Ladies doing IVF or IUI - 2015 (9 BFPs!)

[tinselcat]

Sorry to hear that phonixgirl.

If it helps, even if the embryos are poor quality on one or two cycles, doesn't mean that they will be like that every time.

I hope that the FET brings the result you want (and that we all want for you) xxx

 

[phonixgirl]

Thank you xx you are all so lovely xx

The embryos were all good quality (As or Bs), it just didn't implant for whatever reason. DH bought me flowers and a Chinese last night - I nearly cried (after crying several times in work!) and I am welling up again now.

I had horrific cramps in the middle of the night and am having lots of clots with the bleeding. It's really horrible. Oh and I feel light-headed and wobbly too. I have read that this is normal due to the drugs. I guess also every IVF is kind of like a really early mc as you have a fertilised egg. I'm sure mine did do its best to attach itself as well which probably makes things worse.

Really hoping the FET works. I didn't expect myself to get some upset by it - I'm not usually an emotional person really and knew the stats before we started! It's so tough xxx

 

[Blueflower]

Of course you would get upset, after all the planning and drugs and appointments and injections and procedures and hoping and being positive.
My embryos have always been good quality in terms of appearance but they can't see the chromosomes which I think are usually the culprit. But you are likely to have some good ones frozen.

 

[CDAbaby]

I have the all clear!! Start the HRT in preparation for the fet! So happy xxx

 

[phonixgirl]

That's great news CDA xx

I rang up the clinic today and they said not to bother coming in tomorrow but I should do a test at home for their records (even though they said it will likely be negative). I told then I know it definitely will be but they still need it apparently. Then they can arrange an appointment with a doctor. We will leave it a couple of months before doing my FET. I don't mind this as it gives my body a chance to recover, and I can get to know my cycles on metformin. And I can still hope for a miracle natural BFP in the meantime. Xxx

 

[MariaIsabella]

I am so sorry Phonixgirl !! Think it sounds good for you take a little break. You are still young and have plenty of time so think its better for you to recover and who knows.. it might happen naturally! Take care xx

Great news CDA! So when will they do the transfer, in the new year??

 

[CDAbaby]

So sorry phonixgirl I've heard great things about fet.
Transfer will be in 2 weeks!!!! xxx

 

[MariaIsabella]

So soon!! I hope to see that BFP before the New Year!

 

[phonixgirl]

I'm young yes but DH is 38 this month and he wants to stop at 40. That scares me. He just doesn't want to be an old dad. Xxx

CDA - I really hope you can squeeze in another BFP on here before the year is out! Xx

 

[phonixgirl]

A little bit of good news.

I got the letter about my treatment today. It says five were frozen which means the last one did catch up, yay xx

 

[Laura07]

Phonixgirl I'm so sorry about af coming, a couple of mths getting your body tip top sounds like an excellent plan.

 

[phonixgirl]

Thought I'd been doing that! It gives me more time for the metformin to take effect and be PCOS-free though

I was going to cancel my gym membership but now I'm not sure. Still might and maybe do something like pilates from home instead. X

I'm going to ask about the NK cells testing that you've just had done too xx

 

[Blueflower]

You are being very brave and positive Phoenixgirl. Good news about the extra blastocyst!

Our appointment was ok, he showed us the embryo results. All the chromosomes from 1-23 were listed and they either had a tick if they were ok or said something like extra or missing. He said there were 2 good blastocysts that would have been transferred if we didn't have CGH but these had quite a few comments rather than ticks. There was one that didn't 'look' so good but had ticks on all but one chromosome if I remember correctly. He said the best looking 2 wouldn't have implanted and the other one might have implanted but then I would probably have miscarried.

He said the abnormalities could be from egg or sperm but are more likely to be from my eggs.

The lab is going to email me the report so I will update when I've got it.

He gave us info on egg donation to read. I can't get my head round the fact that DH and I are very unlikely to be able to have our own child. I also can't accept that all my eggs have been rubbish for the last 4 1/2 years.

 

[phonixgirl]

Wow. Such detailed information.

It must be so difficult to come to terms with the fact you may never have your own biological child. It has crossed my mind a few times the past few days and that's hard enough.

I hope you get your baby somehow. And if it's through a donor, you will forget that once you are holding that baby in your arms. And then all this will be worth it. X

 

[Laura07]

It's good you got information on all the egg blue flower so you have a clear idea of what's going on xx

I had my nk results today they are terrible 28.3% my acupuncturist has never had anyone that bad, thought I was ok because we don't have our phone consultation till Tuesday and I thought let's not panic till we know what our options are.... Well went to a yoga relaxation night thought it would be good with everything that's going on until the end when two pregnant women started talking about due dates etc and then half the women joined in talking about pregnancy yoga I had to leave sat in the car hysterical big fat tears so now having a large wine!!! Everything we have done has been pointless mth after mth all the tablets injections time off work putting everything to one side to give us the best chance I might as well of not bothered xx

 

[phonixgirl]

Oh I could pretty much have written that myself! Do you know yet what they are going to do about your nk cells - is it steroids?

Can I just ask, did your clinic suggest you get that test done? We have been trying for so long that surely I should have got a BFP at some point by now, even with the PCOS. I'm wondering if I maybe have high levels of nk cells too. Xx

 

[Laura07]

We have a phone consultation on Tuesday evening so will find out what it all means below 5% is normal.
I asked the consultant about it because it's extra he said it was fine its normally for people who have had miscarriages or failed IVF but because I'm hardly ever ill I wanted to get it done glad we did it now was worth the money xx

 

[MariaIsabella]

Sounds so strange that no embryos are normal Blueflower.. I understand you don't want to go though this again with so much disappointment.

It might happen naturally, I really hope it will.

Have a good friend ( 44 now ) who had a baby recently. She was told she had no good eggs. She went though ivf a couple of times but she had so few eggs and hardly any to collect and the few that fertilized did not even survive a day so nothing to transfer every time because of such bad quality. They gave up but she got pregnant naturally so there must have been a good egg in there!! She took DHEA supplements, not sure you have heard about that?

x

 

[Blueflower]

That's awful Laura, mine was 19% but obviously not the reason for our failures, there are things they can do such as the intralipid infusion.

I always had plenty of eggs, as if I was 10 years younger apparently and we get several blastocysts, but I suppose that's no good if they are poor quality. Does anyone know if poor sperm morphology is related to chromosomes too? I just don't think its all me. And I can't believe our embryos have always been abnormal even when I was 4 years younger.

 

[millielaura]

We have a phone consultation on Tuesday evening so will find out what it all means below 5% is normal.
I asked the consultant about it because it's extra he said it was fine its normally for people who have had miscarriages or failed IVF but because I'm hardly ever ill I wanted to get it done glad we did it now was worth the money xx

Mine came back as 27% so similar. I got mine done for r m/c testing. They mentioned steroids, clexane injections maybe (although thats a blood thinner so don't really get that one), and intralipid infusion. I think there is quite a lot that can be done. Xxx