***** JANUARY 2018 testing thread *****

[tara_46]

Its possible for opks to detect hcg. Can you take a hpt to double check? good luck x

I know it sounds crazy but I am scared. The disappointment kills me. I am going to try and hold out until Tuesday.

 

[Alexis2017]

I’ve really bad pain on left side only. It’s pretty bad. I don’t get it why it’s one sided. I ovulated from right side according to doc at clinic .... only thing I can think off was they found it harder too see m6 left ovary/ tubes as was tucked away more but would that cause this stinging pain.? DH is now walking to shop to get me pain killers, oooouch

Hope the pain has eased a little alexis. Would a hot water bottle help?x

Pain is but better as taking ibuprofen regularly now and hot water bottle last night. Counting today as cd#1 as proper flow started this morn. Feeling gutted tbh I don’t think it’s ever going to happen. 13 months with no chemical or pregnancy means odds off it happening now are very slim especially when I turn 35 in August. Got my sad face on. I really have this feeling it will happen by April but at same time I know it’s pretty slim chance now. I just want to go to next appt on 30th and ask to go on ivf wating list now as time isn’t on my side and I really wanted two kids but again slim chance now

If it wasn’t for my wee dog I’d have lost the plot already

I know 13 months isn’t ages but when your approaching 35 it feels like it is. Me and hubby said if I get to 40 and still hasn’t happened we will forget it and move on. I guess that would be 6 years of ttc for us and personally would prob be enough including trying 3 rounds ivf.

 

[Alexis2017]

Ladies - I am 11dpo and have managed to hold of testing with my temps still at 37. I did a OPK this morning and it was positive. Is this something that can lead to a BFP?

Sounds very positive , good luck hunni. January hasn’t been kind to us ttcers so hoping you can add another one on for us xx

 

[LuckyLaura]

I am now 11 days late... no af and no bfp ( I last tested three days ago..) rang my doctor’s they said if no af in two weeks then they will ask me to come in... I don’t think I’m going to test again the disappointment is way too much when it’s negative...


Well Tapatalk destroyed my reply there haha Sara I didn't have a bfp for ages. No af and no signs of it and tested on 13dpo to get white stark negatives. It wasn't until about a week later I found out. Maybe it's a shy bean xx

 

[tara_46]

Ladies - I am 11dpo and have managed to hold of testing with my temps still at 37. I did a OPK this morning and it was positive. Is this something that can lead to a BFP?

Sounds very positive , good luck hunni. January hasn’t been kind to us ttcers so hoping you can add another one on for us xx

I really hope February gives you that BFP you really deserve it!!

 

[hopeful1976]

Yep the witch got me girls !!! Arghhhhh !!!!!!! Ok roll on next month then AGAIN XX

 

[hopeful1976]

Alexis sorrr to hear about you ! I was also convinced it was your month ! Chin up honey, I realise it's horrible but your time will come soon, you ll see x

 

[MoominGirl]

January has not been kind to a lot of us

Good luck to those still waiting to test!!

 

[MoominGirl]

So I'm out. Of course I am why would I expect anything different?

Alexis - really really hoping it's better news for you.

Sorry Moomin, I’ve had more brown dc it’s got darker and I’ve mild cramping on and off so af will be here tmrw no doubt, just never had brown dc for 4 days but I suspect it’s the hsg test mucking my cycle up. I was told on day of my hsg that I was just about to ovulate so we went home and dtd but prob was just too late or whatever the reason Is I can’t get preggers is. I am still so thirsty and mouth dry and had loads of sensations this cycle so who knows what that is.

I have my next appointment on 30th too. I am hoping they will out us on ivf waiting list on that appt. I read brown spotting before af can be a progesterone problem that the level drops too soon?My progesterone level was taken on day 23 due to day 21 falling on bank holiday wknd and was still 44 so not sure. I have so many questions to ask but I don’t think they can answer them. I am worried I am causing some sort of phantom pregnancy symptoms cos I want it so bad. I am so done. I had a melt down last night about moving to this big house and countryside’s for a family and if we can’t have a family why would a couple like like this. 3 neighbours have all just had babies I am finding it hard being in work around a pregnant colleague and 1 colleague is on mat leave due back in summer and then more baby talk. I literally feel like a man going to have a melt down in work with all the baby chat.

For ivf how much time do you take off...is it like intense for a whole cycle following ovulation, scans injections etc, do most ppl take the whole time off.? Do you need annual leave to cover it or is it given on Nhs if you work for them? I’m worried I won’t have enough annual leave if it happens this annual leave entitlement.

I am so glad I have you girlies on here, this is the pits

Oh Alexis, I feel for you as your meltdown sounds exactly like the one I had on Tuesday. It's the worst I've been for a long while. OH looked genuinely scared lol. I think he finds it tough as I'm always the calm and collected one. He always says when I'm around it will be ok. He was not saying that on Tuesday lol. Among other things, our house was one of the many factors. We bought the house we hoped to raise our family in. That was 3.5 years ago

I went though a time where I was definitely creating phantom pregnancy symptoms. I hate to admit it but there's no other explanation. I don't generally get any symptoms on the run up to my period so anything I was convincing myself about was clearly in my head I've really made an effort to stop thinking about it and now if I think I feel something a give myself an alternative (pulled a muscle, upset stomach etc). It does help keep my emotions in check.

I've been thinking a lot about the logistics around IVF. I think it depends on lots of factors but this is my feelings at the moment. I think a lot depends on how willing you are to be open with your manager about what's going on. In my case, she is totally informed so I have no reason to take annual leave in order to be discreet. It will be more challenging for OH but we can keep a few of his days back for appointments if needed. I'm not someone who's often off sick but I think in this case I plan to take as much time off as possible even if that means getting signed off. My job is emotionally stressful and I feel that for that period I need to put myself first. I do of course plan to find plenty of ways to keep busy but I think for me being at work will do far more harm than good to my stress levels. Of course I may change my mind but that's my thoughts at the moment.

 

[xMillie]

I missed your post before Alexis. But for both you and Moomin I will explain a little.

I don't work but I don't drive so I needed hubby throughout both my ivf cycles (and this fet) to take me to scans and appointments. He had a longggg chat with his manager before we started and explained the short notice of time that might be needed but gave a rough time frame. His manager has been really great about it all and allowed him to work from home when needed (like after egg collection, as you then can't be alone for 24hours following sedation) and making up time by working late hours or weekends.

Depending on whether your will be short or long protocol will depend on when you will start needing time off. I think most on NHS are given short protocol.

Short protocol your first scan will be CD1 of full flow. So as soon as the witch drops in you have to call your clinic and have to have your first scan that day. The only way you'll know in advance is if af starts past mid-day. Most clinics won't count it as CD1 if it's after 12.

Long protocol you have to down regulate first. But I think you will have more of an idea when you will need appointments if they give you this as the cycle starts 7 days before your next expected period.


CD1 they will usually give your all of your next scan dates (but these may change). Egg collection and transfer you will not know the dates of until wayyy into the cycle.

If you didn't want to talk to your manager about the upcoming ivf you could hope you book time off when your period is due, but we all know how unexpected that could be!


I think if I was working I would have wanted the few days of before the egg collection as that was when I was most uncomfortable but everything before that wasn't so bad and I could have worked through. I'd recommend working through the tww as it would keep you busy and mind off it xx

 

[MoominGirl]

I missed your post before Alexis. But for both you and Moomin I will explain a little.

I don't work but I don't drive so I needed hubby throughout both my ivf cycles (and this fet) to take me to scans and appointments. He had a longggg chat with his manager before we started and explained the short notice of time that might be needed but gave a rough time frame. His manager has been really great about it all and allowed him to work from home when needed (like after egg collection, as you then can't be alone for 24hours following sedation) and making up time by working late hours or weekends.

Depending on whether your will be short or long protocol will depend on when you will start needing time off. I think most on NHS are given short protocol.

Short protocol your first scan will be CD1 of full flow. So as soon as the witch drops in you have to call your clinic and have to have your first scan that day. The only way you'll know in advance is if af starts past mid-day. Most clinics won't count it as CD1 if it's after 12.

Long protocol you have to down regulate first. But I think you will have more of an idea when you will need appointments if they give you this as the cycle starts 7 days before your next expected period.


CD1 they will usually give your all of your next scan dates (but these may change). Egg collection and transfer you will not know the dates of until wayyy into the cycle.

If you didn't want to talk to your manager about the upcoming ivf you could hope you book time off when your period is due, but we all know how unexpected that could be!


I think if I was working I would have wanted the few days of before the egg collection as that was when I was most uncomfortable but everything before that wasn't so bad and I could have worked through. I'd recommend working through the tww as it would keep you busy and mind off it xx

Thank you so much for this Millie. That's really helpful. My OH really doesn't want to discuss with his work which I totally respect but they are very good at last minute annual leave etc so we're sure we can get round it. For that reason, we've also agreed that I'll attend scans etc on my own as our clinic will be over an hour's drive from his work so he'd end up needing a half day for every appointment which just isn't practical. Obviously for egg collection and embryo transfer he will use annual leave.

Obviously it will become clearer once we know if it's a short or long protocol. I suspect as you say that side effects etc won't start straight away so I plan on working as long as possible up to that point. I totally get where you're coming from about working in the tww and this would be my preferred option. The slightly unusual issue I have is that I would require altered duties so I'd need to disclose any pregnancy early so basically my entire department will know what's going on I'm ok with my manager knowing but I'm not quite as ok with every man and his dog knowing!! So getting signed off and finding ways to keep busy feels like the lesser of 2 evils in my case.

 

[Melly41]

I’ve really bad pain on left side only. It’s pretty bad. I don’t get it why it’s one sided. I ovulated from right side according to doc at clinic .... only thing I can think off was they found it harder too see m6 left ovary/ tubes as was tucked away more but would that cause this stinging pain.? DH is now walking to shop to get me pain killers, oooouch

Hope the pain has eased a little alexis. Would a hot water bottle help?x

Pain is but better as taking ibuprofen regularly now and hot water bottle last night. Counting today as cd#1 as proper flow started this morn. Feeling gutted tbh I don’t think it’s ever going to happen. 13 months with no chemical or pregnancy means odds off it happening now are very slim especially when I turn 35 in August. Got my sad face on. I really have this feeling it will happen by April but at same time I know it’s pretty slim chance now. I just want to go to next appt on 30th and ask to go on ivf wating list now as time isn’t on my side and I really wanted two kids but again slim chance now

If it wasn’t for my wee dog I’d have lost the plot already

I know 13 months isn’t ages but when your approaching 35 it feels like it is. Me and hubby said if I get to 40 and still hasn’t happened we will forget it and move on. I guess that would be 6 years of ttc for us and personally would prob be enough including trying 3 rounds ivf.

You still have a good chance. I'm 42! So you are young compared to me alexis. I still it will happen naturally for you but it's positive you'll get 3 chances at ivf too. I wonder whether the hsg messed your cycle up this month? I was gutted for you. I hope you af isn't too horrible for you...onwards and upwards xxx

 

[xMillie]

I missed your post before Alexis. But for both you and Moomin I will explain a little.

I don't work but I don't drive so I needed hubby throughout both my ivf cycles (and this fet) to take me to scans and appointments. He had a longggg chat with his manager before we started and explained the short notice of time that might be needed but gave a rough time frame. His manager has been really great about it all and allowed him to work from home when needed (like after egg collection, as you then can't be alone for 24hours following sedation) and making up time by working late hours or weekends.

Depending on whether your will be short or long protocol will depend on when you will start needing time off. I think most on NHS are given short protocol.

Short protocol your first scan will be CD1 of full flow. So as soon as the witch drops in you have to call your clinic and have to have your first scan that day. The only way you'll know in advance is if af starts past mid-day. Most clinics won't count it as CD1 if it's after 12.

Long protocol you have to down regulate first. But I think you will have more of an idea when you will need appointments if they give you this as the cycle starts 7 days before your next expected period.


CD1 they will usually give your all of your next scan dates (but these may change). Egg collection and transfer you will not know the dates of until wayyy into the cycle.

If you didn't want to talk to your manager about the upcoming ivf you could hope you book time off when your period is due, but we all know how unexpected that could be!


I think if I was working I would have wanted the few days of before the egg collection as that was when I was most uncomfortable but everything before that wasn't so bad and I could have worked through. I'd recommend working through the tww as it would keep you busy and mind off it xx

Thank you so much for this Millie. That's really helpful. My OH really doesn't want to discuss with his work which I totally respect but they are very good at last minute annual leave etc so we're sure we can get round it. For that reason, we've also agreed that I'll attend scans etc on my own as our clinic will be over an hour's drive from his work so he'd end up needing a half day for every appointment which just isn't practical. Obviously for egg collection and embryo transfer he will use annual leave.

Obviously it will become clearer once we know if it's a short or long protocol. I suspect as you say that side effects etc won't start straight away so I plan on working as long as possible up to that point. I totally get where you're coming from about working in the tww and this would be my preferred option. The slightly unusual issue I have is that I would require altered duties so I'd need to disclose any pregnancy early so basically my entire department will know what's going on I'm ok with my manager knowing but I'm not quite as ok with every man and his dog knowing!! So getting signed off and finding ways to keep busy feels like the lesser of 2 evils in my case.

That is good that he's able to take short notice, he shouldn't need too much time off anyway. Once you've been through all the paperwork the man is then only really needed on day of egg collection for his 'part' and I think you can have the transfer without him present if he couldn't get the day off.

Ahhhhhh yeah I wouldn't want every colleague knowing my personal business either if I had to change my work duties. So if your job is stressful or requires too much lifting, twisting etc then it would be better to book it off and plan things to keep you busy. xx

 

[Nikkibiscuit]

Well hanging in here not due to test until end of the month...into Feb really. So trying our best to DTD this week. Have managed twice if I count last Sunday. Both were shattered last night and hubby on the drink after football tonight so doubtful will get a chance now until tomorrow night unless he comes home drunk and horny lol. I live in hope. Meant to be fun but my it's hard work this TTC malarkey. Roll on 2 weeks time and hot tub weekend away. As long as the witch doesn't arrive she's due then so will probably spoil my fun lol x

 

[MoominGirl]

I missed your post before Alexis. But for both you and Moomin I will explain a little.

I don't work but I don't drive so I needed hubby throughout both my ivf cycles (and this fet) to take me to scans and appointments. He had a longggg chat with his manager before we started and explained the short notice of time that might be needed but gave a rough time frame. His manager has been really great about it all and allowed him to work from home when needed (like after egg collection, as you then can't be alone for 24hours following sedation) and making up time by working late hours or weekends.

Depending on whether your will be short or long protocol will depend on when you will start needing time off. I think most on NHS are given short protocol.

Short protocol your first scan will be CD1 of full flow. So as soon as the witch drops in you have to call your clinic and have to have your first scan that day. The only way you'll know in advance is if af starts past mid-day. Most clinics won't count it as CD1 if it's after 12.

Long protocol you have to down regulate first. But I think you will have more of an idea when you will need appointments if they give you this as the cycle starts 7 days before your next expected period.


CD1 they will usually give your all of your next scan dates (but these may change). Egg collection and transfer you will not know the dates of until wayyy into the cycle.

If you didn't want to talk to your manager about the upcoming ivf you could hope you book time off when your period is due, but we all know how unexpected that could be!


I think if I was working I would have wanted the few days of before the egg collection as that was when I was most uncomfortable but everything before that wasn't so bad and I could have worked through. I'd recommend working through the tww as it would keep you busy and mind off it xx

Thank you so much for this Millie. That's really helpful. My OH really doesn't want to discuss with his work which I totally respect but they are very good at last minute annual leave etc so we're sure we can get round it. For that reason, we've also agreed that I'll attend scans etc on my own as our clinic will be over an hour's drive from his work so he'd end up needing a half day for every appointment which just isn't practical. Obviously for egg collection and embryo transfer he will use annual leave.

Obviously it will become clearer once we know if it's a short or long protocol. I suspect as you say that side effects etc won't start straight away so I plan on working as long as possible up to that point. I totally get where you're coming from about working in the tww and this would be my preferred option. The slightly unusual issue I have is that I would require altered duties so I'd need to disclose any pregnancy early so basically my entire department will know what's going on I'm ok with my manager knowing but I'm not quite as ok with every man and his dog knowing!! So getting signed off and finding ways to keep busy feels like the lesser of 2 evils in my case.

That is good that he's able to take short notice, he shouldn't need too much time off anyway. Once you've been through all the paperwork the man is then only really needed on day of egg collection for his 'part' and I think you can have the transfer without him present if he couldn't get the day off.

Ahhhhhh yeah I wouldn't want every colleague knowing my personal business either if I had to change my work duties. So if your job is stressful or requires too much lifting, twisting etc then it would be better to book it off and plan things to keep you busy. xx

Yeah it's a total pain but let's face it, people aren't idiots so I'll either need to tell them or not be there. I'll just need to make sure I have plenty planned to keep me busy. Of course I'll know more soon enough but sometimes it's these organisational things that are more stressful than the procedure itself!!

 

[Pidgeridoo]

I'm more stressed about how I'm going to get time off work for all the appointments I'll have to attend if we end up doing IVF too Moomin! Especially if I try to take the TWW off afterwards as I would be concerned about the physical aspect of my job (lifting children mostly as some of them are definitely not light lol) it will be a million questions about what I'm planning to do etc OH will be fine he just needs enough notice and he can book off whenever no questions asked! However I normally have to come with some kind of reason to be off, the last appointment I was lucky and nobody asked what my plans where or anything because I'm definitely not looking to share lol I'm a terrible liar too so I am sure they can see through my so called "plans" lol

 

[millielaura]

I told my work all about the treatment as didnt want to do the hoisting etc. Everyone prob knew but it was a small private care company so didnt mind too much xx

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[MoominGirl]

I'm more stressed about how I'm going to get time off work for all the appointments I'll have to attend if we end up doing IVF too Moomin! Especially if I try to take the TWW off afterwards as I would be concerned about the physical aspect of my job (lifting children mostly as some of them are definitely not light lol) it will be a million questions about what I'm planning to do etc OH will be fine he just needs enough notice and he can book off whenever no questions asked! However I normally have to come with some kind of reason to be off, the last appointment I was lucky and nobody asked what my plans where or anything because I'm definitely not looking to share lol I'm a terrible liar too so I am sure they can see through my so called "plans" lol

It's funny as I never thought this would be the stressful part

I am also a horrible liar haha!! Thankfully I don't need to lie to my manager as she's supported me the whole way through but I know it will be harder if I can't give her lots of notice. That's why I hope the GP will be supportive with signing me off when I outline my concerns as I think it will be less stressful all round if I'm just not there. That way anything that only I need to attend I can just get on with. Then all we need to worry about is annual leave for OH just when it's needed. It feels like the best option at the moment.

 

[Pidgeridoo]

I'm more stressed about how I'm going to get time off work for all the appointments I'll have to attend if we end up doing IVF too Moomin! Especially if I try to take the TWW off afterwards as I would be concerned about the physical aspect of my job (lifting children mostly as some of them are definitely not light lol) it will be a million questions about what I'm planning to do etc OH will be fine he just needs enough notice and he can book off whenever no questions asked! However I normally have to come with some kind of reason to be off, the last appointment I was lucky and nobody asked what my plans where or anything because I'm definitely not looking to share lol I'm a terrible liar too so I am sure they can see through my so called "plans" lol

It's funny as I never thought this would be the stressful part

I am also a horrible liar haha!! Thankfully I don't need to lie to my manager as she's supported me the whole way through but I know it will be harder if I can't give her lots of notice. That's why I hope the GP will be supportive with signing me off when I outline my concerns as I think it will be less stressful all round if I'm just not there. That way anything that only I need to attend I can just get on with. Then all we need to worry about is annual leave for OH just when it's needed. It feels like the best option at the moment.

I'm stressing about it already and we haven't even started going down the IVF route lol My manager is leaving in March Although I don't particularly want to share our struggle with anyone I would have felt much more comfortable telling her since we have a good relationship than whoever gets her job! I just hope all this juggling will give us our long awaited BFP Moomin!

 

[Alexis2017]

Yeah My worl can be heavy as need to push heavy machines around and lift 3 litre bags of fluids from head height to floor so I wouldn't want to do that but wouldn't need to tell everyone in work or get time off....can a go sign you off from work when your having ivf? I dunno I reckon my manager wouldn't be able to give me lighter duties without everyone else knowing why. I can't even think about it...it sounds stressful already