Ladies doing IUI or IVF - 2016 (11 BFPs so far!)

[lisey]

I really do. You download it (think it costs around us$70) there are different meditations for each part of the cycle and you listen once a day, I listen when I go to bed. They last 15-20 minutes and it's just relaxation and visualisation. It's very relaxing, I'm a dreadful insomniac and I'm always drifting off by the end.

Hi Syd bucket loads of baby bean dust for tomorrow

Can't believe I'm doing this but I rang one of the IVF clinics in Dublin today to discuss options I've registered for a Fertility Presentation this Sunday, bar me & my hubby (& PF) we're not saying it to friends or family, I'll go Sunday and see what they say, they have said that they would let me use my own eggs if all my bloods were ok even though I'm 45 - I didn't really like the nurse I spoke to as she treated me as if I was 12 and that I had no clue about fertility and older women (I really felt like saying i could write a book on it after the last 5 years and that I was more than aware that the stats are not in our favour). This clinic doesn't offer genetic testing on the embryos before transfer as they're note registered. I'm also ringing a 2nd clinic tomorrow that does offer it to see if they accept people if 45.

This is fab. So pleased to read this. When you say they are not registered, is that just for the embryo testing that they are not registered? Some clinics don't think that much of those tests anyway. We chose not to go that route even with losses. It was an extra 4k and our IVF was already 8k so couldn't afford it but the consultant didn't think it necessary anyway. It's obv different for each couple though xx

 

[sarros]

Hi ladies! I have been down the IUI route for the first time in Barcelona and am happy to announce it worked first time, which is great as odds were against me (I'm 38). Please can you explain what BFP is? Sorry if its a daft question

Good luck to you all, believe in what is meant to be will be xx

 

[Syd43]

Of course Clementine, I knew there was a reason you couldn't go abroad. So sorry for the delay tinselcat, that's rubbish.

Congrats sarros, bfp is positive pregnancy test (big fat positive).

So I'm PUPO. We've ended up with one at early blastocyst stage and two still at day 4. The clinic recommended putting back two and seeing how the other one is looking tomorrow so that's what we've done. OTD 5 Feb.

 

[lisey]

Wow, officially PUPO I have everything crossed for you and hope the 5th brings wonderful news xx

 

[louielly]

Yay PUPO - congratulations Syd. Good luck!!
That's great news Clementine, glad you're going again 😊
How frustrating Tinselcat. I know the feeling 🙄 Hopefully waiting a cycle will give you a bit more time to get those eggies in tip top condition!
Hope your appointment went well MrsS15.
Mrs Bass it's so hard getting/helping them to quit. My hubby quit with the help of a vaper and was having 0% nicotine for ages!!! But the last month he has been smoking again as we're both really stressed at the minute. Not great timing as cycling at the minute 😏

I have my 3rd scan in the morning - CD10 and hopefully the decider! Peny thinks the large follicle is definitely a cyst (but has shrunk?! - I've been doing caster oil packs, so could be to do with that) So we're monitoring the leading follicle (not the cyst) and seeing how we get on. Fingers crossed! X

 

[MrsS15]

Amazing syd, everything crossed for you!!

Clementine I'm so pleased you're giving it another go. I hope this gives you a little miracle!

Tinsel that's so rubbish about delaying it but it'll come round before you know it and hopefully the timing is perfect for you.

Louielly fingers crossed for your scan in the morning. Hopefully the cyst continues shrinking and isn't an issue. I'll be thinking of you!

Well we're not long back from our appointment. We've got the consent forms and had swabs and bloods taken. We've to go back in 2 weeks with the signed forms and she'll have our individual plan for then. She said we'll be starting on day21 of our next cycle so that'll be around the 8th of march and it'll be go from there. I kinda hoped we'd start this cycle but she seemed keen to give us all the details in 2 weeks and then that gives us some time to prepare for it etc. So fingers crossed! She sent us to speak to the counsellor after as well which really helped. Although I cried for most of it think all of this ttc process till now really came spilling out and I realised what little support I have (apart from you all and hubby). I'm going back to see her in 2 weeks too! Xx

 

[Syd43]

I'm glad it went well MrsS, they're doing kong protocol for you then which does seem to be preferred for younger women, seeing the counsellor sounds like a great idea.

 

[MrsS15]

Thanks syd. Yeah looks like it! I hope the time goes in quickly now. We'll be looking at a wee Xmas baby too, so excited by that!! Counsellor definitely helped. I felt a bit uneasy at first but she was lovely and helped me admit how I've been feeling about everything. I actually slept easily last night for the first time in so long, I wonder if that big weight off my shoulders helped!

How are you getting on? Xx

 

[lisey]

Amazing syd, everything crossed for you!!

Clementine I'm so pleased you're giving it another go. I hope this gives you a little miracle!

Tinsel that's so rubbish about delaying it but it'll come round before you know it and hopefully the timing is perfect for you.

Louielly fingers crossed for your scan in the morning. Hopefully the cyst continues shrinking and isn't an issue. I'll be thinking of you!

Well we're not long back from our appointment. We've got the consent forms and had swabs and bloods taken. We've to go back in 2 weeks with the signed forms and she'll have our individual plan for then. She said we'll be starting on day21 of our next cycle so that'll be around the 8th of march and it'll be go from there. I kinda hoped we'd start this cycle but she seemed keen to give us all the details in 2 weeks and then that gives us some time to prepare for it etc. So fingers crossed! She sent us to speak to the counsellor after as well which really helped. Although I cried for most of it think all of this ttc process till now really came spilling out and I realised what little support I have (apart from you all and hubby). I'm going back to see her in 2 weeks too! Xx

Thats great that you have some timings in place now. I know its disappointing when its not as quickly as you had hoped but just look at it as time to get your bodies in tip top shape ready for the process xx

 

[Syd43]

Clinic left a message to say nothing for freezing. My oh was only willing to do this once so if the two I have on board don't work out it's all over for me. Feeling quite anxious.

 

[MrsS15]

Thanks lisey, you're absolutely right. We're both changing our diet and trying to get fit so hopefully we'll feel body ready for a baby my mind feels a little less foggy today already!

Syd I'm sorry there was nothing to freeze but I'm keeping everything crossed these 2 little ones are in your arms in 9 months and you don't need to worry about second chances! Xx

 

[louielly]

Glad your heads a bit clearer MrsS. Sounds like you have a good plan in place with getting healthier.

Not good news following scan this morning. Penny has advised to abandon this cycle. The cyst has grown and the 4 follicles I have haven't and wont while the cyst is still there. I have 2 options. First is to go on BCPs to try and shrink it. The 2nd option is go out at the start of the next cycle and have it aspirated. I'm pretty peeved as this could have been an option for this cycle as we all knew that I had a cyst! Can't have time off for a few months now. Hubby is keen to give DE a go on the next cycle we do, rather than doing one with mine first and then moving on to DE. Just waiting for Penny to come back to us with a time for a phone call or face to face as she's over in London this weekend. I'm off for a Chinese now and a LARGE glass of wine! X

 

[lisey]

So sorry Syd but hopefully you won't be in need of frosties x
Louielly, sorry it's been stressful. How do you feel about donor eggs? I thought that this would be the route we would have to take but it is a big decision. I wanted to give it a go with my own just so I knew I had tried everything. What about tandem cycle where you stim and the donor stims too? That way you have back up and more chance? Xx

 

[louielly]

We've been thinking about it for quite a while now Lisey so totally fine and open to it. Have done lots of research etc. We will see what Penny thinks and if she feels it's worth giving my own eggs another go first.

They used to do tandem and back up donor cycles (so where the back up donor for someone else could be used for a last minute person) but apparently they don't do this anymore. Once we speak with Penny we'll know a bit more.

Fingers crossed you won't need any Frosties anyway Syd! We only had Frosties from 1 cycle

 

[lisey]

Oh I see. Didn't realise they didn't do them anymore. I think donor eggs is a wonderful option. That would have been our next step had it not worked. Donor egg cycle probably would have been cheaper than our IVF so I said one more go with own eggs and then donor.
I hope Peny has lots of good advice for you and you can make some plans for next steps xx

 

[Blueflower]

Sorry you had none for freezing Syd, we never had any spares but hopefully you won't need them. xx
Wow Clementine that's really exciting! xx

 

[Syd43]

Sorry it wasn't good news louielly. Why is OH so keen to push straight on to DE? I'm not sure of your history, other than what's in your signature, do you know it's your eggs that are the issue? I think DE are a great option, I would definitely have tried that buy my OH won't. You both need to be ready to move to that option though and it sounds like you would really like to give OE one more go?

 

[Clementine]

Loueilly, I'm really sorry to read the cyst is still there, hopefully now that you are under the care of Penny she can advise the best plan of action. Moving to DE is a huge step, maybe one cycle with Penny with your own eggs as she sounds so thorough that you might regret not giving it one go with OE if she can rectify cyst. Could you get the cyst removed in the UK so you wouldn't have to take extra time off work.

MrsS15 glad your appointment went well, I'm not surprised you got upset when you spoke with the counsellor, we bottle in so much of our TTC journey sometimes I've felt like I'd just love to vent it all out.

Syd43 lots of sticky baby dust, hopefully both your baby beans snuggle in tight, roll on February 5th. Sorry you didn't have spare to free but hopefully this cycle has worked and this is the start of your take home baby.

My hubby can't get Sunday morning off work! I'm not sure I'm brave enough to go to the information morning without him, TTC is the one thing I hate discussing with people. Even thinking about it gives me butterflies in my tummy.

Lisey the two main clinics in Ireland are SIMS.ie and REPROMED.ie both are fully registered but SIMS isn't yet registered to do Genetic Testing on Embryos (PGD), Repromed do offer it but it's not done in Ireland you have to travel to sister clinic abroad which wouldn't suit us.

 

[Syd43]

I'm sorry hubby can't get time off on Sunday clementine, can you get an initial consultation for the two of you? I'm sure you'd be fine on your own Sunday, I've not been to an information session but I wouldn't imagine you have to say anything if you don't want? I totally understand how you feel about not wanting to discuss it with anyone.

 

[xMillie]

I called my clinic today (2 weeks after amh test like they said) and ughh they said they don't have my results there and will have to fax Cardiff to get them. Said I need to call back Monday. Wanted to sort this out today.