*** November 2014 Mummies! ***

[katiee24]

Little update from me - most of you already know but here is little man at 25+5.

Get to see him again at 32 weeks.. Long story short the doctors explained his condition in detail finally! he still has an enlarged kidney tube but one has now gone down in size.. If it isn't fixed by 32 weeks he will probably just need scans and antibiotics to be safe at birth

 

[Kaa286]

Oh gosh i cant afford life insurance as finished work now and cant afford to pay out anything extra. Hubby has a policy through work i think?! Will have to wait til i get a job again next september.
As for a will ive got nothing anyway we rent so no home no savings nothing!! Poor child of ours.
Think maybe we will have to wait a little longer before we do anything as sensible as life cover and wills! :-/

Anyway to lighten the mood...im off to my mums for the day to sunbathe in her garden hehe!! i have a strapless top which fits fine but i cant even attempt to zip up any shorts so have to make do with just slipping them on. Havent tried yet but what do u think my chances are of fitting in my tankini?! haha. Have a lovely day girls xxxx

 

[mellie_88]

I have one pair of shorts that fit really low down so I can just about get them on under bump still

We have absolutely nothing for baby either, but was scaring myself a little last night with google. If you both die and dont have a will sometimes baby can end up in care.

 

[Applecrumble]

Oh Kaa... im at my desk and envying your day. sadly though I can not goin the sun when pregnant as I have noticed I come out in unsightly liver spots... which stay for live ;-(

Re life insurance I figure if you dont have a mortgage and you are not working you could argue you dont need a life insurance. because I have a mortgage in my name I have got a policy to cover that. but nothing else as not working so not actually contributing to household income. May change it later in life.
I would recommend a will though as they are cheap and easy to do...It outlines who you wish to look after your children.

 

[nicejuicypear]

Kaa, enjoy your day in the sun!

I have no shorts that fit and have been boiling in black leggings. It is payday, so I might head off into town to pick up some more leggings (because these ones are getting tight around the tummy) and something like shorts or (heaven forbid!) a maxi skirt that is cooler.

I need to sign up to the antenatal classes and mentioned them to my wife, who scoffed and said she wouldn't be going. Apparently she knows all about giving birth because she's done it three times and she didn't go to the classes when she was pregnant and doesn't see the point in me going. So now it looks like I'm going by myself. Which I'm a bit miffed about really.

 

[mellie_88]

Ahh NJP, thats a shame. Maybe she'll come round to the idea once you've booked them. I imagine its a little different being the birthing partner than the one giving birth though.
I'm having to try and book mine so my partner can come to as many as possible. I know if I don't he'll be even more of a nervous wreck once I go into labour. (Not that he'll admit that!)
Im watching one born every minute, a lot of people on this series seem to be having to have c sections because of baby being breech. I hope mine isn't breech :/

 

[Applecrumble]

I have 3 dresses that are comfortable to wear and im just wearing them on rotation. Have some lovely maternity jeans that make my bump look fab... its just too damn hot to wear them.

mellie... I dont mind a planned c-section because you can plan for it and work towards a real date... what I really want to avoid is the whol being overdue, then being induced and then struggling with labour to have an emergency c-section. torn and scarred in all areas.. nightmare..
I personally woudl favour c-section over an induction as well. but I guess we get what we get!

 

[nicejuicypear]

Can you have a late elective, so if you go over, change your birth plan and book in for an elective? Or do you have to have the elective booked in advance?

I haven't considered caesarean at all so haven't thought about deadlines for booking an elective. It's the recovery afterwards that really puts me off. I'd only do it if they offered a free tummy tuck in the stitching up process, lol!

Mellie, I doubt she'll come round. Though I did read today that the NHS gives paid time off to fathers/civil partners for antenatal appointments so she can't say that work won't let her. I don't even think she'll use that excuse, she'll just refuse - she doesn't like awkward social situations. I might just cry to guilt trip her.

 

[mellie_88]

Really? I haven't read that, I thought he'd have to book it off unpaid which we can't really afford.

I'd definitely rather have an elective section than an induction. All the inductions ive been told of have ended up with them waiting around for days and then having to have am emergency c section. My SIL is having trouble conceiving baby number 2 which shes read may be due to having an emergency section for baby number 1.

Just dreaming, hoping, praying for a nice natural birth that doesn't take days. Hope its not a fantasy.

 

[nicejuicypear]

Is your husband in the NHS? It was on a pdf I found when I googled NHS paternity leave. Thought it was quite good as under statutory rights they don't get antenatal time off. Perhaps because the NHS encourage partners to attend these things they've made this policy for employees, otherwise it would be a bit hypocritical.

I've decided it's to hot to go clothes shopping now. Nothing worse than peeling things on and off in the changing rooms when you're all sweaty & clammy.

 

[mellie_88]

No hes not, just didn't think any companies did it. Generally they seem to give the bare minimum when it comes to maternity/paternity.

I went shopping earlier, tried to find a broom. Went to seven different shops and I still couldn't find one. So bloody annoying! And OH left ours outside during the storms so it's now wrecked

 

[Applecrumble]

wow I just walked back from a meeting... initially thought couldnt be bothered to wait for a taxi. what a mistake it has completely done me in... im totally knackered! (even had to nip by home to have a quick shower as I was totally drenched)

I dont think they give elective c-sections without good reason. Certainly at Chelsea and Westminister it says in the front of my medical notes.. this hopital does not do elective c-sections, please seek another care provider!! I dont know if its just because it's the area. I will most likely give birth in Devon so if they allow me to have an elective c-section I would jump at it.

Maybe Im just a control freak, but I like the idea of knowing whats a head....

 

[mellie_88]

Definitely one of the main positives to elective sections is that you can plan it all, and you don't have to worry about going overdue amd waiting around for it to start.

 

[nicejuicypear]

The way I see it, this baby is going to slide out of me with no pain, no mess and definitely no tearing. It will be like having a big poo. I'm just happy to live with this delusion for the next few months and so thinking of a c section is like volunteering for guaranteed pain!

 

[Kaa286]

Had a lovely day. We went swimming in the morning what a strange sensation that was at first!!
And omg i could fit in my tankini still haha chuffed!!
Spent rest of day chilling n having lovely salad fir lunch. Yum.

Ooh ive heard induction horrendous as forcing body to do it and its like 10x more painful
Wouldnt want c section either for same reasons as njp but u have to have proper medical reason to choose one anyway. Just hope dont end up with energency c sec :-/

Njp bit rubbish that she wint consider ur feelings and just go for ur sake. Im not going to any classes of any sort i dont i think unless i feel i could actually gain a lot from them but i kind of dint want to know about labour i just want to deal with it when it happens :-/ xx

 

[Applecrumble]

I am being a nightmare tonight...i seem to be googling all these thing on the internet and convinced myself that my baby/child is going to be fat and short...and its all my fault because of my unhealthy eating habits. I feel like such a failure and my poor daughter is going to be obese.

His all started from a scan results on tuesday...my baby has short legs and a massive stomach...

 

[Applecrumble]

I know that post sounds ridiculous...but its honestly how i feel.

 

[Kaa286]

What did they say at the scan hun were they concerned??

I worry my child will be short and fat coz i am!! Ha xx

 

[Applecrumble]

Even after a good night sleep I am still worrying.
She did comment on how much she was moving (at every scan the baby seems to be moving) and asked what I had eaten for breakfast (weetabix and a glass of orange juice).

She didnt comment on anything other than everything was good. But then when I got my results printed the adobmen was about 90% and the legs 30-35%. So I went googling... the adobmen (is the most inaccurate reading of the measurements typically) but a large abodmen is the result of too much intake in sugar from the mother.... so if you keep googling it then goes on to say stuff like if you eat too much sugar and pass to baby the baby can build greater reserves of fat and then be obese... ;-(

Its fair to say my diet has been terrible since being pregnant... I just can not be bothered to cook... especially now as Im on my own and OH is not around to cook... and I have just been eating way too many sweets.

Anyway apologies for the long rant but I do feel better for just letting this out. I hope I can use this as a wake up call and just start eating more healthy in this pregancy. (the thing I think is im really sad, is prior to pregancy I always ate healthy and cooked really good food) its seems so sad that I can eat healthy to look good on a beach but not for the health of my own baby. ;-(

eating a carrot now!

 

[katiee24]

http://www.pregnancyforum.co.uk/third-trimester/451166-november-2014-mummys.html#post3959769

opened up the tri 3 thread today a little early Your all welcome to move over whenever xx