**** july mummies 2018 *****

[KHTW]

thanks for the advice ladies xx

has anyone decided yet how they're going to announce the baby news?

Our close family and friends know already so after the scan is done and the work is told we will post the announcement on facebook x

 

[JemRose]

Yeah I have a few family members I'd like to tell before the Facebook announcement. But the scan is 30th December, so I'm thinking I might do a post on Facebook at midnight New Year.

Seen some cool ideas like:

New Years Resolutions:
Learn how to change nappies
Learn how to survive on no sleep
Be the best parents ever

And then I might put a big 2018 with the baby scan in the 0.

That's my plan anyway haha, I want it to be more original than posting a scan photo

I'm a bit stuck really on whether to tell my dad or not, he is a bit of an absent father but he has been around a little bit. He really doesn't care less about me, but I still have some sort of loyalty to him (nobody understands why I'm still bothered). I don't want to upset him by him finding out via a post on Facebook, but at the same time he doesn't even wish me happy birthday or text or see me at all, so why should I go out of my way to tell him specially ... I really don't know with that one it's so tricky!! I will be telling his parents, my grandparents before the Facebook post as they are in contact with me - guess I'll leave it to them to tell him. Any advice? I know it's a tricky one lol x

 

[Shanivy]

Jem that's so cute lol go for it

My dad is the exact same. And I used to be like you. Though he doesn't have anything to do with my daughter so that's made me not give a shit anymore. If yours doesn't bother with your baby you'll prob end up feeling the same. It's amazing what we'll let people put us through, but once it's our children it's a whole other ball game. I'm not sure what to advise on whether you tell him or not. In my opinion he doesn't deserve special treatment if he doesn't treat you like he should treat his daughter. But then he's your dad, not mine so youll obviously have feelings involved. However it's your baby and it's not your job to worry about his reaction to finding out about him/her second hand, if he's not around that much.

I guess it all comes down to how you feel and also if you think he'll blab your news before your announcement too xx

 

[KHTW]

Yeah I have a few family members I'd like to tell before the Facebook announcement. But the scan is 30th December, so I'm thinking I might do a post on Facebook at midnight New Year.

Seen some cool ideas like:

New Years Resolutions:
Learn how to change nappies
Learn how to survive on no sleep
Be the best parents ever

And then I might put a big 2018 with the baby scan in the 0.

That's my plan anyway haha, I want it to be more original than posting a scan photo

I'm a bit stuck really on whether to tell my dad or not, he is a bit of an absent father but he has been around a little bit. He really doesn't care less about me, but I still have some sort of loyalty to him (nobody understands why I'm still bothered). I don't want to upset him by him finding out via a post on Facebook, but at the same time he doesn't even wish me happy birthday or text or see me at all, so why should I go out of my way to tell him specially ... I really don't know with that one it's so tricky!! I will be telling his parents, my grandparents before the Facebook post as they are in contact with me - guess I'll leave it to them to tell him. Any advice? I know it's a tricky one lol x

I like you idea for an announcement! Original and funny!

I wouldn't bother to tell your father personally, since he doesn't keep in touch but you have to do what feels right to you x

 

[Shanivy]

thanks for the advice ladies xx

has anyone decided yet how they're going to announce the baby news?

My partners parents don't know yet. Cause my mil can't be trusted not to tell the whole family and the postman. Only my mum knows. Last time my mil told everyone instantly despite being told not to. This time we've sort of enjoyed it being a secret for a bit

My scan is on the 13th so I'm planning on giving his parents a (hopefully not tacky) personalised Christmas bauble for an early xmas present maybe the next week. One that says Merry Christmas then on the other side love from Ivy and baby D due July 2018. That type of thing. She's super into Christmas and personalised presents and she'll cry her eyes out lol. She still has no idea despite how sick ive been.

I'm not super into Facebook so I'm in no rush with that tbh.

What are you doing for yours?

 

[JemRose]

Yeah I think really I should just forget about him as I highly doubt he will be bothered anyway!! He moved a new girlfriend in and is trying for another baby with her apparently .. I didn't even know he had a girlfriend!!! My partner is also adamant he doesn't think my dad should be told, he's seen me too upset so many times over him and hasn't even met him!!

Think I will listen to my head and not my heart and just not tell him. Doubt he even says congratulations!

Shan I love that idea of the bauble, I've seen some that don't look tacky at all and it's a clear bauble (which you can buy yourself) and you can put your scan pic in with some snow and it's lovely!! It's what I would do if I had a scan before Christmas x

 

[KHTW]

I think we may write the announcement on a chalk board, get DD to hold it and ask her to pull a funny face

 

[KHTW]

I am so looking forward to receiving the scan letter this week!! I am so impatient!! With DD I had my midwife appointment on Monday and received the letter on Thursday! I hope I go home and it is waiting for me there

 

[flowerbomb]

Yeah I have a few family members I'd like to tell before the Facebook announcement. But the scan is 30th December, so I'm thinking I might do a post on Facebook at midnight New Year.

Seen some cool ideas like:

New Years Resolutions:
Learn how to change nappies
Learn how to survive on no sleep
Be the best parents ever

And then I might put a big 2018 with the baby scan in the 0.

That's my plan anyway haha, I want it to be more original than posting a scan photo

I'm a bit stuck really on whether to tell my dad or not, he is a bit of an absent father but he has been around a little bit. He really doesn't care less about me, but I still have some sort of loyalty to him (nobody understands why I'm still bothered). I don't want to upset him by him finding out via a post on Facebook, but at the same time he doesn't even wish me happy birthday or text or see me at all, so why should I go out of my way to tell him specially ... I really don't know with that one it's so tricky!! I will be telling his parents, my grandparents before the Facebook post as they are in contact with me - guess I'll leave it to them to tell him. Any advice? I know it's a tricky one lol x

that a great idea, love it.
in regards to your dad you could just send him a message just to inform in so then your not worrying about how he'll feel finding out of someone else. takes the worry away from you then.

 

[PeanutButter]

Shan do we have the same MIL?! Haha obsessed with Xmas, tells everyone! The only reason she didn't tell anyone with dd was because she new about my mcs, didn't wanna upset me more by having to let everyone know I've had another mc if it did happen.
Jem, personally if that was my dad i wouldn't bother! I like your fb post idea.
I'm not telling anyone till after the gender scan. Feel like people don't have to know and I don't want the commets of was it planned, oh you didnt leave it long etc. My hubby thinks I'm being over dramatic because I'm already pissed off with the comments like that and we've only had them from the Drs etc. He thinks I like being secrative, well idc tbh it's no one else's business except mine and his really. Ikno he's going to get me to let him tell people on Xmas eve, will probably be massive argument. It's my decision I'm the one who has to deal with the hugs (I hate being touched by other people other than hubby) and his mom is a massive hugger. :/

 

[JemRose]

Oh PB I hate that, people are so judgemental. I know they will be about me and my partner too, my news has already been spread round like hot gossip and judged. So annoying!!

Just keep your head high and tell everyone to piss off!!

It's your body and you tell people when you want to xx

 

[KHTW]

Screw them people! Your babies are wanted and will be loved and that's all that matters x

 

[Shanivy]

Shan do we have the same MIL?! Haha obsessed with Xmas, tells everyone! The only reason she didn't tell anyone with dd was because she new about my mcs, didn't wanna upset me more by having to let everyone know I've had another mc if it did happen.
Jem, personally if that was my dad i wouldn't bother! I like your fb post idea.
I'm not telling anyone till after the gender scan. Feel like people don't have to know and I don't want the commets of was it planned, oh you didnt leave it long etc. My hubby thinks I'm being over dramatic because I'm already pissed off with the comments like that and we've only had them from the Drs etc. He thinks I like being secrative, well idc tbh it's no one else's business except mine and his really. Ikno he's going to get me to let him tell people on Xmas eve, will probably be massive argument. It's my decision I'm the one who has to deal with the hugs (I hate being touched by other people other than hubby) and his mom is a massive hugger. :/

If we do I feel for you haha! Mil knows about my mc but still blabbed with dd. We didn't tell her until I lost it, then with Dd OH wanted her to know straight away. I shit you not literally five minutes after we told her not to tell we had a call from her mother congratulating us.

Don't let anyone's stupid comments ruin anything about your pregnancy! If I could have had it the way you've done it I actually would have. I think it's going to be so wonderful for your children being so close in age. Everything will be exciting cause they'll do everything together, holidays, Christmas etc!

People will always talk crap. Id feel the same as you and if I it was me I would be like "Yeah so how was your period this month since we're making personal comments that have nothing to do with us" and make them feel super awkward and serves them right for even making dick comments in the first place. But that's me I don't take that sort of thing well lol. But hey you might not get any negative comments. And all your family and friends will no doubt be thrilled for you and excited for another baby. This baby is a joy for you and don't let what anyone thinks wreck the experience of sharing it xx

 

[JemRose]

Shan I absolutely love your outlook on life and the way you would approach situations. I'm useless at all of that and just agree to keep people happy lol! x

 

[flowerbomb]

thanks for the advice ladies xx

has anyone decided yet how they're going to announce the baby news?

My partners parents don't know yet. Cause my mil can't be trusted not to tell the whole family and the postman. Only my mum knows. Last time my mil told everyone instantly despite being told not to. This time we've sort of enjoyed it being a secret for a bit

My scan is on the 13th so I'm planning on giving his parents a (hopefully not tacky) personalised Christmas bauble for an early xmas present maybe the next week. One that says Merry Christmas then on the other side love from Ivy and baby D due July 2018. That type of thing. She's super into Christmas and personalised presents and she'll cry her eyes out lol. She still has no idea despite how sick ive been.

I'm not super into Facebook so I'm in no rush with that tbh.

What are you doing for yours?

aww that sounds like a lovely idea.

 

[flowerbomb]

I think we may write the announcement on a chalk board, get DD to hold it and ask her to pull a funny face

sounds great idea

 

[flowerbomb]

Shan do we have the same MIL?! Haha obsessed with Xmas, tells everyone! The only reason she didn't tell anyone with dd was because she new about my mcs, didn't wanna upset me more by having to let everyone know I've had another mc if it did happen.
Jem, personally if that was my dad i wouldn't bother! I like your fb post idea.
I'm not telling anyone till after the gender scan. Feel like people don't have to know and I don't want the commets of was it planned, oh you didnt leave it long etc. My hubby thinks I'm being over dramatic because I'm already pissed off with the comments like that and we've only had them from the Drs etc. He thinks I like being secrative, well idc tbh it's no one else's business except mine and his really. Ikno he's going to get me to let him tell people on Xmas eve, will probably be massive argument. It's my decision I'm the one who has to deal with the hugs (I hate being touched by other people other than hubby) and his mom is a massive hugger. :/

don't worry about what other people say, its nothing to do with them. you do what feels right for you

 

[Shanivy]

Shan I absolutely love your outlook on life and the way you would approach situations. I'm useless at all of that and just agree to keep people happy lol! x

Haha thanks. I only really got that way after dd was born. I was just like screw it I just made a human I'm not putting up with anyone's crap anymore lol. xx

 

[PeanutButter]

My husband is very family oriented :/ If I say anything bad about them will cause an argument, the other day I said I dont think his family like me, there's pics of our wedding all around guess how many of me on our wedding day is hanging up.. Zero. He was like well it's not like you put in any effort to make them like you :/ I try to make conversation I get blanked everytime I try and speak. So Ive given up. And I've been on about going to the boxing day sales for months cos theres loads of stuff I want that will be mega cheap, and then his mom text him asking us to go round, and when I said I've been looking forward to that for months he went in a mood, so I compromised and said we can go shopping in the morning and there afternoon, so instead of having a nice day looking around I have to go in get what I want and go. We're staying home for the first Xmas since we been together and then new that and invited us anyways and going on saying theyre gonna be alone cos everyone else is going out somewhere. I said no straight away, every time we go over I do not see dd I don't get to hold her, feed her, even if she's screaming. And I want to spend my daughters first Xmas with her! Sorry for the rant. Just wanted to know who's actually in wrong here. I feel like I compromise all the time and get fk all in return

 

[JemRose]

Omg PB I dunno how you cope with that. I understand being family orientated, but you and DD are his family now and you should come first. His parents have had him his whole life. They're clearly threatened by you, probs one of those protective mums who think you're taking her precious little boy away. Tell them to do one and tell him man the f up and get out of his mum's ass!!

(Sorry bit angry today lol, but I would do it in your situation) x