*** November 2014 Mummies! ***

[katiee24]

We would all be useless if there was ever a PF meet up haha!

 

[nicejuicypear]

Haha, I'm the same. Once I know people and I'm comfortable with them I can chat away, but that can take a long time. And if I'm with loud people I tend to get lost in the crowd. Yet at the same time I'm quite opinionated and not particularly meek, it's just I'd rather not do big groups.

Mellie, perhaps he was lying head up or feet up and straightening out? I can feel when mine is lying across because I get a head poking out one side and feet out the other at the same time, as if she's stretching out.

I'm going to go and find a book to read to her soon as I read that if you read a book to them in the womb, they often settle quickly if you read it to them when they are born because they recognise it. Worth a try!

 

[mellie_88]

I heard that too, apparently it can work with music aswell. So I need to find a nice chilled out song to play to him regularly then hopefully once he's here he'll settle everytime he hears it. I need to get some story books for him we currently have none. The other day my OH read the Dulux catalogue too him because I said he should be reading to the baby, and he grabbed the first thing he could find!

 

[nicejuicypear]

Yeah, my app said this week they can now hear conversations you're having, not just your own voice but other people when they're talking to you, so they'll be able to hear your OH. I heard about the music thing too, but haven't really picked anything to play her. She got a good blast of old Bon Jovi songs in my last few weeks of term as I had a nostalgia burst on Spotify, but don't know if I want to rock her to sleep to Living on a Prayer!

 

[katiee24]

I play music to baby as well! Hoping to have the same sort of music in labour! Throughout my last pregnancy my dad was always playing elvis so myah is always dancing away to him now haha!

 

[Kaa286]

Oh no Simone of those annoying people who will talk to anyone n make comments when a room full of people is quiet as I don't like uncomfortable silence haha. I would annoy the craps out of u all probably!! Ha.

I've been playing classical music to baby but then guilty pleasure old school r n b when I have a shower haha.

Hubby talks to baby sometimes but he's not read anything yet.
That's brilliant Mellie haha wonder if ur baby found it interesting hehe!! X

 

[katiee24]

Kaa I don't mind if someone speaks to me first.. Im crap at starting conversations!

May try and get hubby to read to baby! I think he's finally got a bond with my bump.. The other day at the hospital He pulled me towards him, kissed my bump and then said "I can't wait for cuddles with my little boy" very rare for him! He also has started to feel more kicks.. Grins like a Cheshire Cat when he can feel him! I think I may have to fight for cuddles when he arrives! X

 

[nicejuicypear]

That's lovely, Katie! I think my DW is feeling more towards the baby now because she can feel the kicks more. She makes a funnel with her hands on my belly and talks to the baby.

I feel really weird today. I think I have vertigo. When I move my head or eyes quickly the room starts spinning. I've tried eating, drinking and resting and it's not making any difference. Might have to call the midwife or doctor. I've googled it and can't find anything related to pregnancy to suggest there's a problem and the baby is kicking away so I'm not worried about her.

 

[katiee24]

That's so nice NJP! Nothing better than having our OHs join in with the bonding! DH struggled to bond with Myah for the first few weeks.. His depression went a bit downhill and I think all the visitors and not getting much time to ourself with baby didn't help! Hoping for it to work out better this time!

As for the vertigo I had it in the first few weeks of pregnancy! It was awful.. I managed to get the doctor to come out to me and they gave me some sickness tablets and never had a problem since! Hope you get it sorted Hun x

 

[nicejuicypear]

Isn't your husband who has the overbearing mother too? I imagine that didn't help. You haven't mentioned any horror stories lately so has she backed off?

I went to the GP, it's an inner ear thing. She prescribed me some tablets which I have to pick up from the chemist tomorrow. She said they shouldn't be taken in the third trimester but she thinks they'll be okay for a short period of time since I'm just about to start third tri. I'm not too sure. They're only to alleviate symptoms, not clear the problem up so I'm not sure if I want to take them.

 

[katiee24]

Oh yes the mother in law! haha

DH changed the code on the front door lock.. She hasn't been as bad as usual.. Were keeping alot of the parts of pregnancy to our self this time - surprised she didn't moan when the pram arrived and we took it away from the house straight away! The only issues we have is that we want to buy Myah a "big sister" gift bag with little bits and bobs in from us to keep her occupied for the first few days.. when i mentioned it to her she said she wants to buy her something as well.. Annoyed me as i wanted it to be something that we did and nobody else.. its not as special if everybody else does it.. plus her birthday is like 2 weeks after anyway! I have told her no but a week later she started going on about it again!

Thankfully she wont be at the birth this time, the code will be changed on the door again just before baby's due. Visiting everyday will be stopping once myah is back at nursery 3 days a week.. there's no need for it really, my dad only sees myah twice a week so shes doing better than him! she wont be meeting baby until we've got home and settled.. she has a thing for coming knocking on the door as soon we get in or just following us in! But hubby has said the animals and myah must meet baby first and if she does try to sneak a peak beforehand or keep moaning to us then he will be having a kick off with her haha!

I know what you mean im wary of things to take at this stage! If it was me i would try and leave taking them unless it is really needed x

 

[mellie_88]

That's good that your OH is seeing your side of things. You definitely need to introduce the pets and myah to baby first otherwise it could make things a lot harder for you later on. Has she not pulled a face at the door lock being changed? Extremely happy my OHs mom isn't like that, I'd go mental but she lives a fair drive away plus she doesn't drive herself!

 

[Applecrumble]

I would also use the argument that its important that Myah gets to know baby before any visitors keep coming by.... to include her so to speak.

I dont know how you do it...having a mil on the doorstep would send me round the loop...

So as I may of said we are relocating to Devon... the inlaws are planning a move down to be closer. Which i love in principal as long as they are not too close. Luckily we are renting for the first year so they will of most likely bought by the time we are ready to buy.... so will be in full control of how close the inlaws are...

Just thinking today... how happy I am at the moment... think Im in the blooming phase (finally) when I compared myself to how I felt cica 9 weeks ago! I am a different women.

 

[Applecrumble]

oh.... whilst on my regular lunch time activity of walking around John Lewis baby department... guess... Kate Middleton...

Was very exciting.. dont think anybody else noticed, although it was definately her (she had two plain clothes policemen with her) looking at baby sleeping pods and storage baskets.

 

[katiee24]

She had no choice with the door lock! We changed it and then told her! Its so peaceful now i was also getting tired of her just deciding to turn up when she felt like it and messing up myahs routine so ive made a rule that no visiting after dinner and were both being strict with it.. no matter what excuse she doesnt get away with it! Shes started bothering with her mate across the road again now so that's another reason why its peaceful

I'm hoping that because baby is born close to Christmas that we will be going out seeing Christmas displays and stuff so that she isn't up our arse every 5 minutes! I let hubby get choice and colour of our pram so more chance of getting out and about with it haha! Nothing worse than trying to get used to a new baby and having someone constantly sat around watching a baby breathe :/

Forgot to mention that last week she asked me what is she buying for Myah and baby for Christmas.. think she needs to get her eyes tested and take a good look at my belly as the last thing on my mind at the minute is bloody Christmas list!

Wonder what i did wrong in a past life to have to put up with her? haha!

 

[katiee24]

Who is still on here that's not quite tri 3 yet? Can never see the tickers on my mobile :/

 

[Kaa286]

Oh Njp that sucks I would take a couple though just the lowest dose for a small period of time just to try and help a little.

Katie great news that mil not as bad now. It's always easier when oh supportive!
It's all kicked off here coz my aunty been wanting throw me a baby shower for ages but wasn't too keen. My mum's not into it all. Anyway I agreed would allow it ha and decided have it at mine so neutral but it's literally going to be a ladies afternoon tea. Little sandwiches and cakes and a natter.
So I rang mil about a date and mentioned it n it came out she been planning a surprise one for me. It's all cancelled now n she was a bit funny about it. I cried and didn't sleep n felt like the bad guy but she cut her nose off to spite her face by refusing to still go ahead with it.

Don't get me wrong was lovely of her wanting to do that but why the F would I want a baby shower hosted by my mil at her house. Talk about awkward for my family!! My mum doesn't really like idea coz it's American n feel bad asking for pressies but no way would she not want to helpout or be involved I am her daughter after all!! Dust has settled now like but jeez was awful at the time. Bloody in laws!!!

Apple that is the best news I am so chuffed that ur so happy yay!!! xxx

 

[mellie_88]

Im not quite tri 3 yet, 27 weeks in Tuesday so NJP will be Tuesday the same as me!

Kaa thats nice of your MIL to try and organise it for you. At least she's still going to get to go to one for you. I wasn't particularly keen on the idea of one, however my friend decided she was going to throw one right from the start. So we'll see how that goes, aa I think she think it'll be some sort of piss up :/

 

[Kaa286]

Same here I'm only 28 weeks next Wed so although I'm kind of in tri 3 am waiting til then for it to feel more official!

Mellie I been adamant from the start that I don't want alcohol tacky games and a cake that resembles a vagina haha! Just a ladies tea is fine for me haha.

We will have to start moving this Convo into tri 3 very soon though coz in tri 2 it's all gender scans n stuff now n all info I want at this point is in tri 3. Just don't want to leave anyone behind!! Ha xx

 

[mellie_88]

Haha I was thinking the same the other day. All the topics in tri 2 seem like things I dealt with ages ago! Even popped my head into tri 1 the other day and it felt like years ago that I was waiting for my 12 weeks scan!

I'm hoping there's not too many silly games, or stupid cakes but only time will tell. I'd have preferred a nice little tea party type thing personally but I can't really say much aa she's going to the trouble of doing it.