**** july mummies 2018 *****

[Shanivy]

My scan is on 4th January!!!!!!!! Such long wait I will be 13+4 as well... a bit late x

At least you'll get a fantastic scan pic and you're still in for for your tests. But flip me that is late xx

 

[Shepherdess]

We have two options for where I can give birth either at our local hospital which is a midwife led unit or at a hospital 30 minutes away which is a full birthing centre.
I opted for the midwife led unit when I had my appoinment on Monday but I have since been reading and they dont offer epidurals!!!! Oh my life, what if I want one, I will then have to be transferred to the hospital by ambulance!
I think I'm going to change my mind on location!!

TBH I didn't want an epidural and gas and air was enough. I had a spontaneous quick labour and got to 10cm at home and didn't realise until I went through my transition. Got to the hospital pushing so was too late for me to have one. I did ask for one out of panic lol. Gas and air is magic. So is the birthing pool. Also midwife units are fantastic and have everything you both need if anything goes wrong. If you'd like a midwife unit don't let that change your mind. But if your set on hospital then for sure change it. Everyone's different.



Edit: GG that's a beautiful name and a amazing person to name your baby after! xx

not trying to say you're wrong or anything but in my area the midwife led unit is not equipt to deal with any complications. hence my waters were broken for me after they hadn't broken even though I was 9cm, there was meconium in there and I was rushed to the hospital, worst ride of my life to that hospital thinking my baby would die. also sorry I'm not trying to scare anyone but just make sure you know that facts about where you are going to deliver

 

[JenKat]

Hi all,
Just catching up on this thread. Really exciting to hear that several of you have been having your scans. Mine's not until January, which seems late but was the earliest they could give me.

Also GG, I just wanted to say Kieran is a lovely name and you clearly have a great reason for choosing it!

Last night was rough for me, for the first time since I became pregnant I was sick. I have had acute nausea from early on but never been sick, but last night it just happened and I was pretty upset. I really really hate being sick. But afterwards I was so exhausted that for the first time I got a full night's sleep. But I am hoping this won't be a trend now. I am dreading this evening! I tried something new for dinner last night so I am hoping it was just that and if I stick to safer food I'll be alright.

 

[Shanivy]

We have two options for where I can give birth either at our local hospital which is a midwife led unit or at a hospital 30 minutes away which is a full birthing centre.
I opted for the midwife led unit when I had my appoinment on Monday but I have since been reading and they dont offer epidurals!!!! Oh my life, what if I want one, I will then have to be transferred to the hospital by ambulance!
I think I'm going to change my mind on location!!

TBH I didn't want an epidural and gas and air was enough. I had a spontaneous quick labour and got to 10cm at home and didn't realise until I went through my transition. Got to the hospital pushing so was too late for me to have one. I did ask for one out of panic lol. Gas and air is magic. So is the birthing pool. Also midwife units are fantastic and have everything you both need if anything goes wrong. If you'd like a midwife unit don't let that change your mind. But if your set on hospital then for sure change it. Everyone's different.

Edit: GG that's a beautiful name and a amazing person to name your baby after! xx

not trying to say you're wrong or anything but in my area the midwife led unit is not equipt to deal with any complications. hence my waters were broken for me after they hadn't broken even though I was 9cm, there was meconium in there and I was rushed to the hospital, worst ride of my life to that hospital thinking my baby would die. also sorry I'm not trying to scare anyone but just make sure you know that facts about where you are going to deliver

Ohhhh see mine was equipped for anything when I had dd. We were sort of 40 mins from the main hospital though so that could be why as a lot of little towns nearby went there too. I got blue lighted through and ended up at the main hospital anyway because of how my delivery went. This time we're back in the city so I will be at the unit inside the hospital anyway. They even did ultrasounds and testing without having to go through to the city.

But yeah she definitely needs the facts from her own area before making a decision. Personally I wouldn't be comfortable in a midwife led unit that didn't have the equipment and facilities for obvious reasons. I honestly thought they'd all have to, especially if you're far away from the hospital. That sounds awful for you xx

 

[Shepherdess]

We have two options for where I can give birth either at our local hospital which is a midwife led unit or at a hospital 30 minutes away which is a full birthing centre.
I opted for the midwife led unit when I had my appoinment on Monday but I have since been reading and they dont offer epidurals!!!! Oh my life, what if I want one, I will then have to be transferred to the hospital by ambulance!
I think I'm going to change my mind on location!!

TBH I didn't want an epidural and gas and air was enough. I had a spontaneous quick labour and got to 10cm at home and didn't realise until I went through my transition. Got to the hospital pushing so was too late for me to have one. I did ask for one out of panic lol. Gas and air is magic. So is the birthing pool. Also midwife units are fantastic and have everything you both need if anything goes wrong. If you'd like a midwife unit don't let that change your mind. But if your set on hospital then for sure change it. Everyone's different.

Edit: GG that's a beautiful name and a amazing person to name your baby after! xx

not trying to say you're wrong or anything but in my area the midwife led unit is not equipt to deal with any complications. hence my waters were broken for me after they hadn't broken even though I was 9cm, there was meconium in there and I was rushed to the hospital, worst ride of my life to that hospital thinking my baby would die. also sorry I'm not trying to scare anyone but just make sure you know that facts about where you are going to deliver

Ohhhh see mine was equipped for anything when I had dd. We were sort of 40 mins from the main hospital though so that could be why as a lot of little towns nearby went there too. I got blue lighted through and ended up at the main hospital anyway because of how my delivery went. This time we're back in the city so I will be at the unit inside the hospital anyway. They even did ultrasounds and testing without having to go through to the city.

But yeah she definitely needs the facts from her own area before making a decision. Personally I wouldn't be comfortable in a midwife led unit that didn't have the equipment and facilities for obvious reasons. I honestly thought they'd all have to, especially if you're far away from the hospital. That sounds awful for you xx

our midwife led unit is very small which might be some thing to do with it, I think they only have 400 births a year. but yeah they are only equipt for straight forward deliveries with gas and air or pethidine as pain relief options. lots of my friends have had their babies there no problem but lots have also been transferred. this time I'm opting for the hospital to start with

 

[_GG_]

There are a few birthing units we could choose, but I'll be hospital anyway. The only one I would have considered is one floor up in the main hospital so very close to everything. My mw said it's just not worth the risk as even the best centres can never deal with emergencies and mums end up being rushed to the nearest hospital. She said it obviously doesn't happen all the time and most uncomplicated pregnancies are birthed just fine this way but reiterated that there's no such thing as a fully equipped birthing centre as there aren't the specialist consultants and theatre staff, let alone actual theatres.

Do whatever makes you feel most relaxed and comfortable. That will be different for all of us. No choice is right or wrong xx

 

[KHTW]

Here's my 'bump'
(Please excuse partial nudity!)

 

[PeanutButter]

Lovely khtw
I'm a fat fuck. I look 20 weeks plus xD nah I've got bigger like my bellys gone out and not gone back in for over a week! I was absolutely massive with dd though. People (strangers) were thinking I was due within the week when I still had over a month to go. And your bigger second time round ahahha

 

[Shanivy]

Ahh I was just thinking about bumps lol. KHTW I see a tiny one lol I bet you end up with a very cute bump!

I'm so much heavier than with dd. I have no idea when I'm going to show or just look fat

 

[KHTW]

Thank you, I love my tiny bump! This was me with DD less then 2 weeks before she was born, from behind you wouldn't know i was pregnant lol x

 

[JemRose]

Oh ladies I don't know what to do I think my relationship might be over. I took yesterday off sick because I felt so awful, like I said my OH also told me too. But when he got home yesterday and I was laying on the sofa and the dishes hadn't been done, he went crazy and said I was lazy and he didn't want to be in a relationship with someone like me. Said that when the baby comes he expects it all to be done when he gets home from work and if it isn't then he will leave me. I had a bit of a panic attack (I have bad anxiety) and he just ignored me completely, I was really crying and trying to tell him that I just felt so bad today and I was so sorry. Since then we haven't spoken, he hasn't come near me, kissed me or touched me. I normally drop him to work on my way to work and this morning he's just left without saying a word to me. I've decided to not go in again today as I'm in such a bad place. I think he hates me and can't stand me, ever since I got pregnant. I don't know him anymore I don't want you all to think bad of him because this isn't like him at all, I really don't know what's happening x

 

[KHTW]

Oh ladies I don't know what to do I think my relationship might be over. I took yesterday off sick because I felt so awful, like I said my OH also told me too. But when he got home yesterday and I was laying on the sofa and the dishes hadn't been done, he went crazy and said I was lazy and he didn't want to be in a relationship with someone like me. Said that when the baby comes he expects it all to be done when he gets home from work and if it isn't then he will leave me. I had a bit of a panic attack (I have bad anxiety) and he just ignored me completely, I was really crying and trying to tell him that I just felt so bad today and I was so sorry. Since then we haven't spoken, he hasn't come near me, kissed me or touched me. I normally drop him to work on my way to work and this morning he's just left without saying a word to me. I've decided to not go in again today as I'm in such a bad place. I think he hates me and can't stand me, ever since I got pregnant. I don't know him anymore I don't want you all to think bad of him because this isn't like him at all, I really don't know what's happening x

WHAT AN ASSHOLE!!!!!!!!!!!! Sorry but he is. He has no idea how tough being pregnant can be! If you are not feeling well and decided to stay at home, you did that to get some rest, not to cook and clean! FFS!! If he wants to be this way, screw him. Honestly, if he makes you feel like shit what is the point in staying in relationship like that?

Sending

 

[Shepherdess]

oh jemrose I'm so sorry to hear this. definitely don't go to work. switch your phone off and try and have a chilled day where you can recuperate. I can't really comment on your oh and obviously I have no idea what's going through his mind but he's out of order speaking to you like that. i would just totally leave him be for the day and when he gets home sit down and discuss calmly. I think he's being totally unrealistic expecting asspotless house once baby comes, although I'll admit my house was when she was little, my husband helps out more now she's two then he had to when she was tiny. maybe you need to consider if his behaviour continued would you want to be with him once baby comes

sending a hug as you must be so stressed. maybe try and take a nice walk today but please don't text him or anything like that as mood is too hard to read over text, just wait until he gets home. you and your baby are the important ones so put him out of your mind for the day

 

[Shepherdess]

Thank you, I love my tiny bump! This was me with DD less then 2 weeks before she was born, from behind you wouldn't know i was pregnant lol x

what a lovely picture! I was like you last time I didn't show from behind at all people at work would joke they'd forget I was pregnant, I'd love to be the same this time but I'm half a stone heavier then last time and I can already see my love handles have spread slightly. I use a ridiculously old mobile but I'll try and upload a picture of my little bump

 

[PeanutButter]

Jem, if my hubby came back and spoke to me like that I wouldn't be there when he got home from work. I would leave and not tell him where I've gone and see how he feels. (not for good, just to see if he gave a shit)

 

[flowerbomb]

Had my scan! Still measuring 3 days behind so growing perfect it wasn't my dating scan, the midwife has to book that tomorrow and I have my booking appointment tomorrow x
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aww great scan pic

 

[Shanivy]

Oh ladies I don't know what to do I think my relationship might be over. I took yesterday off sick because I felt so awful, like I said my OH also told me too. But when he got home yesterday and I was laying on the sofa and the dishes hadn't been done, he went crazy and said I was lazy and he didn't want to be in a relationship with someone like me. Said that when the baby comes he expects it all to be done when he gets home from work and if it isn't then he will leave me. I had a bit of a panic attack (I have bad anxiety) and he just ignored me completely, I was really crying and trying to tell him that I just felt so bad today and I was so sorry. Since then we haven't spoken, he hasn't come near me, kissed me or touched me. I normally drop him to work on my way to work and this morning he's just left without saying a word to me. I've decided to not go in again today as I'm in such a bad place. I think he hates me and can't stand me, ever since I got pregnant. I don't know him anymore I don't want you all to think bad of him because this isn't like him at all, I really don't know what's happening x

Jem If my oh got on like that I'd tell him to get gone I'm not even kidding. He's currently coming home making dinner when I can't stand looking at food and sending me to bed while he does the cleaning up. The way your OH is behaving is not the way you should expect him to be. It is not easy making a life and he should be supporting you through it, not adding to your problems. Not treating you like shit one minute, being nice for a little while and apologising, then back treating you like shit again. There literally nothing stopping him for doing some fucking cleaning, his hands aren't any different to yours

We can't really judge him I guess since we don't know him. But honestly if he can switch up so quick and treat you so bad over nothing, is it really worth it? You're carrying his baby for Christ sakes he should be treating you like a princess for being able to bring his baby into the world.

Hugs hun xxx

 

[flowerbomb]

Oh ladies I don't know what to do I think my relationship might be over. I took yesterday off sick because I felt so awful, like I said my OH also told me too. But when he got home yesterday and I was laying on the sofa and the dishes hadn't been done, he went crazy and said I was lazy and he didn't want to be in a relationship with someone like me. Said that when the baby comes he expects it all to be done when he gets home from work and if it isn't then he will leave me. I had a bit of a panic attack (I have bad anxiety) and he just ignored me completely, I was really crying and trying to tell him that I just felt so bad today and I was so sorry. Since then we haven't spoken, he hasn't come near me, kissed me or touched me. I normally drop him to work on my way to work and this morning he's just left without saying a word to me. I've decided to not go in again today as I'm in such a bad place. I think he hates me and can't stand me, ever since I got pregnant. I don't know him anymore I don't want you all to think bad of him because this isn't like him at all, I really don't know what's happening x

oh JemRose I really hope youre ok. you don't need this extra stress and upset. he's being totally unacceptable and you don't deserve to be treated like that. he needs to understand how being pregnant makes a woman feel, and he also needs to understand that when the baby arrives he wont be coming home to tidy house every night. it sounds like hes being very selfish.

 

[flowerbomb]

Here's my 'bump'
(Please excuse partial nudity!)

aww cute bump

 

[Katybaby87]

Oh jemrose you definitely didn’t deserve that. It sounds like he has serious issues and you don’t need that kind of stress. This is a difficult time for you and it’s important that you rest. I really hope you have other people in your life who are supporting you