Our little dream :) Had a mc???

[Hope81]

Thank you Carnat, feeling better already
We are almost done with renovating th bedroom and the nursery (oh the irony....) so before my due date I will have an empty nursery to stare at....God give me strength ....I think I will close the door and only open it again wen I am 9 months pregnant or sth...

We are also renovation the living room so we ordered a dining table, new sofas and a coffee table and other bits. Pretty happy that I have things to keep my mind busy this month.

How are you girls doing?

 

[CARNAT22]

Thank you Carnat, feeling better already
We are almost done with renovating th bedroom and the nursery (oh the irony....) so before my due date I will have an empty nursery to stare at....God give me strength ....I think I will close the door and only open it again wen I am 9 months pregnant or sth...

We are also renovation the living room so we ordered a dining table, new sofas and a coffee table and other bits. Pretty happy that I have things to keep my mind busy this month.

How are you girls doing?

Are you doing anything on your due date hun? I found it nice that OH and I had a toast and took s afew minutes to think about the lose bean.

I agree with keeping the nursery closed for the time being though!

I am glad you have a project to keep you busy (and glad you are feeling better as well)

 

[Hope81]

Carnat I have been thinking about that and I don't think I will. I am in tears every time I even think about it and having a special day will only make it worst I think? I am not even sure. Plus I will be damned if my oh even remembers what day 25 January is and what it means to me....every time I cry it comes and hug me and says that we will soon have a new and improved LO lol, he is sweet but I don't think he feels my pain. So I will feel a little silly doing sth special ?

 

[CARNAT22]

Carnat I have been thinking about that and I don't think I will. I am in tears every time I even think about it and having a special day will only make it worst I think? I am not even sure. Plus I will be damned if my oh even remembers what day 25 January is and what it means to me....every time I cry it comes and hug me and says that we will soon have a new and improved LO lol, he is sweet but I don't think he feels my pain. So I will feel a little silly doing sth special ?

I have another 2 due dates to get through and I kind of agree that marking these days just makes me feel even more sad.

The other 2 M/c's were much earlier so I think I am going to not bother marking them in any way. When does it stop hey? I can't fill my life with dates of something that never really even started (I was 5 and 6 weeks with 2nd and 3rd losses)

It was for all instense purposes 'just a date' and in reality I'd have probably been moved had I got to have my 12 week scan?

Some people find marking it in some way thearaputic, other's just want the day to pass?

Last week my OH didn't have a clue what the date was, even when I cracked open some bubbly. I had to tell him we were toasting our lost baby !!!

It just isn't the same for them?

I think my OH realised how serious this is after my hospital appointment on Friday. Hearing a Dr tell him that 3 miscarriages is very uncommon and needs to be investigated thoroughly has really resonated with him [plus OH got dragged in for blood tests as well ]

When the 25th comes round Hope, you do whatever you feel is right for you sweetie

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[kanga86]

I agree we can't keep remembering these special dates forever, or we would end up with so many! I mean u can't go on remembering the day u found out about the mc, the day u actually mc'ed and the due date forever.

I think the original and first due date (yesterday) will be the only time I will 'do something special' for our lost bean. Not that I was able to in the end as my oh didn't get home til gone 11pm and then I wasn't in the mood for letting the lantern off.

I will never forget my lil bean but the day lost them will probably stick with me more so than the due date.

Big hugs to everyone xxx

 

[CARNAT22]

I agree we can't keep remembering these special dates forever, or we would end up with so many! I mean u can't go on remembering the day u found out about the mc, the day u actually mc'ed and the due date forever.

I think the original and first due date (yesterday) will be the only time I will 'do something special' for our lost bean. Not that I was able to in the end as my oh didn't get home til gone 11pm and then I wasn't in the mood for letting the lantern off.

I will never forget my lil bean but the day lost them will probably stick with me more so than the due date.

Big hugs to everyone xxx

You are right hun!

I will remember 4th Jan forever but I sure as Hell will not be remembering the days I miscarried on etc... I'll never forget my lost beans but it's time for moving on and being positive.

I feel good about 2012....

That is not to say there won't be sad days of course!

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[netty]

there will always be sad days, why is it that men dont have a clue! argh

 

[CARNAT22]

there will always be sad days, why is it that men dont have a clue! argh

Men are useless LOL!

It took some strange Dr to make my OH realise that what has happened to us since May last year has been horrendous

(He 'knew' of course but I think hearing a Dr say 3 M/c's is very unusual and needs immediate investigation kind of bought it all home to him!)

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[netty]

my OH is quite closed about it all and refuses to go into much detail about it so i dont know how he feels really, he wont remember i was due 13th march, and i will never forget i lost my bean 9th sept and found out baby had died 5th sept, i still have the letter inviting me to my first scan...thats when i found out

 

[CARNAT22]

my OH is quite closed about it all and refuses to go into much detail about it so i dont know how he feels really, he wont remember i was due 13th march, and i will never forget i lost my bean 9th sept and found out baby had died 5th sept, i still have the letter inviting me to my first scan...thats when i found out

Awww sweetie!

I had a few pic's of my BFP's and I finally made myself delete them... It was just too painful to stumble across them.

I have kept all my paperwork and I am glad I did as it has all come in handy with my subsiquent hospital appointments.

I am sure our men keep quite as they like to be our "protectors" and be strong for us. Of course deep down they do care..

13th March is going to be a hard day but I hope you have some good news by then!

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[netty]

yeah i am hoping to have a sticky bean by then too!! i know he cares he just keeps it inside thats all

when i lost baby i put my positive tests, a cow and gate cuddly cow, babygrow and all letters in a box and gacve it to my mum to keep for me until i am ready to look at it again

 

[CARNAT22]

yeah i am hoping to have a sticky bean by then too!! i know he cares he just keeps it inside thats all

when i lost baby i put my positive tests, a cow and gate cuddly cow, babygrow and all letters in a box and gacve it to my mum to keep for me until i am ready to look at it again

Jeez Lynette - I hope one day you'll feel strong enough to open that box!

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[netty]

hmm, even thinking about it makes me wanna cry, i used to have the box at my house but i was using it o go to, to grieve and it was destroying me. So mum has it safe, i told her not to open it but she did and she cried lol I have my bump diary piccys in there and everything. I wanted to bury it but i couldnt bear it either......one day maybe...i dont think i have let my bean go yet tbh

 

[Hope81]

Lynette. I didn't do a box or anything, I wish I could give my brain lol to someone else to keep those memories for me until ready....
I hope we will have lots of BFP the next couple of months here.

Me testing 18, maybe 16 or 17.

How about you girls?

 

[CARNAT22]

Lynette. I didn't do a box or anything, I wish I could give my brain lol to someone else to keep those memories for me until ready....
I hope we will have lots of BFP the next couple of months here.

Me testing 18, maybe 16 or 17.

How about you girls?

I am sad that during my first (and longest pregnancy) I was a threatened m/c for longer than I was a happy, Mum to be. As I knew I'd most likely loss the baby, I was very detatched from the pregnancy. I was heartbroken when it was finally lost but I always knew deep down it would be lost.

I cannot imagine how it must feel to go a whole 3 months, get to your scan and be told there is nothingl.

You ladies that have been through that are amazing!

I am not testing until 31st Hope - that is a long, long way away!

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[netty]

it was devastating as you ladies saw, but i kinda knew it the week runnig up to the scan, my baby had developed to about 11 weeks i think so in a way i am glad i never had an early scan and saw the heartbeat i think that would have been worse

 

[CARNAT22]

it was devastating as you ladies saw, but i kinda knew it the week runnig up to the scan, my baby had developed to about 11 weeks i think so in a way i am glad i never had an early scan and saw the heartbeat i think that would have been worse

I can only imagine!

It's been hard having 3 miscarriages but I have never got past 8 weeks [and all of mine have been natural so I have never needed any medical intervention) so I guess in some respects I am lucky? Well not lucky but you know what I mean!

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[dyscochick]

Carnat, sorry but i can't remember where you up to with docs etc? Have you had any advice for the next pregnancy?

Hope I'll be testing/waiting for AF 21st ish i think. before then risks being too early cos i've got quite a long cycle normally. I feel completely normal at the moment so its probably unlikely a bfp, but from next month on OH won't know whats hit him!

 

[CARNAT22]

Carnat, sorry but i can't remember where you up to with docs etc? Have you had any advice for the next pregnancy?

Hope I'll be testing/waiting for AF 21st ish i think. before then risks being too early cos i've got quite a long cycle normally. I feel completely normal at the moment so its probably unlikely a bfp, but from next month on OH won't know whats hit him!

Exciting hun - I much prefer NTNP to TTC! TTC is stressful

Had a lot of blood taken last week for various tests (genetic and chromosome testing mainly). They took 14 vials in the end!!

I have a tranvaginal scan at 4.30pm and need to have some more blood tests on CD2 .

I have a follow up on 2nd March but if I do get pregnant in the meantime I have a special number I need to call and they will get my straight back in and try to keep me pregnnat (they didn't say how though!!)

So the wheels are in motion!

 

[netty]

so good you are getting the help hun, i hope it puts your mind at ease somewhat!