months too. I have been googling (as you do) and it sounds like cervical eversion. I did have some freeze treatment on my cervix around 11 years ago as I was getting a lot of discharge and this is a treatment they do for cervical eversion. I cant remember what they called the condition when I went. I am speaking to my GP tomorrow and asking for a referral. Just something else my stupid broken body is doing wrong xx

 

[Belfa]

I am in a poo poo mood today, the bleeding has started, the earliest ever. The thing is, I am wondering if it is something totally different to low progesterone. The bleeding started after a bowel movement (TMI sorry) and this has happened on other months too. I have been googling (as you do) and it sounds like cervical eversion. I did have some freeze treatment on my cervix around 11 years ago as I was getting a lot of discharge and this is a treatment they do for cervical eversion. I cant remember what they called the condition when I went. I am speaking to my GP tomorrow and asking for a referral. Just something else my stupid broken body is doing wrong xx

Literally in a poo poo mood sorry, couldn't resist!

What's the symptoms of cervical eversion? I often have a "clear out " (sorry everyone!!) when AF starts actually, it's one of my very few AF symptoms x

 

[lisey]

I am in a poo poo mood today, the bleeding has started, the earliest ever. The thing is, I am wondering if it is something totally different to low progesterone. The bleeding started after a bowel movement (TMI sorry) and this has happened on other months too. I have been googling (as you do) and it sounds like cervical eversion. I did have some freeze treatment on my cervix around 11 years ago as I was getting a lot of discharge and this is a treatment they do for cervical eversion. I cant remember what they called the condition when I went. I am speaking to my GP tomorrow and asking for a referral. Just something else my stupid broken body is doing wrong xx

Literally in a poo poo mood sorry, couldn't resist!

What's the symptoms of cervical eversion? I often have a "clear out " (sorry everyone!!) when AF starts actually, it's one of my very few AF symptoms x

Lol, that did actually make me laugh

Cervical eversion symptoms include white or slightly bloody vaginal discharge, often appearing one week prior to a period; vaginal bleeding after intercourse or between periods.

This site has lots of info on cervical disorders if anyone is experiencing the same;

http://www.healthcommunities.com/cervical-dysplasia/nonmalignant-cervical-disorders.shtml

xx

 

[Andreax2]

Welcome aboard honey & belfa xx
Lisey good luck at the docs 2moz let us know how it goes x can't believe ur bleeding again so early

 

[Andreax2]

Thanks selina , it's really good 2 hear positve stories , hope all is well with u and have a happy & healthy 9 months !
CLEMENTINE ! I don't now what 2 do with u ! Give u a slap and a bear hug at the same time !! I totally understand how u feel , I feel the same about having hsg and the scan done but I HAVE 2 know- what does hubby think about this ?

Thanks for the slap and the hug I know I should get it checked out but if the results are crap it's not like I can fix it, my hubby is a total optimist he believes it will just happen and that we should have no tests at all. Just have lots of sex and hope for the best His Mum met his Dad when she was older they had him when she was 43 and his sister at 45, so the only thing he doesn't like to hear is that I might want to stop TTC when I reach 43 in 6months time as I'm worried that we'd have a very high risk of having a baby with disabilities. Though after the last D&C when we lost the twins he wanted to stop then as he just didn't want us to have to go through the trauma of having an other MMC, but I said I was happy to try again. All this TTC is bloody stressful at times!! but fingers crossed it will be worth it in the end.

Right this is the last thing il say then I will drop it !
So what about just having the hsg done ? , u never know the flush out could unblock somthing
I know nikb had 1 and I'm sure within 4 months she got her bfp ! Just want u 2 have every chance u can !
And regards 2 the disability issues I 100% understand , at 18 I had my daughter she has severe brain damage and needs round the clock care I'm so scared 2 b pregnant again cus I'm worried the same thing might happen but here I am ttc bcus I just can't live life in fear , I understand the risks but having a disabled child can happen 2 any of us even at 18 , please don't let it stop u x right il stop banging on now !

 

[Natalie_reid]

Been ttc for just over 2 years. Had 21 day bloods done came back ovulation occurred no action required. OH doesnt want to get tested as feels it will ruin ttc for us and cause stress. Although before he met me 6 years ago his ex gf he got her pregnant and they fell out and she got a termination so not sure what to take from that, mayne we are just taking that bit longer because I was on the depo for 3 years so guess ill just plod along on the ttc journey and hope for a bfp xxx goodluck to all x

 

[Clementine]

Sending every 1 hugs this morning jeez we r a right bunch !
Welcome aboard hopeful and clementine !
Clementine have the docs looked at ur egg quality ? Bcus ur eggs r prob fine and if u had a scan a least it would reassure u X that's what I'm asking 4 2 sick if feeling like iv got scrambled eggs !
Imber sorry the witch got u hun , I did read the 40-45 % of women get pregnant on clomid,hope that will b u ! X

Hi Andreax they want me to have an internal scan on Day3 of my cycle to count follicles and also to do AMH for egg quality but I'm too scared to go. If they tell me my eggs are knackered or that there is only a few left I think I would be totally devastated the consultant said I was being an ostrich (burying my head in the sand) but it's a self preservation thing I think it would be very hard to hear that I definitely wouldn't be getting pregnant naturally. My Day 3 bloods were very good so they said I showed no signs of pre-menopause they similar to a girl in her early 30's. I'm sorta trusting Mother Nature to look after things, I'm hoping that I might have one healthy egg left inside me and that it will hopefully create a healthy strong baby bean

Clementine - Everything you write I could have wrote myself lol!!! Took me ages to pluck up courage to go to my doctors. I am exactly the same as you, I just put things off as I am scared of the result. If you dont mind me asking, were you referred privately or is this on the nhs?

That sounds great what they said about your day 3 day bloods, I worry if i am in peri/pre menopause already as my periods are a lighter than they used to be (although i have never had heavy periods) I only have one day of red bleeding then a couple of days of light red/brown blood, it worries me. I 'try' not to stress though....haha yeah right.

Who knew this ttc malarky was such hard work, these babies better go on to rule the world the amount of work we are putting in to ttc them!

Hi hons, I'm in Southern Ireland so no NHS over here I have to pay for everything privately, though GP will do Day 3 & Day 21 bloods so that only costs Euro40. AMH or Egg Count costs Euro150 each. If pregnant you can go public but won't be seen until 13/14 weeks so I have gone private both times thankfully as they picked up the MMC's earlier.
Did your AF arrive last weekend or are you still in? Might pluck up courage to have internal scan next cycle. I did get GP to test blood for AMH but our local lab wouldn't process it as test is too expensive even though I offered to pay. I think we worry no matter what happens, I was worrying cos my periods had got heavier !